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3 Keys To Erotic Massage

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Erotic massage will get a woman warmed up for sex, but you need to do it right. With these three tips, you can give your girl an outstanding erotic massage!

It’s not about targeting deep muscles as it is simply adoring lover’s skin. As such, you really have great autonomy going about it. Sensuality is not found on the strokes, but in YOUR PRESENCE – it’s in the vibes you give off.

1. Be In The Moment

For the commercially available masseur, touching her is a job, and they have done it to several other clients that day. But for you, touching the beloved is a delight, you don’t count minutes during foreplay as you’re not being paid by the hour.

Effect slow, leisurely motions and take in the sensual bombardment.

Make no mistake, giving the sensual massage is just as blissful as receiving it. In spite being the giver, notice how your senses get bombarded with stimulation, feel through your palms the softness and suppleness of her body.

Delight your eyes at the curves of her of illuminated form. Smell the tingling scent of oil or lube rising from her skin and be attuned to her breaths and moans of rapture. Take this all in and you’ll find that giving the massage is just as great.

2. Have Confidence

Don’t go touching your partner’s body as if it’s the first time you’ve held a girl. The worst thing is to give off that vibe of uncertainty – she’ll catch it. Instead of melting and succumbing to your touch, she’ll get self-conscious and uptight. Not good for your cause.

Lead with confidence, move with control. You’re not putting on a show. Women know it if a guy has confidence. In sex, SLOOOOW is how confident and controlled men execute. This is not yet the time to gallop like a run-away pony. Don’t worry, she’ll feel your kick later.

3. Breath Regularly & Deeply

Yes, breathing is an attitude. And a pretty important one at that.

It does sound like the most basic thing, but breathing is also the most important. Everything starts with the way you breathe. When you take in oxygen, you’re replenishing life forces in your body, and if there’s one thing I want you to learn about erotic massage, and sex in general, it is to breathe regularly and deeply. Observe how a sleeping person does it, that’s the kind of relaxed and leisurely affair we’re gunning for.

The arts of Tantra and meditation have proper breathing as their cornerstone. Good luck being sensual and confident while panting delirious. (Many today live on shallow and quick breath cycles – and they still wonder why their days are always tense and nervous.)

Respiratory rate affects the rest of your body, getting fresh and ample amount of oxygen relaxes your muscles, for example. And observe how slowing down movements becomes really easy when you also slow down your breathing. Emotions, like anger, are held stable through regular and deep supply of air – as it’s very difficult to get mad when your breathing is as steady as a Uranium clock.

Tantric Sex – How To Transform Your Partnership

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Tantric sex can bring you and your lover closer than you ever have been. Here’s how to get started – your sex life (and relationship) will never be the same!

Great sex can be any kind of sex – hard, fast, thrusting is good, but your partner will get bored of this easily, because there is little emotional connection involved   This is where Tantric sex comes in. In tantric sex there is no goal of getting anywhere, of striving for an orgasm.

It’s All About The Approach

Your approach with your partner is all about awareness and feeling, experiencing the “now,” with your ego dissolving and your heart opening. It’s a form of meditation that lets history dissolve, resentment fade away and anger turn into joy.

However, this kind of sex takes practice and it takes 2! So you have to convince her to take this journey with you and once you have both gone down this path, there will be no turning back. It’s not some huge mystery as most people seem to think and neither do you have to wait until you know it all. Every little step you take in this direction brings its own rewards and on this journey, you get to know yourself intimately first and then that of your partner, by exploring first the physical, the emotional and finally the spiritual.

Designing An “Intimacy Space”

If you explain this procedure to your lover, she is going to be spell bound and most definitely curious. The first thing you need to do is design an “intimacy space.” Start off slow with a light intimate dinner and then proceed to this “space” which should be comfortable, relaxed and clear of clutter. It needs to be decorated with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics and the additional ambience created by the scent should be of natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Choose a soundtrack of music that you both like to be played as soft background music.

Breathing Together

The next step is intimate and involves breathing each other’s breath. Harmonizing your breath is one of the easiest ways to sync with your lover. Straddle your partner’s lap (called the yab-yom sex position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your lover breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you’re sharing all of yourself with your partner. Whatever you do, do not lose control – this is critical!

Take Your Time

Foreplay is essential in Tantra. A slow build will not only help you maintain your erection but it will intensify her arousal. The longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer your session will last and the more energy you will build. Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand.

Maintain Eye Contact

Whilst all this erotic foreplay is building, maintaining eye contact is essential. You are going to make love with your eyes open as the ultimate display of your deep connection with your lover and the level of your intimacy. It will be a challenge particularly as the sensations of pleasure heighten. When the two of you finally make love, you’ll find the love making profoundly transformative and move each other in ways you could never imagine.

Tantric Sex Techniques To Make You Last Longer In Bed

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Tantric sex can teach men how to delay their orgasm and last longer in bed – here are 2 techniques to use during masturbation to help increase your stamina.

According to studies, around 75% of women do not reach an orgasm during intercourse. Why? For one, it’s because he or she does not know how to properly sexually stimulate her so she never really reaches sexual tension enough to come. Another reason is this: he comes too fast.

Frankly, clinical premature ejaculation is not the issue here. Women simply take longer than men to climax. Period. So how do we bridge this gap? Well, why not engage in exercises that will help you last longer in bed? This way, you’re giving her all the time she needs to get all revved up for a glorious climax.

Exercise One: Pressing The Prostate Point (PPP)

Okay, here’s a bit of a male anatomy lesson. Between your testicles and anus is something called the perineum. There’s a soft spot there through which you can apply pressure to your prostate. Now for most men, prostate stimulation reduces the likelihood of reaching orgasm involuntarily. This is because it washes out from the prostate gland the fluid that is necessary for ejaculation.

If you push hard enough on your prostate point right before orgasm, it actually blocks the emission phase (or ejaculation phase). This exercise prevents seminal fluid from entering the urethral canal when your orgasmic spasms start. Even if you have orgasmic contractions, the semen remains inside your body and is re-absorbed. This is also known as having a Dry Orgasm and no, nit’s not painful!

  1. Pleasure yourself till you begin to feel the tension that tells you you’re on your way to coming.
  2. Stop all motion, locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. You should feel the sexual tension you were just feeling begin to ebb away.
  3. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 1.
  4. Stop all motion, locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. You should feel the sexual tension you were just feeling begin to ebb away.
  5. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 3.
  6. Locate your prostate point, and press upward firmly for 10 to 30 seconds. However, this time, try to continue stroking yourself as you do this.
  7. 7. Continue doing this exercise till you master reaching higher sexual peaks and bringing yourself down again.

Exercise Two: Root Lock

Inside your body, at the base of your penis is the muscle called pubococcygeus. People fondly call it PC for short. This exercise teaches you to use your PC muscles to delay ejaculation.

To perform a Root Lock, hold your breath momentarily and push your pelvic muscles out like straining to empty your bowels. Some claim they prefer pushing ‘in’ rather than out but that’s all up to you really.

  1. Pleasure yourself till you begin to feel the tension that tells you you’re on your way to coming.
  2. Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away.
  3. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 1.
  4. Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away.
  5. Now pleasure yourself again. This time, go a bit pass the tension you felt in Step 3.
  6. Exhale all your breath and hold it, keep your eyes wide open looking upward, push your tongue on the roof of your mouth, tighten your fingers, hands, and feet, and push out on your rectum until your arousal ebbs away. But this time, contract your anal muscles inward and upward while pulling your stomach toward your spine. Which works better for you, in or out?
  7. Continue doing this exercise till you master reaching higher sexual peaks and bringing yourself down again.

By now, you should be realizing that tension in whatever way, shape of form, is your ‘enemy.’ So each time you make love to her, and you feel that you’re reaching a sexual peak that can easily lead you to orgasm, delay your orgasm and wait for her will you?

5 Easy Tantric Sex Moves To Try Tonight!

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Tantric sex is a great way to connect emotionally and sexually to your partner. Instead of focusing on techniques to get to orgasm faster, Tantra focuses on the emotional and physical intimacy you share with someone during sex. It also teaches you to focus more on each individual sensation during sex rather than thinking of them as a means to an end. Here are five easy things to do now to have amazing orgasms with your lover.

Sanctify Your Space

If you read the morning newspaper in your bed, or you work from home in bed, eat in bed or do anything else besides sleep and have sex in your bed, then you need to start by sanctifying your space. You’re never going to feel sexual or connected to your partner in the same space that you change diapers in! Start making your bedroom a sex and sleeping only place, so when you walk into the room, you are already starting to get psychologically prepared for sex. You can also splurge on some new silky sheets and a few aromatherapy candles. Anything that you can do to appeal to your senses and get them involved will help you experience sex in a new way.

Dance With Your Partner

Remember that scene in the second Matrix movie where the entire city of Zion did a sweaty, tribal dance together to the sound of deep, resonating drum beats? There’s a reason that scene was so erotic. Bring that sense of eroticism and energy to the bedroom by scouring the Internet for some sexy tribal music and putting it on your iPod. You can also use anything with a slow, sexy beat to it as long as it makes you want to grind and dance with your lover. Turn the lights down low (you can use candles to enhance the mood) and turn music up loud. Let the beat flow through your body as you dance with your partner. You’ll begin to relax and find that your body is more open and sensitive to pleasure, as well as your to your lover. Let the dancing bring out your sensual, animalistic nature!

Practice Breathing Together

Breathing is an essential part of sex. It allows more oxygen into your body which enables blood to flow to and stimulate your genitals. Practice breathing in and out together with your partner before sex or during foreplay. For example, when you’re kissing your partner or cuddling with them before sex, synchronize your intake and outtake of breath with theirs. As you begin breathing together, you’re also going to do other things together, such as experience waves of pleasure and orgasm simultaneously. While you may not experience a simultaneous orgasm with your lover right away during Tantric sex, practicing breathing together and feeling each other will bring you that much closer.

Use The Sitting Up Sex Position

There are a variety of sex positions that you can use during Tantric sex, but the most popular one is the sitting position, where the woman sits on the man’s lap and inserts his penis into her vagina that way. This position allows for very little movement, but that is actually the point here! You’re not going to be able to do much more than rock back and forth on each other – sliding in and out just isn’t going to happen in this position. However, when you slowly rock and grind against each other, your pleasure will continue to build until the point where you think you can’t take it anymore. Stop, kiss your partner deeply and allow yourself to come down some from the brink of orgasm. Then, take your time building your pleasure up again. Combine this with simultaneous breathing and staring deep into your lover’s eyes and you’ll begin to experience pleasure in a whole new way.

Don’t Rush It

Again, the point of Tantric sex is not to rush into orgasm. This is going to be a long, drawn out process (and that is not a bad thing at all) so you want to make a point to do it when you have a good, solid chunk of time where you’re not going to be interrupted. Whether you start with oral sex and then move into breathing and rocking or a combination of several different maneuvers, you don’t want to rush a single minute of it. Focus on each individual wave of pleasure and encourage your partner to do the same. After some practice, you and your partner may even be able to feel each other’s pleasure and it will begin to heighten your own pleasure!

Take Your Climax To The Max – Top 5 Tips To Wilder Orgasms

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Just because you’ve heard that not a lot of women reach orgasms during intercourse like you do does not mean you should sit on your laurels. After all, there are orgasms and there are ORGASMS, if you know what I mean.

So, if you want to up the pleasure you get when you climax read on to find out what you need to do to really create fire in bed.

 Wild Orgasm Tip #1: No More Fake Ones For You!

Why do women fake orgasms? That’s a complicated one. Here are a few possible reasons.

  • At the start of your relationship, maybe you faked it because you want him to think you’re this wild, erotic lover.
  • You’re tired and you really just want to get it over with.
  • You actually have no idea how to climax so you just fake it.

Why it’s bad: When you fake your orgasms, you are sending him all the wrong ideas when it comes to what turns you on. As a result, he will never really get what makes you tick sexually.

How to change: Make it real. Seriously, don’t moan if there’s nothing to moan about. Don’t say it was great if it wasn’t. Don’t say ‘yeah, yeah’ when in you’re head you’re already planning tomorrow’s chores.

This does not mean to say that you should be brutal with comments (e.g., I don’t know why you’re licking that way!) or that you should be passive (why wait for him to figure YOU out?). Instead, explore your body together. If you don’t want to do this, you can go off on a self-exploration journey first. Yes, masturbate more.

Find out what moves REALLY arouse you. And then the next time you guys make love, guide him to what you want him to do.

Wild Orgasm Tip #2. Bring In A ‘Third Party’ To Bed.

Sometimes women, in their frustration to reach an orgasm more often, turn to battery-operated lovers. This is all well and good and in reality, sex toys ARE great ways to explore your own sexuality. However, in many cases, women tend to turn to their sex toys more and more because well, it’s almost a sure-thing each time you use it.

Why it’s bad: This prevents you from exploring better climaxes with your lover.

How to change: Why not try to introduce your man to your sex gadget? A lot of people say this will hurt his ego but this really depends on how you bring it. For instance, why not give him a peep show first. You KNOW what one of men’s sexual fantasies is to watch their woman masturbate so why not give him a treat?

Engage in self-love right in front of him. This will not only drive him wild but will bring you to your sexual edge too. It’s a win-win situation. You can even hand off the sex toy at one point to him so he can use it on you!

Wild Orgasm Tip #3. Realize This: Perfect Sex Exist Only In Movies.

Nowadays, it’s getting harder and harder to separate fantasy from reality! And the bedroom is one of those areas that are suffering from this. We seem to think that making love should be almost ‘picture perfect’. I mean, heaven forbid you make a fanny fart or emit some gas as he takes you from behind. And woman-on-top is GREAT but then again, you have to be right in front of him where he can see how your face contorts as you near your climax.

Why it’s bad: All of these thoughts are not only unrealistic; they completely get in the way of a darn good orgasm! Instead of letting go and losing yourself in the sexual moment, you tend to become alert as to what MAY occur.

How to change: Practice feeling and not thinking while making love. Really try to empty your mind and focus only on your body. If you must ‘think’, practice mental stimulation instead. For instance, if you love the way he’s licking you then recite this in your head “Lick. Lick. Lick. Wet. Wet. Wet. Coming. Coming. Coming.”

Wild Orgasm Tip #4. Your Next Bedroom Project: Tantric Sex.

Oftentimes, when a particular sex position works (i.e., you actually reached an orgasm in that position), we tend to engage in nothing but that position over and over again. Tried and tested, right?

Why it’s bad: If you keep on doing the exact same thing, it loses its effectives in the long run. Furthermore, this means you’re dangerously coming close to that R word (routine) that kills a lot of sex lives.

How to change: Keep on experimenting. Ok, maybe tantric sex or the kama sutra is too big a project to start with but you must start something. It keeps sex alive and yes, you WILL find one that will push your orgasms to greater heights.

Enjoy yourselves!