Anal fingering has become very common among most couples nowadays, whether they go all the way to anal penetration or not. Chances are that while you were performing cunnilingus on your girlfriend or wife, you played with your fingers on her backdoor without her resisting it.
If you want her to be up for more, your fingering technique should be spotless and leave her fully stimulated and wanting more.
Take Care Of Your Hands
There are some things you should take into consideration before going in. First of all, fingers are, unlike a tongue, rough. This is true no matter how baby-smooth your hands are, or how well-manicured. It’s more true, of course, if your hands are rough or not well manicured.
Caring for them ahead of time with some hand-softening lotion and the careful removal of as much fingernail as comfortable is a good idea.
Rubber/latex gloves, especially the surgical kind, are definitely worth considering, especially if you are just starting to experiment with anal-finger stimulation. The difference it makes is just astounding. Discomfort which was actually assumed to be from other issues (like being thought a matter of penetration itself, or nervous tightness) sometimes disappears completely.
Since the idea here, unlike condoms, is not to actually keep fluids from being passed between you, oil-based lubricants can sometimes be used with latex gloves.
Because there is going to be a lot of skin-on-skin during this type of sexual activity, you should still use a condom for protection. Though, a water-based lubricant (K-9, Wet, Anal-Ease, whatever you choose) might work fine.
How To Finger Her The RIGHT Way
Now that you’re all good and ready here’s how to tackle the situation so that both of you end up satisfied:
Step 1. Use all your fingers to part her buttocks, putting the tips close enough to her anus to do a
little bit of fiddling.
Step 2. Using your pinkies and your index fingers for anchoring let your ring and middle fingers meet each other over the whole, press gently into it, then stroke outwards again.
Step 3. Locate the exact opening. Don’t assume you know where it is, try to make a point of eyeballing it, sometimes even your partner ca be mistaken if they are trying to guide you.
Step 4. Don’t stick any fingers straight away or too fast; you’re not taking her temperature. Lube up before making any attempt at insertion, and then do it slowly and gradually. Go in a couple of centimeters, then slowly pull out again. Repeat as many times as necessary.
Step 5. Wiggle and vibrate your finger a little bit while you’re inside. Concentrate on stimulating the side nearest to her vagina. Once she’s comfortable with it, press along the same wall from both sides toward the rectum from the vagina, and toward the vagina from the rectum. The wall between them is thin enough and you will easily be able to feel your fingers pressing on each other.
Step 6. If she relaxes under your movements, insert a second or third finger, preparing the area for the actual penis.