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5 Easy Ways to Make This Valentine’s Day Sizzle

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Do you want to just meet your partner’s expectations on Valentine’s Day, or do you want to make this a Valentine’s Day they will never forget?

Let’s start by defining ‘romance’. This may sound easy, but just ask a few different people and you’ll get as many answers as the number of people you ask. Is it something to do with love? Is it togetherness and spending time together?

From my perspective, romance is a celebration of the life you live together. Romance is not responsibility but it is truly caring about your responsibilities towards your lover and partner. Romance is the appreciation of two people who are celebrating the love that they share with one another.

How do you make this an incredibly romantic Valentine’s Day?

Here are 5 tips to make your Valentine’s Day sizzle.

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7 Blowjob Tips That Will Leave Him Reeling

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Oral sex is one of the greatest sexual gifts you can give a guy, because they absolutely love it. Some men even prefer oral sex to any other type of sex, including anal sex and vaginal intercourse! If you’re going to give your man head, you’re definitely going to want to make it special. Here’s how to give your man a blowjob that he’ll never forget.

Go Super Slow

A lot of women try to rush through a blowjob, or just go fast because they think that the faster they suck on their partner’s penis, the quicker he’s going to reach orgasm. This is actually quite far from the truth – lots of men actually enjoy slower blowjobs. They love the feeling of your mouth on their member, and they want to feel every movement. Suck on your partner’s member slowly, while covering your teeth with your lips. Swirl your tongue over the head of his member and don’t think that you can go too slow. If you’re really showing your lover that you’re savoring the blowjob, he’ll never want you to stop.

Flick Your Tongue Over His Urethra

As you’re licking the head of your lover’s penis, slowly flick your tongue over the tip of the penis on the urethra. If your guy seems really into the blowjob, you can also try lightly poking your tongue down into his urethra. There are tons of sensitive nerve endings around the opening of his member, so slowly licking and sucking in that area will definitely send shivers down his spine.

Hold The Base Of His Penis Tightly

Once you’ve given him an erection, take your thumb and your forefinger and tightly grasp the base of his penis. This acts like a cock ring and keeps the blood in the shaft during oral sex. This will help keep him rock hard and feeling every single thing you’re doing, even the lightest sweeps of your tongue. It will also help you steady his shaft and help you give a more coordinated blowjob. You’re also going to

Rub His Penis Underneath A Sheet

Before you get started, you may want to tease him a little bit first and get him hard and ready for what is to come. You can really get him turned on by having him lie naked on the bed underneath a sheet. Make sure your sheets are nice and soft, with either a high thread count or made from soft t-shirt material. Lightly stroke his member with your hand over the fabric and his genitals underneath it.

He’ll love the naughty feel of your hand over the sheet and you’ll really enjoy feeling his shaft get harder and harder under the fabric. Switch between soft and hard strokes, and don’t forget to let your hand wander over his thighs and scrotum too. You can also switch from rubbing him with your hand over the sheet to slipping your hand underneath and touching the skin of his genitals. Make this foreplay last until he can’t stand it anymore, and then slip the sheet back to give your man head.

Learn To Deep Throat

Men love deep throating – there’s just no doubt about it. They absolutely adore the feeling of their penis in your hot, wet mouth and when you deep throat, your man gets to feel your whole mouth and throat tightly enclosing his member. If you have trouble gagging while deep throating, practice a little each time you give your guy oral sex. Even if you can only deep throat one thrust before bringing his member out of your throat, you can make progress. Remember to breathe through your nose and relax your throat muscles. Focus on thinking about not gagging and know that practice makes perfect!

Switch Between A Blowjob And A Handjob

You can tease and titillate your partner by switching between giving him oral sex and a handjob. This requires your hands to be wet also, so either make sure you’re producing lots of saliva or use a flavored lube to make sure things are smooth and slick. When switching, bring your hand up and make it an extension of your mouth.

Then, as you move your hand up and down, slowly take your mouth off the head of your partner’s penis and just keep moving your hand. This gives you a break too (and allows you to go down on him longer without getting as tired) and when you’re ready to switch back to giving him a blowjob, just move your hand and go for it!

Suck The Head Of His Penis

When you sense that your lover is really into what you’re doing, stop and suck the head of his penis firmly. This is usually a good move to do right before you start giving him a handjob, after you’ve brought your hand up and are stroking his shaft or holding the base of his shaft tightly. You can also flick the tip of your tongue firmly over the head of his member and after all the teasing you’ve already been doing, this sultry move is likely to make his legs start shaking!

5 Tips For Kinky Sex On Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day and kinky sex are a perfect match for each other. On a day full of romance, love and sexy fun, just about anything goes. Whether you’re into vanilla sex or you like something a little darker, this is the time to really let your inhibitions go and have mind blowing sex! If you’ve never tried kinky sex – or have but want to try something new and different, February 14th is definitely the day to do it.  Here are 5 tips that will help get you started!

1. Invest In A Good Bondage Rope

Tying your partner up and having your way with them (or vice versa) is a great way to experiment with kinky sex on Valentine’s Day. However, if you’re tempted to just scare up some rope out of the garage, you’re in for a disappointment – or worse – severe rope burns. If you want to experiment with bondage, it is definitely in your best interest to invest in some good rope that is made for bondage. There are lots of different styles of rope available, ranging from synthetic materials in a variety of braid patterns to all natural hemp rope. Japanese bondage rope is a favorite among BDSM fans because of its softness, durability and comfort.

2. Try Anal Sex

If you’re open to the idea of anal sex, Valentine’s Day is a great day to try it for the first time. Lots of people – both men and women – enjoy the feeling of anal sex not only because it stimulates nerves and pleasure points that vaginal intercourse can’t reach, but also because it’s considered “naughty” or “taboo.” If you’re a first-timer, start small and work your way up. Don’t jump right into kinky sex through the back door without having experimented with either fingers or small sex toys first – if you do, you’ll be sorry. If you use sex toys for anal play, make sure they have a wide, flared base at the bottom (or a ring). This will prevent the object from getting lost inside (yes, that can happen). Don’t forget to use lots and lots of good, water based lube and never a desensitizing lube.

3. Dirty Talk

For vanilla sex lovers who just aren’t into kinky sex but want to try something a little on the wild side, dirty talk is right up your alley for Valentine’s Day. Dirty talk is a great way to let your inhibitions go with your partner – and also let them know what you want and what you like sexually! If you’re shy, practice talking dirty before you actually hop in the bed with your lover. You can practice dirty talk in front of a mirror to yourself, or simply imagine what you might say and how you might say it. If you lock up during sex and can’t seem to get a word out, simply try describing what your partner is doing (and how much you like it) or tell them what you’re going to do (and how much you like it). You get the idea.

4. Watch Porn Together

Porn comes in just about every flavor – whether you like it soft, hard, vanilla or straight up dark chocolate. If you’re too shy to try kinky sex for real this Valentine’s Day, watch a porn with your partner that showcases what you think is hot and what you might like to try. You never know, you just might get in the mood to do something a little freaky after the movie is over! Communicate with your partner beforehand about what they like and don’t like, so you can make sure you get something that is acceptable for both of you. If you’re not sure what you want to try, visit a free porn site like YouPorn and watch a few different videos until you and your partner find something that entices both of you.

5. Adding Sex Toys Into The Mix

If the bottom drawer in your bedroom nightstand is pretty empty, consider filling it with a few choice sex toys this Valentine’s Day. Sex toys are a great way to enter the foray of kinky sex, and most women are familiar with at least the standard vibrator. Choose a sex toy that just slightly outside your own personal box for something new and exciting. Love anal sex? Try anal beads or a prostate massager. Like getting your nipples pinched during oral sex? Try vibrating nipple clamps for some hands free fun. Use your creativity and choose a few sex toys that you’ve been thinking about trying but haven’t had the guts to do it yet.

10 Things You DIDN’T Know About SEX!

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Sex is pretty cut and dry, right? Wrong! There are tons of things about getting it on that you probably don’t know – are YOU savvy when it comes to sex – or not?

1. You And Your Partner Can Be A “Mismatch”

A penis doesn’t always fit into a vagina perfectly. Yes, they’re generally “made to fit together,” but that doesn’t always happen. Sometimes, a man can be much smaller than a woman, resulting in reduced pleasure for both of them because his penis is too small to stimulate the walls of his partner’s vagina.

Also, a man can be too large for a woman, resulting in pain or discomfort for her. A vagina is made to stretch, but there’s only so much length in there. A vagina will double in length when a woman is aroused (from about 4″ long to about 8″) but there are still some men who are substantially larger than this.

2. A Woman’s Orgasms Can (And Will) Outnumber A Man’s

It’s no secret that women can have multiple orgasms. But did you know that it’s possible for a girl to have a pretty much unlimited number of climaxes? That’s right. Most men have one and they’re extremely lucky to get two, but that’s pretty rare even for the pros.

However, a girl can climax again and again during sex, simply because she never goes all the way back down to square one after she reaches orgasm, unless she stops all pleasure completely and waits for her “oven to cool off,” so to speak. The female orgasm is similar to an oven, where it takes quite some time to warm up and reach temperature, but also a significant amount of time to cool down. While the oven is “hot,” she can climax over and over!

3. Confidence Will Make You Look Sexier

Confidence matters much, much more than what you look like or anything you wear. Both women and men become instantly more attractive when the show a good amount of confidence in themselves, because frankly, a low self esteem isn’t very becoming on anyone.

Forget about donning the lingerie for sex – just go in and strut your stuff. Care less about your cellulite or stray body hairs and care more about awesome foreplay and incredible orgasms. Have confidence in not only your hotness, but also your ability to please your partner and experience pleasure yourself.

4. Regular Sex Will Improve Your Immune System

During sex, our bodies release a antibody called immunoglobulin-A, which can help fight off illnesses like the flu or the common cold. Regular sex can produce quite a bit of this antibody, which can help you stay healthier during cold and flu season. Did you really need another reason to snuggle up when it’s cold outside and get it on?

5. Women Fall Asleep After Sex Too

That is, if the sex was any good. If a woman is really and truly satisfied after sex (after having one or more orgasms), then she’s going to be dog tired too. It’s true that men get the bad rap for falling asleep after sex when the girls just want to talk or cuddle, but if the nookie really was that stellar, both parties are going to be out like a light in minutes.

6. Sex Is Better In Long Term Relationships

While casual sex is fun in and of itself, sex can get REALLY hot in a long term relationship or a marriage. Sure, you’ve heard the opposite, that the desire begins to wane after you’ve been with someone for a significant period of time. This, however, isn’t always the case.

Sex in a long term relationship can be super hot if you make it that way! Monogamy tends to create a feeling of safety and comfort between two people, where new and exciting fantasies can be tried without the fear of judgement or criticism. Basically, you can start doing those things you always fantasized about, but would never tell someone you just met.

7. Orgasms Relieve Menstrual Cramps In Women

Most women don’t want to have sex on their periods, but it can actually be very beneficial if you can get over the “yuck” factor. Just lay a towel down and hop in the shower afterwards. Believe it or not, a good orgasm can produce enough endorphins to help relieve menstrual cramps better than over the counter pain medicine.

Also, during an orgasm, the uterus will contract, helping to shed more of the inner lining at once. Getting the lining out quicker, so to speak, will help your period become shorter and lighter in the coming days.

8. Medications Can Be Responsible For A Lowered Sex Drive

If you have experienced a dip in your sex drive (or your partner has), take a look at what’s inside your medicine cabinet. Anti-depressants and anti-psychotics are notorious for causing both men and women to desire sex less. Other medications for blood pressure, diabetes and more can cause a decreased libido as well. If you’re struggling with your sexual desire and you take any kind of medications, you may want to check with your doctor about a change in meds. Never switch medications or stop them without your doctor’s clearance first.

9. Men Only Ejaculate About A Teaspoon – But Girls Can Ejaculate Much More!

When a man ejaculates, it may seem like a lot of fluid is coming out because it comes out in so many spurts. However, a man really will only ejaculate about a teaspoon of semen, give or take a little. Women can ejaculate also, but they can ejaculate much, much more than just a teaspoon of fluid! It takes some practice and some women are never able to do it, but many girls can ejaculate LOTS of fluid during sex or masturbation. That’s why they call it “squirting!”

10. It’s Normal To Have “Strange” Sex Fantasies

If you think your sex fantasies are weird, or no one else has them and you’re just a freak, think again! There are SO many sexual fantasies out there in almost every flavor you can imagine (and some that would never cross your mind).

Rest assured that odds are, someone else out there likes what you like sexually, regardless of how strange it might seem. It’s also completely normal for odd sexual things to flit across your mind now and then, even if you would never, ever consider doing something like that in real life.

5 Sex Tips For Married Couples

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Fact or Myth: Married couples have 25% to 300% MORE sex than their single counterparts depending on age.

Believe it or not – that’s a fact! Contrary to popular belief, married couples actually have quite a bit of sex! So why are all the married couples trying to improve their sex lives? That’s because it’s about quality, not quantity. Married couples often have less satisfying sex than their single counterparts because things simply get boring. Here’s how to make all that married sex count!

  • Make Time For Great Sex. Sure, you’ve heard it before. You might be thinking, “Not bloody likely!” But with the every day demands that we face, such as work and children, sex with our spouses often gets put on the back burner. Well, you’re going to have to make time for sex if you want a better, more satisfying sex life. And not a quickie – chances are, that’s what you’re already doing. Make time for good sex.
  • Resolve Your Conflicts. Every married couple has conflicts. But when you and your spouse argue outside the bedroom, those feelings of anger, hurt and frustration often get carried into the bedroom. These feelings can affect your sex life in numerous significant ways. Spouses who have regular conflicts with each other don’t feel as emotionally close to their partners, making it difficult to totally open yourself to great sex. Resolving your conflicts with each other before getting busy can help you to feel emotionally and physically open to your partner, often resulting in mind blowing sex!
  • Exercise Together. Exercise is a great boost for the libido, and exercising together? Even better. Not only do you get to spend time with your spouse that you ordinarly may not have been able to do, you also get to see them all hot and sweaty…well, you get the picture. In addition to the sexy, sweaty fun, exercising regularly (and eating a healthy, nutritious diet) will help keep you fit and attractive to your spouse.
  • Flirt With Each Other. Remember when you and your spouse first started dating? There was lots of flirting going on, and neither you nor your partner were sure what was going to happen next. That fun, exciting feeling of having no idea of their next move often gets lost when you get married, mainly because you know exactly what is going to happen next. You can improve your sex life by bringing that flirty, fun feeling back into your relationship. Go to a bar with your spouse and exchange some witty banter and see where it heads.
  • Be Completely Spontaneous. For the same reason flirting can often revv up the quality of sex in a marriage, so can a healthy level of spontaneity. Instead of going home for the night, just keep driving and see where it leads you. Surprise your spouse with a hot hotel room for the weekend, or wear a new, sexy pair of undies. If you usually wear boxers or panties, try wearing a string bikini or a thong. It doesn’t matter what you do, just be creative and break out of the norm. Surprise your partner with something totally unexpected, even if it’s something small.