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Q&A: Sex Positions And How She Can Last Longer When She’s On Top

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Sex positions can help you go faster in bed or last longer, depending on which ones you use. Different sex positions help accomplish different things, such as reaching the g-spot better or providing more clitoral stimulation.  Many women like to be on top to speed orgasm up, but there are a lot of women that can actually climax too quickly this way! Here’s how to last longer when riding your man.

Question: My boyfriend really likes it when I’m on top, but I’d like to know how I can last longer in this position. After 2 minutes I get tired! If I let myself go and enjoy, I get paralysed by the pleasure, if I try to focus I lose it. Please help me!

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Why Girl On Top Is So Great

This sex position is great for many women, because it allows them control over basically every aspect of sex with their partners. When a woman is on top, she can control the pace, as well as the angle and depth of penetration. Having her man underneath her and being in control of everything will often help a woman reach orgasm faster than during other sex positions like missionary or doggy style.

Unfortunately, it’s easy for a woman to get tired when she’s riding her man, because she’s basically the one doing all the work. Her legs or arms may cramp up, or she may get a cramp in her hip depending on what angle she’s at. If she’s trying to go faster after her orgasm so that her man can catch up, she may get tired quickly and be uninterested in continuing, especially if she’s already “gotten hers.”

Go Slower

If you tend to get tired easily when using woman-on-top sex positions, try going slower. Ladies, you don’t have to reach climax within minutes of getting on your guy, just because you can. Stretch it out and make it last – not only will going slower feel better and allow your pleasure to really build, it will also help your guy catch up to you more easily when you can’t hold it in anymore. You’ll last longer because you’re not getting tired as quickly, and also because you’re concentrating less on reaching orgasm and more on prolonging intercourse.

Also, try supporting yourself some with your arms, or use pillows so that your partner can take over some of the thrusting when you get tired. He can do this easily by lifting his legs up a little, bending his knees and putting his feet on the bed (or the floor, couch or wherever you’re at), allowing him to use his feet and legs as leverage to thrust. Not only will this give you a break from doing all the work, it will feel really amazing for him!

Change The Angle And Depth Of Penetration

If you find that you’re just simply reaching orgasm too quickly when you’re on top and your guy is lagging behind, you may need to change the angle or depth that your partner’s penis penetrates so you don’t get too excited too fast. Pull back a little bit and don’t bump up against his pelvis if you notice that gives you a lot of stimulation to your clitoris. Or, sit back or move forward a little to keep the head of his penis from rubbing so much against your g-spot.

Try The Reverse Cowgirl

One of the best sex positions for women to last longer when she’s on top is the reverse cowgirl. This involves a woman riding her man, but while facing his feet instead of his torso. Not only does this give your guy quite the show, it also helps you to keep from reaching climax too quickly. This is because you’re not grinding your pelvis so much against his and stimulating your clitoris, and his penis is also at an angle that doesn’t rub the g-spot as much.

Trying Different Sex Positions

While you may really enjoy girl on top sex positions, if they’re not working, they’re not working. You may need to switch to something else – at least for a while anyway – so you’re not climaxing so fast and leaving your partner in the dust so to speak. Finding different sex positions that allow you and your partner to orgasm closer together (or even have a simultaneous orgasm!) may soon become your new favorite.

Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. If you’re stressing out over not being able to last very long in one sex position, just try another and go with the flow. Experiment to find what works! Chances are, it’s going to be more than one thing that does the trick, but it just may not be what you expect.

How To Make Everyday Activities SEXY!

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Flirting isn’t just for dates – you can flirt anytime, anywhere! Here’s how to use flirting to up the ante when doing normal, every day things! You may not realize it, but there are numerous opportunities throughout your day to work in some valuable, sexy couple time. It might not feel like it, of course, between all those hours spent at work, doing chores around the house, and trying to stay healthy with regular exercise. However, if you’re willing to take a second look at the things you do every day, you will soon see that many of them can involve your partner in new, fun ways.

Flirting When Exercising Together

Your workout is a great place to start. What do you and/or your significant other typically do for exercise? Is it something that you can start doing together, like running, biking or hiking? Having your S.O. there with you won’t just add to the time you spend together each day, but it will also give you both an extra incentive to stay on top of your workouts. You may even find that having a little friendly competition will push you to run faster, bike for longer, etc.

Best of all, exercise boosts your endorphins and your overall mood, along with your sex drive. If you’re both getting fit together, you just might find you’re in the mood for sex more often than before. You can even spice things up by making little bets here or there—i.e. whoever finishes your running route the fastest gets to pick the position you use in bed that night.

In addition to blending your preexisting workouts together, you might also want to look into new forms of exercise. You could both sign up for a team sport together, or start playing one-on-one basketball or tennis with each other. Better still, try taking a Latin dance class together. You’ll be surprised at how much of a workout you both get, and all that close contact is bound to put you in the mood for sex.

Flirting While Doing Chores Together

Working out together is hardly the only way to build more couple-time into your days. You can take some of your least-loved things, like chores, and use them as an excuse to get closer with your sweetheart. Turn chores into games. Divide up the house cleaning, and whoever completes their chores first each day gets to choose a sexy activity to participate in that night. Wash the dishes together, and each time the person washing or drying falls behind the other person, they have to take off one item of clothing.

Though you might be tempted to take a little extra time doing the dishes—all in the sake of stripping down to your undies—you’ll surely end up enjoying it. You can even do the whole French Maid costume thing while actually cleaning your bedroom, although you might not get very far if your partner can’t handle the wait. In general, though, one of the best things about doing all of your chores together is that the work will be evenly divided up, and you’ll ultimately end up with more downtime to spend together.

Flirting While Cooking Together

Perhaps one of the most fun everyday things you can enjoy with your partner is cooking. When you’ve both gotten home from work, instead of flipping on the TV and waiting for takeout to arrive, try making dinner together. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. It just needs to be something that you can both cook together. Take turns being the head cook and the assistant cook so no one ever feels like they’re secondary. Food is highly sensual.

It’s said that, outside of actually having sex, feeding someone you’re attracted to is one of the most sexual things out there. So don’t be afraid to taste test with each other as you go. Licking a little of that sauce off your partner’s finger certainly can’t hurt. You’re not at a restaurant, either, so you can feel free to cook in an apron and nothing else if you’d like. Just don’t set the kitchen on fire if you get too distracted with each other.

Whether you’re racing each other down the block or playing naughty chefs, the key to spicing up everyday life is simple. Involve your partner in your routine and try to put a positive, sexy spin on otherwise mundane things. The more often you do it, the more natural it will seem to find joy in everything simply by being together.

Text The Romance Back Review

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Text The Romance Back is the perfect guide for men who want to bring back the heat in their relationships. Whether your relationship is on the rocks and you need to resuscitate it quickly, or you just want to surprise your significant other with a new way of being ultra romantic, this guide is for you.

The Good

A navigation bar to the left of the screen makes it easy to flip through the different sections in Text The Romance Back. Much easier to navigate through than your traditional e-book that requires you to scroll through all the pages just to get where you want to go.

Michael really understands women and how they think, which is part of what makes this guide so effective. Understanding how women think and feel is the best way to create texts and conversations that get her to open up to you romantically, or to get her to release her inhibitions and feel sexual with you.

Also, for men who don’t enjoy reading as much as they do listening, there are audio files included for both Text The Romance Back and Facebook Romance Secrets. Pop it in your CD player in the car, or upload it to your music player and listen while going on your morning jog!

The Bad

There aren’t a whole lot of bad things to say about Text The Romance Back, except for if you’re looking for a book with nothing but text examples, you’re not going to find it. Michael provides many examples, but he also provides the information to back it up. Take the time to read through the manual, even if only a little at a time. Understanding the material presented is key to making this work!

Also, men looking for ways to turn their partner on sexually will find better use with Michael Fiore’s other guide, Text Your Wife Into Bed. There are some references to sex in Text The Romance Back, but many more in the sexting guide.

The Bottom Line

Text The Romance Back is an excellent guide if you want an easy way to communicate with your lover and bring back the spark you once had together. If the romance in your relationship has faded and the sex just isn’t as good as it once was, you’ll definitely want to check this out!

The Full Text The Romance Back Review

Romance can die in a relationship, but you don’t have to let it. Text The Romance Back is a complete guide to using your cell phone to ignite that spark that used to be in your relationship but is no longer there. The guide is well written and organized, readers can click through the table of contents on a navigation bar to the left of the book, rather than having to scroll through the entire book to get the information you’re looking for.

Michael begins the book with a “who this is for and who it’s not for” and fortunately, he illustrates that almost everyone will be able to benefit from Text The Romance Back. Who won’t? Abusive partners or people who want to try to change their partner or their behavior. Fair enough.

The information age has taken us all by storm, and we’re all pretty much addicted to our cell phones. They’re our outlet to the world – they allow you to check your email, Facebook, texts, chat, the time, etc., etc. Michael suggests that your partner would probably be devastated if you asked them to go unplugged for any length of time, and let’s face it – he’s probably right. So here’s where Text The Romance Back comes in. You’re not going to try to pry your partner away from their cell phone to try to reconnect with them emotionally and physically – instead, you’re going to do it through the cell phone. Crazy? Not so much.

Why Text The Romance Back Works So Well

Women are different from men and respond to different emotional and sexual stimuli. A woman isn’t going to get turned on very much by pure naked porn, while a man will get an erection from seeing a naked woman in just several seconds. Women, however, are more turned on by language. By communicating with a woman in the way that she responds to best – by using words and language – you’re opening her up to more romance, and by proxy, more sex.

This isn’t just a concept guide either – in Text The Romance Back, there are plenty of “why’s” and “how’s,” but even more actual examples of texts that you can use with your partner. This is a must have for guys who aren’t incredibly imaginative or have trouble coming up with things to say. Michael not only gives you an explanation on why texting your partner works so well, but he also shows you exactly what works. Creative guys will have even more fun with this, because they can take the examples that Michael gives and put their own spin on them or elaborate on them.

Curiosity Builds Romance

Sending your partner a sensual or even romantic text isn’t going to work very well if you don’t set her up for it first. Yes, you have to “bait” her. You need to get her interested in the conversation by creating curiosity. Michael shows you exactly how to do that, again, with examples of actual texts you can use to awaken her curiosity and get her texting back and forth with you furiously.

Private Conversations

In Text The Romance Back, Michael says that one of the most effective ways to create romance and passion is to have a secret, private conversation through text when you and your partner are actually in the same room! Silly as that might seem, women actually love this. It’s because women can do many more things at once than men – they can text you and carry on a titillating conversation with you via cell phone, all while putting on a professional front and perhaps carrying on a completely different conversation at the dinner table or at a work meeting. You’ll learn how to ignite her passion by texting her secretly while in the very same room with her and while doing something completely different. She will love it!

“Hot” Words

Michael also gives examples throughout the guide about what words to use and when. He knows which words will trigger what in a woman’s brain, and translates that into the guide in an easy to understand way. While many men won’t initially know how a woman responds to words as simple as “feel” or “remember,” after reading Text The Romance Back, they’ll know exactly what words to say at the right time to get her thinking exactly about YOU!

Long Distance Love

Whether you’re in a long distance relationship for an extended period of time, or your partner has just gone away on a business trip, your cell phones can help keep you and your partner intensely connected – perhaps even more so than if you were physically together! Michael shows you how to build your lover’s anticipation while you’re away through texts, so that the connection between you two when you finally get back together is ultra hot and intense!

Sexting

Michael also writes a companion guide, called Text Your Wife Into Bed. The concept is similar – using your cell phone to communicate sensually with your lover. However, Text The Romance Back is geared more towards relationships, while Text Your Wife Into Bed focuses more on how to improve your sex life through sexting.

Facebook Romance Secrets

No information product is complete without at least one good bonus product, and Michael certainly doesn’t flake out on them. Aside from cell phones, Facebook is one of the most rapidly growing ways to communicate with people on the Internet. Sure, it’s social media and you can “friend” your neighbor, your boss or your old friends from high school. But why not use it to increase the romance with your lover?

The written guide is based on the audio file transcripts, so people who like to read and want to see clear, well organized information (like in an e-book) are going to be disappointed. Never mind that, because the information contained in the audio file is pretty helpful and definitely worth a listen!

All in all, Text The Romance Back is an excellent guide that will help you learn how to communicate with your lover via cell phone and not only improve your relationship, but also improve your emotional and sexual connection with your lover. A must have if you want to have romantic and sexy conversations with your partner through text!

Hustler Dare Devils Vaginal Balls Review

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The Hustler Dare Devils vaginal balls are a form of “ben wa balls” that are designed to be inserted into the vagina and exercise the PC muscles. The pelvic floor muscles can become weak over time or after a woman gives birth, which can lead to urinary incontinence and trouble reaching orgasm. When inserted into the vagina, the weight of the product will inadvertently exercise the PC muscles without the woman actively exercising the muscles herself, because the vagina is trying to keep the balls in on its own.

The Good

If they are able to be worn, this product will help strengthen the vaginal muscles while the women is going about her day to day life. Stronger PC muscles mean better control over urine flow and stronger, harder, faster orgasms. Using the Hustler Dare Devils vaginal balls will strengthen the PC muscles, leading to a more satisfying sex life. The product itself is cute – who won’t love the little devil tail that acts as the “string” to remove the product.

The Bad

The product is fairly large and heavy, which may not be well suited to smaller women. Some women may have trouble with insertion (use lots of lube!) and may find them uncomfortable or painful to wear while standing or sitting. Women with very poor muscle control may find that the vaginal balls slip out often and the product can only be worn for a few minutes at a time. Beginners should definitely choose something smaller and lighter weight. Also, the hearts on the side actually end up being upside down when you go to insert it!

The Bottom Line

The concept of the Hustler Dare Devils vaginal balls is great, and some women will really be able to benefit from them. Other women, such as girls who are very small down there and have trouble inserting most objects, will find that these are too large and don’t fit well. These women should definitely go with something lighter weight and smaller.

The Full Hustler Dare Devils Vaginal Balls Review

The Hustler Dare Devils vaginal balls are a form of “ben wa balls” that are made to be inserted into the vagina and left there. The weight of the balls will inadvertently exercise the muscles in the vagina, because the vagina will actually work to keep the vaginal balls inside without the woman wearing them doing anything at all. It’s an excellent way to passively exercise the PC muscles when you don’t remember to do your kegels on your own.

These particular vaginal balls are a little heavy and large, which may not be well suited for beginners or smaller women. They may find the product uncomfortable and difficult to wear while doing daily activities. Beginners should use a smaller, lighter weight sex toy. However, if a woman finds that the product is constantly slipping out, it may be because the PC muscles are just that out of shape and can’t keep the product in for any length of time. Doing more kegels and wearing the Dare Devils more may help with this.

Better Bladder Control

Older women or those who have given birth may find that they have less bladder control than they used to. Hustler Dare Devils vaginal balls can help with this as well. The PC muscles are not only responsible for great orgasms, they’re also responsible for starting and stopping the flow of urine. Exercising these muscles and strengthening them will help decrease the instances of incontinence that some women experience after birth or as they age.

All in all, The Hustler Dare Devils Vaginal Balls are a great concept and can be used by many women to improve bladder function and strengthen orgasms. While some women may not like them, others will find that they help a great deal. If you’re typically very small, look for another product. If you don’t have trouble with inserting most things into your vagina, try this product and see if it works for you!

We-Vibe Touch Clitoral Vibrator Review

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The We-Vibe Touch is a cordless, rechargable vibrator that fits in the palm of your hand. Designed for clitoral stimulation, it offers several different pre-programmed vibrations, from waves that are designed to build your climax to short bursts that are designed to tease. It’s made for women to use during masturbation, but it can also be used by a woman’s partner to tease her before sex or during sex to help her reach climax faster and harder.

The Good

There are many, many great things about the We-Vibe Touch, from the size to the powerful vibrations and numerous settings. It’s small and discreet, so it’s easy to take with you wherever you go. One of the most unique features of this vibrator is that it is completely waterproof. It’s perfect for use in the shower, pool or tub, so if you like to masturbate in the shower or bath, this is an excellent toy to use. It’s shaped like a tongue and has a grooved head that fits right on the clitoris, but it can be held any way you like and it still works great. It fits into the palm of the hand, so it’s easy to hold during masturbation, even when things get really wild.

The Bad

Although the We-Vibe Touch is made from silicone, the material gets dusty (which is another reason it’s great for use in the shower). However, it can easily be rinsed or wiped clean. It’s not made for insertion, so if you’re looking for a g-spot vibrator, this isn’t the one for you. It’s a fairly strong vibrator, but it gets weaker the more you use it without charging it in between. Some women that find it difficult to climax may find this vibrator isn’t strong enough, but charging it in between each use may help. If you need a really, really strong clitoris vibrator, try the Hitachi Magic Wand.

The Bottom Line

The We-Vibe Touch is a powerful clitoral vibrator with tons of different modes, so you’ll never get bored. It’s easy to hold, easy to use and it’s not going to slip out of your hand even when using with lube. It’s surprisingly quiet too!

The Full We-Vibe Touch Review

If you’re looking for a versatile, multi-mode clitoral vibrator, the We-Vibe Touch is a great choice for a go-to vibe that not only gets the job done, but is small and quiet enough to literally take it with you anywhere. It fits right in your purse or travel bag, and it’s super easy to use, because once you charge it, it’s completely cordless.

Simply push the lighted button on the back of the vibrator to turn it on, and push it again to switch between several different modes of vibration. It’s also super easy to switch between modes in the middle of masturbation, whereas some vibrators don’t allow you to change modes without stopping.

Quick Facts About The We-Vibe Touch:

  • Lighted button is easy to use in the dark
  • Easy to clean silicone material
  • Tongue-shaped vibe is comfortable and hits all the right spots
  • Feels super slick with lube
  • Remember never to use silicone lube with silicone toys

Experiment with the different modes that this sex toy has to offer, because you can really play with your orgasm and find the modes that bring you to climax quickly, as well as the modes that draw it out and build your pleasure until you can’t hold it in anymore. Use it alone for quiet and discreet masturbation, or use it with your partner for more clitoral stimulation during intercourse. This sex toy really has become an all time favorite of many women!

All in all, the We-Vibe Touch is a great vibrator for any woman – and every woman should have one tucked away in her drawer. It’s lightweight and doesn’t require a degree in rocket science to operate. It can be used anytime and anywhere, and unless you really need or want g-spot stimulation, it may very well be the only toy you need to stay completely sexually satisfied.

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LELO Nea

A similar sex toy to the We-Vibe Touch is the LELO Nea. This adorable little clitoris vibrator is small, feminine and compact enough to take with you anywhere. Although it’s not waterproof, the LELO Nea is a great alternative to the We-Vibe Touch!