Anal sex is one of the most misunderstood sex acts. Break through these well known myths and learn the real TRUTH about anal sex! It’s NOT what you think!
1. It’s Dirty
A simple look around is enough to convince anybody that we’re living in an age where hygiene is better than ever. Anybody who follows the normal hygiene rules ought to have a clean anus. And anyway, feces are stored in the bowel, not in the anus. If she has a good digestion and she makes sure that she poops before you two decide to go bottoms up, everything should be alright.
Normally, there remains only a small amount of fecal matter in the anal canal and rectum after a bowel movement. And one can always resort to an enema for extra cleaning. Don’t do it right before the act though. While it will clean out the anal cavity and may even feel good to some people, excessive douching can dry out the anal canal and cause micro-abrasions that make the transmission of an STD is more likely.
2. It’s Painful
Not if you use proper technique. In fact, when stimulated, this area can be quite pleasurable. The anus is rich in nerve endings and participates with our genitals in the engorgement, muscular tension and contractions of sexual arousal and orgasm. However, if you rush things up or you’re too aggressive, it will hurt, but this happens with any kind of sex, not just anal.
It’s critical that you take your time, go very slowly and carefully and use plenty of lube. And yes, saliva just doesn’t cut it in this particular case. Pay attention to her body and the way it responds to your moves and if there is any discomfort, stop immediately. If you don’t, it can make the anus tenser the next time you try it. The body also has a memory of its own, you know.
3. It’s Dangerous To Your Health
If you don’t use a condom or the right type of lube, you can end up with serious health problems. Anal intercourse is the easiest way to transmit HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. Using a condom decreases the risk. It also keeps you away from getting a urinary tract infection, which could happen if her anus is not as clean as it should be. Don’t think that it’s enough to wash your penis after anal sex to be safe from diseases.
4. It Causes Incontinence
Anal incontinence is caused either by severe damage to the muscles and nerves of the anus or by the brain’s failure to control
the body. First time anal sex should be done by the book. If you’re so rough and tough that it results in
repeated injury to the internal anal sphincter, then yes, you can make your girlfriend or wife incontinent, but if you’re reading this, it means you want to do it right, so that not only both of you feel pleasure, but you’re also safe from unnecessary injury.
5. It’s Unnatural
“The only unnatural sex act is that which you cannot perform” said Alfred Kinsey. And right he is. Frankly, anal sex has been around for centuries and no, it wasn’t just something the Greeks did. This century does not have a monopoly on imagination and experimenting with one’s body and people from other cultures and other times had discovered long ago that anal sex is neither weird, nor wrong. The bottom line is that it’s your body and your decision. If you think anal sex is unnatural, then don’t do it.
6. It’s A Gay Thing
The majority of people think that anal sex only happens in porn and in the gay community. There are so many jokes about homosexuals and anal sex that of course the myth started to seem real to a bunch of people. But this is not true. There is no link between anal stimulation and homosexuality.
Across the centuries men and women have enjoyed anal sex free of misconceptions and independently of their sexual orientation. Not to mention that many homosexuals simply refuse to have anal sex because they just don’t like it. In Anal Pleasure and Health, Jack Morin reveals that less than 30% of homosexuals have regular anal sex, oral sex being a much more common practice.
7. Women Don’t Enjoy It
You know how they say that bad news travels fast? That’s the situation we’re dealing with right here. We only hear the awful stories of women being forced to it by pushy boyfriends, but we never hear about those savvy girls that enjoy it really much and practice it regularly.
Sex tips columnist Susan Crain Bakos says: “Anal sex is seen as the ultimate male sexual fantasy. We, as a culture, don’t understand how much women can like it too.” And she’s right. Our culture says that “good girls don’t do that” when, in fact, they do. And a lot, if I’m permitted to add.