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3 Tips To Warm Up Your Man For Sex

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If you have been trying hard to “ignite” a man’s passion because you are eager to take the next step, or because you are very much into him, you are probably secretly dreading that he will remain lukewarm towards you and your efforts will amount to nothing.

What you need to know is that there are certain ways to make a man fall in love with you romantically and sexually. Some women have not figured out what it takes to turn the “sensual switch” on inside a man’s brain, and it is because these women do not fully understand what it is that arouses a man’s sense of passion and imagination.

Sexual Innuendo

Straightforward talk will not make your man ignite. Sensual talk, or that kind of conversation that involves all his senses, will arouse him more. What do I mean with sensual talk? It means you describe something rather than tell him directly.

For instance, you mail him while he is at work on a Friday and you talk about finding your old cheerleader outfit in one of the attic boxes you have been cleaning. Instead of saying you will wear the outfit that night, describe how skimpy the skirt is, and how the buttons on the blouse almost don’t close because your breasts have grown.

Sexual innuendo will fire up his imagination and get him thinking about you doing it with him.

Your “Other Side”

If you just started a relationship with a guy, or you’re in your first months of being husband and wife, you can pull this strategy off nicely. Casually ask your man about his first impression of you. Depending on his response, say something like “yeah, that’s the usual first impression. But there’s a quirk to my personality that you haven’t seen yet…”

Being mysterious even to a guy you’ve known forever will make him feel excited. He won’t know what to expect. He will be mystified and curious, so you’d better prepare a nice surprise. If you’re usually prim and proper, act like a harlot in bed that night. If you’re usually passionate and fiery, act like a blushing virgin.

Give Him A Blowjob

Blowjob, by definition, means taking him in your mouth. But did you know that for a guy, this definition has another clause attached to it? The truth is, a blowjob isn’t considered relevant unless you do it for more than thirty seconds. If all you ever do is quickly take him inside your mouth and bob your head a few times, I’m sorry to tell you but that’s not blowing him at all.

If you can prove to your man that you know how to please him, you won’t even need to warm him up. As soon as you give him the eye, he will come scampering to your side because he knows that sex will always be good with you.

3 Dirty Sex Moves Men Crave In Bed

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Every guy craves dirty sex. Most of them are hesitant about asking their partners to do certain things in bed for fear of offending the other person, or being judged. However, most  crave a few “naughty” things in between the sheets, even if they are afraid to ask for it. Spice up your sex life by anticipating the “taboo” things your man wants to do to you and give him dirty sex tonight!

Orgasm Inside Your Mouth

Every porn video he has ever seen contains a variation or two of this oral sex activity. Since he has spend a lot of time fantasizing about “cum in mouth” and “cum on face” scenes, he might want to try these when you’re having sex. But some women are offended at the thought of swallowing a man’s sperm. She may also feel affronted at the thought of a man’s semen spraying all over her face. But if your man cannot do these things with you, who else would he do it with?

Save him the trouble of him asking by telling him to orgasm in your mouth. If he asks why you feel like doing it this time, just say you want to taste him in the most intimate way possible.

Analingus

Being the recipient of oral sex should tell you how sensitive the skin around your anus is. It’s called the perineum, where the skin is thinner than anywhere else around your pubic area. For women, it’s the patch of skin that stretches the most during sex. If you felt all sorts of pleasurable sensations when your man caresses that area, you should know that it’s the same for guys. But some women feel grossed out at the thought of licking their partners there, so men usually don’t ask.

While you’re blowing him, slide down to that place and don’t slow down. He might feel surprised, even shocked, at your daring but the pleasure will overpower him after a few minutes of analingus. Slide your tongue over his anal sphincter to intensify the sensation.

Anal Sex

Anal sex on you is something that you and your man might have tried. But have you ever thought about doing it to him? Like rimming, he might be craving for you to shove your tongue or your finger up his ass but never knew how to ask.

Once you’ve graduated from rimming, you can proceed with exploring his anal region with your fingers and your tongue. However, be prepared for some sort of resistance, as straight men who have never tried this before may feel like they’re getting violated.

If your man shows signs of detesting the act because it feels “gay,” remind him that a woman is doing it to him so he shouldn’t feel that way. It’s probably better to discuss the possibility of anal sex on him before you proceed. A man needs to prepare himself mentally and physically for the act.

There are women who can do the things I mentioned effortlessly, but there are women who don’t want to do these things because these activities are “dirty,” literally. If you’re one of these women, you can easily solve this problem by doing it in the bath or under the shower.

What’s The Best Time To Have Sex?

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When I was younger, the only answer I could think of when the question “what’s the best time to have sex” crops up is “during my period when it’s impossible to get pregnant. But now, with the adult working knowledge I have of safe sex practices, my answer to the same question has changed. Now, it’s “when we both feel like having sex.”

However, you know that the “mood” seldom comes simultaneously for you and your man during a normal workweek because there’s so much stuff to think about. On Monday, you have chores after work. On Tuesday, you have to do overtime. Before you know it, the weekend has rolled in and all you want to do is rest.

Here’s the thing – you have to make time for sex. Sex can keep you emotionally grounded and physically intimate with your partner. How do you find time to make love? Here are some tips!

Early In The Morning

Set your alarm clock an hour or so earlier than usual and spend thirty minutes pleasuring each other before you go to work. Make the early mornings your “sex time,” or at least your “foreplay time” so that you spend the day full of thoughts about your special someone, and you’re raring for more when night time comes.

On Friday Night

Unwind with your partner by having leisurely sex on Fridays. You are more relaxed because you know there is no need to go to the office the next day. In addition, you can ravish your partner all you want because he is looking for a way to de-stress, and you have the right skills to help him do just that. Give him a blowjob while he is recounting the events that happened during the week.

On Sunday Afternoon

Sundays are often devoted to sports, but that does not mean he always has to have his friends around to keep him company while he is watching the game. You can tell him to watch the game in your bedroom and you can blow or fondle him during the most exciting part of the game. Chances are, he’s going to want sex immediately after the game to celebrate the win (if his team won), or to let off some steam (if his team lost).

There are always some strategies you can try to keep the sex going. Plan ahead and take note of the days when he’s not too busy. Do the chores during the weekdays so you will have more free time on weekends. Do not think that just because you’re both busy all the time, it’s impossible to have sweet, leisurely sex.

If you plan your schedule well, you can make time for intimacy and you can have that “WOW!” experience with your partner at least once a week. If you’re instigating intimacy, and he acts like he isn’t in the mood, you can try talking dirty to him or giving him an erotic massage.

How to Give a Blowjob: A Crash Course On Giving Men Great Head

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If there’s one skill that every man would like a woman to have, that is none other than knowing how to give a BJ or a blowjob. One of the most common mistakes that women make is thinking that all the work should be done by the man in the relationship.

However, if you want to have a great sex life, you should do your part and learn about the techniques in bed that will give him the utmost sexual pleasure. So what exactly does it take to give a man great head?

Below is a crash course on how to give a man great head which will lead him to have an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon.

Step 1: Be In A Comfortable Position

Just like penetrative sex, there are a multitude of positions that you can try while learning how to give a BJ to your guy. You can either have him lie down in bed, have him standing up or make him sit on a comfortable couch.

Let’s say that you choose the last position. What you can do here is kneel in between his legs so that you can gain easy access to all ‘the goods’. Although it only takes a few minutes of direct stimulation for a man to have an orgasm especially when you’re using your mouth, you would not want to have things over too soon – so make sure that you’re in a comfortable position while going down on him.

Step 2: Start Giving Him Head By Slowly Licking Him

It doesn’t matter if he’s already hard or not. The best way to start giving him head is by using your tongue in one long, slow licking motion from the base of his penis all the way up. Do this on as many sides of his penis as you can, then when you feel that he’s all worked up, that is the time that you can slowly take him into your mouth.

Step 3: Use Your Tongue, Mouth & Fingers

As you slowly take his penis deep into your mouth, make sure that you don’t ignore the rest of his package. Use your tongue, mouth and fingers to stimulate the rest of his shaft.  Use an up and down motion with your fingers to cover the part of the shaft which you cannot take into your mouth.

Showing him that you are really into it will be a huge turn on, so stare into his eyes and watch his reaction.  Finally, marvel in your sexual prowess at your being able to give him the ultimate pleasure in bed – and use every tool at your disposal to give him a mind-blowing orgasm that he’s not bound to forget anytime soon!

Tips

Don’t forget to gently tug at, lick or even swallow one of his balls into your mouth if you want to make giving head an extra pleasurable experience for him.

Warnings

The worst way to receive a blowjob is for a man to actually feel your teeth on him – so keep your lips covered. The best way to prevent accidentally grazing his penis with your teeth is by relaxing your jaw. If you need to, cover your teeth with your lips.

3 Romantic Gestures That Will Earn You Big Points

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In the dating world, women are more often the ones who are showered with compliments, but the thing is, men need the same level of TLC from women. Here’s a secret all women should know: a man can keep up the one-sided wooing up to a certain point, then the woman would have to pull her own weight in the romance department. If not, well, let’s just say that’s when you start complaining that the man is not paying attention to you.

Here are three of the best ways to bring the oomph back in your relationship and your sex life.

Ask About His Day

Even if you know his routine by heart, you should ask the man you’re dating how his day went. The reason for this is simple but significant: asking means you care. If you just assume that everything went well and that you have a lot more to worry about than his needs or the way he spent his day, that’s when he starts feeling like he’s a fixture.

Comments or questions that encourage him to talk about his activities that day can spark conversation. After you’ve done this a few times, he will go through the day collecting small tidbits of stories he can tell you when he comes home and you ask him how his day went.

Open The Topic On Sex

Innuendo doesn’t have to always come from him. When you casually drop hints that you miss doing it with him, he will assume that you’re in the mood. Doing this will also plant the idea of sex, so that he will think about it even when he wasn’t expecting to have sex with you that night.

Just the thought of sex gets men in the mood, especially if you haven’t been doing it lately. Being playful starts with sexual innuendos, followed by subtle touching and stares that tell him you want him.

Be Touchy-Feely On A Date

A man does not have to be the one doing the asking. Being passive about your dating life will get you nowhere, especially if you’ve been living with the same guy for a long time. Ask him to go with you to the movies, or to a concert, and be touchy-feely when you’re out together.

Public display of affection is a way to increase sexual tension. Men tend to forget to hit on you when you live together. When you’re out on a date, being touchy-feely can make him want to go home as soon as possible. If it’s not possible to go home at once, expect him to reciprocate with his own brand of affection as the sexual tension rises.

If you’re not keen on facing the prospect of a break up, small gestures like these are necessary. Pulling away is the result of not focusing on small things that matter a lot when dating. If your man is not the type to respond well to your gestures, don’t be disillusioned. As long as he feels your sincerity, he will find a way to reciprocate.