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Oral Sex – How To Make Showering Beforehand SEXY!

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Oral sex is incredible for you and your lover – she loves when you go down on her because not only does it feel great, but you’re also focusing solely on her sexual pleasure. You love bringing out her wild side and give her a leg shaking orgasm, but she but it’s much better if she’s clean and trimmed first. Here’s how you can make sure she’s fresh in a sexy way.

Although all women and their partners are different, there are a few things that you can both do to make oral sex more pleasurable for both the man and the woman. Some men prefer a woman’s vulva to have no hair and others prefer a bush – both are fine and we’ll go into more detail about pubic hair later in the book. But we can almost guarantee that everyone appreciates a good shower!

She’ll Probably Smell Fine

If you haven’t figured it out already, women are very sensitive about the natural smell of their vagina. This obsession probably started around the time that women as fifth graders were made to watch the “Mom, I don’t feel so fresh” video when learning about their coming menstrual cycles. Fortunately for you, most women who know they’re going to experience oral sex will make sure they are very clean first. You will probably not have to introduce the subject at all – it will most likely already be taken care of, out of the fear that her natural scent doesn’t smell all that great.

Women Do Have A Natural Smell

Of course, under normal circumstances, her down-there smell is usually just fine. Most women’s sensitivity and self-consciousness about her natural smell is largely unfounded. Some women, of course, have a stronger scent than others and if you’re new to oral sex, you may need to take some time to adjust to her natural scent. After some time after both you and your partner are more comfortable, she may not even need to shower first at all. This is entirely a personal choice. However, especially in the beginning, a shower first will ultimately make both you and her more comfortable and receptive to cunnilingus.

If A Bath Before Sex Is Necessary

There may be a time or two in which you don’t feel comfortable with her natural scent at that moment and wish your partner to shower first. She may be comfortable not showering. In this case, it is best that you approach the subject of showering delicately so as not to offend her. A suggestion for a shower for two (or sex in the shower) will almost always do the trick!

Keep in mind that you don’t want to ask outright, so you may want to say something like, “I would love to wash your hair in the shower to help you relax” or “Massaging my soapy hands into your breasts would really help turn me on…would you like to shower with me?” More than likely, your partner will happily oblige. You can even help turn her on and get her yearning for your mouth on her clitoris by erotically stroking it with a soapy hand. Get creative!

Shaving – It’s Not Just For Pretty Boys

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Shaving can be a hassle – but you don’t want a forest growing down there when your girl goes to give you a blowjob. Here’s the easy way to manscape.

Body hair is a sensitive topic among men -it’s sort of like cellulite is for women – but the fact of the matter is, no matter how much your wife claims to love your back hair, she would like it better if it wasn’t there. Yes, body hair shows you’re a man, but if when you two get done having sex, and she has almost as much of your body hair stuck on her, as you have on your body, it’s time to consider some manscaping. I’m not suggesting you wax yourself to the brink of looking like a bad impression of a David Beckham Armani Underwear ad, I’m just suggesting a little basic grooming.

Get Clean First!

The first step seems quite obvious, but it bears repeating – wash yourself. I know you’ve seen a bunch of movies about horny teenage boys where they say that women love a man’s sweat. Well, they don’t mean dry sweat. If you sweat at all during the day, you must wash, as bacteria and body odor stick to dry sweat. That smell does not please women. You can even take it a step further. Look at her products.

I’m sure she has some kind of body scrub. If you exfoliate, which means rub the grainy stuff all over your body, two to three times a week, it will get rid of the top layer of dead skin and even make course body hair a bit finer. That means dude grime won’t build up on your skin as quickly, and you will be softer to the touch. I know you think it sounds a little gay, but if your skin is soft, she will want to rub all over you.

Trimming Your Nose Hair? You Bet!

Now to deal with the excessive body hair. Men seem to be unable to notice when the nose hair sticks out below their nostrils, or fuzz grows out of their ears. In which case, just to be safe, put yourself on a regimen of running nose hair cutters through those areas once a week. That way you can be certain you don’t see hair because it’s not there.

The Pubes Have Got To Go!

Onto your pubic hair. You should follow the military rule of keeping it high and tight. If you have a big, thick bush filled with sweat and dead skin cells that should have been exfoliated, it is not going to make her want to put her face down there and give you oral sex. Again, you don’t have to shave it bald, just give it a courtesy trim now and then. The less hair you have down there, the less bacteria and dead skin you’ll trap – and the less it will smell.

There you have it, you don’t need any fancy procedures although the cost of laser hair removal does become more affordable every day – you just need to practice some basic hygiene. It’s just plain respectful to your woman, and you will be rewarded with more sex.

 

5 Fellatio Mistakes – And What To Do About Them

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Fellatio is great – of course, if everything goes smoothly. Here are five things that you don’t want to happen during a blowjob (but that do) and how to deal.

Unlike what you may see in adult-rated movies, sex in real life can actually be awkward and funny. Slipping, fanny farts and sloppy wet noises are ALL part of making love. You can’t escape them. The tick is of course how to deal with these situations; how you convert the seemingly embarrassing situation into one that’s not.

The same goes with oral sex. There are issues that might occur so it’s up to you guys to deal with it in such a way that it doesn’t completely destroy the sexual charge in the bedroom!

The following items are scenarios that can likely happen during oral sex. They’re not meant to discourage you and your partner with engaging in oral sex at all. They’re meant as a guide to help you guys get over potentially awkward, yet real life situations easily.

Your Pubic Hair Gets In Her Teeth

This happens more often than you think. You’re so turned on by the sexual pleasure and she’s so into what she’s doing that unwittingly, a strand of your pubic hair gets caught in her teeth and gets yanked. Ouch!

The best way to deal with this is of course to laugh it off. Now how to get that hair out? The worst thing she can do is to make a big show out of it by sitting up and trying to get the hair out with her mouth wide open and her fist in it. Instead, she should casually – almost quietly and without drawing attention to it – take the hair out from her mouth and simply wipe the hair on the bed sheet to deal with later.

Her Dentures Get Dislodged

Actually, if HE didn’t’ notice it, SHE should simply go ahead as if nothing happened. However, the problem here is that often, her instinctive reaction is of course to ‘catch’ the slipping dentures with her hand, or worse, by closing her mouth. If this happens, and if she caused you pain, she should remedy the situation by slowly, lovingly licking and caressing the injured spot.

She Accidentally  Bites You

Sometimes women get so turned on by performing fellatio that they get a tad carried away and he can feel her teeth slowly, but firmly, touching his manhood. First of all, if you feel this guys, speak up! Simply touch her hair lovingly – don’t yank because you’re in a panic – and ask her to ease up a bit. Believe me, she will understand.

The same goes if she’s using her nails, have tongue jewelry or even hand jewelry that you feel is too close for comfort. Simply speak up before the ‘accident’ occurs.

You Have Gas

If women are afraid of fanny farts, men get conscious too of letting out gas especially if their women are down there performing fellatio on them. If this does occur, what do you do? Really, the best thing to do is simply pretend like it didn’t happen.

However, if what you released was not pleasant at all, then be a gentleman and stop for a while. It’s no use for you to go out of the room as the deed was done there. However, what you can do is ask her to stop, pull her up so you guys are face-to-face and get into some deep kissing. This way, the sexual rhythm is not that shattered, yet you save her from suffering down there or worse, give her time to laugh and make fun of you.

She Gags While Deep Throating

Some women can be too adventurous and try to bring their man’s manhood all inside her mouth to deep throat him. The problem is, if her mouth really can’t accommodate him, she’ll experience what most people call a ‘gag reflex’ and this is not pleasant – for you and her. The best thing to do is for her to pause as proceeding might only push her to gag further.

However, this does not mean she should stop stimulation of your manhood altogether. She can simply take you out of her mouth and use her hand for a while to stimulate you while she catches her breath.

In the end, a good sense of humor is all it takes to get over these oral sex problems. The more you focus on them, and the longer you focus on them, the bigger the blunder gets and the more awkward the situation becomes. Don’t let this happen, as this may become a deterrent in engaging in oral sex in the future.

Have a laugh, jot it down as experience, and move on!

Q&A: Shaving – Should Men Trim Or Shave Completely?

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Genital hygiene is a big issue for both men and women. Of course you want to be clean and fresh for your partner before sex, but what about pubic hair? Is it better to let it all grow wild or shave your genitals off bald? Or is it even better to do the in-between and use a trimmer for a close but still fuzzy trim? Here’s the downlow on pubic hair and whether to shave or not to shave.

Question: Should men trim or shave completely?

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What Is Your Personal Preference?

Whether you shave your pubic hair, trim it with a trimmer or leave it completely hairy is completely a matter of personal taste and preferences. Of course, you want to think about your partner and their tastes and preferences too! If your partner doesn’t like giving a blowjob to a very hairy guy, consider giving yourself a trim or a shave. If your partner really digs your bush, let it grow. Also, do what is most comfortable for you. If your pubic hair is constantly getting caught in your zipper but your partner really likes a lot of pubic hair, consider a medium trim to still please your partner but also keep yourself from getting hurt!

The Benefits Of A Trim Or Shave

Even if you and your partner like it hairy, there are some definite benefits to trimming your pubic hair or shaving it off completely.  Hair easily traps sweat and bacteria, which can cause a strong odor. You can wash regularly, but the odor often tends to hang out if you’ve got a lot of hair. Men who trim their pubic hair short or shave it will notice that they have less of an odor down there, and almost none if they wash up often. Of course, the other benefits include not finding long, curly hairs everywhere when you’re peforming oral sex on your partner or when you’re cleaning up after sex.

Things To Think About

If you are hairy all over, with lots of chest hair and leg hair, it’s going to look a little strange if you have a completely shaved groin area. Men who are very hairy all over may find that a pubic hair trim looks a little more natural than a complete shave! Alternatively, if you are a very hairless man, shaving completely may look and feel better to you. Also think about how much time you are willing to spend on pubic hair maintenance. Do you have a lot of time to devote each week or even every few days to shave your genitals completely? If not, consider trimming because a quick trim can only take a few minutes each time and doesn’t have to be done as often as shaving.

If you’re really stuck deciding whether to shave, trim or be hairy, try them all and see which you like best! Ask your partner which she likes best when she’s giving you oral sex. You can always grow your pubic hair back after you shave it off, and you can always trim it down once it gets really hairy. Nothing is permanent when it comes to your pubic hair (even if you get it waxed off) and you can change your mind later if you decide you want a different look and feel down there.

Q&A: How To Shave Male Genitals

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Whether you want to shave or trim your pubic hair for yourself or your partner really wants to see you clean and smooth, shaving your genitals may seem like a daunting task. Cutting yourself in your most sensitive places is not something you want to do! Here’s how you can shave or trim your genitals quickly and easily without cutting yourself and get lasting, baby smooth results.

Question: Could you give advice on how to shave your male genital area without cutting yourself? I’m afraid if I use a shaving razor that I might cut myself and one of my testicles will fall out.

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Tools For The Job

To start, using a straight blade, a dull razor or just trying to shave quickly with soap and water (or worse, dry!) is going to give you less than good results. In fact, without the right tools for the job, shaving your penis can instantly turn disasterous. While your testicles may not fall out (you’d have to cut yourself really deep for that to happen) shaving without a good razor and shaving cream can give you a few nicks and a really bad razor burn afterwards. If you want to shave your genitals, or even just trim, invest a few bucks – you’ll be glad you did. You’ll need some trimmers (an electric beard trimmer is fabulous), a nice, sharp safety razor, thick and rich shaving cream and some lotion or aftershave.

How To Shave Your Genitals

  1. First, trim your pubic hair first, especially if it is long and curly. Shaving directly over the longer hair will only get hair stuck in your razor and you’re not going to get very much of the hair off.
  2. Next, take a shower or bath to let the warm water loosen the hair follicles. It will make shaving a lot easier and give you a much closer shave.
  3. When preparing to shave each area of your genitals, pull the skin tight. Loose skin will easily catch in a safety razor, resulting in nicks and cuts that you definitely don’t want. Pulling your skin tight will also help you get a closer shave.
  4. When shaving the base of the penis shaft, start at the top of the hairline and move down towards the base of the penis.
  5. Shave your scrotum last, again pulling the skin nice and tight to avoid nicks and cuts.
  6. After your shave, use a good aftershave splash or moisturizing lotion to keep your smooth shave and to prevent red bumps and razor burn afterwards.

Just A Trim

Another option for grooming your pubic hair is simply giving yourself a close trim, especially if you’re nervous about shaving it all off right away. Trimming is a lot easier than shaving, but will leave you with a “buzz cut” of sorts down there. When you prepare for shaving, trim your entire pubic region and see how you like it. You may prefer a trim to a close shave. You can always shave it off if you decide you want baby smooth skin instead. Some guys develop ingrown hairs after shaving – if you’re one of those guys, a trim might be just the ticket.