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For Women Only! How to Make Sex More Pleasurable for YOU…

By leejenkins

Many women find it hard to convey to men what they really want in bed. This is due to many reasons from lack of self-confidence to lack of self-awareness.

Another reason is what makes many relationships, sexual and otherwise, fail: the expectation that men can read a woman’s mind and automatically know what she wants in bed!

It is possible for men to discover what works best for you.  But this takes a special kind of man who have dedicated himself to becoming a fantastic lover.

However, not all women have the luxury of being with a man who is skilled in bed.

To experience better sex, you should know what turns you on and love yourself enough to take compliments as they are provided. Here are a few tips to keep in mind:

Clear Your Mind

If you’re self-conscious about something, your mind will be consumed by this and so you can’t focus on sexual pleasure. So better get rid of what’s bothering you even before you engage in sex.

For example, if you’re always insecure of how you smell ‘down there’ then make sure you always shower before engaging in sex. If you’re afraid you might accidentally pee while your G-spot is being stimulated, then go have a bathroom break before making love.

Know What Turns You ON

How can you guide him into what brings you pleasure if you yourself don’t know what does?

Some women have a hard time figuring out what turns them on.  Compare this to men; for the most part, it’s very easy to figure what what turns a man on.

This can actually be a fun time for you.  To know what turns you on, try renting some porn videos and see how you react to what you see. Buy some dirty magazines, romance novels and maybe even some sex toys.

You’ll have to do a bit of self exploration on this one because unlike men, what turns women on is a bit less ‘clear cut’. Once you know what turns you on, experiment with him in bed!

Understand That Men Are Not Mind Readers

Get this straight: Men are NOT mind readers. They cannot instinctively know what brings you the most pleasure. Communicating what is working for you (and making sure that he keeps on doing it) can speed things up towards your female orgasm.

So if you already know what turns you on, don’t be afraid to tell him how best to pleasure you.

Be Specific

For example, if he’s eating you out, tell him exactly how you like to be licked and where.

Communication is key to maximizing your pleasure in bed.  The more you know about yourself, and the more you communicate with him, the more pleasure you’ll have.  The best part is, you’ll enhance the bond you already have with him by making intimate communication a regular activity in bed.

If You Can Orgasm By Yourself, You Can Orgasm During Sex

Take control of your own orgasm and don’t be so dependant on him to “give” it to you.  You can guide him to help you climax during sex, but the quickest way to reach an orgasm (if he’s not sexually skilled) is to help yourself.  There’s nothing wrong with it, and trust me, both parties will be happier in the end.

You can apply clitoral stimulation during intercourse, however, not all sex positions are great for self-stimulation.  There are a few good positions, like the woman-on-top position that lends itself well to clitoral stimulation.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: clitoral stimulation, female orgasm, orgasm

G-Spot Amplification: What Everybody Ought to Know About The “G-Shot”

By leejenkins

Do you know how to find the G-Spot?  Despite the tales of mind-blowing, bone-jarring sexual escapades, millions of women have never experienced a G-spot orgasm through intercourse. It remains a frustration in spite of our bodies’ seemingly-perfect design to tap into that well of pleasure.

In fact, many people doubt that the G-spot exists (it does). Our instinctive tendency is to find a “quick fix.”

As our collective sexual frustration and our natural penchant for the speedy solution converge, a potential remedy has surfaced. Known as the “G-Shot”, this remedy promises to transform the “hard to hit” G-spot into a “can’t miss” target. Below, we’ll take a closer look at the controversial G-Shot.

We’ll describe how it works, the risks involved and whether it truly offers access to the mythical G-spot orgasm.

Understanding How The G-Shot Works

In its simplest form, the G-Shot makes a woman’s G-spot larger. In fact, the procedure is often called G-Spot Amplification®. It involves injecting a small amount of collagen into the area of the vaginal wall where the G-spot is located.

The collagen enlarges the G-spot, making it easier for men to stimulate the area. Ultimately, the increased stimulation can lead to stronger, longer-lasting orgasms.

The G-Shot is administered by a doctor and requires local anesthesia. Women who have undergone the procedure claim the entire process takes less than 30 minutes. However, even though the procedure is convenient, it’s important to note that there are risks involved.

Risks Associated With The G-Shot

While many women who have had the G-spot collagen injection claim that it makes achieving orgasms easier, the G-Shot is not without potential unpleasant side effects. For example, some have experienced bladder discomfort. Others have noticed blood present in their urine.

Still others report experiencing a feeling of constant sexual arousal. Other side effects that are associated with the G-Shot procedure include allergic reactions, urinary tract infections, off-putting vaginal discharges and pain during intercourse.

Though the G-Shot is routinely advertised as a “quick fix” solution for an inability to have dependable G-spot orgasms, there are significant risks. In fact, because the number of potential side effects is extensive, a woman is typically required to sign a consent form prior to having the procedure performed.

Doubt From The Medical Community

Adding to the controversy is the fact that many in the medical establishment scoff at the G-Shot’s effectiveness. Their misgivings are largely based upon the lack of clinical evidence supporting the procedure’s efficacy. While many women who have received the collagen injection contend that the shot has a positive effect on their ability to reach a G-spot orgasm, data is limited.

Lack of Clinical Evidence

First, the sample size of those surveyed lacks the breadth to have any significant implications. Second, there is no evidence that a double-blind study (an experiment in which some participants receive the collagen while other participants receive a placebo injection) was performed. Many doctors claim that the G-Shot’s effectiveness remains unproven.

Other Potential Drawbacks Of The G-Shot

There are other criticisms of the procedure. First, it’s expensive. Receiving the collagen injection into the vaginal wall costs approximately $1,800. Many people may initially consider $1,800 to be a small price to pay for sexual satisfaction. But, the inclination to pay that amount of money for what constitutes a natural, healthy sexual result implies a deeper problem:

Lack of sufficient sexual skills.

Another problem with the G-Shot is the need for ongoing treatments. The collagen injection enlarges the G-spot for approximately 4 months. After that time has passed, the collagen deposit is absorbed into the body. To experience the benefit of the G-Shot perpetually, a woman is required to have the procedure performed every 4 months. At $1,800 per injection, the price of sexual fulfillment (which arguably can be easily achieved by developing fundamental sexual skills) can be substantial.

Alternatives To The G-Shot

Many women (and their partners) are stunned to discover the high cost of the G-Shot injections. The need for ongoing treatments makes the procedure even less attractive. However, there are alternatives. Most sex therapists agree that enlarging the G-spot artificially by injecting the area with collagen is not only unnecessary for sexual ecstasy; it’s also unhealthy.

They argue that the body is meant to function sexually without the use of such injections. By developing sufficient sexual skills, most women can achieve powerful G-spot orgasms naturally.

Rather than relying upon a costly invasive procedure, men and women should instead devote time to improving their lovemaking abilities. Men should talk with their partners and identify where the G-spot is located. They should also know which sexual positions are most likely to stimulate a woman’s G-spot. Improving their dexterity and endurance should also be priorities.

Women should take the time to refine their own sexual performance in the bedroom. That includes learning to move their bodies in a way that allows men to hit their G-spot easily.

An Invasive Procedure Is Not The Answer

If a woman is not able to achieve a G-spot orgasm, she should communicate with her partner. Often, the issue lies in her partner’s lack of sexual prowess. That’s also where the solution should be found. That is, her partner can easily learn the ability to stimulate her G-spot.

An invasive procedure like the G-Shot isn’t necessary. Formidable sexual skills can be developed by any man. Once those skills are developed, he can help a woman achieve orgasms on demand.

G-Shot Versus Better Love Making Skills

Many people argue that receiving the G-Shot injection precludes either partner from having to spend time learning the necessary sexual skills. Specifically, a man doesn’t need to learn anything to satisfy the woman. But, that perspective poses 3 problems.

First, using the G-Shot as a means of achieving sexual fulfillment is inconsistent with our bodies’ natural ability to function sexually. In truth, every man and woman should develop sexual proficiency.

Second, relying upon the G-Shot injection could mean spending $1,800 every 4 months (that’s $5400 per year) into the foreseeable future. While that may seem like a workable solution at first, it may be prohibitively costly after a few treatments.

Third, if a couple decides to go their separate ways, neither will have developed the necessary sexual skills for future partners’ satisfaction.

Knowing The Risks And Costs

Making an informed decision requires having enough information. Unfortunately, much is unknown about the G-Shot. There has been no apparent double blind study conducted. Plus, the long-term side effects of undergoing repeated collagen treatments in the vaginal wall has not yet been determined.

The G-Shot injection is a “quick fix” solution to a problem that involves deeper symptoms. Some may liken it to a costly band-aid that forever needs to be replaced.

In the end, the choice is yours. Many people will continue to choose the G-Shot as a “quick fix” solution to their lack of sexual fulfillment (despite the ongoing expense and lack of information about long-term health impacts).

That said, developing the sexual skills you need to please every partner would make the G-Shot irrelevant. In truth, being able to find and hit your partner’s G-spot every time is a simple skill to develop. And it can pay off for the rest of your life.

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, g spot, g spot orgasm, love, orgasm, sex tips

Why Couples Don’t Have Great Sex…

By leejenkins

Sex (especially great sex) is an important piece of a successful romantic relationship.  If you’re having amazing sex already, this probably won’t apply to you.  But if you’re experience lack-luster sex on a regular basis, I suggest you read on.

Do you know why the majority of couples do not have great sex?

It simply boils down to one mistake.

The number one mistake couples make in the bedroom is…simply not knowing what to do.

That’s right, “Ignorance”.

And let me tell you…

Ignorance is NOT bliss in the bedroom!

What Wise Men Have To Say

Don’t think female orgasm ignorance can harm you?  Well, consider the following quotes:

“Ignorance, the root and the stem of every evil.”
— Plato (427 BC – 347 BC)

Cheating can be a result of ignorance on how to give women orgasms.

“It is worse still to be ignorant of your ignorance.”
— Saint Jerome (374 AD – 419 AD)

If you don’t know that you lack the knowledge to give women orgasms, then how can you fix it?  Also, she might be faking orgasms on you.

“Ignorance and inconsideration are the two great causes of the ruin of mankind.”
— John Tillotson (1630 – 1694)

…and the ruin of a relationship.

What Sexual Ignorance Means To You

The lack of knowing what to do during sex can be the beginning of a broken relationship.  When you’re dating and have a sexual relationship, it can be hot in the beginning, but if that fire is not sustained over time, there will be problems.

For a man, it’s easy to be sexually satisfied.  However, the key to great sex lies with the WOMAN being sexually satisfied.  In other words, she’ll need to experience female orgasms.

Achieving female orgasms is easy said than done, but if it is not done, it can lead a woman to:

  • Become sexually frustrated and bored with sex
  • Fake her orgasms just to “get it over with”
  • Seek out other men who might have a better chance of pleasing her (in other words, she’ll be inclined to cheat)
  • Think about breaking up with the man she’s with because she’s unfulfilled in the bed.

This dating-to-dumped domino effect spawns from ignorance.  I’m not saying that all relationship end because women do not experience female orgasms.  But think about it, if a man doesn’t have an orgasm with his partner, do you think he’ll be happy and stick around?

How to Have Great Sex

To learn how to give women orgasms is a journey in itself.  There will be a lot of reading, learning, and trying this out to see if certain techniques work for you.  But ultimately, you must make a commitment to yourself to learn how to achieve female orgasms.

If you don’t learn, and decide to “wing it” during sex, well…good luck.

But if you are committed to beat “sexual ignorance”, improve your love life and ultimately keep the relationship you have, check out my free newsletter below.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: have better sex, sex tips

The Power Of Pre-Sex: 1 Simple (But Powerful) Sex Trick Guaranteed To Make Her Crave Sex All Day Long

By leejenkins

When it comes to having an orgasm, men are like microwave ovens, and women are like crock pots.

To make a meal in a microwave, all you need to do is buy a microwave dinner set, push a few buttons and you can get a complete meal in less than 3 minutes.

On the other hand, women are more like crock pots.  You’ll need time to prepare and cook the food slowly.  But in the end, the food will probably taste a lot better (and be healthier!) than what you can do in the microwave.

My point is: compared to men (and microwave ovens), women, just like cooking with a crock pot, need more preparation & cooking time to get the desired result.  In other words, women generally need more foreplay in order to have an orgasm.  Most people think in terms of physical foreplay as a prerequisite before having sex.

But let me tell you: the most powerful form of foreplay comes hours before any sort of physical contact.  That foreplay is psychological foreplay.

What I’m about to teach you is a quick and easy way to plant of a seed of sexual desire in her mind.  This pre-sex tip will get her hot and bothered, thinking of being with you throughout the day!

Before we jump into details, let me warn you:  This tip works best if you’re already in an established relationship.  If you’ve only started dating a girl, save this technique for later.

The Pre-Sex Text Message Technique

In the morning, while she’s at work, send her a text message.  Here’s an example:

“Hi honey – I can’t stop thinking about making love with you later today”.

I know it sounds cheesy, but believe me, it works!

TIP: If you write something more specific (and explicit), this could have a better effect.

The reason why this works is that this message will get her brain thinking of what you wrote throughout the day.  It becomes a virus in her mind and every time she thinks about it, she’ll be excited.  Even if she tells herself not to think about sex with you because she’s at work, it will backfire and think about it MORE.

You’ll be setting the mood ahead, and make her crazy with anticipation about what’s going to happen later on tonight.

She’ll realize that you are thinking of her, and showing your enthusiasm (in a polite way that is flattering) will only get her more excited.  In fact, she could be having a bad day, but once she gets that text message, she’s going to think “someone is thinking of me, and they can’t wait to touch my body!”

If you do this right, what you wrote in the pre-sex text message will be the prevalent thought in her head throughout the rest of her day.  She’ll be thinking of you and the how you want to please her in bed…and the fact that it will happen later on that night!

But don’t take my word for it.  Try it out for yourself!

Now That She’s Psychologically Aroused, What Next?

Well, now that you’ve got her ready for a night of lovemaking, you don’t want to let her down by not being able to give her orgasms in bed.  You want to keep your momentum going and make sure you have an arsenal of lovemaking techniques at your fingertips.  Check out my free newsletter below and learn exclusive tips and techniques to give your girl orgasms.

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: foreplay, have better sex, sex tips

3-Before-Me: A Proven Guideline For Great Sex

By leejenkins

Have you ever heard of the “3-Before-Me” rule?

Simply put, it means that you do whatever it takes to make your woman experience an orgasm 3 times before you even allow her to start pleasuring you.

Now, just the thought of this may tire you out but we’re not really talking about orgasms during intercourse here. We mean the following (and in this sequence):

  1. Clitoral orgasm
  2. G-spot orgasm
  3. Blended orgasm

It’s best to bring your woman to a clitoral orgasm first for the simple reason that the clitoris is easiest to stimulate and will be most responsive to your ‘attentions’ at the start of making love. Furthermore, a clitoral orgasm prepares her physically for that all-elusive G-spot orgasm.

A G-spot orgasm will give your partner a different kind of sensation compared to a clitoral orgasm.  Many women claim that it’s ‘deeper’ and more ‘body-rocking’ than clitoral orgasms.

After a G-spot orgasm, it’s time for blended orgasms, which is that magic combination of a clitoral orgasm and a G-spot orgasm.

Why the “3-Before-Me” Rule Rocks!

Now you may be wondering, “Why give her 3 orgasms first before I even have 1?”

Well, there are plenty of reasons supporting this and trust me, it will benefit you as well.

Did you know that about 70-75% of women do NOT reach an orgasm during sexual intercourse?

Imagine the frustration this brings! So with the “3-Before-Me” rule, you’re actually physically setting her up for a vaginal orgasm. And even if she doesn’t reach an orgasm at this stage, IT’S OK.

After all, she already reached her climax 3 times before right? So no sexual frustration on her part anymore even if she doesn’t have an orgasm during intercourse.

Be the Sex God You’ve Always Wanted To Be

As mentioned above, a great percentage of women do not reach an orgasm during sexual intercourse, yet few men go out of their way to ensure that they’re sexually satisfied in bed. If you practice the “3-Before-Me” rule, she’ll be talking her head off to all her friends that she’s found THE man that can really fulfill her in bed!

It Doesn’t Matter If You Can’t Last Long In Bed

With the 3-Before-Me rule, it doesn’t matter if you can’t last long during sex.  Some men get so excited in bed that they tend to come just a little bit sooner than what their partners would like. However, if you pleasure her first, do you think she’ll notice how soon you come during intercourse? I bet she won’t!

The 3-Before-Me Makes Sex Better

Since you’ve gone out of your way to pleasure her and bring her to orgasm three times, can you imagine what she will do to YOU to show her gratitude? Many men claim that sex is definitely better after they pleasure their women first.

Keep in mind that “3-Before-Me” is really more a guide than a rule. It’s not written in stone so don’t feel that you’re doing something wrong if you don’t make her experience a female orgasm 3 times all the time.

What you must remember is this: please her first and you’re in for a rocking time in bed!

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: clitoral orgasm, female orgasm, g spot, g spot orgasm, multiple orgasms, orgasm, sex tips

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