A female orgasm is not just about how deep your strokes are or big your penis is. The human hand is an intricate masterpiece capable of great works of art or science; yet if asked to name your most “handy tool” in the bedroom, your fingers might be the last thing on your mind! Intimately linked with touching and capable of more dexterity than any other body part, your fingers hold the power to tease, tantalize and transform your everyday sexual experience into something truly satisfying.
Do Not Rush Foreplay
Despite all the amazing things your hands can do, you have probably not given them a good workout during sex in quite some time. Why the neglect? While women often look at foreplay as a great chance to spend some quality time playing with their partner, men tend to think of it as the work they need to get out of the way before the main event.
Talk On An Honest Level
Maybe you are so eager by the time she’s turned on that you can’t wait to be inside her. Perhaps you just don’t feel confident that you know what’s going on down there and need some clear, concise instructions on how to handle her intimate bits. TALK TO HER! Connect with her on an honest level to find out what she likes and how you can improve your sex life together.
Be Enthusiastic About Your Sex Life
Hot sex deserves your very best effort, and this is the kind of effort worth giving. Don’t spend another night wondering if you’ll be able to hold out long enough to make her come with you. If your wife has anything in common with the 43% of American women in the National Health and Social Life Survey who claimed to have sexual problems related primarily to lack of interest, difficulty reaching orgasm and the inability to experience sexual pleasure, then it’s time to find out what is going on.
Be enthusiastic about your sex life. If you are not positive then she could feel ashamed or embarrassed to the point that you stop having sex all together. Don’t let your sex life spin out of control because you’re not enthusiastic enough about getting it back on track.
Read Her Reactions When You Touch
Molly Triffin, a recent DuPauw University study revealed some interesting news about our responses to touch. “Touch allows you to tune in to feelings that lie below the surface,” psychology professor and lead author Matthew Hertenstein says. Many intimate details of your relationship can be understood in a mere five seconds. You may notice that your wife often tenses up, pulls away or avoids eye contact during sex. While Triffin suggests that the most common reasons for this reaction involve lies or secrets, it is in fact more likely a feeling of self-consciousness and body shame.