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Erectile Dysfunction: 5 Tips To Boost Your Erection

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Erectile dysfunction is far more common than most men believe. It is an embarrassing problem in the bedroom. But before you even consider the endless myriad of products, pumps or treatments that claim to boost your erection, realize that many of these solutions do NOT yield permanent results, and can be risky to boot! If you’re anything like most men reading this, you probably have issues getting and maintaining an erection during intercourse. You are NOT alone.

Instead, follow these five simple, natural tips, and you will more than likely give your erection a mighty transformation!

You Are What You Eat

This well-known adage holds true in your sex life too. If you are looking to get a strong, healthy erection, good nutrition is necessary. Carbohydrates are essential for sexual energy, so you will do well to stock up PLENTY of those in your body! Bread, pasta and rice are excellent sources of carbs.

You also need a good dose of zinc, which is crucial for producing testosterone and semen. Foods such as liver, seafood, beans and peas contain the required amount of zinc that your body needs. Alternatively you could consume zinc supplements. It also pays to stay away from high fat meals. Excess fat intake lowers testosterone levels, reduces libido and affects erection ability. Also, an unhealthy diet causes poor circulation of blood to the extremities, leading to erection problems.

Use Sex Positions To Your Advantage

Believe it or not, the sex positions you use can also affect the strength and size of your erection. Positions that allow you to be on top – such as missionary and doggie style – enable greater and more efficient flow of blood to your genitals, giving you bigger, stronger and firmer erections.

So try to avoid starting sex with woman on top. The effects of gravity will drain the blood from your penis faster than you could say “ahh,” causing erectile dysfunction. Having your female partner on top also gives her control of the penetration movements. This loss of control on your part can result in an inability to hold your erection for long.

Ditch The Condom

Most guys know that having sex without a condom feels better. Well, here’s a caveat – do this only if you have a regular partner. Condoms are a great way to reduce penile sensitivity, and thus a good aid for men suffering from premature ejaculation, but not erection problems. Sex without a condom feels more pleasurable, keeps you aroused longer, thus helping your erection stay longer as well.

Put Sex Toys Into Play

Some sex toys – such as cock rings – are made to keep blood in the penis instead of allowing it to drain out. Constriction devices such as the penis ring can be a very dependable way to make your erections firmer. The penis ring is a small rubber or plastic ring that fits snugly at the base of your male anatomy. It helps to trap blood in your genitals (much like the effects of tying a balloon) and keep your erection UP.

Get In Shape

More specifically, perform exercises that strengthen your abdominal muscles. When your abs are in good shape, those muscles will help support and hold your erection, instead of holding your belly. In addition, having a large gut also makes your penis small by comparison! Being in good physical shape makes you more confident about your body and gives you more confidence in bed. Simple Kegel exercises are also a great way to help you stay hard longer… and last longer at the same time!

Foreplay Tips – The Do’s and Don’ts Of Foreplay

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Many men slip up during an intimate foreplay with their women. These are three common mistakes that men make when initiating this prelude to sex.

Mistake #1 – Foregoing The Kiss

You should prolong the kissing instead! It doesn’t have to be the usual lip-locking. Women actually enjoy it when their men give tender kisses, long strokes of the tongue, and loving bites on their neck and shoulders.

Mistake #2 – Paying Too Much Attention To A Woman’s Breasts

Women are uncomfortable when men pay too much attention to their bosoms. Of course, women love it when their partners do incredible things with their breasts. But, they still prefer that their partners adore EVERY detail on their bodies.

Mistake #3 – Hurrying Through Foreplay

This is a big no-no. Always remember that foreplay should be done in the smoothest and most comfortable manner possible. Women love it when their men spend time in exploring every sensitive hot spots on the female body. At times, women are the ones who dictate when their men should proceed. However, there are moments when women allow their men to follow their own plans when pleasuring them. But you should not advance towards her inner thigh if she is not yet fully prepared for it. It can be quite unpleasant for women when they are not totally in the mood for the actual sexual intercourse.

What else can you do to give her phenomenal foreplay – one that will set her up for a powerful orgasm later? Well, the following tips will come in handy for you!

Tip #1 – Take Pleasure In Foreplay

You must be having fun during foreplay in order to become the best in what you are doing. Women can actually tell when their partners are not in the mood for sex even with the bits of action during the prelude, such as oral sex. If giving her oral sex is a chore for you, she won’t enjoy it. A man’s satisfaction in the sexual overture is a big factor in turning on a woman. Yes, it all begins in the mind! So make sure that you have the appropriate outlook when it comes to the foreplay and the main act.

Tip #2 – Open Communication

If you do not know what to do, then just ASK her. For example, ask if she wants kisses or those titillating nibbles on her skin and if she prefers gentle fondling to wild grasps. In return, be sure that you are ready to give her anything that she asks of you!

Tip #3 – Dirty Talk

Most guys do not know how effective dirty talk can be during foreplay. You may not know this but women CAN get highly aroused even with just words, especially those that depict what you plan to do to them in bed. Aside from dirty talking, try speaking to her of your unadulterated appreciation of her whole being, her beauty, and your contentment on having her all to yourself!

Tip #4 – Be Smooth

Wait for her to tell you that she is ready to move forward. Let the whole act blend smoothly into sexual intercourse. Do not skip the “appetizer” and head straight for the “main course.” Always be gracious during the prelude to intercourse!

Let foreplay lead both of you into amazing sex. Don’t skim on it. Apply the above tips and spice things up in your bedroom tonight!

The Truth About Erectile Dysfunction And How To Fix It (For Good!)

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Let’s face it. Erectile dysfunction can be a very embarrassing affair, and if left untreated, can severely affect a couple’s sex life. An erection problem typically refers to the inability to acquire and maintain an erection that is firm enough for a man to have satisfactory intercourse.

Some men are not able achieve an erection at all; others may simply lose the erection during intercourse. When the condition becomes persistent, a man can be diagnosed as having erectile dysfunction or ED.

Is Erectile Dysfunction Common?

The vast majority of men will experience occasional difficulties in acquiring or maintaining an erection during sex. In many instances, the condition is temporary and goes away without the need for medical intervention. In other cases, it can be a persistent issue that can potentially damage a man’s self confidence and affect his sexual relationship, thus requiring treatment.

Is It All Just “In The Mind?”

In the past, problems relating to erections were assumed to have stemmed from a man’s mind. As a result, sufferers were often given unhelpful advice. You probably heard of comments such as “don’t worry” or “just relax and things will take care of itself.”

These days, medical professionals and sex therapists believe that when erection problems continue to persist for a long time, physical factors may be at work.

To tell if the cause of an erection problem is physical or psychological, one way is to determine if you are having erections while sleeping at night. On average, it is normal for a man to experience three to five erections per night, with each lasting up to 30 minutes. Your doctor would be in a good position to ascertain if you are having the normal number of night-time erections.

What Causes Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction often results from a wide range of problems.

There are two basic contributing factors for ED:

  • Effects arising from physically related diseases (such as use of drugs and diabetes)
  • Psychological issues

According to studies, about 50 to 60 percent of diabetic men suffer from erectile dysfunction. Bladder-related dysfunction is also known to cause erection problems, as are Parkinson’s disease and temporal lobe abnormalities.

Age also plays a critical role in erectile dysfunction due to a decrease in male hormones. Many medications used to treat high blood pressure can also cause ED.

As with any other medical problems, if you persistently experience problems with erection, it is advisable to see a doctor. The doctor will be in the best position to rule out any possibility of disease, injury, or medical side effects.

On the other hand, “recreational drugs” are also known to cause erection problems. Take for instance, tobacco. Studies have shown that even smoking two cigarettes before sex (if you have a smoking fetish) will significantly reduce the amount of penile blood flow that is necessary to keep your erection up.

Overcoming Erectile Dysfunction

Advancements in medicine have given many ED sufferers hope, as there are many viable alternatives that can treat the problem successfully.

Do not be tempted to subject yourself to vacuum pumps, penile injections or self-medications like Viagra or Cialis. These self-styled solutions can be ineffective at best (for example, effects of using vacuum pumps are only temporary), and dangerous at worst (bursting of capillaries or penile deformities, for instance).

If you persistently experience difficulty in getting and maintaining an erection during sex, it is best to consult a doctor or a specialist.

The doctor will usually first perform physical and laboratory examinations to determine the underlying causes of the problem, followed by exploring the various treatment options.

Don’t let erection problems keep you down (pardon the pun!). Instead, make a resolve to overcome this issue and enjoy the kind of sex that you and your partner deserve!

How To Give Her “Orgasms On Full Throttle” (Great For Any Penis Size!)

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Is your penis size important in sex and in giving her powerful orgasms? In other words, is a bigger penis better for sex? That seems to be the proverbial question that men have been asking since the dawn of civilization.

Well, what if I told you that your penis size is not a big deal after all? In fact, it is the lousiest among all “tools” you can bring to the bed!

Why is that so? Well, read on and find out…

The Truth About Penis Size And Sex

Ask any woman who loves great sex and have experienced great sex. Chances are, she will tell you that the size of one’s manhood does not feature much in how she enjoys the experience. So put aside that penis extender or male enhancement pills you have been popping all day! A big penis is a great asset to have, but the skills you bring to bed will be your defining moment during sex. Besides pumping in and out, what else can your penis do?

Do Casanovas And Don Juans Have Great Assets In Between Their Thighs?

The secret is out. No they don’t! Even if a guy is small like a mosquito, he can still outperform any clueless lad with a much bigger “asset”! As long as you know how to please, pleasure and caress any woman properly, you can bring great sex to the bedroom, anytime anywhere! And believe me when I say that those Casonovas and Don Juans in the world are only average as far as their penis size goes.

The Myth About Penetration And Orgasm

Penetration is just about the only thing that happens during intercourse. Well, that is just what most guys think. When in the throes of pleasure, most men would focus only on themselves and pump away until they reach the inevitable goal – their own orgasm. But is your woman enjoying a great time too? Well, most probably not!

You see, women are incredibly different from guys. Women don’t just live for the moment of orgasm. They relish the way they are brought to a climax. And the simple truth is this: The vast majority of women are not able to reach an orgasm though penetration alone simply because her clitoris – the nerve center of a woman’s orgasm – is not properly stimulated via penetration. So your penis, big or small, does not figure much in triggering those incredible waves of pleasure in her.

So How Do I Give Her An Orgasm?

Simple! Just observe what SHE does when she stimulates herself (a great majority of women can reach an orgasm through masturbation alone!). Mimic the motions, the angles, the intensity she use on herself. Then use them on her!

When it comes to great sex, take things SLOW. Don’t use sex as a means to an end. Instead be a man who plans for the future BUT also live for the moment. Be a man who starts a night of lovemaking without considering his own orgasm, but focus on securing a body-shaking climax for his lady. This is the type of men women would gladly die for.

Now achieving that kind of body-shaking, wild-screaming orgasms that most women crave for, will depend on how you build up the sexual tension. Savor each stage of lovemaking as if each phase can bring her to an orgasm (indeed it can!). Raw, passionate kissing that sets free a woman’s sexual inhibitions can bring her right to the edge of a climax. And so can the great prelude to intercourse – foreplay. Even a good dose of oral sex can give her mind-boggling orgasms that leave her breathless.

The key is to live for the moment and don’t let your focus waver away from her. Believe me, when you are able to do this, you will enjoy sex for its full glory and splendor, just like how a woman enjoys it. And when you finally reach your own orgasm, it will be more mind-blowing than anything else you have experienced before!

How To Stop Premature Ejaculation For Good – 3 Powerful Tips To Transform Your Sex Life (Tonight!)

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Who wants to know how to stop premature ejaculation once and for all? If you’re like most guys reading this, you probably want to know how you can last long enough to satisfy your woman in bed, don’t you? There is no need to feel let down by your lack of endurance in bed. All you need to do is to understand why you’re not lasting long enough and what you can do about it.

Primary Causes Of Premature Ejaculation (And What You Can Do About It)

There are certainly a good number of causes, but here are the more common ones:

#1 – Quick Masturbation: Well, are you surprised? You shouldn’t be. You see, guys are “wired” to ejaculate fast during masturbation. After all, it is our pleasure to want instant gratification. So it is very common for guys to climax in under a minute or two during masturbation. And when it comes to sex, our bodies are already conditioned to climax quickly.

So what is the solution? Well, easy! Take more time during masturbation. Don’t rush through it. When you feel you are about to climax, stop the routine and resume it when you feel you’ve tapered off a bit. This will consciously train you to last longer.

#2 – Performance Anxiety: Let’s face it, if you think you can’t perform in bed, chances are, you won’t perform. And you’re likely to ejaculate too soon. It’s a vicious cycle; the more stressed out and anxious you are, the more unlikely you’re able to control your orgasm.

So how can you get out of this rut? Simple. Practice some stress-relieving techniques at home. Meditation, yoga and deep breathing will help to a great extent. And while many guys overlook this, regular exercise is an excellent stress-reliever and will enhance your bed performance too!

#3 – Lacking Knowledge Of How Their Bodies Work: Quite simply, most guys don’t know how their bodies respond during sex and the triggers that cause them to ejaculate prematurely.

The solution to this? Understand your mental ejaculation triggers and use natural conditioning to enhance your mental threshold for stimulation. The great thing is that most guys already have this innate ability to control ejaculation.

For example, “edging” is a very effective masturbation technique to identify and progressively raise your ejaculatory threshold. This is where you bring yourself close to the edge of ejaculation, allow the arousal to subside, resume stimulation – and repeat for good measure!

Once you learn the natural conditioning techniques such as this, and put them into practice, you can easily curb or delay the ejaculation triggers and significantly increase your stamina in bed – for good!

Now, if you need a little extra help to last longer in bed TONIGHT, try out these quick fixes. They should give you a few extra minutes in bed!

Quick Fixes For Premature Ejaculation

Use Extra Lube

Contrary to common perception, extra lube can slow down your ejaculation. Why? This is because it will cause less friction between your penis and her vagina, thus reducing your pleasurable sensations and your sexual sensitivity. So put on that tube of lubricating gel nearby for that quick use!

Put On A Condom

Well, this is (almost) a no-brainer. Not only does using a condom make sex safer, it also helps to reduce sensation during sex – certainly a useful way to last longer in bed. For even better results, you can buy one of those specialty condoms or “climax control” types that will surely give you a boost in stamina in bed where you need it most!