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Phone Sex: How To Make It Totally Hot!

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Phone sex can be the key to keeping a long distance relationship from getting ice cold. Check out these tips to turn up the heat!

If you have a spouse who travels, phone sex can be just the trick to keeping the passion hot while they are living out of a hotel. Make an appointment to meet via phone before you go to bed so that you can use dirty talk and mutually masturbate. If you have to, write down some ideas ahead of time to get things started.

Don’t Be Afraid To Let The Fantasies Take Over

This is ‘fantasy time’ for both of you, since you obviously can’t be there to touch each other, so it’s perfectly okay to touch yourself. Set up the scenario and then just describe over the phone how you would want it to play out. Tell each other in great detail what you’re doing to your body and ask them to do the same.

Take your time. Good stories are worth the extra effort. Ladies, describe to him what you’re wearing and don’t be naked at the start of the call. He will want to hear you unbuttoning, unzipping and undressing. His imagination will paint the perfect picture if you tell him step by step what’s happening as you do it.

What To Say

Tell him you want to hear him undressing and to tell you every detail. Ladies, as you’re telling him you want to wrap your lips around his cock, ask him to stroke it and if he can look down and see you taking him in.

Men, when you tell her that you want to ease just the head of your penis into her wet and waiting vagina, ask her to take her fingers and pretend that it’s you. If you want to set aside a time for later that evening, start sending some emails or texts early in the day.

Here are a few examples of what you could say to get his attention:

“I get so wet when you call me – please call me!”

“When I get back home, I’m going to give you the most amazing blowjob of your life!”

“I’ve been sitting at this desk for hours, and the thought of you, here, bending me over – it is driving me crazy!!!”

“I can be 6 states away, but when I hear your voice on the phone my nipples get hard and I get wet, and warm you know where!”

“I can’t believe that here I am in San Diego in the middle of intense negotiations with these clients and all I can think about is having you under this conference room table, on all fours, lifting up my skirt.”

Did you know that when I’m in my hotel room and can’t get you off my mind, I masturbate? It’s true! Your name spills from my lips over and over again as I orgasm.

Use The Tools At Your Disposal

Home phones, office phones, hotel phones, cell phones are all game when it comes to a surprise call and some hot phone sex. Also, don’t be afraid of “inconvenient times” or being somewhere. Excuse yourself to the bathroom and make a game of how quiet and fast you can be! Be creative and open, and you will have lots of fun!

Q&A: First Time Sex – Is A Condom Enough?

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First time sex can be nerve wracking, even if you’re taking precautions. There are plenty of things to worry about when it comes to first time sex, such as pain, sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy. Safe sex is always important, but is using a condom all you need to do?

Question: My boyfriend and I are planning on having our first time soon, and we both said condoms are a must, I’m very pleased with that, but I’m still afraid it will break or rip or leak and I will become pregnant. So I’m trying to find out what the best brand is. Thickest perhaps? We want a latex condom for sure though. Is there any way to help settle my nerves so I can enjoy our first time?

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Is A Condom Enough?

If you want to practice safer sex, using a condom during intercourse is an absolute must. But is using a condom all you need to do? Planned Parenthood says that each year, 2 out of every 100 women who always use condoms correctly will become pregnant. They go on to say that each year, 15 out of 100 women who use condoms incorrectly will become pregnant. So what does it mean to use a condom correctly? Surprisingly, it takes a lot to put on a condom “correctly,” including washing your hands before, leaving enough space for the semen at the tip and taking it off correctly. Many people fail to do this when they’re passionate and in the heat of the moment. Condoms are a must, but they really aren’t enough – they are, however, a great first layer of defense.

Hormonal Birth Control

Many people choose to use hormonal birth control in addition to using condoms, especially for first time sex. There are many forms of birth control including the popular pill, the ring, the patch, injections and even implants that last for five years! There are lots of options, so be sure to talk with your doctor about the right options for you. Hormonal birth control does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases, so it’s important to continue using condoms if you’re with a partner who has not been tested or if you are not monogamous. Birth control will, however, significantly reduce your risk of an unplanned pregnancy, even more so if you use birth control and condoms together.

Barrier Methods

Barrier methods of birth control are often overlooked, simply because hormonal contraceptives are so popular. Some women can’t use hormonal birth control, so a barrier method is a great choice. You can use a barrier method in addition to condoms if you are unable to use birth control, or you can use a barrier method as yet another layer of defense against unplanned pregnancy. However, keep in mind that condoms are the only thing that help reduce your risk of contracting STD’s. Barrier methods include spermicide (available in gel, foam, suppository or a small, thin film that you can fold and place inside your vagina), as well as cervical caps and diaphragms which are usually available at your doctor’s office but may have to be specially made to fit you.

There Is Always A Small Chance

The only 100% effective form of birth control and STD prevention is abstinence. If you want to be absolutely, positively sure that you won’t get pregnant, consider abstinence. No method of birth control including condoms and barrier methods are 100% effective. Yes, they greatly reduce your risk of STD’s and pregnancy, but even with a double or triple layer defense, there is still a very tiny, very small chance that you could become pregnant or contract an STD.

Don’t assume that you are completely safe and fail to make plans if you should become pregnant. Have the conversation with yourself and your partner about what would happen if you did become pregnant. What would you do? How would you handle it? If you’re not ready to have this conversation in the event that your birth control fails, then you’re definitely not yet ready for first time sex. Dealing with the hard questions up front not only shows maturity, it also makes things easier for you later if something does actually happen – that way, you’re not completely unprepared. Recognizing the risk but taking as many precautions as possible and practicing safe sex is the best thing you can do if you want to make sex safer and reduce the risk of STD’s and unplanned pregnancy as much as you can.

 

Blowjob Troubleshooting: How To Erase Your Concerns And Love Giving Head!

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A blowjob is something almost every guy loves – but there are lots of things that keep women from going down there. Nix her fears and get great head TONIGHT!

You may or may not have noticed that a man generally does not enjoy interruptions during fellatio. Even if your partner is on the brink of orgasm and the fellatio is interrupted, it will probably take him a fair amount of time to build that excitement back up and get close to having an orgasm again. Fellatio is generally not a “pick up where you left off” sort of thing.

With that having been said, we think it is very important to have all of the items that you’re going to be using during the fellatio session handy so that any interruptions are short – and of course, keep interruptions to only those that are necessary to the fellatio session. Put on your voicemail or answering machine and shut the television off! Keep distractions minimal. Ladies, this is not just for your partner’s pleasure!

If you are truly seeking to give your partner an orgasm through fellatio and the fellatio is interrupted once or twice, that will keep you between his legs for that much longer and we’re going to be honest here – fellatio is a lot of work! If you stay completely focused on your partner and minimize all distractions, which is less time you spend developing a crick in your neck!

My Mouth Gets Tired/Sore

As with any unused muscle in your body, it will tire out when you first start regularly exercising it. Same holds true for bobbing up and down on your partner. Start with some sucking and switch to your hand in between time when your jaws start to get sore. You can also switch to intercourse while you begin to build up your time. Think of it like when you learned to hold your breath underwater as a kid. At first, you couldn’t stay down for more than a few seconds, but the more your practiced, the longer you lasted.

It Takes Too Long

The more you communicate about what he likes, the less time you may feel you are spending on just “sucking”. There are many ways to stimulate him by exploring his entire body with licks, sucks and hand stimulation. Knowing his trigger points and gauging his responses to what you try will allow you to target in on his favorites. Spending time on other sensitive parts of his body and utilizing some key dirty talk phrases will “prime his pump”, getting him so turned on that he might just explode within seconds of being in your mouth. Women usually take longer to orgasm orally than men, so a blow job shouldn’t be viewed as a “job” but more of a “joy” from the pleasure you’re providing. Check your mindset and the time will pass quickly as you realize how much he’s enjoying you focusing on him entirely.

It Smells Bad

Fellas, this section is for you! And there are only two simple rules:

If it’s dirty… wash it!

If it’s hairy … trim it or shave it! (sweat, etc. hangs on tighter with hair, than without).

Men, hear me out on this one. I’d like to suggest that you purchase some Summer’s Eve Feminine Body Wash. Though this product is marketed for a woman’s lower parts, I can attest to the fact that it does the trick on ANY lower body odor. Keep it in the shower and use it especially right before she goes down on you. So suck it up and go to the store and purchase some on the feminine product aisle. She will thank you with repeated visits if she isn’t hit in the face with a foul smell.

It Tastes Bad

Certain foods (garlic, asparagus, etc.) as well as smoking, etc. are reported as being transferred into the taste of a man’s semen. Pineapples, Melons and Cinnamon are a few things that can help improve the taste of semen.

Oral Sex: 10 Hot Spots You DON’T Want To Miss!

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Oral sex involves a woman’s entire vulva – here are ten areas that you don’t want to pass up when going down on your girl.

The Clitoris

The head of the clitoris is incredibly sensitive, hosting more than eight thousand nerve endings in its tiny package. When it becomes truly aroused, the hood, or prepuce, swells and covers the clitoris to protect it from too much stimulation. Both the head and the hood love strokes that are rhythmic yet gentle, although as a woman moves along towards climax, they can both handle a firmer touch.

Her G-Spot

A sensitive spot along the top of the vaginal wall, the G-Spot is a spongy bit of tissue that abuts a woman’s urethra, and is very pleasurable to the touch when rubbed or pressed during certain arousal periods. For the remainder of this series we’ll refer to this area as the G-Spot because it’s the more commonly used term, but try to think of it more as a general area than a small spot, as it can be quite expansive depending on the woman.

The Mons Pubis

The Mons Pubis is just on the outside of where the G-Spot can be found, and you’ll want to use this spot during your oral manipulations because tensions from both sides is really pleasurable. Imagine this whole area as a sandwich, where your hands are the bread (one inside, one outside) with both applying pressure to the ‘meat’ (G-Spot).

The Front Commissure

The super-tender spot just above the clitoral head covers the shaft and bulges out ever so slightly if you look or feel closely along this area, especially when a woman is excited. The Front Commissure is similar to the clitoris in that it likes softer tongue strokes initially during the first arousal phase, but then prefers a more firm touch, such as with a finger, flat tongue or lip, as the process continues.

The Frenulum

Just underneath the clitoris, on the other side of the Front Commissure, lays the Frenulum. It also likes a softer touch initially, with a firmer feel as time goes on. Most of a woman’s sexual pleasure is gained from this general area Front Commissure to Frenulum.

Her Labia

The smaller lips that surround the opening to a woman’s vagina are the Labia Minora, and they fill with blood the more excited a woman is, to the point where they can double in size. Light touches work best here, as when engorged with blood, they can be especially tender and sensitive.

The Vaginal Opening

The only part of the vagina that is visible to the naked eye likes light nibbles and long licks, but not a lot of tension or firmness.

The Fourchette

Found just after the vaginal opening closes, and where the Labia Majora and Minora meet, the Fourchette is best stimulated with tickles and very light rubbing.

Her Perineum

The space between the Fourchette and Anus is the Perineum (also known as the Taint), and is full of connective tissue and a network of pelvic muscles that lend themselves well to gentle pinches, tickles, licks and finger pressure, both from the inside and the outside of her body.

The Anus

The same network of muscles that help the perineum feel wonderful are in play with the anus as well, and this whole area contracts during orgasm too. Light touches and pressure are excellent here, but be sure to either use a finger cot to keep your hands clean, or wash your hands thoroughly before using those fingers elsewhere along her genital area, because the anus can harbor bacteria that isn’t friendly to the rest of her sexual experience.

Oral Sex: To Orgasm Or Not To Orgasm

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Oral sex is an excellent way to bring a woman to orgasm before intercourse. But she may not always want that – here’s how to tell.

She May Not Reach Orgasm

Although cunnilingus is quite possibly the easiest and most direct approach to getting your partner to reach orgasm, this may not necessarily happen. Don’t stress! Your partner will still enjoy your efforts a lot. As you become more and more experienced, your ability to bring her to orgasm will likely increase, possibly to the point where she orgasms every time you perform cunnilingus.

This is the part where it is important to pay attention to her sounds and movements as well as discussing with your partner what she likes best during cunnilingus.

Communicating With Her

If you’re not comfortable yet asking her directly about her likes and dislikes, if you pay attention to what she’s doing during cunnilingus you will most likely be able to figure out for yourself which movements bring down the house. Movements and sounds that will alert you to an impending orgasm is bucking and shuddering (particularly her legs) and she may be gasping for air or making a lot of noise or none at all. If you’ve ever given her an orgasm before (whether by cunnilingus or other means), you will more than likely be able to recognize when she is on the verge of a mind-bending big O.

Once you start receiving cues that your partner is feeling really good, continue licking and sucking her vulva in the same manner until her orgasm. You can, of course, do a few variations, but most of the fancy tongue movements are for the beginning when she’s really getting warmed up. Most women, like men, need repetition when they are close to bring them to orgasm.

If you and your partner are comfortable with talking to each other about cunnilingus, this can be of great help to a man. Men function best when given clear, direct instructions and if your partner is willing, she can tell you exactly what she likes, where she likes it and when to do it. In this way, she can take control of her pleasure while still experiencing the wonderful and exhilarating feelings of cunnilingus.

You can help her to be more open to expressing her likes and dislikes through conversation by asking her questions about what feels good. You can say in a hot, breathy voice onto her clitoris “Do you like that?” You will almost always be able to tell by the enthusiasm in her voice whether she truly likes the movements or not. And she may surprise you by just saying no!

Vary Your Techniques

If you sense that she does not like a movement, switch to something else and ask her if she likes that better. If nothing seems to be working, don’t get frustrated! If nothing is feeling good for her, she will be frustrated enough for the both of you! Ask her gently to suggest a movement that she would like more and you can even ask her to demonstrate what she would like on your mouth. Keeping the lines of communication open is essential to her experiencing an orgasm. It is possible that she won’t, however, no matter how hard you try.

If you find yourself in this situation, try to bring her to orgasm using a sure-fire method that you know will work, such as using your fingers or intercourse. You may want to have a list of questions ready to ask though, because she may not be able to give you a blow-by-blow of exactly what she wants. Think of some questions beforehand so you can ask (and be sure to ask her gently) what she would like – all you will need from her is a simple nod or shake of her head! This makes it much easier on her – she may not even know what she wants at this point and suggestions can help her figure out what strokes and techniques she likes the best. Some good questions to ask are:

  • Do you like this speed? Would you like me to go faster or slower? Just a little faster (or slower) or a lot?
  • Would you like me to continue moving or stop moving for just a moment? If you want me to stop, just give me the green light to go again.
  • Is this stroke good? Would you like me to continue using this technique? Let me know if you’d like me to change it up a bit.
  • Would you like harder or softer strokes, or do you like the pressure I am applying right now?
  • If this is not the right spot, I would like you to show me exactly where you would like me to move to.
  • Would you like me to move my tongue around in circles like this, or do you prefer another type of movement?
  • Do you like long tongue strokes or short ones?
  • Would you like me to use a little suction or possibly a little more pressure? Let me know what feels good to you or what would feel better.

She Will Still Enjoy What You’re Doing!

There will be times in which she doesn’t want to have an orgasm at all, but is simply enjoying your efforts. That’s fine, but it is also another reason why communication is so important. If she is not going to experience an orgasm, it is important that she tells you before you become frustrated as well. Don’t react harshly if she does tell you that she is not going to have an orgasm (or you sense that she is not) because you may turn her off cunnilingus entirely or at least for a while.

If you feel that her body wants to have an orgasm but for some reason it is just not happening (even if you’ve tried using your hands or intercourse) give her the freedom to masturbate finish her orgasm for herself. She may want you to watch or she may need privacy. This is, of course, the last resort, but if you find yourself in this situation a time or two, don’t be judgmental about it and just let her get her groove on.