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Fingering – How To Make Her SQUEAL!

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Fingering your lover’s clitoris can give her orgasms like she’s never had before. Learn how to make her gasp with delight using these awesome techniques.

Everyone likes a good massage. It’s relaxing, and it loosens the muscles. However, did you know that there’s a different kind of massage you can use during sex? It’s the vulva massage. That’s right, you massage her vulva. I’m not talking about that “warm apple pie” nonsense that has misled men for years, I’m talking about taking care of her genitals in a way that makes her responsive to your touch.

Before we continue, let’s do a refresher on what exactly the vulva is. In it a nutshell, it’s the lady bits. The major parts of the vulva include the labia majora, the labia minora, the clitoris and clitoral hood, the vagina, and the perineum. All of these are utilized in a good vulva massage. They all provides sensations superior to vaginal penetration alone. Let me repeat this concept for effect: vaginal penetration alone does not get a woman off! You must learn to utilize all parts of the vulva for optimum satisfaction. Here are just a few of the many techniques that may be applied.

The “Hello” Technique

This is named aptly for two reasons: it mimics a wave, and it’s an excellent technique to use in your approach. With her legs spread, face her sitting between her legs or to one side. Raise your hand as if you’re waving, and cup her entire vagina with it. Move your palm in slow, gentle circles. Whether you do so in clockwise or counterclockwise motions is up to you and your partner. This move gives indirect stimulation to the clitoris, amping up her arousal.

The Labia Glide

This is a two-handed exercise, and can be done with either full palms or just your thumbs. With one had on each of her labia majora (aka the big lips), you want to glide your palms or thumbs up and down along the labia. This can then be broken down into two sub-categories:

  1. Move your hands together. If you stroke up, both hands stroke up. If you stroke down, both stroke down. She will feel your hands rubbing along the sides of her clitoris.
  2. Move your hands in opposition. This provides more indirect stimulation of her clitoris. The labia will rub against it as they rub against each other, making for some very sweet friction.

The Spread And Squeeze

This technique is to balance the Labia Glide. Still concentrating on the labia majora, take them in between your thumb and forefinger and pinch them together. Then use your fingers to spread them apart. Repeat in a slow, rhythmic motion. It is best used if you position this technique directly over her clitoris. If she is super sensitive, this may even make her orgasm!

3 Must Have Sex Toys For Erectile Dysfunction!

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Erectile dysfunction doesn’t have to ruin your sex life. If you have problems getting and keeping an erection during sex or even during masturbation, you may feel like you’re never going to have great sex (or any sex) ever again. Nothing could be further from the truth! There are several things that can help you get a rock hard erection – and make it last long enough to give your girl wicked orgasms. Check out these three must-own sex toys that will help you last longer in bed!

A Cock Ring

A cock ring is an absolute must have sex toy if you experience erectile dysfunction at all. You definitely want one if ED is something you struggle with often, but don’t be afraid to get your hands on a decent cock ring even if you’ve only had one or two fluke ED episodes. You want to have it on hand in case you’re with a girl and it happens again, but you really don’t want to make a big deal about it. If you have a cock ring, you can put it on before your erection goes away and it will keep the blood trapped in the penis and keep it erect.

Soft jelly cock rings are most likely your best bet, because the metal ones can be difficult to get off. If your penis swells up when you have a metal cock ring on, you may not be able to get it off – and you’d have to go to the emergency room! You can also use a vibrating cock ring if your partner has trouble reaching orgasm through sexual intercourse alone.

A Penis Pump

If you have trouble getting an erection at all, a penis pump is going to be your best friend. A good penis pump will help pump the blood into your penis, making it erect. However, you will want to use a penis pump in conjunction with a cock ring, or the blood will just flow back out of the penis. Once you’ve used the pump, slip the cock ring on and it will keep your erection in place!

Never, ever use a vacuum cleaner as a penis pump! You could seriously hurt yourself this way. Always use a penis pump that has been manufactured with quality materials by a reputable company. If there is too much suction (like with a vacuum cleaner) you could cause the small blood vessels in the penis to break, causing bruising. This can be painful! Stick to making your purchase from a reputable company that has great feedback.

A Prostate Massager

Guys that don’t like anal play might freak out a little bit here, but try – just try – to keep an open mind. If erectile dysfunction really causes problems in your life and in your relationships, you might be a little more willing to try prostate massage. Some people refer to the prostate as the “male g-spot” and for good reason – this gland, when stimulated, can turn a man on, give him a rock hard erection and give him an orgasm in very quick succession. If you’ve never tried prostate stimulation but continue to struggle with ED, you may want to give it a go.

When selecting any anal toy, you want to start small and work your way up. You don’t want to grab the largest thing you see thinking that bigger is better – because when it comes to any type of anal sex, bigger is definitely NOT always better. A teeny tiny butt plug can actually do the job pretty well, and it’s a perfect way to get started.

As you become more experienced with prostate stimulation, you can graduate to larger toys – but you can stay small if you want to. The idea here is to use prostate stimulation as a way to achieve and maintain an erection, so go with what does the job the best. And of course, remember to use lube! You never, ever want to try to insert an anal toy (no matter how small it is) without adequate lube. At best it just won’t go in and at worst it will be very, very painful!

When To See The Doctor

If you’ve tried sex toys for erectile dysfunction and still struggle with it, it may be time to make an appointment with your doctor. ED can also be treated with medications and other types of therapy, and your doctor is the best person to recommend what is right for you. Talk with your doctor about possible underlying causes and what your options are!

Aphrodisiacs Don’t Work For Me And My Partner! Help!

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An aphrodisiac is a love it or hate it kind of thing. Unfortunately, most couples are a mix of both!

Here’s an example – let’s call this couple Cindi and Sam. Cindi is all for romance and aphrodisiacs and even went to great lengths to prepare a 5-course aphrodisiac dinner – do you know how hard that is? Well, Sam appreciated the dinner alright – then went to the living room and turned on the TV!

Sam is completely aphrodisiac-challenged, while Cindi is the hopeless romantic so to say that there’s tension in their relationship is an understatement.

Where Cindi Went Wrong with Her Aphrodisiac Dinner

What Cindi did wrong here is that she was trying to force romance. There was no ‘primer’ whatsoever. No hints or anything during the day that she wanted to be sexed up that night. So as far as Sam was concerned, it was simply ‘dinner time’. When asked if Sam didn’t get any hints since he was being served a 5-course dinner, he said “Cindi loves to cook. She cooks all the time! I thought she just got it in her head to be elaborate that day.”

Cindi also prepared a meal with aphrodisiacs that SHE believed in and may not necessarily be good for Sam. For instance, when pressed for details, Sam actually said he didn’t like the salad Cindi prepared because he hates arugula (rocket)!

Tips to Help Aphrodisiacs Work For You And Your Lover

Make sure you use aphrodisiacs that you think/know your lover will appreciate. Remember that the goal is to ‘increase his/her sexual desire’ for you so you should use aphrodisiacs that will work on him/her, not on you! As such, stop listing things YOU like and think of your lover.

For women, don’t focus on the chocolate, that’s mostly aphrodisiac stuff for you. Remember, men are ‘visual’ creatures so food that looks like genitalia is better! Go oysters. If budget is a concern, go for clams or mussels instead. For veggies, go for carrots (UN-chopped!) and asparagus as they resemble the penis.

Here’s another trick: use only green asparagus because they’re more appealing to look at and more sturdy after being boiled. Then, I dip the tips in butter and arrange them in a tall glass. What a visual treat! The glistening and dripping tops of the asparagus lend themselves to some horny fantasies!

Give Your Lover Hints

Drop hints during the day. Ok, for people who are not into all this aphrodisiac stuff, you need to aid them here, folks. So why not engage in some active foreplay during the day so your lover is more inclined to be in the right mood and frame of mind when you present your aphrodisiac treats?

Setting Up A Romantic Atmosphere

Compliment aphrodisiac foods and drinks with a romantic setting. Trust me, no type of aphrodisiac will bring about love and naughty thoughts if the washing machines is blaring in the background, if the kids are running and shrieking all around the table and if the dog is barking like the devil himself.

What you need is a relaxing, soothing, and sexy setting. So tidy up the house, dim the lights, put on a Barry White CD and light candles all over the house. Your lover will be in the mood for sex even BEFORE he/she takes a taste of your aphrodisiac treats.

Learn how to drop hints DURING the aphrodisiac meal. For those who have lovers that are truly aphrodisiac-challenged, don’t fret; simply drop hints while serving the aphrodisiac food and drinks.

For women, while serving those asparagus tips, start to put one in your mouth and then casually put it in and out as if you’re simply tasting the salted butter and then say ‘mmmm!’ When your lover turns to you, say “Hey, aren’t asparagus said to be aphrodisiacs?” as if the thought just occurred to you.

For men, DO bring out the chocolates! But instead of simply popping them in your mouth, start to lick it. Make really wet, lapping noises. THAT will get her attention in no time!

Aphrodisiacs HELP in increasing sexual desire, they’re not a magical cure you can administer and simply get results. But with the tips above, you’ll get more success each time you use them!

Premature Ejaculation: How To Increase Your Stamina

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Do you have problems with premature ejaculation? Barring medial issues, this is easier to correct than you think. A few tweaks in how you approach sex should help you last longer.

Harness Your Inner “Sting”

Outside of easy listening and pirate shirts, Sting is perhaps best known for his practice of Tantric sex. Tantra is a movement that was born in India several thousand years ago and incorporates meditation into sex. While this may not entirely appeal to the average man, you can at least borrow some techniques.

As in any physical activity, sexual stamina improves when you concentrate on your breath. Make sure you take slow, steady breaths that go all the way into your belly instead of your chest. This will aid in keeping you relaxed in an extremely excitable situation. It will also allow for you to clear your head so you can tune in to every sensation. Once you can enjoy the sexual experience as a whole, you’ll be rushing less for the goal. Sure, going through the Yankees roster in your head also works, but do you want to be thinking about Randy Johnson while you’re getting it on with a woman?

Take A Few Time Outs

Just because the penis is in, doesn’t mean it has to stay there until you blow. Yes, this is infinitely easier said than done, but if you’re getting your Zen on Sting-style, you should be able to do it. Take that time to kiss, eat her out, or tease her clitoris with the head of your penis.

While you’re out, incorporate the Squeeze Technique to stave off premature ejaculation. Before that inevitable Point of No Return, pull out and squeeze the head of the penis. This forces blood from the genitals, which will relieve a bit of the pressure. This technique can be repeated as needed.

Don’t Make It All About Your Penis

To you, sex is all about the part where you get to put your penis in her vagina. Get that out of your brain. Sex is about the entire experience. Spend some time really exploring her body, getting to know all the spots that drive her wild. Go down on her a couple of times. She can cum many times, so there’s nothing wrong with giving her a couple of orgasms before you even get in there.

If you do orgasm before she does, it’s not over. This may seem obvious to some, but it bears repeating. After your orgasm, you want to roll over and fade into the euphoria, but she is still frustrated. Your penis is not hard anymore, but you have your hands, your tongue, and your creativity to help finish her off. If you ever want to have sex with this woman again, you better make sure you’re both happy.

Relax And Have Fun With It

Learning how to last longer in bed doesn’t happen overnight. In fact, it can take quite a few tries as well as lots of patience to finally get to the point where you don’t blow your load as soon as you see a hot naked girl (okay, you probably last a little longer than that). So relax and have fun with it! Enjoy having sex with your lover, even if you do orgasm first. If you either make sure she has an orgasm before or after you do (as long as you’re making sure she has an orgasm), she’s not going to care “when” you have your orgasm.

There are very few girls out there who say, “Sure you satisfied me but you didn’t orgasm exactly when I did.” Blow her mind with oral sex and then worry about you. Even if you only last a couple minutes, she’s still going to be blissed out because you took care of her first!

How To Find The G-Spot And Give Her Sheet Soaking Squirting Orgasms!

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G-spot stimulation has the power to give women incredible squirting orgasms – if done the right way. Lots of guys make the mistake of fingering a woman and never reaching her g-spot, or if they do, they have no idea how to stimulate it to give her an orgasm. First you have to find the g-spot, which is much, much easier if she’s aroused first. Once you find it, you have to stroke her just the right way to bring her to climax. It’s easy to do it too soft or too hard, and you need just the right amount of pressure to really get your lover to squirt. If you want to learn how to make your partner orgasm so fast and so hard you’ll have no choice but to change the sheets afterwards, here’s what you need to do.

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Make Sure She’s Turned On And Well Lubricated

G-spot stimulation can feel extremely pleasurable for a woman if she’s turned on and well lubricated before you insert your finger. The g-spot is actually quite difficult to find if your lover isn’t aroused, so you want to spend plenty of time on foreplay first, before you head down south. When she’s aroused, the g-spot actually engorges with blood and “plumps up” so to speak, so you can feel it much more easily with your fingers. You also want to make sure she’s plenty wet enough to start, because if she’s not, the dry friction can really be uncomfortable or painful for her.

The Key Is Foreplay!

The key to giving your lover incredible squirting orgasms is making sure you’re spending enough time on foreplay before getting started on her g-spot. Women need lots of warm up time, and they need to be mentally, emotionally and physically relaxed and open before a squirting orgasm will ever happen. If you spend enough time on foreplay, by the time you get down to her vagina, she’s going to be begging you for release! Here are some great foreplay ideas:

  • Oral sex. Women love oral sex and you can actually give her one or two orgasms this way before beginning to finger her g-spot. Remember that women have a shorter refractory period than men do, so she’s actually closer to reaching an orgasm with g-spot stimulation if you’ve given her an orgasm with her clitoris first.
  • Deep, passionate kissing. Make her feel like you’ve got to have her. This will begin to stimulate and arouse her mind, which is critical for her to be able to relax and let go.
  • Sex toys. Tease and please her with a vibrator before you begin to finger her g-spot. She will love that you’re not afraid to use sex toys on her and that you want to watch her receive pleasure from them!

How Do You Find The G-Spot?

This is actually one of the most common questions guys ask when it comes to sex and female orgasms. To find the g-spot, of course, you want to have her turned on and aroused before you go looking for it. It’s located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the top wall (the stomach side, not the butt side). You can most easily reach and stimulate the g-spot by inserting one or two fingers about 2 inches into the vagina with your palm facing up. Curl your fingers in towards your body like you’re making a “come hither” motion. You should feel a spongy, textured spot on the top wall that your partner responds to when you rub it or put pressure on it. This is the g-spot!

How To Give Your Lover A Squirting Orgasm

When you find the g-spot, you’ll want to use the “come hither” motion to stimulate it. Start slowly and softly, and gradually work your way up to faster and firmer pressure as your lover shows that she’s enjoying it. Make sure to pay attention to her body language – if she’s scooting away from you or doesn’t seem to be actively enjoying it, you’re most likely not in the right area and are causing her pain or discomfort.

Encourage her to communicate with you and give you direction. Let her know that you want to know if it’s too hard, too soft or if she wants you to stimulate her in a different way. Be open to her suggestions and do them without taking it personally like you’re doing something wrong! Let her show you where and how to touch her!

The Big “O”

For some women, reaching a g-spot orgasm feels somewhat like she has to pee. This feeling may be very intense, and this is most likely when a girl will have a squirting orgasm. When she does climax, her vagina will contract and clamp down hard on your fingers -but don’t let up! You want to stimulate her all the way through her orgasm with the exact same speed and pressure as you had going when she first reached the big “O.”

While you don’t want to put too much pressure on her g-spot to avoid hurting her, giving her a squirting orgasm may take a little more pressure than you originally think. And it may not happen the first few times – keep practicing. You need to practice your skills and your girl needs to practice letting go. It ca be very difficult for a woman to let go enough to squirt wildly, so encourage her and give her praise if she does!