From a man’s perspective, there are a lot of issues about sex which may bring you insecurities especially if you’re not so confident about your skills as a lover. Did she reach orgasm when during your first time together or was she faking it? When she has one of those ‘girl talks’ with her friends, do you think that she raves about your skills in bed or does she portray you as a lousy lover?
In order for you not to feel any insecurity in this department, the best that you can do is develop your skills as a lover. Remember to always be sensitive to a woman’s sexual needs, always take her pleasure into account instead of always looking for your own pleasure, take your time and learn new sexual tricks every now and then. This way, your wife or girlfriend will feel satisfied about the way that your sex life is going.
A Woman’s Pleasure Buttons: Differentiating the G-Spot from the Clitoris
For men, the erogenous zone is pretty much concentrated on the area below his waist and above his thighs. For women, however, there is a pretty wide area which can be considered as her pleasure zones. The breasts, her thighs, her waist, the back of her neck and even the not-so-erotic curves of her body can bring her pleasure when stimulated. And of course, there’s the center of all her pleasure zones which is her vagina.
Now, if you want to be a master lover, there are two aspects of a woman’s sexual organ that you need to learn the map for: the clitoris and the G-spot. Target these two pleasure buttons and you’ll surely be able to bring her multiple orgasms. To make the distinction between the two, here’s a crash course on the basic things that you should know about the clitoris and a woman’s G-spot.
First, the clitoris is the sole organ in the female body which is dedicated to physical pleasure. Think of the sensation that she feels down there as comparable to the pleasure that you feel when the head of your penis is being stimulated. The clitoris is a nerve-packed ending which is sensitive to the touch, and it is located just above the opening of her vagina.
Second, there’s the G-spot or the Gräfenberg spot. This is actually a bean-shaped tissue which has a spongy texture, located about a couple of inches back from the opening of her front vaginal wall.
Confused? Don’t worry, the G-spot is something that even women themselves find difficult to locate. But once you do manage to find it and bring her mind blowing orgasms by stimulating her G-spot, she’ll practically be under your sexual spell for life!
How to Bring Her Mind Blowing Orgasms by Fingering Her G-Spot
So how exactly should you stimulate her G-spot? Just as it is when you’re introducing a new sexual position to her, the best way to start stimulating the G-spot is by easing your way into it. Always start slow and be sensitive to her responses.
Don’t scrimp on the foreplay since this is one of the best ways to prepare her for the G-spot stimulation. The best way to go after her G-spot initially is by using your fingers. Once you’ve mastered the location of her G-spot, that is the time that you can target this particular pleasure button using your penis during penetration.
To do it, face your partner while she is lying on her back. Then, insert your index finger or your middle finger into her vagina as far back as it will go. Since the G-spot is located near her front vaginal wall, you should crook your finger along the top of the vagina. Do this gently until you feel an area which is rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall. Watch for her reaction – you’ll know when you’ve hit the right spot from the way that she will respond.
Don’t be afraid to communicate during the process of searching for her G-spot. Since she knows that it’s her ultimate pleasure that you’re after, she will surely cooperate.
The best way to make her reach an orgasm by fingering her G-spot is by using a firm tapping motion with your finger. Other women prefer G-spot stimulation during intercourse and the best position for this is when she’s on top or when you’re on a rear-entry position.
If you haven’t yet mastered the art of using a ‘helping hand’ to reach and stimulate her G-spot, don’t feel frustrated – try again and experiment. In due time, you are bound to reach that oh-so-elusive G-spot and use your finger to stimulate a woman’s ultimate pleasure button and bring her an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon.