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Erotic Massage: How To Make It REALLY Special

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Erotic massage is one of the best ways to seduce a woman and get her turned on for sex. Here’s how you can give your lover an erotic massage that is incredible.

It’s no big secret that women like to be touched. They love the feeling of comfort it provides. Which is why, if you want to please a woman, you should never underestimate the power of the sensual massage. The strokes of your hand will both relax and entice her. By the end, she will have a clear mind and be focused completely on you – as long as you create an inviting ambiance. This is a step-by-step guide to help you understand the basics of sensual massage.

Set The Mood

If it is too cold or too bright, it will not be soothing to her. Dim the lights or light aromatherapy candles. For an extra soothing sensation, put on some soft music. I personally recommend some Al Green, but definitely choose music she likes. If you’re not sure, nature sounds or ambient noise CD’s are a good alternative. Make sure it’s nice and warm in the room, or she won’t want to get naked!

Lube Up

Not lube in the way you’re thinking. Apply a creamy lotion or oil to your palms before you start rubbing her down. It will allow your hands to glide across her skin more smoothly. Get something special that you only use for this purpose, and get it in a yummy flavor so you can lick it off of her later. The aroma of it will tingle her senses, heightening her experience as well.

Master Your Strokes

Don’t press too hard, you are her sexual partner, not her athletic trainer. You don’t need to beat out tight spots or loosen up joints; you want to relax the poor girl. Slow and steady strokes are key. Avoid loosing physical contact during the massage. It agitates the senses, which is counter productive to what you’re trying to accomplish.

Don’t Play Favorites

If you rub down one arm, you must rub down the other. Giving all of your attention to one part of the body makes her feel unbalanced and uneasy. Additionally, don’t do her right side and then her left. If you massage her right arm, do her left arm before moving on to her right leg and then her left. This applies not only to sensual massage, but to any intimate situation. If you suck on her left nipple, make sure you give attention to her right one. Conversely, if you spend time on her lower half, make sure you kiss her on her upper half to help balance it out.

Double Her Desire Review

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If your sex life is in a rut, Double Her Desire is an incredibly useful guide for getting your sex life back on track so both you and your lover can experience the level sexual intimacy and satisfaction that you were meant to. While guys who are looking to simply become a better lover can definitely make use of some of the tips and techniques in Double Her Desire, this guide is really going to be handy for men who are in serious, monogamous relationships and want to not only increase their lover’s sexual attraction towards them but also enrich their relationship.

The Good

As all of Gabrielle Moore’s books are, Double Her Desire is well organized and easy to read. This is important when looking for an information guide, because many times people tend to skim over headlines and choose the information they want, or they will want to quickly reference back to something once they’ve read the whole thing. With Double Her Desire, it is easy to do both. There is plenty of information covered here, and men who read and study this guide thoroughly will walk away with better skills and an increased understanding about women and their sexual needs as well as the needs of a woman within a long term, serious relationship.

The Bad

Double Her Desire is not quite as visually intriguing or as interactive as Gabrielle’s book Turn Her On Faster. There aren’t any quizzes or interactive questions, however, the information is still presented in a clear and concise manner. There is more on understanding female desire and how important communication is when seducing a woman than there is on techniques – this does, in essence, make it the perfect complement to Turn Her On Faster because Double Her Desire makes up for what Turn Her On Faster lacks and vice versa.

The Bottom Line

Double Her Desire is an excellent guide on how female desire works, and how a man can use certain techniques to his advantage to increase his partner’s sexual feelings towards him. While this guide will give you some excellent pointers and definitely steer you in the right direction when it comes to becoming a master of creating female sexual desire, it’s a better complement to Turn Her On Faster – another guide by Gabrielle Moore that goes more in detail about seduction and foreplay. If you truly want to know all there is to know about how to turn a woman on and get her so horny you have to change the sheets afterwards, get your copy of Double Her Desire and Turn Her On Faster TODAY!

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What You’ll Learn In Double Her Desire:

  • The many reasons women lose interest in sex – does your partner fall into one of these categories?
  • How sexual desire differs between men and women
  • How and why ALL relationship problems will eventually end up in the bedroom
  • How to deal with a woman that has a negative body image
  • How to beat your lover’s feelings of sexual inadequacy
  • What to do about painful sex, vaginal dryness and low testosterone levels
  • The four stages of female arousal
  • How the female genitalia actually works

Module 1: Understanding Female Arousal

There are three modules in Double Her Desire, each one with it’s own specific agenda. The first module covers female arousal in depth, from why sex was great in the beginning of your relationship to what caused your lover to lose interest in having sex with you to how to create an afterglow after sex instead of resentment. Some men may be tempted to skip this section to get right to the tips and techniques, but there is lots of useful information in the first module that will help you know how and when to apply the techniques you learn later in the course.

Module 2: Communication

The second module focuses almost solely on communication and its importance in a relationship. This is again, a module that many guys are going to want to skip (who wants to learn about communication when you’re trying to learn how to use foreplay tips to your partner so hot she’s begging for you?) but you really, really shouldn’t. Women communicate much more than men, and if a guy really wants to get his partner turned on, he’s going to have to do things her way. Which means learning how to communicate. Great communication will make a woman feel much more sensitive and loving towards her partner, especially when her emotional needs are being met. This leads to almost instant arousal later!

Module 3: Techniques

Yes, the third and final module is where you’ll find all of your deliciously naughty, wetness inducing techniques. Don’t skip ahead to this module! Go through modules 1 and 2 first, and when you get to the 3rd one, you’ll be ready to apply the techniques you’re going to learn. In this module, you’ll learn:

  • The five hottest, most desired sex positions
  • Ten oral sex tips to make her quiver
  • Common foreplay mistakes that all men make but YOU will avoid
  • How to overcome performance problems

Bonus Guide: Shower Sex Games

Also included in the Double Her Desire package is the bonus guide Shower Sex Games. This little book is an excellent companion to your new found skills in the sack, because eventually, you’re going to want to take sex out of the bedroom and get a little more exciting! The shower is the next best place to go, because what is better than seeing your lover slippery, wet, soapy and naked?

The three games in this fun and exciting bonus guide will get you thinking about the many different ways you can get creative with wet n’ wild shower sex!

Double Her Desire is a great information package for men who want to become masters at arousing their female partners, but this guide is an even better complement to Gabrielle’s Turn Her On Faster guide.

Turn Her On Faster Review

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Did you know that 15% of married couples have not had sex in the last 6 months to a year?

Did you know that 90% of women prefer spontaneous sex over planned intimacy?

Turn Her On Faster boasts some very interesting and enlightening facts about sex in a long term relationship or marriage. While dating casanovas will find this book handy too, it’s really written for the man in the steady relationship who wants to experience the best sex possible with someone he completely loves and trusts. From initiating sex to oral sex positions and dirty talk, Turn Her On Faster shows you exactly what to do to make your partner weak in the knees.

The Good

Turn Her On Faster is an incredibly well put together guide. Available in both vertical and horizontal formats, each section is well organized and easy to read. In fact, this may very well be one of the most visually engaging and well put together e-books on the market today. There are many different aspects to what turns on a woman, and Turn Her On Faster doesn’t miss a one of them.

Guys who truly want to learn how to rock a girl’s world through foreplay will find this guide absolutely indispensable. One of the best features is the quiz at the end of each chapter – men who want to get the most out of this book will enjoy writing the answers to these questions and exploring their own feelings about the different aspects of foreplay and female arousal.

The Bad

Honestly, there is not much bad to say at all about Turn Her On Faster. It’s a comprehensive guide that goes over everything that is important if you want to have great foreplay with your lover. Guys who were expecting a “cheat sheet” that would give them a three step formula for giving women wild orgasms aren’t going to find it here – there are many facets to turning a woman on before sex and Turn Her On Faster goes over all of them. Reading and fully understanding this guide is definitely something that won’t happen overnight – but it is so worth the time spent studying it.

The Bottom Line

Turn Her On Faster is one of the best “female arousal” books out there. Gabrielle Moore has a way of introducing important information in a way that is easy to understand, without skimping on essential need to know facts. A quick glimpse through this guide will definitely give you some handy pointers, while an in depth read will turn you into the king of foreplay! You’ll learn step by step how to seduce and arouse your lover through mental, emotional and physical stimulation. If you want to sweep your lover off her feet and give her the most romantic, intimate, sensual and INCREDIBLE sex she’s ever had, Turn Her On Faster is THE guide you want to get.

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What You’ll Learn In Turn Her On Faster:

  • How to BREAK OUT of your current boring sex routine
  • New sex initiation techniques that will make her WANT you like never before
  • How to simply ask for sex – and get it!
  • How to be in the moment
  • The importance of taking your time during foreplay
  • How stress can contribute to thwarted passion in the bedroom
  • How to share your sexual fantasies with your lover – and get her to share hers with you
  • Why you CAN’T tell how turned on she is by how wet she is
  • How to get your lover to want to give YOU oral sex!

Bodymapping

The art of bodymapping allows you to discover the hot spots that are unique to your partner – because every woman is different. Some of the things that turn one women on will turn another on, but not all of them. The same goes for turn-offs – there are some general turn offs that apply to most women, but each woman has her own unique set of turn ons and turn offs. Bodymapping allows you to “map” where your lover’s erogenous zones are, so you can create your own custom foreplay plan. Turn Her On Faster features a well fleshed out section on bodymapping, so you can fully understand how to do it and how to use the results to your advantage when you start seducing your lover.

Kissing

In Turn Her On Faster, you’ll learn how to kiss a woman in such a way that her knees will turn to jelly and she’ll do anything you want! This section includes easy to follow, step by step instructions that will make you the kissing expert your lover never thought you could be!

Breasts

Something that is completely unique to Turn Her On Faster is it’s short but very effective guide on breast stimulation. Many foreplayinstruction products out there assume that all women’s breasts are the same and can be stimulated the same way. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Gabrielle Moore goes into detail about how to stimulate each type of breast, including large ones, small ones, droopy ones and fake ones. What your partner’s anatomy is like will dictate which breast stimulation techniques will feel best to her.

What Else You’ll Get In Turn Her On Faster:

  • Several different oral sex positions you can use to spice things up
  • Lots of polls that let you know what the majority of what other couples say about topics like watching porn, public sex and threesomes
  • What a woman’s body does when she’s aroused, so you know when to make your next move
  • How to use food to seduce your lover (this section is organized by seasonal foods)
  • How to prevent premature ejaculation during extended foreplay sessions

All in all, if you want to learn how to seduce your female partner and get her so wet and ready for sex that she’s BEGGING you to take her, Turn Her On Faster is your must have guide. It’s organized and easy enough to understand that even guys who don’t want to go trudging through a ton of written information to learn how to make their girl melt will enjoy reading and learning about how to be a foreplay master.

How To Kiss Her The RIGHT Way

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Learning how to kiss isn’t something that happens immediately. It takes time and practice – here’s how to kiss a woman and make her melt!

Women put a lot of stock into a kiss. The way you kiss her can make or break her feelings for you. An unsure attraction can be solidified with a passionate lip lock, or a woman can lose all attraction for you if the kiss is lame. Here are some tips to help ensure a good reaction.

Set The Mood

The necessity for mood setting varies with circumstance. If you’ve been together for a long time, and you’re just sneaking a peck in the kitchen, you certainly don’t need to go to romantic lengths before you go in. However, if it’s a first kiss, or a kiss that you’re hoping with lead to more physical activity, you need some lead in.

It doesn’t have to involve scented candles and Barry White, but you also don’t want to catch her off guard. It can be as simple as looking into her eyes. Also, make some sort of preliminary physical contact – lightly stroke her cheek or push the hair out of her face. Whatever it is, make it a loving gesture. Avoid touching any of her private areas before she’s comfortable.

Relax!

Nothing kills the mood like a stiff lipped kiss. It causes the kiss to feel awkward, interrupting the feeling of intimacy you’ve set. If the kiss feels awkward, then you feel awkward to her. Awkward equals insecure. You will be hard pressed to find a woman who wants a man who is so uncomfortable with himself he can’t even enjoy a kiss. You must relax! Take all worries about your worthiness out of your head. She wouldn’t be allowing your lips on hers if she thought you were some schlep, so don’t convince her otherwise.

But Don’t Relax Too Much

Limp lips lack strength, and you don’t want to look weak. I know, I know, where’s the fine line? A good indication is the drool. There should be enough tension to keep the spit in your mouth. She should not be drowning in your saliva! If you keep your eyes closed and allow yourself to experience the kiss, you should be able to gauge the tension.

Check Your Tongue

The number one way to look like an amateur is to lead with the tongue. She wants to kiss you, not taste your dinner. It’s also too overtly sexual. When you’re getting hot and heavy, you can certainly enjoy some tonsil hockey, but immediate tongue action will make her feel objectified. Not that you have to keep it completely recoiled, a few quick licks of her parted lips will give her a thrill.

Put Your Boner Away

Putting your lips on a woman that you find sexually attractive gets you hot. You’re a man; it’s not difficult to get you aroused. However, if you start grabbing boobs and rubbing a hard penis on her leg, you’ll be going home with your right hand tonight.

Deliciously Steamy Foreplay Moves To Use On Your Girl TONIGHT!

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Foreplay is an incredible way to make sex hotter than it ever has been before. So, you want to take the initiative this time and want to surprise your girlfriend, wife or lover with your foreplay skills. But then again, you realize that foreplay hasn’t been your ‘thing’ lately and you’re not sure what to do.

Sometimes, foreplay can be a disaster if you don’t know what you’re doing. For instance, you may have seen movies where he ‘tweaks’ her nipples HARD. Well guys, you know what? That HURTS and you’re not really arousing her that way. So to guide your naughty thoughts, take heed of my foreplay tips below!

Don’t Forget The Neck

Often, guys think of foreplay as ‘kissing’ and making love as ‘having sex.’ Sorry guys, that’s way too simple for us girls. So during foreplay, don’t just kiss her thoroughly, pay attention too to other female body parts such as her neck, arms, legs, and even her feet. Alternate between kissing, licking and nibbling these areas and she’ll be putty in your hands in no time.

Engage Her Mentally

Mentally ‘sex her up.’ It’s a fact. Guys go for visual stuff while women like to be mentally put ‘in the mood.’ So if you’re planning for some hot sex tonight, start foreplay early during the day so she’s already in the mood by the time you reach for her at home.

For example, if you guys are standing on line for something, get close to her and whisper something REALLY DIRRRTY into her ear! Important: paint her a picture in her head. So don’t just say “I’m going to have sex with you tonight.” Instead, say “You know babe, I’m horny now so when we get back home, I will lick your clitoris so good that….” I think you get my drift by now.

Rub Up Against Her

Dry hump her. In its most generic sense, foreplay is all about ‘increasing the sexual tension’ so that you and your partner are uber-primed for the sexual act itself. Well, what’s more arousing than imitating intercourse movements (humping) than doing it with clothes on! Preferably, do this in a public place or in a club. Basically, do it where you cannot proceed to doing intercourse. This way, you guys will be h-h-hot for sex later!

Slow Dance Butt Naked

Ok, this time foreplay without clothes! You can just be half-dressed or completely naked for this one. Put on some slow and/or lusty music, dim the lights, light some candles, take some or all of your clothes off and start swaying to the music. Remember that the trick here is to dance close to her body so that she can feel your erection against her. Hot!

Go “Under The Table”

I just love sharing experiences from subscribers and here’s another one. One time, while Jill (name changed for privacy) and her husband were having dinner, they were getting a bit naughty and started to ‘play footsie’ under the table. This then proceeded to her fully extending her leg and with her foot, she started playing with his penis through his pants. What happened next shocked her – without warning, he went under the table, spread her legs, pulled down her shorts and tongued her! Jill swears the foreplay and the suddenness of his moves was the hottest sex and the best orgasm she ever had!

Try this one tonight and don’t worry if she’s wearing pants. Just rub your face against her mound and it will turn her so horny SHE will start to bring her pants down.

Extend Foreplay As Long As Possible

Tease her till the very end. No, the fact that she has her clothes off does NOT mean it’s intercourse time. You can extend foreplay to the very end and bring her to delirious lust by using the head of your penis to tease her throbbing vagina. Just rub your the point of your manhood all over her vagina – especially her clit – and trust me, she’ll go wild with passion!

I hope you thoroughly enjoy these foreplay tips! Just remember to vary your ‘foreplay moves’. Otherwise, everything becomes routine again! So for example, tonight, tease her from head to toe with your kissing, licking and nibbling and then next time, just go directly to her clitoris and lick away. This way, you’re Mr. Surprise and sex with you is the best experience she’ll ever have.