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How To Turn Her On And Off

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Intimacy starts when you and your girl start to act sexual towards each other. It means sexual tension is there and you are both thinking of sex. Perhaps you have started kissing, touching hands and even petting during your dates, even when you are in a public place. You know it’s “on” when you begin exchanging sexual innuendo whenever you talk on the phone or in person.

Sexual tension is present when a girl is turned on, but some guys who stumble upon that particular switch inside a girl’s brain can never seem to figure out how to do it again. Keep reading to find out how to turn a girl on, and the things that you should avoid if you don’t want to turn her off.

Be Spontaneous But Mind Your Timing

When you’re on your date with a woman, there are so many chances to get intimate, but the crucial thing here is timing. Caressing her hand during a romantic movie makes a woman feel warm and turned on, while touching her breasts when you’re watching horror is definitely off. Recognize the best timing for overtly sexual moves, and be extremely aware of her reactions.

For instance, if she stiffens and acts cold, then she’s probably not comfortable with your public display of affection. A lot depends on how uninhibited the girl is, and her views on making out in public. Wait until you’re in a relatively deserted place before you think about grabbing her. Spontaneity is sexy, but only if the timing is good.

The Goodbye Kiss

The end of the date is very crucial. It gives you and the girl an idea of your future as a couple, and as lovers. The best thing that could happen is that the girl invites you in for a nightcap. The worst that could happen is she goes inside without looking back with a cold “goodnight.”

What goes wrong during this phase that causes a girl to lose interest? Well, a lot of things. Let’s start with the goodbye kiss. If your kiss is too safe, like it’s a peck that conveys disinterest, there’s really no reason why the girl will invite you in.

If the kiss is too passionate, like when you shove your tongue down her throat, she will think that you couldn’t wait to get to the sex. Kiss her gently, without hesitating. And, make sure you kiss her in a way that leaves her breathless with anticipation.

The key is to make the girl feel comfortable during your date so that she’s thinking about getting it on with you by the time you get to her doorstep. Failure to turn your date into the beginning of an intimate relationship happens when only one partner is willing to go for it. Push a girl’s buttons right and you can turn her on. Making her feel uncomfortable and freaked out during your date will turn her off.

How To Tell Her You Love Her – 5 Romantic Ideas

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Getting the attention of a beautiful girl is easy, but maintaining that level of attention is difficult. If you think you’ve “got her” when she agrees to date you, think again. A woman’s mind can change rather quickly if the man she’s with is not emotionally available. If you want to enjoy a lasting relationship with a woman, you need to get her to think of you in a more romantic way.

Whatever you do, you shouldn’t be complacent when it comes to dating. Most men realize this and they do what they can to be more romantic, but unfortunately, the women won’t recognize their efforts. It’s not always because the men are doing it wrong. It may be because the woman expects something more.

Your mission is to make her think of you as the most romantic guy ever, and here are 5 ways to do that.

Do Her Chores

Making life easy for your girl is one sign that you love her, and she will feel this too. Once a week, make it a point to give your girl a day off by taking charge of chores while she does her nails or while she visits a salon for a makeover.

Flowers

You often hear that girls think it’s sweet when men give them flowers for birthdays and valentines, right? You know what’s sweeter? It’s giving flowers when there’s no special occasion to celebrate. On any ordinary day, give her a few stalks of her favorite flowers. Women are conditioned to like this gesture from their childhood, so you can’t go wrong with this one.

Dinner

Even the modern woman feels all warm and fuzzy when a man pays for her meal. It’s just an instinct that all women share. Take your girl out, go to her favorite restaurant and snack together on her favorite dishes whenever you can.

Travel Together

Whether it’s just the next state or a neighboring country, make sure you spend some time with your girl travelling to another place for a change of scene. Being stuck in one place can be uncomfortable, not to mention boring. Make sure you ask your girl where she wants to go, and which activities she wants to try in another place before making your plans.

Sex

Love making is the ultimate way to express your feelings to her. Set it up nicely with a good bubble bath, scented candles and aromatic oils. When she’s relaxed, you can proceed with erotic massage. Be patient and make her feel that it’s her night and you’re her sex slave for the night.

Go for kinky sex! If your girl is usually submissive during sex, turn the tables on her and let her dominate you for one night. However, be sure to give her guidance and instructions (like what the leather whip is for), or offer suggestions on how to role play as a dominatrix.

How To Delay Your Own Orgasm

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They say it takes the average girl around ten to twenty minutes to climax. To guys who can ejaculate in as little as two minutes, this is way too long. Whoever invented the romantic idea of getting off together during sex must have been out of his mind. I’m not saying it can’t happen, but with an average, healthy male, this is easier said than done.

Is there a way to climax only when the girl is ready to get off? The inability to control orgasm is a huge dilemma for most guys. If girls can’t hurry up with reaching climax, then the guys should hold out.

Unfortunately for most guys, premature ejaculation is one of the main reasons why some girls think that sex is overrated. Every girl knows that if a guy can’t hold it in until she’s ready, the girl will have to wait for the guy to recover from his first climax before she gets her pleasure.

Is there a way to solve this problem with premature ejaculation without using the “magic pills” that claim to do the trick?

Wear A Condom

A man’s sex organ is ultra-sensitive; and it becomes even more sensitive when the man is mentally and physically aroused. Using a condom during sex is more than just for staying safe; it will also help you last longer.

Beware of the many types of condoms in the market, though. There are condoms that kill sensation (and your libido) more, and there are those that are too thin to make any difference. Chances are you already have a favorite brand that does the job of not breaking; but remember, if one layer of condom still can’t help you control your orgasm, wear two layers.

Masturbation

Masturbating regularly will allow a certain level of control when it’s time for the real deal. You already know about the cliches of thinking about baseball, or counting backwards, to control your orgasm, but doing these things won’t work if you’re filled to the brim and ready to explode at any time.

Don’t worry about feeling like you’re in high school again. No one’s going to know that you still do it. In fact, most of your grown-up buddies will definitely agree that this is a great way to become a better lover.

Keep A Cool Head

Climax control is related to a person’s mindset. If you’re over-excited about making love that night, there’s a chance that you won’t last longer than a few seconds. Let go of the anxiety of being with a new girl or being too eager to have sex. Also, be familiar with the way your body reacts to stimulus. This means you have to change sex positions, or slow down a bit, when you feel that you’re going to blow.

It helps if you don’t drink alcohol before you make love. Scrap the misconception about alcohol being an aphrodisiac. It only contributes to your lack of control as far as reaching orgasm is concerned.

How To Make A Woman Climax

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Unfortunately for us, women take longer to climax than men. While it takes the average guy less than 5 minutes to finish, it could take a girl more than 30 minutes to get off during sex, if at all.

You might ask, it doesn’t matter how long it takes her to get there as long as she does, right? That’s a good point, but here’s the thing. A certain proportion of women in the world fake orgasm during sex because the men they’re with lack the skills to help them reach orgasm. In fact, you’d be surprised to learn just how many women around have never really experienced the big O.

When it comes to making a girl climax, you have several options. You can make her climax while you’re having sex (penetration), you can do oral sex with fingering, or you can help her masturbate. There’s a key technique involved in each of these options .

How To Make Her Orgasm During Sex

When you’re having sex, you should remember that you might be feeling more pleasure than your girl. Why? This is because your most sensitive organ is conveniently wrapped in all that warmth and comfort. However, a girl’s most sensitive area (namely, her clitoris) is left alone during sex.

Some guys think penetration (thrusting in and out) is enough to make a woman climax, without knowing that a simple shift in weight to press on a woman’s frontal vaginal region can make all the difference as far as her pleasure is concerned.

Here’s what you can do. Make sure you touch your girl’s clitoris during penetration, either by using your fingers or by pressing more on her mound when you thrust.

How To Make her Orgasm By Oral Sex

When you’re going down on a woman, remember that the center of sensation is the clitoris and the outer parts of her labia. Most guys simulate penile thrusting during oral sex, which could prolong her orgasm further. A stroking motion with your tongue over her clitoris and labia will push her over the brink and make her orgasm faster. If the girl insists on penetration during oral sex, use your fingers.

How To Make Her Orgasm By Fingering

Fingering a girl doesn’t always mean you have to do it alone. Invite her to join in. You can take charge of penetrating her with two fingers and she can stroke her clitoris, or vice versa. Another way of doing this is allowing her to masturbate while you caress her other erogenous zones. The additional stimulation from other sources will make her climax intensely and rapidly.

Don’t get caught up with the “right” techniques to make a woman climax. You can mix and match techniques and experiment with variations of these techniques until you find a combination that works for you every time you’re in bed with your girl.

Fun Sex Games To Try With Your Partner

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Have you ever wished sex between you and your partner would be more enjoyable? If you’re like all men, you probably thought of doing some really kinky stuff with your girl but have not yet discovered how to lead the sex in that direction. But, what if she’s really not into that, you ask? I understand that it’s pretty difficult to start making love the way you really want when your partner is inhibited and stressed.

While you can do nothing to keep her from thinking about work, grocery bills and other tiresome issues, you can improve the mood by making her relax while she’s alone with you. Being relaxed will lead to more enjoyable things, as you’ll soon find out. Read on to discover some of the best sexy games you can do with your partner to make her less inhibited and more willing to try kinky sex with you.

Find That Ticklish Spot

Stimulating someone sexually when she’s not in the mood is like plunging a bar of ice into boiling water. The ice will not thaw slowly, it will break. What you need to do is warm her up in a way that she naturally opens up.

You can do this by poking her or running your fingers on her ticklish spots and gently teasing her. Be as naughty as you want. It’s important to do this gradually so that she naturally allows you to explore her body. When you get her laughing and giggling, you can pick up the pace and start acting sexual. You can let her turn the tables on you, too.

Use Props

When she is breathless with anticipation, or if you have made it clear over dinner that you intend to make love that night, you can bring props with you to bed. It does not have to be some fancy sex toy that you bought online; you can simply use what you have at home.

Bring a bowl full of ice cubes to bed or slices of her favorite fruit. You can even encourage her to bring out her vibrator so she can play with it while you do your moves on her. Props and toys make sex more exciting. Have fun trying out each one and finding out which ones give the best sensations.

Who Can Hold Climax Longer

The fun thing about this game is that the more she tries to hold her orgasm in, the more aroused she gets. This is a psychological game that you can play with your girl, to increase sexual tension and anticipation on her part. The more she tries to hold back, the harder you should work so that she will not be able to hold back.

The next time you think of using champagne to “loosen up,” think about these sex games. There really is no need for artificial stimulants when you can play some kinky games with your partner to get her in the mood.