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How To Be A Chick Magnet

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Flirting tips aren’t going to help you if you can’t attract women to you in the first place. You can approach women easily, but if you’re not attracting them to you, you’re really not going to get very far when you start flirting with them. So what is it that guys who get tons of girls do? Here’s how to get women to flock to YOU!

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Pay Attention To What Your Body Language Says To Girls

When a girl approaches you or you approach her, she’s going to size you up in about five seconds. She’s going to make a judgement about you based on several things, including the way you look, the way you dress and even how you smell. Your body language plays an important part in attracting women, because this is what will make you seem approachable to her or not. Subconsciously, she’s reading your body language to know if it’s okay to go up and talk to you or not.

Make sure that your body language communicates that you’re a strong, confident man, who is also friendly and fun to hang out with. When you’re flirting with a woman, you want to make a lot of strong, masculine gestures and also make sure that you’re not stooping over – if you have poor posture, you’re not going to look confident at all. Make sure your facial expressions convey a happy, confident and fun to be around personality – if you’re scowling the whole time, no girl is going to want to approach you or carry on a conversation with you.

Have Friends That Are Also Confident And Fun To Be Around

Who your friends are and who is in your social circle really says a lot about you, especially to a woman. When choosing friends, know that your friends really show who you are, so you want to make sure that you and your friends have similar ideals. If you’re hanging around a bunch of bullies or jerks, girls are going to think that you’re a bully or a jerk, even if you’re not. Your friends should be just as nice and friendly to others as you are.

Learn To Love Yourself

Women want to be dating confident men – they don’t want to be dating a wuss. So you want to project an air of self confidence and to do that, you must truly learn to love yourself for who you really are. Know that each person is special and unique (including you) and each person has something they can offer other people that no one else can. Each person is an individual and no two people are exactly alike. Learn to love yourself and be confident in what YOU can offer, because it’s special!

How To Break The Ice

You’ve got the first five seconds down, but now you actually have to talk to her! What do you talk to her about? How can you break the ice without choking up?

Start flirting with her. Engage her in conversation. Start by asking her questions. Don’t just ask questions like, “What do you think about the crazy weather we’ve been having lately?” That’s lame. Ask her intellectual questions about her, things around you or things that matter to her. For example, ask her what she is passionate about. No, not what her hobbies are or what sports she plays. Ask her questions that really make her think, like, “What is it that makes you want to wake up every morning?”

Talk About Your Passions

While you definitely want to break the ice by asking her about her passions first, there’s probably going to be an opening at some point for you to talk about what drives you. Be honest with her and let her know what you truly love and what really makes you tick. Hopefully, you and her share some of the same passions or at least ones that are similar so you can start building some common ground, which is essential when you start dating someone.

However, you’re never going to know if you and a girl would really hit it off unless you’re completely honest about your passions and what you love, even though it makes you more vulnerable to rejection. When it comes to dating, women know that a man is risking rejection each time he is flirting with a girl or asks a woman out. You can really make a difference by revealing yourself to a girl, instead of trying to be the guy you think she wants.

Stay Positive

Girls always remember how they feel when they meet a guy. She may not remember exactly what he looks like or exactly what he said, but if he made her feel great, she’s going to remember him and either be waiting for his call or be dialing his digits herself. If a guy makes her feel amazing, she’s definitely going to want to be dating him.

If you make women feel great when they’re around you, they’re going to remember you and want to hang out with you even more. If you’re a downer while they’re around, or if you’re pessimistic or constantly complaining about things, a woman is going to want to run for the hills at the first chance she gets. Even if you’re nervous, focus on flirting with her and making her laugh. Smile, relax and remember to have fun. Show her a good time and make her feel like she’s the only girl in the room. If you do, it’s pretty much guaranteed that you’ll score a date with her.

You’ve Got To Do More Than Talk

While you may be able to talk a good game, that’s not the only thing you have to do if you want to keep women you want to be dating coming back to you for more. Use body language and gestures to show a woman that you’re really interested in her. For example, you can look in her eyes just a few seconds longer than is comfortable and touch her arm while she’s talking to you or you’re talking to her.

If things are going really well between you and a girl, don’t be afraid to take it a step further. If you and her seem to be really hitting it off, don’t be afraid to take a risk and go in for a kiss. Even if you get rejected 10 times out of 11, all that really mattered was that you got 1 “Yes!”

What Is A Micropenis And Do I Have One?

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Penis size is something just about every guy worries about. In fact, most guys are obsessed with their penis size and worried that their genitals too small. Some men may be convinced that they have a micropenis – that is, a clinical condition where the genitals are much smaller than average. But what really makes a small penis a micropenis, and could you have one?

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What Is A Micropenis?

A micropenis is a term that is usually used to describe a very small, or abnormally small penis. The average length of an adult man’s genitals when erect is about 5-6” and a micropenis is any shaft that is less than about 2.8” when erect. So basically, a micropenis is a penile shaft that is significantly smaller than the smallest average size.

What Causes It To Be That Small?

There are a few things that cause this condition, including abnormal testicular development in the womb and testosterone and other hormone deficiencies. If you do have a micropenis, it’s likely that you’re not going to discover this until you’re an adult – all these measurements are for an adult male, because the genitals are normally much smaller in boys.

How To REALLY Measure Your Penis

If you want to find out if your small genitals actually fall into the “micropenis” category, you’ll want to measure it correctly. Remember that most guys who have smaller genitals still don’t fit into the category of having a micropenis – because their genitals are small, but not less than 3″ or so. Here’s the real way to measure your penis:

  • Get your shaft as erect as you can. Make sure you’re really turned on and you’ve maximized your penis size.
  • Have a rule or tape measure on hand.
  • Place one end of the measuring device at the very base of your shaft, up against your groin.
  • Stretch out the tape measure or lay the ruler on your shaft and note where the tip of your penis is. This is your penis length.

If you do have small genitals, or even a micropenis, remember that it’s not all about length when it comes to pleasing a woman sexually and giving her an orgasm. It’s really the width that comes into play during intercourse, so even if you have a short shaft, if it is still fairly thick, you’re good to go.

Can A Micropenis Be Enlarged?

If you have very small genitals, you’re probably going to want look into some type of penis enlargement therapy to help you get a bigger member. Don’t take matters into your own hands though, especially if you’re considering a treatment that is invasive or risky. Consult your doctor beforehand about your options.

He or she can let you know what is available out there to help you get a larger erection, from natural ways like using a penis pump or possibly through surgical intervention. Your doctor can inform you about the risks involved with any type of enlargement therapy and suggest alternatives if some options aren’t right for you.

Don’t try to enlarge your genitals on your own with creams, pills or penis pumps because you may end up doing more harm than good. While creams, pills and pumps may be part of your treatment plan, having your doctor’s okay first will give you the confidence to know that you’re being safe and smart so you don’t end up hurting yourself.

Common Treatments For A Micropenis

Testosterone Therapy

Usually, testosterone therapy is tried first since it is considered the safest and least invasive way to treat extremely small genitals. A man on testosterone therapy to increase his size may take hormone supplements or use hormone creams, and this type of medication can be prescribed to infants in rare cases where the problem is noticed at a much younger age.

Testosterone therapy can also be used during puberty to help increase size, before the window for actual, true penis growth closes.

Surgical Procedures

Surgical procedures to enlarge the genitals are very rarely used, because it’s a risky treatment option and the length of the shaft doesn’t increase that much. A man undergoing surgical lengthening of the penile shaft may only gain a few centimeters, or an inch or so at most.

Penile implants may be an option if you’re just going for raw length, but there are caveats to any surgical procedure you might be considering. Talk with your doctor (or several doctors) about the right options for you – before you have anyone come near your genitals with a scalpel!

Can You Have Sex With A Micropenis?

The better question here is can a man lead a fully satisfying sex life with a micropenis, and the answer is yes! Actual vaginal penetration and intercourse can be difficult, especially if the shaft is really short. However, there are lots of ways you can experience satisfying, fulfilling sex with your partner without vaginal intercourse:

  • Give and receive oral sex
  • Finger her and allow her to give you a handjob
  • Bring sex toys in the bedroom and use them on each other
  • Try different sex positions – you may not be able to have intercourse in the missionary position (especially if you or your partner are bigger around the middle), but you may be able to have intercourse just fine in the doggy style position. Experiment and have fun!

Learning To Accept Yourself

If you have a micropenis – or just very small genitals – it’s easy to be down on yourself or wonder if you’re ever going to meet a woman who wants to be with you – or who can be sexually satisfied by you. Don’t worry so much about what women may think. Learn to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are and how you were made. If you have self confidence – and know how to please a woman orally or with sex toys – she’s not going to care about your size.

How To Talk To A Woman About Sex – Without Freaking Her Out

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Guys need sex advice, especially when it comes to talking to a woman about doing the nasty. Sex is something you want, but you’re not exactly sure how to ask for it. You could be getting along great with a girl and bring up the topic of sex, only to end up scaring her off completely. Here’s how to have a conversation with a girl about sex, without sending her running.

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Bringing Up The Topic Of Sex Is Risky Business

If you’re nervous about bringing up the topic of sex to a woman – even if you’ve been seeing her for awhile – you have good reason to be. There are many women that will be offended by the discussion of sex, no matter how polite or discreet you are about it.

Every woman will react differently to the topic of sex and the same woman may react in different ways to the same topic, depending on her mood. When talking about sex with a woman, you’re liable to strike out at any moment – but approaching it the right way can make all the difference.

The Indirect Approach

Probably the easiest and most friendly way to bring up the topic of sex with a girl is indirectly. Start talking about sex in a way that doesn’t directly involve you or her. For example, you’re definitely going to get shot down if you start talking about what kind of sex positions she likes. However, if you bring up the topic in an indirect way, such as telling a funny story about sex positions gone wrong, she’s more likely to laugh with you and open up to the idea of talking about sex with you.

Make sure that when using the indirect approach, you keep everything about other people in other situations. Don’t directly reference you or her, and definitely not you and her together. If you start talking about what “she” likes or what “you” want, you’re going to scare her off instantly.

Start Learning About Sex

For a girl to be comfortable talking about sex with you, you’ve got to be comfortable with the idea of sex yourself first. If a little dirty talk makes you blush or stutter, you’re not going to convince any girl to carry on a conversation with you like that. It can be difficult if you come from a conservative family, however, the more you learn about sex the more you will be able to talk about it smoothly and confidently. Read a sex advice column, or check out some online resources for sex tips and sex advice.

Pay Attention To Her Response

One thing that a lot of guys miss when having a conversation of this nature is reading a woman’s cues and knowing when it’s gone too far – and when to stop. There are many cues a woman will give you to let you know that now is not the right time to talk about this and she’s not into what you’re saying. If she’s exhibiting these signs during the conversation and you press the issue, you may end up turning her off for good.

  • Turning or looking away from you.
  • Acting embarrassed or blushing.
  • Stuttering her responses or acting nervous in general.
  • Short responses or refusal to answer any questions
  • Trying to change the topic

If She Engages You

If you’ve stayed confident and cool, made her laugh and created a little bit of playful sexual tension, she might end up engaging you in the conversation about sex and even contribute to it, taking things further. If she does engage in the conversation with you, you know that you can take it to the next level and start talking about things that have more to do with you and her. Signs that she’s into it are:

  • Making eye contact with you or looking at her lips
  • Laughing at your jokes
  • Joking with you, cracking jokes of her own
  • Touching you or accidentally brushing up against you
  • Standing close to you

Building Sexual Tension

If she seems responsive to talking about sex at first, it’s up to you to create sexual tension between you and her. This is what will ultimately lead to actually getting to have sex with her! The best sex advice to get a woman into bed is to always leave her guessing and keep a flirty element of mystery about you. When revealing information about yourself, don’t give away too much at once. Let her wonder a little bit and allow her imagination to go wild.

Being Sexually Confident

Girls are naturally attracted to sexually confident guys. They’re not attracted to wimpy looking guys that don’t look like they’re secure in themselves at all – so to even get her to want to talk to you, you’ve got to exude an air of self confidence and friendliness. However, you must remember that sexual confidence can go too far and suddenly become creepy and obsessive. Make sure that your sexual confidence doesn’t border on the strange side. You definitely don’t want to come across as just another horny guy looking to score – because this will turn her off immediately.

Relax And Have Fun

Remember that dating and talking to women is all about having fun and getting to know people. If you’re too uptight, worried or nervous about talking to women about sex, you’re not going to get very far. Relax, be yourself and focus on having a good time and making sure others have a good time as well. If you get your date laughing, talking and having fun, she’ll become more and more relaxed around you – giving you the opportunity to bring up the topic of sex without her shying away.

How To Talk A Woman Into Bed

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Sex isn’t something you can just jump right into – most of the time, anyway. Girls need a little warm up time before getting in the mood, and they don’t get turned on the same way guys do, just by looking at someone of the opposite sex naked. Girls respond better to sensual, seductive language. Here’s what you can say before sex to get her hot – and ready to jump in bed with you!

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Girls Love Words

Remembering the fundamental difference between men and women is probably going to be your key to success in getting a woman to have sex with you. Men are essentially visual creatures and respond well to visual stimuli such as porn, but girls on the other hand, enjoy words more, such as sexy stories and erotic novels. This is why you will see a woman not really care about a porn, but get completely horny after reading a sensual novel.

Be Aware Of Her Insecurities

Guys love to compliment girls and girls love to be complimented – however, if you’re complimenting the parts of her body that she’s insecure about, it’s going to turn her off. For example, you may think her belly is so cute or hot and she may think her belly is her most flawed body part. Women don’t look at themselves the same way men do – as just being hot from head to toe. A woman will stand in front of a mirror and pick out her “flaws,” even when she looks great.

When talking to her and telling her how amazing she looks, find out what she likes best about herself. It may not even be something sexual – she may think her feet are really cute (especially if she gets pedicures often) or she may love her hair. It doesn’t matter what it is – if you find a way to compliment what she loves about herself, it will get her turned on more than anything else you can say.

Compliment Her With Emotion

When you do find something to compliment or talk about, it’s important that you do it with emotion and sensual words. Telling her that her hair looks “great” or her legs are “hot” isn’t going to get you anywhere with a woman. Instead, make sure that the words you choose to use are full of emotion. Tell her that her legs look “amazing” or “incredible.” Touch her hair and talk about how “soft” and “silky” it is and how you love the feel of it on your skin.

Remember that giving empty sounding compliments can actually do more damage than good. If you and your partner have used the “L” word to tell each other how you feel, don’t be afraid to use it now. Tell your partner how much you love her and care deeply for her – this will get her emotions on fire!

Use Descriptive Language

Because women are such verbal creatures, choosing descriptive language is extremely important. Telling your lover how “horny” you are or saying that she looks “hot” isn’t going to cut it if you’re trying to get her in bed. Instead, try these easy to use, descriptive words next time your talking to a woman:

  • “Soft” as in: “Your skin is so soft and smooth.”
  • “Silky” as in: “Your silky pajamas make my skin tingle.”
  • “Hard” as in: “It has been so hard waiting for you all day.”
  • “Ravish” as in: “I can’t wait to ravish your body.”
  • “Luscious” as in: “Your lips are so luscious, can I kiss them?”
  • “Intoxicate” as in: “The sultry sound of your voice is completely intoxicating.”

Make Sure Your Body Language And Facial Expressions Match Your Emotions

Once you’ve gotten the language down pat, you want to make sure that your body language and your facial expressions not only match your emotions, but also match the descriptive words you’re using. If you’re telling her how luscious her lips are, lick your lips and look deeply into her eyes, switching your gaze from her eyes to her lips until you move in for the kiss.

You don’t want to tell her how soft and silky her hair is if you’re not going to run your fingers through it and pull her in for a deep, sensual kiss. You don’t want to tell her how difficult it was waiting for her all day if you’re not actually showing her how you feel through your facial expressions and your body language. Make sure that you’re not only communicating with your verbal language, but you’re also communicating through your actions and facial expressions as well.

10 Titillating Sex Toys Under $10

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Sex toys don’t have to be expensive to be fun. Whether you’re by yourself or with a partner, you don’t have to spend an arm and a leg just to get a decent sex toy. Heat it up between you and your lover with these ten great sex toys all under ten bucks!

Purrfect Pets Tickle Me Dolphin

A cock ring and a vibrator all in one, the Purrfect Pets Tickle Me Dolphin is a great couples’ sex toy. The cock ring portion of the product will keep his erection rock hard, while the vibrator will stimulate the woman’s clitoris and help bring her to an incredible orgasm. This is a must-have for couples who struggle with erectile dysfunction or difficulty reaching orgasm. It’s also available in other shapes for more excitement, including a “Buzz Bunny” and a “Buzzy Butterfly.”

Crystal Jellies 6″ Anal Starter

Lots of couples want to get into anal sex, but they’re not exactly sure where to start. Sex toys built specifically for beginner’s anal play are probably your best bet, and the Crystal Jellies 6″ Anal Starter definitely fits the bill. It’s small and slim, so it’s perfect for guys and girls who are just starting out. At it’s thinnest point, this product is about 1/2″ wide, and at it’s widest, it’s barely 1″. When you’ve never done anal insertion before, smaller is definitely better when you’re just getting into it.

Sugar Lips Nipple Gloss

Guys love breasts, so why not make yours noticeable with a swipe of nipple gloss before sex? It also works on your lips too – and wherever you put Sugar Lips Nipple Gloss, you’re going to feel a tingly, plumping sensation. Not only does it make your lips and nipples look ultra kissable, the taste is super sweet. Try flavors like Lick My Strawberry, Kiss My Cinnabuns, Cock n’ Candy, Whip Me Cream and Pump Me Colada.

Tenga Eggs

For guys on the go, this uniquely designed masturbation sleeve is a huge hit. Packed in an egg like container, the soft silicone masturbation sleeve includes it’s own package of lube to be used with the sleeve. Tenga Eggs come in tons of different styles and textures, such as Twister, Clicker, Stepper, Wavy, Spider and Silky. Each egg feels totally different during masturbation! The downside to this sex toy is that it is disposable – you can only use it one time (really, you should only use it one time) before throwing it away.

Tongue Teaser

While oral sex is always fantastic by itself, you can add some great feeling vibrations to the mix with the Tongue Teaser. The soft jelly toy slips over the tongue and vibrates. This is an especially great toy for men who want to please women who have difficulty reaching orgasm orally. A snug band makes sure this product doesn’t slip off the tongue, no matter how wet and wild things get! It also runs for about forty minutes, so that gives you plenty of time for orgasmic pleasure.

Sterling Sleeves

Sterling Sleeves are soft, stretchy silicone sleeves that fit over the penis and are designed to be used during sex. They can help make your penis just a little bit longer, and usually the textured outsides stimulate a woman’s g-spot in just the right way. If you’ve been trying unsuccessfully to have (or give) a g-spot orgasm, try slipping on a Sterling Sleeve. The extra sensations may be exactly what she needs to push her over the edge.

Frisky Fingers Clitoris Vibrator

Every girl needs a small, discreet and easy to use finger vibrator that fits nicely over the clitoris. Sometimes, a girl just wants to get the job done and a Frisky Fingers Clitoris Vibrator will do just that. It slides over the finger and the soft silicone nubs feel amazing in conjunction with the vibrations. It’s quiet, so you can even throw it in your purse and take it anywhere!

Astroglide Strawberry Lubricant

Whether you’re having sex au natural or using sex toys, lube is definitely a must have. But why should lube – especially when used with a condom – smell and taste like rubber, plastic and chemicals? Astroglide Strawberry Lubricant combines Astroglide’s popular lube formula with a great strawberry flavor, so you can smell and taste great during sex.

Fetish Fantasy Series Beginner’s Furry Cuffs

If you’ve never tried bondage before – or have and loved it – a pair of soft, furry handcuffs are indispensable. Fetish Fantasy Series Beginner’s Furry Cuffs are strong yet soft, so you can have fun locking your partner up and having your way with them! They do have a quick release mechanism that you can use if things get too intense or if you or your partner lose the key. Comes in black or white.

Sportsheets Rubber O-Rings

If you want an inexpensive pack of basic rubber cock rings in different sizes, Sportsheets Rubber O-Rings are exactly what you’re looking for. No frills, just plain black rubber in a variety of different sizes to accommodate both a large and small penis size. You can also use them with harnesses that have straps – just don’t forget to use lube so you can slide the O-Ring off easily when you’re finished.