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Naughty Fingers Review

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Naughty Fingers is a completely comprehensive guide that goes into detail about female orgasms, how a woman receives pleasure and how give her an orgasm through fingering – or two or three!

The Good

Naughty Fingers leaves no stone unturned when it comes to learning how to please a woman sexually with your fingers. You’ll learn erotic touch, sensual massage and the exact techniques you’ll need to give her orgasm after orgasm. You’ll also learn the basics behind a woman’s pleasure, which is important when trying to understand why other techniques that have been used in the past didn’t work.

The book is well planned out, with easy to read and understand text, as well as delineated chapters that are easy to navigate through. Gabrielle Moore demonstrates her vast knowledge about female anatomy and female orgasms in each chapter, from how to finger a woman to warming her up with foreplay and sensual massage.

The Bad

While Naughty Fingers is definitely a well thought out lesson on how to please a woman with your hands, some men and women may find that the anatomical references and diagrams go a little overboard. In fact, the section on brain anatomy seems out of place, however, it can easily be skipped without compromising the take-away from the text, unless you really desire to know the physical breakdown of the brain.

The section on a woman’s menstrual cycle may be enough to scare any guy who has made it this far through the book away, because he’s probably thinking, “Hey, I didn’t sign up to learn about her period. How does that relate to me fingering her at all?” Truthfully, understanding where a woman is in her menstrual cycle and how she’s feeling at any certain time is probably one of the first things you’re going to want to be aware of before trying to finger her. Depending on where she is in her cycle and how she is feeling at the time, she may not be receptive to your advances at all, regardless of how excellent your technique is. So men, while you may be tempted to skip over this part, man up and at least glance through it. She’ll thank you for it!

There’s not much else bad to say about Naughty Fingers simply because the text is so comprehensive, there’s really nothing missed. Taking the time to really read and understand what is being said in the book may take some time, but it is well worth it.

The Bottom Line

If you really want to learn how to finger a girl, as well as understand her orgasm and how to get her there over and over, Naughty Fingers is right up your alley. It’s a complete guide on understanding how a woman’s body works so you can learn how to please her without her ever telling you what to do. There’s also a great technique section at the end, so after you learn the “why’s,” you can start to learn “how.” An excellent book for men who not only want to learn exactly what to do and when, but also more about a woman’s pleasure in general.

The Full Naughty Fingers Review

Naughty Fingers is a guide to fingering and female orgasm and is incredibly thorough. Some men may not want to read through the entire background of how a woman reaches orgasm and will want to skip ahead to the actual fingering techniques – however, without understanding the basics behind a girl’s climax, a man is never going to be able to fully please her and give her a mind-numbing, earth shattering orgasm. Take the time to learn what women truly want and what they don’t want and why. Having a better comprehension of the way women operate will help you immensely when it comes to giving your partner sexual pleasure – of any kind!

While well worth the read, the introduction is lengthy. Don’t be afraid to read through it in small chunks, because the information really is vital to what you’re trying to do. In the next section, you’ll learn quite a bit about the hands, their function and how the brain controls the hands. It seems a little out of place here, but not for long. Naughty Fingers immediately jumps into “good touch” vs. “bad touch” and how to tell if your style of touching your lover is at all what she likes or what she wants.

What Type Of Partner Do You Have?

You’ll also learn what “type” of woman your partner is, and you can determine what category her libido falls into. You’ll learn more about the different types of orgasms a woman experiences and how she experiences them. Who knew that the female gender could experience so many different and separate types of climaxes, as well as multiple orgasms! This is perhaps one of the best sections in the text if you’re truly looking to understand female pleasure and how an orgasm works for a woman.

The sections on the female menstrual cycle and detailed diagrams of the female anatomy are next. While the Latin terms for all of her hot spots might seem a little overwhelming, remember that this is not your average high school sex ed class and that you’re actually learning this stuff to give your partner more sexual pleasure than she has ever experienced before. Take a deep breath and read on! Naughty Fingers shows you all of her most sensitive areas like the A-spot and the G-spot. You’ll even learn where the X-spot and the Y-spot are (huh? Those exist?) and how to stimulate them.

Strength And Stamina

Naughty Fingers also includes exercises to help build up the stamina and strength in your hands, because it takes a woman several minutes to become aroused and to reach orgasm – even longer if you want to give her multiple orgasms! You definitely want to make sure your hands, wrists and forearms are in peak condition so you can finish. It’s not going to be very fun for her if your hands cramp up when she’s almost there.

The next chapters are where Naughty Fingers starts to get really good, because you’re going to start delving into the the steps you’re going to take to start to massage and finger a woman until she’s writhing with pleasure. Don’t jump too far ahead – start from the beginning with the labia massage before trying to insert your finger into her vagina – you’re going to want her to be plenty aroused and plenty wet. Don’t forget to have a bottle of your favorite lube on hand too!

Techniques That Will Blow Her Mind

You’ll also learn specific maneuvers and techniques to use that will turn your partner on and send her over the edge – from the “Rumble In The Jungle” to the “U-Turn” and the “Ring Around The Rosie.” There are no shortage of suggestions here, so if you try one and it doesn’t work well, feel free to try another. You’re bound to find something that really rocks your partner’s world, and you’ll actually probably find several. You’ll also find lots of different sex positions to try fingering your partner in. This ensures that you’ll never run out of new combinations of things to try, so she’ll never get bored!

Naughty Fingers wraps up with tips on how to communicate with your partner, as well as how to set the stage for what you’re going to do and get your partner warmed up and ready for it. You’ll also learn how to choose the right lube, how to talk dirty to her and how to use erotic and sensual massage to get her relaxed. All in all, Naughty Fingers has more information about female orgasms and how to use fingering to pleasure your partner than you ever thought was out there. Enjoy the read – and then enjoy putting what you’ve learned into action!

Bonus: Forbidden Sex Toys

You can also spice up your sex life by bringing some sex toys into the bedroom. If you or your partner have never tried using sex toys (apart from masturbation alone), you can be in for a real treat – but how do you know which sex toys are the best and which ones to buy? Sex toys shows you many different styles of sex toys, so you can start to become familiar with what’s out there.

You’ll learn “how to pick ’em and how to use ’em” with everything from vibrators to lingerie to dildos and dongs and anal toys. Gabrielle doesn’t forget that sex toys aren’t just for girls, and includes a section on sex toys for boys, like masturbation sleeves and prostate stimulators. If  you’re not familiar with the sex toy industry and what it has to offer, Forbidden Sex Toys will give you a starting point. It’s also a great read if you just want to learn more about what different sex toys so you don’t end up spending your money on things you don’t end up liking or using!

We-Vibe II 9 Mode Vibrator Review

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The We-Vibe II is one of the only toys of its kind – designed to be used by a couple during sex to enhance orgasms for both him and her. One end of the toy slips inside the woman’s vagina and sits up against the g-spot, and the other end wraps around the woman’s vulva and nestles against the clitoris. The toy is small and curved enough to allow a man to insert his penis in to a woman’s vagina while the toy is being worn, so he can feel the vibrations too.

The Good

Not very many sex toys can be used by a couple together. Masturbation sleeves are designed for men, while most vibrators are designed for women. Sure, you can use a sex toy on your partner, but how many of them can you actually use with them so both of you can get off? There are very few couples sex toys, and even fewer of them are as well made as the We-Vibe II.

The We-Vibe II is waterproof, so you don’t have to worry about body fluids affecting the function of the vibrator, and you can even take it into the shower or bath. With 9 different modes of vibration, it’s going to be awhile before you and your lover get through them all. From soft, teasing vibrations that will add to you and your lover’s movements to strong, overwhelming vibrations that will take you under, this toy just about has it all.

Not only does the We-Vibe II provide intense stimulation for both a woman’s g-spot and her clitoris, her vagina will also feel smaller and tighter to her man when the toy is inserted. Plus, he may like the vibrations – although not every guy does.

The Bad

The We-Vibe II is small and most women can wear it comfortably alone or during intercourse with a partner. However, some women that are exceptionally small or sensitive may find that this sex toy is difficult to use or may find that it doesn’t fit right.

Many men aren’t too thrilled by vibrations (it just doesn’t do it for them), so some guys just aren’t going to be totally enamored by the We-Vibe II – although if it really gets their women off (and makes it feel tighter for him), they won’t complain too much. Despite the few caveats that this sex toy has, it’s definitely worth the purchase.

The Bottom Line

If you’re looking for a couples’ sex toy, the We-Vibe II has exactly what you need. If sex become dull and you need something new to bring to the bedroom, or you just want to experiment with new and different sensations, this is an excellent addition to your toy drawer. So few sex toys are designed with couples in mind, so it’s nice to have one that you can bring out when you and your lover are together. While some people may find it slightly uncomfortable to wear, overall, the  We-Vibe II is a great choice for most couples.

The Full We-Vibe II Review

The We-Vibe II is a uniquely designed vibrator to be worn by a woman alone during masturbation or during intercourse with her partner. Women who have trouble reaching orgasm during sex can really benefit from using this vibrator, as it allows for extra stimulation while still making love with your partner. Sure, women that can’t reach climax can always use a vibrator later – or have their partner use a vibrator on them – but nothing can replace having an orgasm while being held and embraced by your lover. You and your partner may even be able to experience a simultaneous orgasm with the We-Vibe!

100% pure, medical grade silicone is easy to clean, but needs to be kept away from any kind of silicone based lube. Silicone based lube will deteriorate the material on the outside of the toy, so choose a good water based lubricant for sex. When dry, the silicone material on the outside can get kind of dusty, so wrap in a soft, non-linty cloth or use the silk pouch included to wrap it in when not in use. If it does get dusty, simply rinse with plain water before use.

The We-Vibe II is easy to use because it doesn’t require batteries, so when it’s time to recharge, just plug into the wall jack that is included with the toy. Even though there’s a way for the vibrator to be plugged into an outlet, the material on the outside of the vibrator keeps it from getting wet when used in the shower.

With 9 different modes of vibration, it’s unlikely that you and your lover will get bored with the We-Vibe II any time soon. You can experiment with the different modes of vibration during foreplay, and you can change over to your favorite one as things get more and more heated. If you and your lover are feeling adventurous, try inserting one end of the We-Vibe II into the vagina and the other in the anus, while you perform oral sex on her!

Under The Bed Restraint System Review

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The Under The Bed Restraint System is an excellent bondage kit for beginners. If you like the idea of tying your partner up or being tied up, but aren’t into the whole BDSM scene, this is the perfect solution for you. It’s an arm and leg restraint kit that allows you to immobilize your partner on the bed without having to use any hardcore BDSM or bondage stuff.

This also isn’t the pink fuzzy paddle type of restraint either – if you don’t want to make the foray into hardcore bondage but are tired of seeing nothing but fuzzy handcuffs, feather ticklers and heart shaped paddles, you’ll love the Under The Bed Restraint System.

The Good

The Velcro cuffs are soft enough not to chafe, but strong enough to ensure your partner isn’t going to be getting out of them without some serious effort – if they’re able to at all. The cuffs are adjustable, so it’s very nearly one size fits all. It includes four cuffs for arms and legs, and also features adjustable straps – so you can tighten or loosen them based on how much you want your partner to be able to move.

The Under The Bed Restraint System is also very versatile – it is made to slip underneath the bed, with the cuffs stretching out from under the bed, but it can also be used on the couch, on the stairs or on a kitchen table. This is a great sex toy to have fun with, because you can adjust the straps to make it fit just about anywhere – just use your imagination!

Perhaps one of the best qualities about the Under The Bed Restraint System is that it is easy to put away and keep hidden from small children or guests. You can keep it “hooked up” under the bed, but when it’s not in use, you can tuck the cuffs in between the mattress and box spring, so no one can tell that you actually have a bondage kit on your bed at that moment! When you’re ready to use again, simply pull the cuffs back out.

Unlike Velcro cuffs and straps on some of the other similar products out there, these straps and cuffs are very strong and durable. This isn’t a flimsy kit at all – you can really “play” with your partner without worrying about the straps breaking or the cuffs coming undone.

The Bad

There’s not much “bad” to say about the Under The Bed Restraint System – it’s so versatile, it will pretty much go anywhere and work for just about anything you want to do with it. However, If you have very small wrists or very large wrists, the cuffs may be difficult to secure. However, they would either have to be really small or really large for the cuffs not to fit properly – they’re going to fit most people just fine.

Also, make sure you keep the Velcro cuffs away from anything silky, like lingerie or Japanese silk rope. The rope will adhere to the Velcro and you may not be able to get it off! Keep the Under The Bed Restraint System in a drawer or box by itself to keep it and your other toys and lingerie in good condition!

If you’re really into BDSM and bondage, and enjoy more hardcore toys, this may not be the kit for you. It’s more of a “middle of the road” kit for people who want to experiment with bondage but don’t want to cross that line into harder stuff. If you’ve already crossed that line, this kit may not give you the level of “hardcore” that you want.

The Bottom Line

The Under The Bed Restraint System is a simple, easy to use arm and leg restraint that fits under the bed and is easy to use and easy to hide. It’s a great option for couples who want to play with bondage but don’t want to go too far with it. If you’re only going to buy one arm and leg restraint, this is definitely the one you should buy! It’s strong, durable, comfortable and a great addition to your toy box.

The Full Under The Bed Restraint System Review

The Under The Bed Restraint System is a complete arm and leg restraint kit that allows you to play and experiment with bondage without having to go buy a whole lot of scary, hardcore stuff. It’s also not pink and fuzzy – so guys who want to experiment with being tied up during sex or tying their partners up are going to like it better than some of the other “beginner’s kits” out there.

When you pull the Under The Bed Restraint System out of the package, it can be a little confusing as to what goes where. It looks a bit like a crazy spider! Looking at the pictures on the box will help though and there’s pretty much zero assembly required. Move your mattress and place the long strap in the middle of the bed. Place your mattress back on top and pull the cuffs out from under the bed. You should have two cuffs coming out on either side of the top of the bed, and two cuffs coming out on either side of the bottom of the bed. Five minutes later and you’re ready for some bondage play!

The Under The Bed Restraint System is also easy to put away. Just tuck the cuffs back under the bed and throw your comforter on the bed and you’re good to go! No one – including guests or children – will have any idea that you have this beginner bondage gear set up under your bed! It also makes it more convenient to get out when you’re ready to play again. You don’t have to take it off and set it up each time you want to use it. Just pull the cuffs back out and you’re good to go!

All in all, this is an excellent beginner’s bondage kit, especially for people who don’t want to go too hardcore but aren’t interested in the pink fuzzy stuff or feather ticklers. Make sure that with any bondage play, you choose a safe word and use it if things get too out of hand.

4 Ways To Be An Amazing Boyfriend

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A relationship requires effort from both partners. She’s putting it in, but are you? Are you really such a great boyfriend, or is she just hanging on to you until someone else comes along? Here are four ways you can make your relationship incredible, so your girl will want to be with YOU and only you.

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Don’t Be A Boring Boyfriend

Girls want a guy who knows how to have fun. Don’t be boring – strive to plan fun, exciting things for you and your girl to go out and do. Don’t just sit at home on the couch eating take-out and watching movies or playing video games. While staying in and eating bad Chinese food in front of a DVD marathon is really fun every once in awhile, it’s not something she wants to do all the time.

Plan ways you can show her a great time, whether it’s taking her out to a new restaurant or club you’ve never been to before, or doing something really adventurous like rock climbing or horseback riding. Making her feel great by getting out and doing things (and showing her that you’re interested in doing things with her) is one of the best ways to prove that you’re a great partner – and not boring at all. Also, learn how to carry on a great conversation and engage your partner mentally. Women are so emotion and mind oriented that if you learn how to give her mental and emotional stimulation often, she will really love spending time with you no matter what you’re doing.

Be Someone That She Can Be Proud Of

Yes, there are many girls that will fall for a bum. But most of them won’t. If they do, you can pretty much bet that before long, she’s going to get tired of you and move on to someone else. Instead of letting that happen, be someone she can really be proud of. Be someone that she can tell her friends and family about. Be a motivated, confident, ambitious and energetic guy!

Have a job or other things going on in your life that she can tell other people about, such as a killer position at a popular company in your city, or volunteering as a firefighter for the local fire department. No matter what you choose to do, make sure you’re actually doing something and not nothing, and that it’s something your girl can brag a little about!

You also want to have things of your own that you’re doing that don’t always involve her. Have fun with your guy friends! Don’t be too clingy or suffocating, because if you are, your relationship won’t last long. Have things that you love and are passionate about in your life that don’t necessarily have anything to do with your girlfriend at all. Encourage her to go out and spend time with her girl friends and you do the same!

Value Your Time Together

Too many guys out there take their partners for granted when they’re in a relationship. They may rush through the dating process to have sex, or they may just get so comfortable with their partner that they take for granted any time spent with them. Don’t be that guy! Make sure that you take the dating process step by step, and enjoy each different phase of your relationship. When you’re on a date with your partner, make sure that you are fully present and that you’re engaging your partner in conversation. You want to be paying attention to her, not the game on the TV behind the bar or the cute waitress.

Also, show your partner that you really value her by making her feel sexy. Compliment the outfit she’s wearing and tell her that she’s beautiful. Take her on dates that allow her to dress up and do her hair, so she feels sexy and beautiful when she’s around you. If you’re always hanging around the house and she never gets the chance to get out of her sweatpants or put her makeup on, she’s not going to feel good about herself at all. When you touch her, tell her how soft her skin is or how nice her curves are against you. Make her feel like a million bucks!

Develop A Close Connection With Her

Don’t wall yourself off from your partner emotionally. Women speak the language of emotion, so if you’re a robot with her, she’s not going to be interested in you for long. Let your guard down some and make yourself a little vulnerable to her. Share how you’re feeling about her and about other things, and respond to the things she’s feeling when she tells you about them.

Work on developing a close connection with your partner and when you do achieve that level of emotional intimacy in your relationship, everything is going to be better. Sex is better when you’re really close with someone, and life is better in general when you have someone you can share those intimate details with.

11 Date Ideas That Will Bring Out Her Inner Child – And Win Her Heart

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Date ideas can be difficult to come up with, but if you harness the child inside, you can make your date ideas unique enough to make her fall head over heels.

Invite her on a journey to rediscover her inner child. Make plans for an upcoming Saturday or make sure you have booked a day off work for her with her boss as guaranteed this will be her first line of defense in turning you down. Remind her of those carefree days of running around in the park with her friends, swinging on swing sets, making snow cones and catching fireflies at dusk. Remind her of the time when her biggest worry was which flavor of ice cream to choose.

Having Fun Being Kids Again

Whilst it might seem immature, just work with me. Call her up and invite her on a “play date.” If she starts to question you, you can offer a slight hint but the intention is create an air of mystery and fun. Then you need to start working on the type of activities you will take part in. You could consider some of the following activities:

  • Watch a lighthearted family movie
  • Draw pictures and create collages – create your own visionary boards for romance and this can give you clues as to what she needs from you.
  • Write stories and then finish each other’s stories… Once upon a time… and you’d be surprised at what comes out plus it can give you a clue as to her state of mind.
  • Make up a game or participate in your favorite game from childhood
  • Go to the park, go camping, visit the zoo, hang out with your own, hers, your siblings, friends, kids. Offer to baby sit the kids for a day because often just being around kids can make finding your own inner child a lot easier. Children have a fresh look on things, and sometimes when we get in bad moods it is because we are so jaded with the world around us. Experiencing life through the eyes of a child can really do wonders for naturally rediscovering a good mood.
  • If possible, take a trip to Disneyland or some theme park.
  • Blindfold one another, spin one another around and then see how you fall and feel all dizzy. Try feeding each other blindfolded. This can soon lead to something more romantic and intimate.
  • Buy some play dough and make shapes.
  • Play 20 questions, pull out some old board games, Scrabble, Monopoly, an old deck of cards.
  • Build a tent in the living room out of sheets, pillows and whatever else you can lay your hands on.
  • Ride your bikes, or borrow some other kids bikes and if this is too immature for you, go for more mature bikes and hire a Harley Davidson for an hour or two (assuming you have your license and all protective gear) and go riding off in the sunset with the wind in your hair.

The intention with this kind of date with your girl is to just let all the angst go and live and let live. Enjoy the moment and your youth, no matter what age you are. I know of couples who still dine out on the ‘mischievous practical jokes’ they got up to when they experienced with the “play date” idea. After all, what have you got to lose? Your dignity? Since when do children worry about dignity?