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How To Turn A Girl On Sexually

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Men who are just starting their dating life, and even those who have been in a long term relationship for years, sometimes fall into the trap we call a sex rut. It’s not that you’re not in the mood to make love. The problem is that the woman you’re with is somewhat lackluster in her response to your lovemaking.

So, what gives? Are you incompatible sexually or is there something lacking in your technique? Sometimes it’s a combination of incompatibility and inability to push her sexual buttons. Most of the time, men just ignore the problem, until it gets too big to handle and the sexual frustration starts to affect the relationship.

Instead of wishing that you were still in that stage when your relationship was sizzling and you’ve just hooked up, find out how to please your woman in bed so that she will never think of leaving you.

Daytime Foreplay

With the way our lifestyles are nowadays, it’s no wonder that some couples feel the romance is dying as soon as the routine of daily life sets in. You have to figure out how to find the time to romance each other enough to keep the flame burning. The solution is to romance each other during the daytime so that the sexual tension builds and carries over to when it’s time for bed.

For instance, give her a lingering kiss when you meet for lunch or caress her waist as you’re walking out of the house and into your car. Softly whisper that you’re looking forward to later. Whatever you can do to arouse her feelings of sexuality during the day, do it.

Tell Her You’re Going Down On Her

Some women assume that guys aren’t enthusiastic about giving a girl oral sex. You may even think about it now and discover that you can only do it for a while (because she might not go down on you if you don’t). If you tell her that “you’re hungry for her taste” or that you’re craving the sweetness of her womanhood, you can arouse her to a point of frenzy. What happens is that her imagination will do the work for you, and that’s a good thing. Make sure you tell her this when she least expects it, for best results.

Intimate Touching

Expressing your feelings through lovemaking is more than just sticking it in and going for it until you are done. If you think about it, people don’t need much to get aroused, while women will always need more. Don’t hesitate to touch your wife or girlfriend everywhere when you’re alone. Don’t rush when you’re exploring with your hands, so that she won’t feel like you’re just doing it because you want your gratification sooner.

Sex is the best way to replenish your love during a busy week. It doesn’t have to be monotonous and you can add as much romance to it as you want.

The Best Way To Increase Your Sexual Performance

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I’m no stranger to women and intimacy, and through the years, you know what I’ve discovered? Most of the women I’ve slept with have different ideas of sex. In particular, good sex. These women ask for different things, from oral sex to non-stop French kissing. However, one thing is common among them – they all want an orgasm, and if possible, multiple orgasms.

However, before I figured this out, I was one of the many guys around who don’t know the first thing about pleasing women in bed. Sure, I have been doing it for a while, but somehow my skills at that time weren’t enough to get women there. I’m sure you know the frustration of giving it all you got but still not making the woman you’re with climax every time you make love.

When I finally found the secret to improving my sexual performance, I couldn’t believe that all the best skills in the bedroom can be summarized in just two steps.

Think Of What She Feels

It’s no secret that we tend to concentrate on how good sex feels when we’re inside the bedroom with a girl. We often concentrate on what we’re feeling that we forget about the woman and what she’s feeling.

If you don’t believe me, think of how often you would caress a woman’s breast when you’re already way past the foreplay phase and well into the penetration phase. Most of the time, the breasts get ignored because they’re not exactly related to what’s making you feel good. This goes for the clitoris, the neck, the torso and the legs, too. These are all hot spots on a woman’s body that don’t get enough attention when penetration starts.

Be in permanent foreplay mode and you’ll realize that she will climax faster. This means you must always be caressing, kissing and touching the girl even if you’re in the throes of penetrative fun.

Hold Back On Your Climax

If she’s enjoying and you’re enjoying, you just feel like letting loose. There’s nothing wrong with this, but remember that if she hasn’t reached climax yet, she’s bound to expect more foreplay and more sex even after you’re done.

If you’re like all the other men in the world, that’s close to impossible, right? You need rest. You need sleep. Then, you inadvertently kill all anticipation and excitement on her part by making her wait for an hour or so before you can go again.

Hold back and let her have an orgasm first. If you are too sensitized, wear a condom. If that does not work, change positions when you are about to blow. It may be cliche to “think about baseball,” but if that gets the job done, do it.

The good news is that you don’t have to be a player who has been practicing these techniques to be good in bed. You can get it right the first time you do it with a girl.

How To Tackle Passionate Love Making

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Need some more tips to transform your sex life? Here’s the ultimate secret of sex gods -passion. This familiar emotion isn’t something that can be faked. It can be induced in your partner through various means, including verbal and behavioral methods. If passion is lacking in your relationship, you won’t be able to improve your sex life. So, how can you inject more passion into your lovemaking?

Passion makes sex phenomenal, but only if you know how to use it properly when you’re in the bedroom with your girl. Done right, your sessions will be hotter, steamier and kinkier than ever.

Get In Touch With Your Sensual Side

Here’s the main difference in the way men and women perceive pleasure during sex. Most men tend to rush to ‘get to the good part,’ while women want to prolong the foreplay so that they can feel comfortable enough to finally orgasm. Women want to reach climax fast, but not at the expense of the sensual side of sex (touching, kissing, fondling etc).

With that said, if you want to please your girl, you’d better learn how to patiently caress her on her sensitive areas before you let go and get your share of the pleasure. Sensual stimulation is a big part of what women consider passionate during lovemaking.

Get Acquainted With Her Hot Spots

Women love to be stimulated. During foreplay, spend some time touching her sensitive areas (clitoris, breasts and the fleshy part of her inner thighs). Some women have hot spots in other places. Heck, I met a girl who loves it when I lick her nape. There’s another girl who likes it when I kiss the crook of her elbow during sex. It’s your job to explore your girl’s body to find out what these hot spots are. Orgasm intensity increases when you do this, and that’s great if your goal is to make sure she doesn’t forget you and your time together even after that night.

Give Her Oral Sex

Did you know that most women expect men to go down there during sex? Giving her head is something that makes sex unforgettable, and you should know this. So, get to work when you sense that she wants you to go down on her.

If you’re the squeamish type, go as far as touching her clitoris with your tongue and keep it on there for a while until she reaches climax. Just kissing her down here is going to make a girl feel special. If you are always willing to go down there and make her climax in the process, you can guarantee yourself another date.

If you ever feel like skipping foreplay so that you can get your pleasure faster, think about this. A girl is less likely to do it again with a guy who shows a lack of passion for her during sex. One mistake men often make is they don’t consider what really makes a girl climax. Avoid that mistake and follow these tips for more passionate lovemaking.

Giving Her An Orgasm – The Ultimate Pat On The Back

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Every man hopes to make a girl climax every time he has sex with her, but the truth is that this doesn’t always happen. It’s no secret that sometimes women fake during sex, because they don’t want to make the man’s inability to perform as a big issue that could damage a relatively good relationship. If a girl doesn’t climax during sex, her partner feels extremely insecure, and she knows it.

However, what every man should realize is that the relationship only stays good when everything that goes on inside the relationship is pleasing to both partners. If sex continues to be lousy, the relationship will fall apart sooner than you think.

Making a woman reach orgasm is physically and psychologically gratifying, and we know it. Now, it’s time to discover some of the things that make women climax faster, read on!

Help Her Relax

There are factors that affect our over-all performance in the bedroom, some of which we cannot control (her stress level, her feelings etc.) The only thing we can do is to concentrate on the factors that we can control, like our bedroom skills and making a woman comfortable enough to reach climax faster.

An erotic massage will get her thinking about sex, and the better you massage her, the faster she can climax. This means using your fingers and tongue to caress her most sensitive areas, like her clitoris and her breasts.

Learn From The Way She Masturbates

The thing is, a woman can climax quickly when she is masturbating. Every woman has a special way of doing this, and you can learn a lot from observing the way she masturbates in your presence. If you cannot seem to make her climax during sex, one way to learn how is to take note of what she does, where she’s touching, and what she thinks about during masturbation.

Here’s what you can do. Tell her to pretend that you’re not around and she’s all alone. It will help if you can make her share her deepest, darkest fantasies with you so you can react accordingly.

Role Playing

A woman’s psyche during sex is greatly affected by what she’s thinking. If she’s bored with the same old scenario, you can go somewhere unfamiliar like a hotel room, or a resort. Then, think of a role playing scenario and act it out. Like men, women get their kicks out of certain sexual situations and your goal is to learn the nature of her sex fantasies so you can replicate it every time.

Comfort level plays a big role in making a woman orgasm, and your goal as her lover should be to encourage her to relax long enough for her to climax. You might notice that I didn’t include tips like “going down on her” or fingering. Any man can do these things, but the real trick to getting her to climax has something to do with the way you help her relax, emotionally and physically, during sex.

What Men Need To Know About Women, Sex And Emotions

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Does your girlfriend or wife think you are a good lover? This is the question that most men find difficult to answer. On one hand, your girl probably shows all signs of being aroused and pleased when you are inside the bedroom getting it on. On the other hand, you noticed she does not climax sometimes and it has been bothering you.

What most guys don’t know is that sex for women is absolutely related to the emotions. It’s about caressing and kissing, of course, but there has to be a deeper meaning to it. For instance, if a girl is mad about something you did and you think just going through normal foreplay will “cure” her animosity, you’re wrong. You have to make sure she has forgiven you to some extent before she can really put out during your lovemaking. Here are some more tips on how to understand the emotional side of sex.

There are three emotions that contribute a lot to a woman’s pleasure during lovemaking. If you always think of these things while you’re making love, there’s no way you’re going to fail as a lover.

Love

Women have many ideas on what a good lover is, but any guy they sleep with can become a great lover if he can be romantic during sex. How can you pull this off? Tell her you love her, or whisper in her ear during sex. Make sure your caresses are lingering and your kisses are more passionate.

Trust

Have you ever wondered why some couples can do a lot of perverted stuff inside the bedroom? Think about it. How can ordinary couples do S&M like it’s the most natural thing to do when they’re alone? The secret has a lot to do with the trust that the woman has for the man. Think about this the next time you feel like bringing handcuffs (or a whip) to bed. The point is, you’re more likely to bring out your woman’s wild side if she trusts you completely.

Acceptance

A good lover must be able to make a woman feel sexy during sex, and the best way to do this is to make sure you really look at your partner’s eyes and body while you’re doing it.

A woman knows that her body isn’t perfect, but it’s extremely gratifying if you show how turned on you are by her body despite that fact. Touch her most sensitive areas along with the parts of her body that she’s most self-conscious about. Assure her that she looks sexy no matter what she’s wearing.

It is a shame that some men think sex is only about the physical. Well, I can’t blame you. Men and women react differently to sexual stimulation. However, if you really want to be her best lover ever, you have to pay attention to her emotions and the way you react to the things she tells you during sex, either through her words or through her actions.