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Stripper Lies To Watch Out For (If You Want A One-Night Stand With One)

By deancortez

A stripper will tell you just about anything to get your money – but if you want to take one home with you, you’ve got to watch out for these untruths!

“I Just Started Working Here A Few Nights Ago”

This is the most common stripper lie. It plays on our psychology; guys get excited and think they have a “chance” to score with a stripper (and possibly have sex with her) when they find out she’s new and isn’t jaded and all about making money. Then what happens is the customer spends money on her, thinking it will impress her and she’ll go home with him. She won’t, and she’ll have made hundreds of dollars from spinning her lies, just like she planned on.

I once met a very cute stripper who told me she’d just started working at the club “last night.” (This was before I learned how the game was played.) I figured it was my lucky day: I’d met a girl who was new, fresh, and was probably more “real” than the other girls – which meant I might have a chance at dating her.

(I didn’t, although I did blow a hundred bucks on dances that night.)

Fast-forward eight months. I came back to the strip club and she sat down with me again. (She had no recollection of ever meeting me.) When I asked her how long she’d been working at the club, she told me she’d just started two days ago. And I’m sure that to this day, she’s still feeding customers this line of crap.

This is a typical stripper ploy, to make you think she’s innocent and fresh—not like the other girls. And it’s all calculated, of course, to make you lower your guard and spend money on her.

If you hear this from a stripper, don’t try to challenge her on it. Just nod, smile, and say “Oh, well I hope its going okay so far,” and then move the conversation onto something else—knowing that you’ve just deflected an attempt to hustle you.

“I’m Having A Bad Night, I Haven’t Even Paid Off My Stage Fee. Could You Cover It For Me?”

Dancers are normally required to pay the club a “stage fee” or a “house fee” every time they work a shift. If business is slow, or there’s a ton of competition from other dancers, it’s possible for a stripper to wind up losing money on a shift, when you also factor in the tips she needs to pay out to the support staff.

However, when you hear this from a stripper, it’s usually an attempt to gain sympathy and get you to fork over some money. The average guy might think, “Sure, why not just cover her $75 stage fee? I’ll be a hero and she’ll have to repay me somehow, maybe by going on a date!” But remember, this is a ploy to get your money. When you run out of money, she won’t think twice about moving on to another customer.

Other lies they’ll tell you: You can bet money that they have a great story about why they became strippers. These stories always involve some (if not all) of the following terms: “My boyfriend,” “My ex-boyfriend,” “Prison,” “Hospital,” “Just moved,” and my personal favorite, “Hooters girls don’t really make that much money.”

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: booty call, seduction, sex tips, stripper

4 Types Of Strippers (You MUST Know This If You Want To Date One!)

By deancortez

A stripper will usually fall into one of four categories. Here’s how knowing them will help you snag a date with a super hot stripper!

In my hundreds of trips to strip clubs around the world, I’ve learned that the girls basically fall under one of four categories. Knowing these will help you to grab a date with a stripper (or just get laid by one), so pay attention!

1. The Pros

These chicks have got at least two years of experience under their G-strings. They’re hot, polished, and are experts at selling their sexuality. They smell amazing and almost never have real breasts.

Onstage, they work the pole like an Olympic athlete— they’ve got the splits, acrobatic routines, etc. down cold. They’re hyper-focused on making fast cash, which means they don’t get high or drunk on the job, and they’ll ditch a customer the moment he stops spending.

Be aware, the Pros have heard it all. If they work in a big market like Vegas, they’ve been propositioned by millionaires, movie stars and professional athletes (and they’ve had sex with more than a few). If they work in a club in a small town, they’ve had some of the wealthiest guys in the area try to get in their pants. And they’ve probably given it up—because pros are all about the cash.

You can bang them—but you need to take an original, tactical approach. The second you do anything that paints you as a customer, she’ll only view you as source of cash—and as soon as you stop spending, she’s moving on to the next guy.

Pros will rock your world in bed and give you incredible orgasms, but don’t get emotionally involved with them. You’re not going to change them. (In other words, don’t try to be “Captain Save-A-Ho.”) No matter what they tell you about wanting to go back to school or finding a different job, and say how much they hate stripping, they are addicted to the cash and the lifestyle and are going to keep riding this gravy train as long as they can.

When you’re hanging out with a Pro, expect guys to be calling and texting her cell phone constantly. She’ll tell you it’s “just a friend,” but this is stripper speak for, “I bang him once in a while, because he covers my car payments and buys me expensive stuff.”

2. The Semi-Pros

The Semi-Pros can be just as hot as the Pros, but they haven’t been working as long (less than a year). They haven’t mastered the game yet. They’re still susceptible to the lies some guys throw their way (i.e. the cheese balls who claim they’re movie producers or modeling scouts, and want to “make her a star.”)

These girls haven’t accepted themselves as hard-core, full-time strippers yet, and will tell you about their other plans, the reason they’re saving up their money, etc. In some cases, it’s actually true.

But, many of these girls get addicted to the stripper lifestyle and are unable to walk away from the easy cash. They wind up becoming “Pros”—scrapping their other plans and accepting this as their career for the foreseeable future.

3. The Rookies

You might meet some very hot Rookies in the clubs, especially these days—since the job market sucks and all kinds of girls are taking jobs in the strip clubs to pay their bills. Rookies can be easy targets because they’re still trying to figure out the game. Some really don’t want to be working in the clubs doing stripteases, and are open to meeting a guy who will help them out financially and allow them to quit.

In this lousy job market, some Rookies are women who are straight-up M.I.L.F.s (Mothers I’d Like To F***)—they’re in their 30’s or even 40’s and started working the pole out of financial desperation. With these ladies, you can play on the fact that they’re older than the other girls and are probably a little bit insecure about it.

Other Rookies start stripping at a young age (18-21) and are usually airheads. They flaunt the club rules (showing up late, drunk or stoned), and their stage routines and lap dances look like gymnastic tryouts, cheerleader practices, or some routine they learned from the latest music video.

Real breasts are one sign of a Rookie. She hasn’t been working long enough to pay for silicone airbags, or to meet some customer who buys them for her. The cool thing about Rookies is that they’re not jaded and warped yet by the job. It’s easier to get them talking honestly and openly about themselves, and usually they’re more into hanging out and having drinks than hustling customers. Get her laughing and chatting, buy her a drink or two, and she’ll be in no hurry to get back to the grind.

4. The Skanks

These are the chicks you’d pay to leave you alone. They’re usually hooked on some drug (coke and meth are stripper favorites), and look like they haven’t slept in days. Dark circles under their eyes; ratty-looking, bleached-blond hair; faded tattoos; and twitchy, manic behavior are all signs of the Skank Stripper.

You’ll often find Skanks at the fully nude clubs, where they’re not above doing things onstage that would make a Thai bargirl blush. If you’re going to use drugs as a lure, these girls are good to go—but bang them at your own risk, and do it at a motel. Otherwise, you can expect these train wrecks to show up at your home a few days later, pounding on your front door at 5am because they need to borrow money to get high or bail their boyfriend “Spider” out of jail.

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: confidence, Dating Tips, flirting, seduction, stripper, striptease

How To Be The Kind Of Guy A Stripper Wants To Date

By deancortez

A stripper has to date men too – but how can you separate yourself from the customers to become the kind of man a stripper wants to go out with?

You need to be:

  1. Confident
  2. Interesting
  3. Masculine
  4. Fun

When you can convey these four qualities to a woman during the first conversation, I guarantee she’s going to want to see you again (or have sex with you that night!).

Yeah, it sounds obvious—you need to be confident and masculine to attract women. Of course. But so few guys actually heed this advice!

Being Too “Nice”

They might read a book like this one and try to be confident and masculine at first, but as soon things start going well with the girl they worry about blowing it. So they revert back to being their “usual selves”—trying to keep the girl interested in them by being super NICE.

(The guy thinks, “If I can prove to her that I’m a nice guy and a gentleman, and that I respect her—and that I’m not looking for sex—then she’ll trust me and want to date me!”)

No. Sooner or later, she’ll want to cut you loose because you’re acting like a typical insecure chump who doesn’t have the balls to act like a man and give her what she’s really looking for: masculinity, confidence, fun and sexual excitement.

By behaving towards women in the “typical” manner, these guys mess up their chances. As for seducing a stripper, you can forget about it; you absolutely must man up if you’re going to capture their interest and get their juices flowing.

I also want you to remember this saying: “The best way to pick up women is to have something better to do than pick up women.”

Have An Actual Purpose In Your Life (Besides Chicks)

Women are attracted to men who have a purpose in life (beyond going out and trying to get laid, or find a girlfriend!). When a guy is passionate about his purpose and focused on achieving goals, that’s sexy. The problem with most guys is that they make a woman their purpose. They’re needy. They’re jealous. They’re worried about losing her. And eventually, they do.

Women want you to be their rock. They want to know they can count on you to make decisions, lead them, and calm them down and get them back on track when they’re going through one of their dramas or mood swings. Women are all over the place emotionally. They’re a swirling sea of emotions, and what they need is a man who can be the rock that their waves crash against.

Be about something. Have interesting hobbies and passions. Set goals for yourself. Have your own opinions, don’t just follow along with the herd.

How To Be A “Masculine Guy”

Be a leader. Lead the conversation. There’s no rule that says you need to talk about whatever topic she brings up. And you’re not required to answer her questions. In fact, I blow off all of a woman’s standard questions. (“Where are you from,” “what do you do,” etc. You’ll always get these questions from strippers because it’s part of their sales routine: they want to build a connection with you before they go for the close (ask you to buy a striptease). You’ve also got to lead physically. I tell girls that I’m hitting on them. I’d love to to be in bed with them.

Men are wired to spread their seed. Women are wired to want to be with men who can provide them with a stable, secure environment in which they can have kids and raise them.

This stuff is happening on a subconscious level. It’s not like while you’re sitting there having a drink with a stripper, she’s thinking, “Hmm, maybe I should let this guy knock me up. He seems like he would provide a stable, secure environment.”

What women (and strippers) are looking for are cues: signals that you have the qualities she is wired to seek in a man. The cool thing is, when you give her these signals (in a way that seems genuine, not phony) she’s going to feel attraction. She has no choice in the matter! It’s in her DNA.

When a man conveys those four qualities in an authentic way, women can’t resist feeling attracted to him—just as you will automatically feel attracted to a young, gorgeous woman with big breasts. You can’t shut off your brain’s “attraction mechanism.” Neither can women.

When you do masculine things in her presence, she senses that you are a confident guy. If you’re confident, you’re going to do things that demonstrate leadership—and then she’ll see you as a guy who can be her “emotional rock” and provide her with the stability she needs to feel safe.

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: confidence, Dating Tips, flirting, seduction, stripper, striptease

Why You Need To Know Strip Club Shifts To Bag A Hot Stripper!

By deancortez

A stripper works certain times to make more money, and timing is everything when it comes to bagging a stripper. Getting to know how the club works is a must!

Most strip clubs operate on three shift intervals: Days, Swing and Graveyard. Each is a different animal, and has pros as well as cons.

Days

This shift usually runs from about eight in the morning until five in the evening. Day shift dancers are a mixed bag: in a big club you’ll probably find some stunners, but this is also when the less attractive ones work. Some stunners will choose this less lucrative shift because they have personal commitments that prevent them from working evenings—such as kids, or a boyfriend who wants her home at night. The less attractive ones are employed during the day because the club management needs live bodies on the floor in the daytime and they’d rather the more attractive girls be on the floor at night.

Swing

Swing shift runs from about five until one in the morning. This is usually when you’ll find the top-shelf hotties. Also, most new dancers break in on swing shift, which is also known as the “party shift.” As the busiest of all shifts, this one has the most girls, the most customers, and the most challenges for you to deal with. While swing shift dancers might be the hottest, they’re also in higher demand because this is when the club sees the most traffic. This might make it difficult to engage the dancer you want in an extended conversation, since there are other guys willing to shell out money for a private striptease.

Graveyard

In cities where clubs are permitted to be open until very late (such as Las Vegas, where the clubs never close), graveyard shift runs from about midnight until about seven in the morning. If I go to a strip club on a weekend, I hit it late (which in Vegas means after 4am, after I’m through at the bars).

As a local, I don’t want to get caught up in hordes of drunken tourists throwing money around. Better to let the crowd thin out, then show up and work your magic. This applies to whatever city you live in.

I don’t suggest visiting during peak hours. I like to go to the club on slow nights. No matter how strong your dating game is, if the club is packed with guys, her main focus is going to be on making money.

IMPORTANT NOTE: The next time you visit a club that you like, find out the shift changes. (Ask a waitress.) Then, plan your future visits around the shift changes. I like to show up an hour or two before the swing shift (late afternoon-evening) ends and the graveyard shift (late night-early morning) begins.

This way, when I suggest meeting a girl after her shift, I know they’ll be off work soon and I’ll be fresh in their minds when they clock out. On the other hand, if you meet a stripper at the beginning of her shift, her memory of you will be hazy (if she remembers you at all) eight hours later, after she’s consumed a bunch of drinks and entertained twenty other guys. So, timing really is essential.

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: confidence, Dating Tips, flirting, seduction, stripper, striptease

The Three Types Of Strip Clubs

By deancortez

A stripper works at one of three different types of strip clubs – do you know all of them and how they affect your chances of seducing a stripper?

1. Upper Class Adult Clubs

When a strip club has valet parking, this is your first sign that it’s an “upper class” establishment. Once you’re inside, the presence of bathroom attendants are another indicator (one of the most useless and annoying jobs ever created).

This means you can expect to pay a cover charge of at least $20 and drinks will average around $8. On the plus side, the talent pool will be loaded with ridiculously hot women.

In upper-class strip clubs in Vegas—the city that has this down to a science— I’ve actually encountered some of my favorite porn stars working among the dancers. If that sounds crazy, just consider the financials!

These chicks might make $1,000 to spend a day shooting a scene for a porn flick, getting pounded for hours under hot lights in every imaginable position. In the club, they can easily make twice that amount without having to fuck anyone. And, it’s a great place to meet wealthy customers who are looking to pay her for “full service” when she gets off of work. (Many porn stars do “escort work” on the side.)

I’m guessing that a lot of porn stars you might recognize are working in the strips clubs in Los Angeles and Las Vegas right now. The porn industry is seriously hurting due to the rise of internet file-sharing sites, where you can download millions of hours of porn for free. This is killing the porn DVD market, which has led to less movies being made for tighter budgets. So, don’t act surprised when you see one of your favorite “stars” walking up to you and offering you a lap dance!

Even some of the waitresses in these upper-class clubs are 9’s and 10’s. The staff will have a professional attitude and understand the concept of “customer service,” unlike the scary-looking ex-cons who run the door (and even work as managers) at lower-end clubs.

Expect a ratio of fake to real breasts somewhere around 10:1, and top-shelf liquor that is not watered down. These clubs accept credit cards, but usually the fees are so high (ten to twenty percent range) that you’d be a fool to not be carrying cash. Some upper-class clubs feature “shower shows” onstage or lube, mud or oil wrestling matches pitting strippers against each other. Now that’s entertainment!

The advantage of upper class clubs is twofold. First, there some insanely hot women to check out. Second, there are plenty of second and third-tier strippers who are still extremely sexy, but aren’t getting a whole lot of attention compared to the A-listers. The slightly lower-tier girls are the ones that I like to target. They’d be superstars in the lower-end clubs. But here, they’re small fish in a big pond and need to work hard to make their money.

They’re a little bit insecure, too. They’re beautiful, but they’re always comparing themselves against the A-Team “turbo hottie” hustlers who are the superstars where they work. This means they’ll be OK with sitting down with you for a drink and some conversation, without trying to use high-pressure sales tactics. This is when you will work your magic.

2. Middle Class Clubs

The middle-class strip club is similar to the upper-class joints in many respects, with the following exceptions: the fake breasts to real breasts ratio leans more towards the real (but not in a good way); if there is a bathroom attendant, there isn’t enough room for him and he’s always in the way (which makes him even more of a pain in the ass); there’s usually no valet; and while the talent pool contains some stunners, you also occasionally see dancers you wouldn’t sleep with even after twenty shots of tequila.

The main difference, basically, is that these places are cheaper than the upper-class clubs.

3. Lower Class Strip Clubs

The lower-class strip club can provide plenty of good, cheap fun, despite the funky smell and the desperate condition of many of the dancers. You can sense that more than a few of the girls are working to support children and a Tony Montana-sized drug habit. You will often find, however, that there is one “big fish” working in this small pond: a total stunner who chooses to work here rather than in one of the bigger clubs, because this place has less competition.

There are other reasons why hotties will occasionally choose to work in lower-class clubs. I once had sex with a super-hot Filipina dancer at a grimy little club located a few blocks from the Vegas Strip. She could have easily been a star at one of the big clubs in town. But she lived with her family—who had no idea what she was actually doing for a job. She worked an early evening shift because she had a 1:00 am curfew. She was intimidated by the bigger clubs and all of their bitchy “pro” dancers. So, she chose to work at this place.

My point is, you never know what gems you might discover by exploring the lower-end clubs. I love these joints, personally. The girls have less competition among themselves—and so do you. These places do not normally attract high rollers. If you’ve got game, you shouldn’t have a problem lining up dates with the girls outside of the club. They’ll be happy to hang out with you for a drink or two. Normally, they’re sitting with fat old guys with bad breath who are trying to feel them up.

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: flirting, seduction, stripper, striptease

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