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Female Masturbation – 5 Shower Favorites!

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Female masturbation exists and the tub is one of the ladies’ preferred places because it’s so easy and private. Here are five ways women masturbate in the tub!

With A Detachable/Massage Showerhead

This is perhaps the easiest female masturbation techniques for the bathtub. A detachable showerhead is perfect, because it allows the girl to aim the stream of water wherever she wants it – either on her whole vulva or directly on the clitoris. A massage showerhead is even better, because it features several different pulsating patterns. A detachable massage showerhead is pretty much a water squirting vibrator.

A massage showerhead that doesn’t detach is still a female masturbation fave, because a girl can still lie on the bottom of the tub underneath the water, and let the water pulsate on her vulva. She can angle her body any way she likes to get the sensations she desires.

Under The Bathtub Faucet

This works well for women who either have only a tub or can’t use their showerhead for female masturbation for one reason or another. A woman will scoot her bottom up all the way to the front of the tub, so she can place her vulva directly underneath the running tub faucet. This works better for smaller women or ladies who are more flexible, because the position required to get adequate stimulation to the clitoris can be quite difficult to get into.

With A Waterproof Sex Toy

Having a waterproof sex toy on hand is probably the easiest way to get off in the water. Female masturbation has endless possibilities when you use sex toys to reach orgasm. A waterproof sex toy can be used while standing in the water or submerged in the tub.

A few tips for buying sex toys for the tub:

  • Look for rechargeable ones that don’t require batteries. They are longer lasting and much easier to use.
  • Pay attention to whether it is “waterproof” or “splashproof.” “Splashproof” generally means that bodily fluids and some splashing won’t bother it, but it’s not really suitable for the tub. Don’t assume anything is waterproof just because it looks like it is – make sure the box or toy specs state that it is.
  • Invest in silicone lube. It works much, much better in the water and doesn’t rinse right off like water based lube does. Yeah, you’ll need soap and water to get it all the way off, but it lasts longer in a wet environment. Just make sure any sex toys you’re using with silicone lube aren’t also made out of silicone as this will degrade your toy more quickly.

Good, Old Fashioned Fingering

Some girls are incredibly discreet about their female masturbation habits. For this reason, many of them choose not to use any sex toys that could get them caught. This is also why the bathroom is such a great place for masturbation – you can do so under the ruse of washing up and usually no one will bother you.

Many women will simply use their fingers when masturbating in the bathroom. Fingers are readily available and covering up what you’re doing should someone walk in the bathroom is much easier since you don’t really have anything to hide anywhere.

Electric Toothbrushes, Shampoo Bottles, Etc.

Many ladies get creative when it comes to female masturbation in the bathroom. If they don’t have any sex toys on hand (which many girls don’t because they don’t want to spend the money or are afraid someone will find their stash), they can use a variety of things that are already in the bathroom.

For example, some girls use a spinning toothbrush on their clitoris instead of a vibrator. While a sex toy is much, much easier to use (and better) than a toothbrush, you can’t usually leave your sex toys out on the counter next to everyone else’s toothbrushes without getting caught. Slick shampoo bottles and even bars of soap can be used to slide around the clitoris during a bath.

Investing in a great sex toy to use in the bath is probably your best bet, but if you’re in a pinch, look around – you probably have something you can use. Just steer clear of razors of any kind (ouch!) and make sure you have another toothbrush on hand you can use if you end up getting yours “dirty.” In fact, buying a brand new one from the store so you can distinguish between the two is probably a really good idea.

Why You Want To Use Sex Toys

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Sex toys can bring you and your partner much more satisfaction than plain sex alone. Here are more reasons to start using sex toys!

Why Use Sex Toys

  • Because they’re fun.
  • Because they provide you with a distinct type of pleasure, which would enrich the one you’re already enjoying.
  • Because sometimes, just sometimes, your girlfriend or wife needs a stronger and more consistent stimulation to get off, and some sex toys will provide this.
  • Because your ancestors couldn’t and you can. Wouldn’t it be a terrible waste if you denied yourself progress?
  • Because sharing this experience with your loved one is not risky, it is a sign of evolving.
  • Because sex toys are part of women’s deepest and hottest sexual fantasies, and unleashing that in your girlfriend or wife will definitely be to your own advantage.
  • Because the sight of them can instantly cure headaches!
  • Because they’re empowering.
  •  Because you have the right to ensure yourself as much pleasure as you can possibly carry.

Why Sex Toys Aren’t Taboo Anymore

Sex toys, just like anal sex, have been surrounded by a shadow of taboo until recently. Sex shops were only looked at with the corner of the eye and people hesitated about entering, fearing that someone might see them visit those shameful places.

Today the attitude toward toys that give you the much needed pleasure is much more liberal. According to adult novelty manufacturers, the business is nowadays ten times more profitable than a mere ten years ago. People all over the world are buying sex toys with much more frequency and a clearly intensified interest and curiosity.

Thank God for Sex And The City, I might add, because women became more actively involved in this phenomenon after the four naughty girls started talking about it freely and recommending it as something normal, that every woman should try without any regrets or fears.

Their newly acquired status as respectable merchandise unleashed a booming development of sex shops all over the countries, sex shops that, beside the more and more diversified models, were also selling sex education as part of the package.

Members of the staff are trained to help you choose the best products for your convenience, products that can satisfy all your desires and needs, as peculiar as they might be. Also, online shops are shipping products of the most exquisite quality all over the world, discreetly and safely. It’s up to you to choose the option that best suits your needs.

Becoming A Skilled Lover With Sex Toys

If you want to acquire the skilled lover status, you have to allow yourself to open up to a whole new world of playful possibility. Sex toys not only enhance your capacity to feel pleasure, but also offer variety in terms of the sensations you can experience. To top that, they can also help you solve the most intriguing sexual challenges that you might encounter.

For instance, if your girlfriend or wife is having trouble orgasming through vaginal (or anal) intercourse, using a sex toy (like a vibrator, for example) to stimulate her clitoris while your penetrating her can give her the much needed climax.

Anal beads, butt plugs, dildos, they all provide multiple points of stimulation, building extreme sensations throughout the body, not only in your intimate parts.

What Toys To Choose

Fortunately, you’re pretty much covered. There are sex toys especially designed for all kinds of pleasure. Number one rule in choosing a toy: figure out what both of you want and where she is lacking in ability to feel maximum of pleasure. A “full” sensation is what you’d want for your partner to experience, or do you think a vibrating tingling will put her in the mood more quickly? Discuss it together and, why not, try all there is in order to truly know what you want.

Never forget your best in this “business” – lube. As smooth and apparently easy to penetrate any orifice as your toys may seem, sensations are much better with lubrication. proper lubrication.

Condoms also facilitate the penetration, but the main reason you should not give them up even though we’re talking about a sex toy is convenience, actually. You’ll want to use that vibrator, for example, on her breasts, on her clitoris, inside her vagina, inside her anus, etc. If you don’t want to stop after every anal thrusting and go thoroughly clean your toy in order to go back to her other hot spots, using a condom saves you from that. Put it on when you want to penetrate her anally and take it off when she wants other areas playfully stimulated, to prevent the transfer of bacteria.

How To Introduce Sex Toys To A Woman

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Sex toys can rev up your sex life, but introducing them isn’t always an easy task. How do you bring them in the bedroom without scaring her off?

When you and your partner first started dating, if your first introduction to her bedroom brought you face to face with a bed full of stuffed dolls, your first reaction might have been to run. Women have a similar reaction when men whip out their sexual implements; including toys, lube or specialized condoms. If you haven’t already shared your collection, make sure to follow these simple rules of etiquette first.

Show Your Cards

When things get hot and heavy and you reach for the drawer next to your bed, you may encounter some resistance. Why? If you’ve got a treasure trove of lubes, condoms, toys and vibrators hidden away, it could give the wrong first impression. Most women will already know if you’ve had other partners, but they probably don’t want to be reminded of it in the heat of the moment. Besides, having everything ready at your fingertips will let her on to the fact that you planned for sex, which in the first stages of a new relationship could dampen that “heat of the moment” sort of feeling.

So what’s a guy to do? Be prepared, but don’t pull out the big guns for a while. Use your favorite brand of condom and keep everything else, other than any necessary all-purpose lube, to yourself. After you’ve been together for a while and you’ve shared a handful of intimate experiences, feel free to delve into the toy arena. Just don’t make a big scene about the fact that you’ve used the sex toys with someone else.

Be Aware Of Health Concerns With Sex Toys

This leads to a discussion about sex toys and health concerns. One of the most important accessories in your ‘toy box’ should be a cleaner specifically created for sex toys, and you should use it each and every time you lug them out of their hiding place. Although some movies and TV shows talk about putting your sex toys in the dishwasher, it is a really a bad idea for most materials. Dishwasher water can be too hot, and might break down the material of many an expensive toy in just a few washes. Of course, nothing with batteries or moving parts should ever go into the dishwasher anyway, but you already knew that.

Instead, get a lint-free cloth and a bottle of toy cleaner to keep it on hand. Spray the liquid into the towel, and wipe off every crevice and curve possible. Rinse it with water and let it dry a few hours before putting it away. Most sex shops carry one or two different brands of cleaner, and you want one specifically made for a woman’s very gentle vaginal area; that means unscented and hypoallergenic. In a pinch, soapy water will usually do, but be careful not to submerge anything electric!

Another easier, albeit more expensive form of clean-up is to use condoms on any of your sex toys that will come in contact with either of your body fluids. You will still want to give them a quick wipe down with a damp cloth when you’re done, but most of the clean-up is already taken care of when you whip the latex off.

I should mention as well that all rubber and jelly sex toys are impossible to sterilize. You can clean them even with bleach but proper sterilization is impossible because of their physical makeup. Both hot water and bleach will actually break them down, so that they become unusable with time. That means that if you plan on using jelly or rubber sex toys on more than one person, or if there is both anal and vaginal use in play, you will be putting your partner at risk unless you insist on using a condom.

What Kind Of Sex Toys To Buy

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Sex toys come in all shapes, sizes and colors. You can do just about anything with them or put them…ahem, anywhere. How do you choose what sex toys to get?

There are a huge amount of sex toys available on the market today: dongs, dildos, vibrators, cock rings, G-Spot stimulators, eggs, bullets – the list goes on and on. We’ll get into each option in a second, but first, let’s discuss what kind of material you want to search for first.

Jelly or rubber sex toys aren’t the best option, mostly because of their inability to be properly cleaned. There are several other options available, depending on the kind of toy you want, but in most circumstances (unless otherwise noted) you’ll want to purchase sex toys made out of silicone. Although more expensive than regular jelly or rubber sex toys, silicone sex toys are:

  • Hypoallergenic
  • Warm up quickly to your body heat, touch or warm water
  • Sterile, and can be cleaned with gentle soap and water
  • Able to be used both vaginally and anally, provided they are properly sterilized in between uses
  • Non-porous and odourless
  • Lifetime purchases that won’t break, flake or melt

Now that you have a better idea as to what kind of materials to look for in a sex toy, let’s talk about the different options available to you that help with orgasms during intercourse.

Clitoral Sex Toys

There is a certain angle and thrusting mechanism required to rub up against a woman’s clitoral complex well enough to have her orgasm during sex. If for whatever reason you aren’t able to use these positions to attain the proper movement or angle, or if your partner can’t let go of her vibrator habit, a clitoral stimulator is the first type of sex toy to try. These implements are meant to be worn during intercourse, and they provide sensation, vibration or rubbing along the clitoral head and frenulum.

For example, the Ladybug made by Nasswalk is an unusual vibrator that a woman wears on her hips like a pair of underwear. It sits along her pelvis and stimulates her clitoris using two feelers that encircle her genital region. Many women have shared with me that this one toy saved their sex lives, and they couldn’t imagine having an orgasm during sex without it. I recommend this product wholeheartedly.

G-Spot Vibrators

G-Spot toys during intercourse? How is that possible? With a new and highly recommended toy called the We-Vibe, you can do it all. This small C-shaped vibrator offers both clitoral and G-Spot stimulation, where the woman wears the toy snugly inside herself and her partner thrusts. Once inserted, you don’t need to use your hands to hold it in place, and it packs a powerful vibratory punch. This incredible little gadget is easy to clean, rechargeable, and fully waterproof.

Eggs

Egg vibrators are sex toys that are shaped like an egg and are sold in pairs. Most eggs are meant to be worn inside while a woman goes about her day, prior to intercourse, so she can strengthen her pelvic floor muscles in an attempt to enjoy stronger orgasms. Some eggs even vibrate when they touch one another inside her body, so she gets a little thrill each time she moves! Although these aren’t meant to be used during sex, they will assist your partner with feeling more in touch with her body and how orgasms work. Ask her to put two inside her a few hours before you’ve planned a sex session, and see just how wet and excited they make her.

Bullets

Bullet vibrators are sex toys that are powered by either small internal watch batteries, or an attached remote. They range in size from two to four inches long and come in a variety of similar shapes and sizes. Bullets are fantastic pieces of equipment because they are:

  • Tiny, thus fitting into small or cramped areas when your bodies pushed together
  • Powerful, offering strong vibrations in a focused manner
  • Versatile, and can be used solo or with a multitude of attachments

Bullet vibrators are great sex toys to give to your partner. She can use them during sex whenever she needs an extra thrill, and because they are highly focused vibrations, she’ll be able to pinpoint her itchy spots with ease during sex.

Finger Vibrators

Sex positions that allow for a free hand are perfect for finger vibrator use. They fit neatly over your finger like a ring and provide extra stimulation through the pads of your fingertips. The Fukuoku 9000 uses silicone sleeves and makes your finger the actual vibrator, while the Ophoria loops around the base of your finger to give you an extra, vibrating digit.

Vibrating Cock Rings

One of the newer additions to the sex toys family are cock rings. All are meant to fit around a man’s penis, stopping the flow of blood so that he can maintain a longer erection. Some are plain rings that only provide support to the gent in question wearing one, while others have clitoral and anal attachments to stimulate those parts of her body as well. My favorite types of cock rings however are the ones that vibrate. Easily found at most grocery stores today, some come with a condom already attached. Because the batteries in these cock rings are small, they usually don’t cost a lot of money, and wear out quickly.

These lovely little sex toys offer a lot of benefits when having sex and wanting some extra stimulation, such as:

  • Ease of use. You don’t need to read an instruction manual to use these sex toys, and they are ready to use as soon as you open the package. All you do is stretch the ring around your penis, put it as far down your penis as you can, and then pull it around your balls as well. Let go gently until it gets back to the size it came out of the package. It should fit snugly but without any pain.
  • No thinking required. Once you’ve put the cock ring on, you can forget about it. It won’t move, and you’ll both have your hands free to try out any of the wild and sexy positions shared in this eBook.

There really isn’t a lot to these bundles of joy, but there are a few things to remember:

  • When putting on a cock ring, make sure your hands are dry. You don’t want to slip and let go of it midway through and accidentally hurt yourself.
  • Think about the sex positions you’ll try out that evening before putting on the ring. If you’re focusing on woman on top or missionary, put the vibrating bit farthest away from your scrotum so that your lover gets the buzz around her clitoral network. If however you want to use mostly sideways or doggy-style positions, flip the ring around so that it sits just at your balls.

The Right Way To Give Her A Sex Toy

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Sex toys can make an excellent gift for special occasions like anniversaries or for Valentine’s Day, but getting the right thing can be trickier than you originally anticipated. It’s easy to select something that your girl wouldn’t like, or even something that would upset her or offend her. This is even easier to do if you and your lover don’t communicate regularly about what she does and doesn’t like during sex.

However, you needn’t shy away from gifting your girl a sex toy all together, because if you choose something she really likes, it can be key to jump starting your sex life! Here’s how to choose a sex toy that your girl will like, and how to give it to her as a gift without upsetting her.

Pay Attention To What She Likes During Sex

Think about what your girl likes when you have sex with her. Think about what brings her to orgasm the fastest, or makes her go completely wild! Does she like a lot of clitoral stimulation to take her over the edge? Does she like a “full” feeling in her vagina? Does she like both clitoral and g-spot stimulation at the same time? Decoding what she wants during sex is going to be your biggest clue to selecting a sex toy that meets her needs and satisfies her desires. It will also let you know what to stay away from.

If she doesn’t reach orgasm very well with vaginal stimulation alone, getting her a sex toy that doesn’t stimulate the clitoris (and only stimulates the vagina) is a bad idea. This will tell her that you a) don’t pay attention to what she likes during sex and b) that all you really want to do is shove stuff inside her. So think about what she really, really enjoys during sex and go for a sex toy that stimulates that area of her body. If she totally digs nipple stimulation when she’s ready to climax, gift her with a sweet pair of nipple clamps or nipple vibrators – but don’t go for the crazy, BDSM looking ones.

Go For High Quality, “Luxury” Toys

When giving a sex toy as a gift, a cheap rubber toy from that one store in the mall is just going to disappoint her. That’s honestly something she could have gotten herself if she wanted it. Many of those toys are cheaply made and can actually cause allergic reactions and can even increase the risk of cervical cancer due to the materials the toys are made out of. Many of those toys are also designed as “gag gifts” – so giving her a toy like this can only be bad news.

Instead, shop for a high end, quality luxury toy either online or in your local adult store. This is one of those times that name brand actually matters – most “name brand” sex toy manufacturers (for example, LELO or Jimmy Jane) make their toys out of body safe silicone or hard plastic, and they not only feel great, they look incredible. They’re sleek, chic and totally high end – which will impress any woman. Take the time to select something really nice and damn the cost. She’s worth it!

No Dildos, Period

No matter how close you are with your partner, gifting her a dildo in the shape of another man’s penis is just awkward. Besides, dildos don’t do much of anything for a woman who likes clitoral stimulation (which is just about every woman to be perfectly frank). You might consider the solution to that is one of those clone-your-own-penis kits, where you make a rubber dildo using a mold of your own penis. This can be a fun novelty activity for both of you to do together, but it does not make a nice gift. No dildo makes a nice gift. So stay away from those, period!

Skip Anal Toys Unless You KNOW She Digs Anal Stimulation

Gifting a woman an anal sex toy without knowing for sure whether she’s into the anal action or not is a huge mistake. She’ll assume all you’re trying to do is get busy with her back door and she’ll be offended. It’s almost like if you give her a fishing pole for her birthday – she knows it’s not for her, it’s really for you. And that’s just plain insulting. To be safe, steer clear of any anal stimulation toys unless you’re totally sure she likes it and you’ve had success with it before.

If you do decide to get her something for her bum, make sure it’s something very pretty and very nice. A gorgeous glass plug (on the smaller side, thank you!) is okay, but a huge black thing is totally not okay. Think demure, sweet and sensual. Not nasty and hardcore. This should help lead you in the right direction if you’re sure an anal toy is the right way to go. If you’re not sure, don’t do it.

A Clitoral Vibe Is Almost Always Safe

If you’re not really sure what she likes during sex and you’re nervous about getting her something she’ll like, go for a clitoral vibrator. This type of sex toy is designed only to stimulate the clitoris and doesn’t go in the vagina – it’s a safe bet for almost any woman. The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman’s anatomy, and it often doesn’t get enough love during sex. Many women can only reach orgasm with clitoral stimulation! Giving her a clitoral vibrator as a gift says “I care about your pleasure more than my own. I really want you to feel good!” This is a toy she can use during sex with you, or on her own.

Select something high end and discreet, that looks nice. An excellent choice is the LELO Nea! You pretty much can’t mess up if you select a gorgeous, luxury clitoral vibrator. She’s almost guaranteed to love it.

Get Her Another Gift Also

Even if you’ve chosen a really nice, high quality sex toy to give to her as a gift, consider getting her another gift as well. While a super luxury sex toy is nice enough to be the gift, if you’re not sure how she’ll react, give her another gift as well. Don’t make the sex toy her only gift. Get her something that isn’t sex related, such as jewelry. You really can’t go wrong with jewelry. Chocolates (of the high end variety) are an excellent choice as well, as are gift certificates to her favorite restaurant, or a gift certificate for a full body massage or a pedicure.

Giving her something that you know she’ll like in addition to the sex toy gives you a buffer if she ends up being disappointed. If she likes the toy – and you’ve gotten her something else she’s ecstatic about – she’ll be more inclined to feel like having sex with you (and using her new toy in your presence!)