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How To Surprise Your Man With Anal Sex And Make His Knees Weak!

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Anal sex isn’t something you and your guy have tried, although he probably wants to. Amaze him with it, and you’ll be fulfilling his deepest fantasies.

Are You Ready For Anal Sex?

You’ve thought about trying it with your guy, but aren’t sure how you feel about it. So before you do this for him, think about how anal sex will affect you. Are you scared it will hurt? Are you nervous about making a mess? Calm your fears by reading about things you can do to make your adventure to the backdoor safer and more comfortable for you.

Getting Ready

Start by masturbating with anal play a few times before trying it with your guy. Doing it alone for the first few times will not only help you get a leg up on the game before you’re expected to perform, it will also help you find out if this is really your cup of tea (and it may not be).

If you’ve never experimented with anal play before, don’t do any insertion at first. While you’re using your vibrator or your hand to massage your clitoris during masturbation, gently lay one finger next to your anus. Lightly rub it if it arouses you. Try different movements and see what feels best. Since you’re alone, you’re not worrying about what your partner is thinking or scared it will hurt. You’re in control here, so take advantage of it.

Beginning With Insertion

If you’ve made it this far and enjoy light anal stimulation while you’re masturbating, you’re ready to graduate to insertion. Start with your finger or a small butt plug and remember to use lots of lube. It will likely feel odd at first, so give your body time to relax and adjust. Another benefit to being alone is you have the freedom to react however you like, without being concerned about your partner’s thoughts and feelings about how you react.

Massage your anus with your finger or your sex toy, and allow the sphincter muscles to relax. This may take several minutes, so continue pleasuring yourself in other ways – this will help you relax even more. As you get continue to masturbate with anal play, you’re going to get more used to it – so when you finally do introduce it to your lover, he’ll be impressed how well you know your way around things!

Anal Sex With Your Partner

Tonight is the big night. You’re ready to surprise your lover with your new found passion for anal sex. Spend a few minutes by yourself first, with your favorite vibrator and a bottle of lube. Get yourself warmed up and work on relaxing your sphincter muscles.

After you’ve had plenty of foreplay and warm up time, let him penetrate your vagina a few times. Get your fill of it now, because you won’t want to switch back to vaginal sex after anal sex unless he’s wearing a condom (which is actually a very good idea for anal sex anyways) or he washes up first.

What you’re going to do is actually slip his penis in your anus without ever telling him you’re going to do it. This is, however, assuming that you’ve already confirmed with your partner that he’s into anal sex and is willing to try it. Don’t ever do this if your lover hasn’t consented first!

Make sure you’re either very wet or you’ve used a lot of lube. Part of the reason you massaged your anus before having sex with your partner is that you want to be ready for him to go right in – you want it to be a smooth transition and you want him to slide in easily, without effort. Make him believe you’re a pro! He’ll be shocked, and you’ll likely hear him gasp for air because of how tight you are – he wasn’t expecting it!

Tell Him How Much You Like It

So many guys finally get their girlfriends to try anal sex, only to be disappointed to end up with her shrinking away from him in pain. This is most likely due to men who fail to give their gals enough foreplay and warm up time, but c’est la vie. Show your guy how much you love it by grinding against him (if you can’t do this, you haven’t had enough time to relax) and tell him where and how to do it to turn you on. He’ll love that you suddenly turned into an anal sex pro seemingly overnight!

Getting To Know Your Girl’s Erogenous Zones

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Foreplay will make or break your lover’s orgasm. Learn your lover’s erogenous zones so you can work all the hot spots just the way she likes!

This may come as a shock to you but sex is really pretty boring IF you end up following a routine. So how do you avoid this? Don’t be afraid to use your imagination! That is why most people say that the brain – not the genitals – is the most important sex organ.

And when you use your imagination, it’s equally important to apply your ‘naughty thoughts’ on your woman’s erogenous zones. Erogenous zones are those unique places in her body that generate sexual arousal when stimulated. And so if you learn her erotic zones and apply your lustful imagination on them, you can make having sex with her a whole-body experience instead of just engaging in sex that’s limited to her genitals.

Erogenous zones are also important to use when you are giving her an erotic massage! So do you have any idea where your woman’s sweet sex spots are? Here’s a quick rundown of what they may likely be and what you can do to it during an erotic massage.

The Breasts

Ok, her breasts may not be a big erogenous zone secret for you but do you know how to handle them properly during a sexual massage? Most women find men too rough when it comes to fondling their breasts. And more so during sexual massage! So what do you do? First of all, remember that the goal of a sexual massage is to de-stress while heightening sexual desire. So the general rule is to handle her body with TLC.

When it comes to her breasts, this is what you should do during your sexual massage session: avoid putting your whole hand over her breast. Using your index fingers, lightly press on her nipples as you would press a sensitive buzzer. First use dry fingers, then lick your index fingers and push down again.

The fact that she does not feel anything except your index finger on her nipple will send shivers through her body! And because you’re not touching her anywhere else (avoid any other body contact), her body is still in total relaxation (while her mind is already advancing towards sex).

Now, after about 10 ‘finger presses,’ very lightly lick her nipple. Do not overdo this, just give her butterfly licks. After about 10 licks on each breast, stop and go to other hot zones.

The Armpit

Another erogenous zone is her armpit. Lick this during the massage and she will feel delirious and lustful! To make sure that this is not unpleasant for you, prepare a wet, hot towel before you start the sexual massage and use it to wipe her armpit before you start licking gently.

Do The “Dip”

From her upper torso, gently move towards sexually massaging her by doing “The Dip.” Put her arms above her head then position your arms under her shoulder (as if you were embracing her in bed). This position will ‘open’ her body to you. Breathe warmly against her collarbone, kiss the side of each breast and then position your tongue between her breasts.

From this position, lick her all the way down, passing her stomach, belly button, belly and then ending with a quick ‘dip’ in her vagina!

The Feet

This is the proper position when you start focusing on her feet: have her bend her knees and spread her legs a bit. This vulnerable position will already bring images of sex to her mind. You then kneel between her legs and lift one of her legs so that you can massage her foot. Put a lot of warm, massage oil on your hands and then slowly knead her feet. At the end of your massage, breathe against the sole of her feet. Your warm breath will both relax and sexually stimulate her.

Toes are often neglected erogenous zones! The proper way to sexually massage toes is this: clean off any oil on and between her toes with a soft, wet and warm towel. Hold her big toe, run your thumb against its sole (out a bit of pressure) and follow through with a quick like. Do this for each toe. The next step is to slowly and seductively suck each toe!

The Butt

Have your woman lie on her back. Put some warm oil on your hands and gently massage her ass, kneading lightly. After this, progress to kissing them and licking them. And then just when she’s so relaxed, comfortable or maybe even about to drift off, part her buttocks and lick her anus. This will send her a sexual charge like no other!

Proceed to licking her crack and when you notice that she’s getting too excited. Turn her over and let the love-making begin!

The fact that your bodies are both slick from the massage oil and glistening in the dark makes love-making even more exciting.

Erotic Massage – Why Women Love It (And Why You Need To Do It)

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Erotic massage takes your sex life from lackluster to hot, heavy and passionate. If you’re not giving your partner erotic massage often, here’s why you should.

Erotic Massage Touches A Woman’s Emotions

Every great experience we have in life contains a powerful emotional association. And in contrast, every boring experience has very little. The powerful experiences are the ones you can easily remember because they contained so much “charge” when they were created and so as a result, they stuck in your head as permanent memories.

The same holds true with any great sensual, sexual, and erotic experience. The more we can feel the emotional energy of it, the greater the electrical current will be and the greater the sense of satisfaction we will get from it.

Women are powerhouses when it comes to expressing and feeling emotions—it’s no secret. Their ability to so easily express emotions also allows them to have mind blowing multiple orgasms that have them going out of body with delight. And this can all be achieved through erotic massage and its power of sensual touch.

She Wants A Strong – But Caring – Partner

Women want a man who can be a protector. A man who can keep them safe and out of harms way. It’s hardwired in them. She also wants a man who can protect her from herself – emotionally that is. When you are able to do this for her, she will feel more strongly to surrendering her heart, body and soul to you.

Women love, need, and crave intimacy and affection from their partners. The more they feel and sense it from you, the more sexually open they will become, and the more they will surrender their hearts, bodies, and souls to you. Taking the time to connect with your partner and meet her needs builds trust and safety; two very crucial things that women need to be able to say, “I can relax because I trust that my man is going to keep me safe and take care of me.” When a woman feels this way about her partner, she is free to let go of her inhibitions and explore new things with her lover.

Establishing An Emotional Connection Through Erotic Massage

Massage in itself is a great way of establishing emotional connection. It gets us focused on bodily sensations and at the same time gets us out of the busyness of our minds. Also, when we touch each other in a loving way, our bodies release powerful hormones that further encourage our desire for intimacy and physical touch. One such hormone is oxytocin.

This mysterious hormone is known as the hormone of love and bonding and is most popularly recognized as “the cuddle hormone.” It is directly related to the bonding that occurs between mother and infant during the early stages of life after childbirth. It’s also responsible for creating strong and deep connections between men and women during the early stages of their relationships.

As mentioned earlier, this same hormone is released during massage. So in giving a massage, the more meaningful your touch, the better the entire experience will be for both you and your lover. The key to giving your partner a sensual and erotic massage is to really feel the joy and pleasure you are giving to your lover while massaging her.

Get A Massage Yourself!

A great way to thoroughly understand this concept is to go out and get a relaxing massage yourself before you give one to your woman. This will get you in touch with your own feelings of pleasure, joy, and satisfaction from which you will more easily be able to relate to with your woman. Another benefit of getting a massage is that you can take notes on various moves, techniques, and strokes, as well as what feels the best to you. Doing so will help you to recreate the same pleasurable experiences with your lover.

Massage is an excellent way of establishing the bonds of trust and safety women look for in their relationships with men. Women tend to feel emotionally safe when a man is emotionally available, honest, trustworthy and authentic in his being. These are ways in which she wants her man to be with her and express his love.

It’s all up to you, now. So may you go forth and discover the many pleasures of erotic massage with that special someone in your life and restore the intimacy back into your relationship!

4 Ways To Drive Your Girl CRAZY!

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Foreplay can get your woman so turned on, she’s ready to orgasm at a single touch. Check out these four foreplay tips that will make your partner wild!

I’m sure you love to touch your woman. Scratch that, you love to grope your woman. She is so soft and malleable and has these amazing thing called breasts! If it were up to you, you would grab and squeeze her breasts all day long. Settle down, hoss, it’s not as cool for her when you man handle her soft tissues.

That’s not to say that she doesn’t like it when you touch her. In fact, she loves it when you touch her. She’s just wants it a bit gentler most of the time, not to mention more variety. Below are some ideas for how to touch her that are slightly classier than the breast grab.

Feather Light Touch

Touch her as lightly as possible. This is also referred to as tickling, but I don’t want to give the impression that you should actually tickle her. Slowly run your finger tips all over her body. Barely touch her as you stroke her, and it will have all her nerve endings standing on end. You’re not limited to just your finger tips, you can use your lips, or even the head of your penis, for some added intimacy.

Touch Her With Different Objects

Find household objects you can use to stroke her with. Feathers and silk are the obvious choice, but feel free to be creative. It’s less about what you use, than it is how you use it. It could be a cork from the bottle of wine you just opened, or a pen, or even a credit card. Playing with temperatures is fun too. Rub her down with an ice cube ala 9 ½ Weeks. Whatever it is you use, if you oh-so-gently run it over her body, it becomes an erotic tool.

Use Body Tracing

Body tracing is a good way to get to know your partner’s hot spots. With this it doesn’t matter what stroke her with or how much pressure you use. The only rule is that you never lose contact. If you are tracing her collar bones, and you want to move down to her knees, you get their by running whatever you’re using to touch her with down the length of her body. She will be completely attuned to your touch, and you’re bound to find ticklish spots you never knew about before.

Communication Is Essential

How ever you go about stimulating your partner through touch, communicating with her is key. Whether it’s paying attention to her body language or asking her outright, she is the only one who can let you know what she likes. Don’t be afraid to seek her guidance, the only consequence is pleasuring her!

Are Your Friends Ruining Your Sex Life?

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Sex tips from your friends can actually be wreaking havoc on your sex life. Watch out for these three bogus sex tips – they’re likely not true.

Where did you learn about sex? Health class? Your dad? But where did you learn about having sex? A lot of your early knowledge of intercourse probably came from your buddies, especially the ones who claimed to be getting some. Bad news, friend, they were just as clueless as you were.

They too were relying on information from dudes who claimed to be having a bunch of sex and weren’t. Unfortunately for women everywhere, a lot of this locker room talk has no merit, yet sticks in the sexual psyche of the American male. Here are some things your buddies have bragged about, and shouldn’t have.

They Equate Penis Size With Sexual Prowess

Men seem to think that the bigger the penis the better. Guess what guys, size doesn’t matter – much. There are so many ways to pleasure a woman, and penetration is actually the least effective. Only 25% of women orgasm during intercourse. That doesn’t mean that 75% of men have tiny, unsatisfying penises, it just means that it’s difficult for women to cum during sex. So most of a woman’s climaxing happens during what you consider “foreplay,” which happens before your penis even touches her.

They Went Down On A Girl For Like, “Two Hours”

This one even he may actually believe. When a man realizes a woman is going to let him stick his penis in her, every second leading up to that desirous act feels like an hour. It’s not. Most men also think that performing oral sex on a woman is just something you do to get her wet enough to handle your impressive member. Not true.

What you consider foreplay is, to her, part of the sexual experience as a whole. Instead of rushing through it so you can get to the “actual sex part,” keep yourself tuned into her responses. Pleasing her can be pleasing yourself. And remember, women aren’t one-hit-and-quit like men when it comes to orgasms. So if you start the orgasm train early, she will definitely be impressed.

They Brag About How Long They Can Last

Let’s put this to bed once and for all. Gentlemen, women do not want a man who can penetrate her continuously over the course of several hours. The genital area is home to some extremely delicate tissue, and the body can only produce so much lubrication. This is not to say that women don’t like sexual acts that last over the course of several hours.

For a woman, sex begins the minute the decision is made to have the sex. This kissing, the caressing, and the dirty talk are as important to her as the penetration itself. If you allow yourself to be a part of that, you may be surprised at how intense the sexual experience can be for the both of you!