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6 Key Elements For Stripper Seduction Success

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A stripper is constantly bombarded with customers. The waitresses in the club are keeping an eye on customers who are sitting with dancers because they want to make sure you always have a fresh drink. In order to continue the conversation, at some point you’re going to need to buy your girl a drink.

I don’t believe that you should try to avoid buying dances and drinks, because you don’t want to give girls  the impression that you’re trying to avoid spending any money at all. I say, skip the lap dances (since this frames you as a “customer”) but do buy her a drink—or several. But here’s the key thing to remember. When you offer to buy her a drink, it’s all about how you phrase it. By phrasing it the right way, you’re communicating SIX important elements.

1. Make Her Earn The Drink

She is earning this drink because I find her interesting and want to know more about her. This is not an offer I would make to most of the dancers here. This is a special circumstance. I’m not a dude who buys drinks for any chick who sits down next to me; this girl has sparked my curiosity. I’m also using the right body language so she knows I’m not like the rest of the customers in the club.

2. Impress Her With Thoughtfulness

In this case, I told her she had a  “deep personality.” Is this really true? Maybe. We’ll see. But every woman likes to think they have a deep personality, and so my comment makes me seem perceptive. It also makes her curious to talk to me further and see what I else I might “know” about her. I’m also making these statements with full confidence so she doesn’t think that I’m faking it.

3. Turn The Tables On Her

By saying “there are some things I want to ask you,” I’m turning the tables. She is the one who is going to have to answer my questions and demonstrate whether or not she is worthy of more of my time and interest. This is a very powerful psychological tactic that you can use when trying to meet women.

Think about most initial conversations between men and women. It’s the guy who feels like he’s “auditioning” and needs to provide all the right answers. The Mack flips it around and makes her feel the need to impress him, and demonstrate that she is on his level.

4. Use A Persuasion Tactic

“There are some things I want to ask you.” I’m giving her a reason why our conversation needs to continue: there are things I need to know before I ask a girl out. (This is also going to spark her curiosity; what exactly do I want to know? I’ll wait for the drinks to come before I tell her.)

By the way, studies conducted by seduction experts have shown that the word “because” is one of the most powerful words in the English language. It is a psychological motivator.

Ask a person to do something, and they might question it, or wonder why it’s necessary. Tell them they need to because there is a reason, and they’ll instinctively want to follow your lead. This is a great tactic to use in a strip club.

5. Buy Time

Buying this drink will buy you time to continue building a connection with her, instead of playing her game and blowing money on lap dances. And, she won’t feel as though you are wasting her time. In fact, she will usually look at this time as a break from the hustle.

You’re going to use this time to make her feel physical attraction towards you, get her to view you as a romantic option instead of a customer, and either make plans to meet her after her shift or get her phone number to set up a future date (which I will explain how to do a bit later).

6. Be Friendly With The Waitress

When your waitress comes over to take your drink order, this is when the “alliance” you’ve created with her is going to pay off. The friendlier your waitress acts towards you, the more comfortable the dancer is going to feel with you.

If the waitress treats you like just another anonymous customer, the dancer will view you as one. But if she gives you a smile and says your name, and you have another short, friendly chat with her, then your  dancer will recognize that you’ve got value in this place.

This happens because of the groundwork you laid earlier; you tipped your waitress the correct way, spent a couple of minutes to build a connection with her, and won her over. She’s on “your team.” This reinforces in the dancer’s mind that you’re a cool, charismatic guy: you know people here, and people know and respect you.

You want her to view you as a person—and as a possible sexual partner—instead of another lonely “chump customer” looking to shell out money for companionship.

Learn The Simple Technique That Will Seduce ANY Stripper!

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Stripper seduction is easy when you have the right tools. One of the best methods you can use when seducing a stripper is the Push/Pull technique. Here is how you can get exponential results with one of the easiest methods in your seduction tool box.

1. Give Her An Ego Boost – THEN Pull Back

Start off by giving her an ego boost. Confidence is key. Tell her how insightful she is—and made her think you’re impressed by her— pull back and make it seem like you’re not that interested in her after all.  Say something like “It’s too bad I swore off dating dancers, because I can tell you and I would probably get along.”

Mentioning that you “swore off dating dancers” is almost certainly going to make her ask why. It sounds like a bit of a “dis”—like her job disqualifies her from dating you. You’re pushing her away.

2. Use A Variety Of “Push Back” Lines

Here are some other lines to “push” her back and make her think you’re not impressed by her These things should be said playfully. Smile. You don’t want to come off as being obnoxious. And DO NOT be afraid of rejection.

  • “You and I way too similar, and that never works in a relationship. We’d fight all the time and have hot make-up sex – the sex would be amazing for sure, but I don’t know if it would be worth the drama.”
  • “The last time I dated a dancer, we were so attracted to each other that all we did was have crazy animal-like sex. We couldn’t even hold a normal conversation. So I promised myself I would never date a dancer again—the sex was amazing, don’t get me wrong, but I’m looking for more than that.”
  • “It’s too bad that I gave up dating dancers, because you and I might actually get along.”
  • “I’m just here for a drink. If you’re looking to make money, those guys over there look kinda lonely and desperate.”
  • “You are pretty cute, but you’re not really my type.”
  • “Even if I did hang out with dancers, I don’t think you and I would get along.”

3. “Pull Her” Back In

After “pushing” her back and making her think she doesn’t measure up to your standards, or that she’s not compatible with you, a short time later you want to say something that pulls her back in. Pay her a little compliment and make it sound like maybe she is cool enough to hang with an alpha male like yourself.

When you’ve already demonstrated that you are a difficult guy to impress, your compliments will carry much more weight.

So, after making a comment like, “It’s too bad I swore off dating dancers,” or “You’re cute, it’s a shame you’re not my type,” you can keep talking to her, get her to reveal something about herself, and say:

  • “So, you’re not only one of the cuter girls working here, you can actually hold a conversation. You must have regulars at each other’s throats to get dances from you.”
  • “Considering all the drunken idiots that must bother you at this place, you’re surprisingly fun and laid back.”
  • “Have you ever taken dance lessons? You move really gracefully.”
  • “Aside from dancing, what’s your best talent?” (Then compliment her on it, tell her that’s really cool and interesting, etc.)

Again, what you’re doing here is making her qualify herself to you. You’re encouraging her to demonstrate that she’s not the typical stripper who’s trapped in “the lifestyle.”

The Do’s And Don’ts Of Stripper Seduction

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A stripper is not like any other woman. Before I get into some correct techniques to use when talking to a stripper, let me emphasize that over 90% of the guys in these clubs take a totally backwards approach—and make stupid mistakes that you must avoid. As with all aspects of stripper seduction, you want to make sure you NEVER behave like the typical customer. Here are the do’s and don’ts of talking to a stripper!

The typical customer, like the average guy in a bar trying to talk to an attractive woman, broadcasts his interest right away. Right up front, he makes it obvious that he’s into her.

What You Don’t Want To Do

  • Tell the stripper how beautiful/hot/sexy she is.
  • Use the right body language.
  • Ask her predictable questions (“So how long have you worked here?” “How are you tonight?” “So where are you from, originally?”, etc.) No guy asks these questions unless he’s interested, right?
  • Offer to buy a dance or a drink right away.
  • Ask  her if she has a boyfriend (this question is pointless; if she does, she’ll never admit it because it would spoil the fantasy. Plus, it’s another indicator that you’re interested).
  • Maintain eye contact throughout the conversation.
  • Put your hands on her.

Use The Power Conversation

This means that everything you say, and every question you ask, should have a purpose behind it. I also want to stress the importance of going into these conversations with the right attitude. The most powerful way to separate yourself in her mind from all the other customers is to take the attitude that she must impress you. You are the one conducting the “interview.”

Your vibe should be congruent with this attitude. There are plenty of beautiful women in this place, and you’re somebody in here; you want to make her feel she needs to prove she is special if you’re going to grant her your time, get to know her, and buy her a drink. If you do this correctly, you should easily be able to get a first date.

So right from the beginning, I’ll start using Qualifying Questions and Statements to turn the tables. I’m sending the message that I’m curious to know more about her, because she’s someone I might be interested, but just as I’m not a typical customer. I’m not interested in “typical strippers.” She’ll need to show to me that she’s more than a pair of boobs with no brain.

Things You DO Want To Do

  • Try to get an authentic response from her. Every woman has (or likes to believe she has) something special about her that most guys would never guess. If she deflects this move, or tries to make a joke out of it, probe a bit deeper.
  • Tell her, “seriously, Melissa, I get the sense that you’re a pretty deep, interesting person. Guys make all kinds of assumptions about dancers, but I bet you’re a completely different person outside of this club. Am I right?”
  • Act confident and enthusiastic about the details she shares with you. If you’ve got things in common, point it out, and prompt her to keep sharing.
  • Control the flow. Keep moving it forward. Don’t get stuck on one topic and wind up searching for things to say, to fill dead space. Move on to something totally unrelated and keep things interesting.

How To Establish A Connection With A Stripper

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A stripper is the ultimate goal of any true Mack. When you are trying to gain the affection of a stripper, it is essential to establish a connection early on. Here is a short tutorial on how you can instantly separate yourself from the other guys in the club with little effort.

Make Eye Contact With Here First

Make eye contact with her before she starts to come over to your table. Give her a smile and a nod. As soon as she sees this she will start to come over to you. If she’s dancing onstage when you notice her, you can make eye contact and give her a subtle hand wave to indicate you want her to come join you when she gets offstage. Normally, dancers will alternate between sitting with customers and dancing onstage for a few songs.

Offer Her A Seat At Your Table

When she comes over to you, offer her a seat at your table. Do this before she tries to sit down on your lap. It’s always important for you to separate yourself, in her mind, from the endless parade of regular customers she encounters at the club. The other guys love the opportunity to get her on their laps, and start putting their hands on her.

A suave guy gives the impression that he already gets all the attention he can handle from females; he certainly doesn’t need to visit a strip club in order to get his hands on a woman. He knows that when he starts flirting with a woman she will be his.

Control The Conversational Flow

From this point, your goal is to control the flow of the conversation. Just as you’re not going to allow her to go into her routine, and start asking you questions, you’re not going to follow the typical customer routine and ask her stupid questions.

Listen to the average customer trying to “converse” with a stripper, and you’ll probably hear him ask her questions like these:

•    “So how long have you danced here?”

•    “Do you enjoy working here?”

•    “What’s it like working here?”

•    “Do your family/friends know you work here?”

She Won’t Date A Customer

Skip this pointless small talk and start talking about things that are completely unrelated to her work. This is a powerful way to frame yourself as an original, confident guy, rather than as a customer.

Remember, dancers don’t bang “customers.”

They all have a hang-up about this: dating a customer, in their eyes of their co-workers and management, could be interpreted as prostitution (or just plain slutty behavior). You want her to view you as a cool, confident guy who does none of the things that customers do, and therefore she sees you as a romantic/sexual option. You want to be an alpha male who is going to get her attention quickly.

Go On A “Mini-Date”

Earlier, I mentioned how the best place to sit is near a speaker. This is because it  gives you a reason to tell her, “let’s move somewhere quieter, I want to be able to hear you.”

This shows you value what she has to say, and gives it the feel like a  “mini date:” you’re controlling the flow and taking her somewhere else to have this interaction, even if it’s just to the other side of the room.

If, when you get up to move locations, she suggests a trip to the VIP room (where the dances are way more expensive), use this joke: “No thanks, I’m too tired to dance for you tonight.” Then take her hand and lead her over to a more secluded seating area.

Take Action And Make It Happen

Macks are leaders with confidence. Macks take control of the flow and the tempo all conversations. One way to establish this early on is to take her by the hand, and bring her over to a quieter location.

As a Mack, you’ll take an “under the radar” approach that never shows your interest in her. You give her the impression that you’re a guy with high standards who is difficult to impress, but you think she might be a pretty cool chick, so you’re willing to talk to her and get to know her.

10 Steps To Have A Stripper Threesome

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A stripper is more sexually adventurous than most women. They like to get it on in all kinds of freaky ways!  Therefore, they are more likely to have a threesome with you.  But how do you get there?

1. Two Ways To Get Started

You can do this one of two ways – try to get two women to experiment that you met that night – OR get your regular girlfriend in on it.

2. Keep Your Game Tight

As for the two new women you just met – it could happen, but your game has to be TIGHT. If you get them a little drunk and playful, that helps. Just don’t let them keep playing with each other unless you’re involved. You want to be telling them what to do and asserting your dominance over them in a playful way.

If they’re REALLY into it, and you know they’re not going to have some freak-out because they’re leaving the bar, you need to get them home. I don’t suggest even trying to get her out of the club until after 1:00AM or so. If she feels like she’s ‘missing something’ at the bar, or with her friends, she won’t go.

3. Invent An “After-Party” At Your Place

You need a reason to get them to your place (or even one of theirs) that doesn’t “break her state of mind.” And you don’t want to make it obvious that this is why you’re leaving – to have a threesome. The reason needs to be MORE FUN.

You’ve got booze, you’ve got music, you’ve got a big couch with pillows, and you’ve got something they all have to see. Maybe it’s a huge lava lamp. Maybe it’s a movie where you were an extra. Maybe it’s your pictures from Australia. Just have something mega-cool to go see. This is the excuse they need.

Don’t ask them, either. TELL THEM. And start by telling one chick that the OTHER chick wants to go, and vice-versa. “Donna says she wants to go have some more fun, because this place is starting to get lame. C’mon.”

4. Have Your House Ready First

When you get them to your house, you make sure the lights are down, that funky light is on, the music goes on, and the drinks come out right away. I’m not going into how to setup your house here, bro, but you need to have all the clocks hidden, and the house neat and smelling good. This is stuff you should know by now.

5. Play A Game

You need to get them back to the same flirtatious feelings you were having in the bar, so I always pull out a game or something to mess with. I’ve got cards, dominoes, a Ouija board, dice, all in one drawer.

6. How To Get Your Girlfriend In On It

If you get your regular girlfriend in on it, make sure you’ve talked about her past and if she’s had one before. If NEITHER of you has had a threesome, you got something to discuss. She’ll get jealous, and you’re going to have a weird time. Get it straight FIRST. Then the rest will be easy for you. Just let her take the lead.

7. Introduce Erotic Massage

Start with a “massage circle” where everyone massages in a line, you in the middle. Then get them to massage on each other. From there it’s EASY to get them to start doing an erotic massage on each other.

8. Use The “Kiss Test”

Do the “kiss test” where you kiss one of the chicks and pull away. You say: “Hmm. Not bad. Let me try her…” Then you kiss the other chick. After that, you say: “Not bad, either. Here, you try her.” Then you gently pull the first girl over to the girl you just kissed and let them go at it.

9. Let It Roll

Once they get started, everything takes care of itself. Just make sure you start in the right place so you don’t have to move from the kitchen to the bedroom, or the hallway to the bedroom.

10. Don’t Push Them Too Far Too Fast

A threesome should happen at the girl’s pace. If you start seeing one of the women getting weird (you’ll see it in her eyes, where she looks, how much she’s looking down, etc.) you need to go back to making her comfortable and loosened up. She has to feel safe and protected in this zone. Which means you have to be willing to back off BEFORE she starts to put the brakes on for you.

This is important! If you miss these moments when a woman is getting all weird, and SHE ends up stopping you, then you probably will never get it back to where it was before.

If you focus on their enjoyment and make it about them, you can score the threesome. If it’s only about you, you’ll scare them off.