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Faster Female Orgasm Review

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Faster Female Orgasm is an excellent guide that teaches women how to take CONTROL of their own orgasm! Learn how to have a faster and harder O today! A step by step guide on how you can reach orgasm every time. This book will do more than teach you the proper way to masturbate alone and during sex. It will teach you how to achieve your objective of experiencing simultaneous orgasm that you may have heard of but never tried.

The Good

For women that want to take control of their own orgasms instead of leaving it up to the guy every time, Faster Female Orgasm is the perfect guide to teach you how to reach the big “O” faster, harder and more than once! You can forget ever having to fake an orgasm again, because with your help, your man’s best efforts will be rewarded and so will you. Written in an easy to read, conversational tone, Faster Female Orgasm reaches out to both women who have never had an orgasm before and those who just want to make their orgasms better!

The Bad

The section on female anatomy is quite detailed and a great way to learn all about a woman’s genitals, but it seems a bit out of place in a book written for women who probably know what’s going on down there from years of masturbation. However, if you want to learn the scientific names for all the parts of a woman’s anatomy, or you’ve never taken a peek downstairs yourself, this section is handy.

The Bottom Line

Faster Female Orgasm, written by female orgasm guru Jessica Perez, is a comprehensive guide that teaches women how they can be responsible for their own pleasure, even with the guys that have failed to give them orgasms for several years. Jessica’s book is about a woman taking control over her own orgasms instead of just letting their guys do it, because Jessica illustrates a very important but little talked about fact here – many women fake it because their men are trying so hard but just can’t seem to push them past the finish line. Faster Female Orgasm will teach you how to pick up the baton and run with it, bringing yourself to the finish line with your man right by your side! A great companion manual to Faster Female Orgasm is The Female Orgasm Black Book written by Lee Jenkins.

The Full Faster Female Orgasm Review

Jessica begins Faster Female Orgasm with several stories of women who just can’t seem to have a climax by having sex with their partners, even though they can easily reach orgasm through masturbation in five minutes or less. Sound familiar? Jessica reaches out to women who want to share their orgasms with their partners through sex, but haven’t been able to achieve it so far.

A section on clitoral stimulation starts the meat of the book off right, as clitoral stimulation is the easiest and fastest way for most women to reach climax. Here Jessica teaches techniques that can be used both during masturbation and penetrative sex. Jessica also highlights how to achieve a g-spot orgasm, as well as how to masturbate properly. Perhaps the most powerful lesson in this section is how to simulate sex during masturbation, thereby training yourself to be able to climax during sex as easily and quickly as you climax during masturbation.

A big problem that women have when they’re about to reach climax is their bodies tense up and they’re not sure how to “ride the wave.” Jessica teaches women how to relax and let the climax come so to speak, rather than inadvertently fighting it. Later on, Jessica discusses the most powerful orgasm a woman can have during penetration, called the “entry orgasm.” Many women have read about it but few actually get to achieve it, where the woman is able to have a climax the minute her partner penetrates her. Jessica shows women step by step exactly how to have this type of climax, and shows you how you can have it every single time!

Faster Female Orgasm wouldn’t be complete without a section on the best sex positions for female orgasms, and the book certainly does not disappoint. Several sex positions are listed here, from the best positions that allow for clitoral stimulation to those that are better for the “entry orgasm” or any other type of deep, penetrative g-spot orgasm.

Jessica recognizes the fact that all women fantasize, and that these fantasies can actually play an important role in a woman’s ability to have a climax during sex. In this section, you will learn how to fantasize the right way, allowing your mind to take you to places you’ve never been before! The mind and body connection is a powerful thing for all women, and most women don’t even use this to their advantage during sex!

Faster Female Orgasm ends with a great section on how to teach your partner to do the things you’ve just learned to do during masturbation, to max out your pleasure during sex. While most men try extremely hard to give a woman a climax, few of them actually succeed. Jessica shows you how to train your man to give you orgasms in addition to controlling your own orgasms. A great partner book here would be The Female Orgasm Black Book by Lee Jenkins, which illustrates in detail exactly how a man can please a woman and give her mind blowing orgasms.

Included with the download of Faster Female Orgasm are several great manuals, including another fullebook for free!

Blow His Mind Tonight

Jessica’s full ebook on how to amaze your guy in the bedroom is included, and boy will it ever come in handy! This great manual will teach you how to give your guy the best climax he’s ever had through oral sex or manual stimulation, making him even more willing to give you a great climax in return! Read our full review of Blow His Mind Tonight here.

Top 25 Female Orgasm Tips For Men

This guide will teach your man how to find your g-spot, how to hit the g-spot during sex and also how to use his fingers to bring you to “multiple escalating orgasms!” And you thought fingering was old news!

Top 10 Accelerated Orgasm Methods

Once you’ve mastered the techniques in the Faster Female Orgasm book, you’ll be ready for the next step. This free manual teaches you advanced techniques that will really make your toes curl.

 

10 Beginner’s Sex Toys You’ve GOT To Have (If You’re A Novice)

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Sex toys can be intimidating if you’ve never used them before. This is especially true for virgin girls who wish to masturbate but aren’t sure what kind of product to get, or for men who have never used masturbating sleeves or other “toys for boys” before and aren’t sure where to begin. If you’re just starting to use sex toys, here are the ones you definitely want to try!

Lots Of Lube

Lube is extremely important to use when playing with sex toys. In fact, it’s also great to use during sex but many people that haven’t made the foray into sex toys have never tried using lube before either! Whether you’re having sex with a partner or masturbating with a vibrator, even just a dab of lube will make things slip and slide much better. Of course, the wetter the better so lots of lube is preferred, especially with anal sex!

Recommendation: Astroglide! It’s basic, easy to use and has been used for years. It’s an all around great lube to use that is safe for both sex toys and use with condoms.

A Masturbation Sleeve

Every guy starts out masturbating with their own hand, and many guys still do. If you haven’t discovered how really great masturbating with a sex toy is, you’re in for a real treat. Try slipping your penis into a lubed up masturbation sleeve before your self-love session and see what a difference it makes! You can get all kinds of sleeves to satisfy whatever desires you have, whether you’re into lots of texture or something really nice and tight. Masturbation will never be the same again!

Recommendation: Climax Gems Crystal Hand Job Stroker. It’s a great way to start using a masturbation sleeve if you’ve never used one before, especially since some of the more “anatomically correct” strokers can seem a little intimidating at first. This one is extra ribbed for pleasure too!

A Slender Vibrator

Women that have never used a vibrator inside before will definitely want to try something small and slender at first. A slender vibrator doesn’t hurt going in when used with lube – even for many virgins – and the torpedo design will reach the g-spot in no time. This is a great product to start out with when you’re just beginning to use sex toys during penetration.

Recommendation: 5″ Grrl Toyz Waterproof Slimstick. This is a great vibrator for women who are interested in trying insertion during masturbation or couples play but don’t want to start with a giant dildo. It’s slim design is great for even very small women or virgins.

A Clitoris Vibrator

Most girls start out rubbing their clitoris with their fingers or palms when they first start to masturbate. This is because the clitoris is packed with over 8,000 sensitive nerve endings and is responsible for most women’s orgasms. Many women prefer to masturbate with a clitoris vibrator, even if they’ve had sex before or masturbated with a vibrator or dildo designed for insertion. Using a vibrator on the clitoris can induce very intense, very powerful orgasms!

Recommendation: Ophoria Finger Vibe – 3″. Every girl needs to start out with a clitoris vibrator, especially if she’s a virgin. Women can reach orgasm most often through clitoral stimulation, so this can even be a great toy to use with a partner as well. It fits easily on the finger and also comes in a variety of fun, bright colors.

A Traveling Vibrator

Once you get into using sex toys, you’re going to want to take them wherever you go. Especially for those long business trips away from your partner where you know you’ll be “flying solo” so to speak! But if you’re flying, or even driving for that matter, you don’t necessarily want to take your most conspicuous vibrator in case your luggage gets checked. A travel safe vibrator is a must have for women on the go.

Recommendation: Grrl Toyz Lipstick Vibe. It looks exactly like lipstick. Enough said.

Toy Cleaner

Even if you’ve never used sex toys before, it’s not difficult to guess that they can get pretty nasty if you don’t clean them thoroughly before and after each use. While you can use soap and water to clean most sex toys, getting a good anti-bacterial toy cleaner is a must to keep your sex toys looking and feeling like new each time you use them. Often, it’s a lot easier to use a special toy cleaner than it is to bust out the soap and hot water.

Recommendation: System Jo Toy Cleaner. Priced right, all you have to do with this easy to use toy cleaner is spray it on and wipe it off. It’s a quick way to keep your sex toys lasting longer.

A Cock Ring

Just like with masturbation sleeves, most guys don’t think about using cock rings – or any sex toys, really – during masturbation. Since they can simply use their hands (and there’s rarely any evidence laying around if all you’re using is a hand), most guys don’t think about how much better a masturbation session can be by using and experimenting with different products designed for sexual enhancement. Next time you masturbate, try slipping on a cock ring to keep your erection rock hard and lasting long. You’ll be surprised at how good everything feels with a cock ring on!

Recommendation: M2M Nitrile 1.75″ Cock Rings (Pack Of 5). You definitely don’t want to use a metal cock ring, and these soft rings are made from nitrile, which is compatible with all kinds of lube, including silicone and oil based!

A Butt Plug

If you’re starting to get into anal sex or even just a little anal play, a beginner’s butt plug is a must have. Whether you’re enjoying anal stimulation during sex or during masturbation, a small butt plug can give you just enough stimulation without being painful to make your sexual escapades feel radically different – and amazing! Make sure you use any anal toy with lube and never insert anything into your anus that isn’t designed to go there, because it could get lost!

Recommendation: Basix Rubber Works Mini Butt Plug. Comes in four colors and is super small for beginner’s use. You definitely want to use water based lube with this one though.

A Bullet Massager

Often, a bullet massager is a woman’s first vibrating sex toy. Even if it’s not, a bullet vibrator is something you definitely want to have on hand. It too is a great vibrator to take with you on trips! A bullet vibrator is also the kind you want to use with a lot of couples’ sex toys, such as cock rings with a place for a bullet vibe to go on top. Sometimes, a simple bullet vibrator is all you need to get and stay satisfied.

Recommendation: Power Bullet Vibrating Massager – 3 Speeds. Small, discreet and easy to use. Tiny enough to take with you anywhere but it’s vibrations are powerful for how small this toy really is!

A Blindfold

A blindfold is a great way to get your feet wet with BDSM if you’re just starting to get interested in it but don’t want to go too far with the whips and chains at first. A blindfold adds such an incredible element of mystery and most of them are incredibly inexpensive. You can use a silk tie or other things from around the house to create a blindfold, but buying one isn’t very expensive and are much more comfortable to wear – especially for longer periods of time.

Recommendation: Fetish Fantasy Series Satin Love Mask. It’s just your basic love mask, but if you’ve never tried BDSM before, a blindfold is where you want to start. You can’t imagine how sexy things can get once you take away the sense of sight!

How To Give Your Sex Life A Makeover Without Shattering Your Man’s Ego

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Sex isn’t something every guy is a natural at. In fact, a lot of guys are very awkward when it comes to pleasing a woman and some guys aren’t able to give their partners an orgasm at all, period. If your man sucks in the sack, you definitely want to give him a few sex tips to point him in the right direction – but how on earth do you do it without damaging your guy’s fragile ego? Here’s how to gently give your guy sex tips, while still making him think he’s the best.

Vocalize Your Pleasure

Even if he doesn’t get it right most of the time, there’s bound to be a few times that he hits the spot exactly the way you want it – and when he does, it’s important that you vocalize your pleasure and make a very big deal about it. You don’t necessarily have to make it into dirty talk – you can simply moan very loudly, gasp for air or yell “Yes!” – or all of the above. The point is, you want to make sure that he KNOWS that he’s done something right. Because once he figures out that he’s on the right track, he’s going to keep doing whatever it is that makes you scream and writhe with pleasure. So vocalizing what feels great to you is beneficial for you both.

Do To Him What You Want Him To Do To You

Sometimes, the best way to give your lover sex tips is to actually show him what you like – on him. If you want him to give you oral sex, try giving him a really great blowjob first. If you want him to touch you with his hands or finger you, show him what you want by giving him a handjob first! The idea here is to show him what you like by doing it to him first. He’ll probably pick up on it right away, but he may not. Keep giving him what you want and he’ll eventually get the idea. If he doesn’t, you can always wait until after you’ve given him a really amazing oral sex session and say, “I would love for you to try that on me.”

Guide His Hands – Or Mouth

If he’s going down on you and just isn’t hitting the right spot, don’t be afraid to gently guide him in the right direction. If he’s licking in the wrong place, gently use your hands to guide his head and mouth to just the right spot. Honestly, he’ll appreciate the pointers much more than he would appreciate his efforts being wasted because he wasn’t sure what you wanted – and you wouldn’t tell him.

If he’s using his hands, gently slide your hand down to your clitoris and show him with your hand how you want to be touched. This won’t upset him if you’re not cocky or condescending about it. You can also move his hand the way you want him to touch you – and after you let go, he’ll continue doing the same movements you showed him.

Leave A Magazine Or Internet Article Out For Him To See

If you find a particular juicy article with sex tips you think your man can use, leave it out inconspicuously for him to find. If it’s a print publication, leave the magazine in the bathroom, open to the page you want him to read. Leave it out as though you were simply reading it yourself and just forgot to put the magazine up. Next time he’s sitting in the bathroom, he’ll probably notice it – and read it. If it’s an Internet article, just leave your browser pulled up like you had forgotten to close it down. You can also minimize the browser and when he pulls up the Internet, the article will pop up “accidentally.” This is especially effective if you and your partner share a computer.

Tell Him – Nicely

If all else fails, you need to talk with your guy about how to make your sex life better – because if he’s getting off, you deserve to have an orgasm too (and an amazing one at that!) There’s absolutely no shame in talking to your guy about how to make sex better, but the way you bring it up is extremely important. If you start the conversation off saying “You need to do this,” or “You do this wrong,” it’s going to make him want to immediately stop listening to you. Don’t criticize your guy – because he’s probably trying very hard to please you sexually. Instead, tell him things you’d love to try, or say, “I love it when you do this, but I think this would be even better.”

Sex Games: How To Develop An Alter Ego For Sexy Roleplay

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Sex games can be a lot of fun and they can definitely help spice up your sex life. If your sex life is in a rut, you can use role play and sex games to bring the spark back between you and your lover. Role play allows you to let go of your public persona and inhibitions, while taking on a fun, sexy persona. In the bedroom, you can be whoever you want to be! Here’s how you can let your inner vixen out with some sexy role play!

Domination Vs. Submission

Very few people enjoy both domination and submission, so it’s safe to say you generally like one or the other. Now, domination and submission doesn’t always involve BDSM or sex escapades that are really out there. You can definitely experiment with dominant and submissive roles in the bedroom without getting too crazy.

Are You A Dominant Personality?

Think about what turns you on – do you like being in a position of power over your partner? Do you like to tell your partner what to do to you? If so, you may have a dominant personality. If you know you have a little bit of a dominant personality, take it a step further in the bedroom and really bring out your alter ego. No, you don’t have to bring out the whips and chains. Here are some easy ways to experiment with domination without going too far.

  • Order your partner around. Have them do sexy things for you or to you.
  • Try light spanking. Tell your partner that they’ve been “naughty” and need reprimanding.
  • Experiment with a little bondage. A silk tie makes a great blindfold or impromptu handcuffs. You don’t have to bring out the heavy duty rope to have a little fun with tying your partner up or taking away their sense of sight.

Are You A Submissive Personality?

If the idea of being dominant over your partner just doesn’t do it for you, but the idea of them being a little dominant over you intrigues you, you may be more of a submissive personality. Think about receiving a spanking from your lover or having your lover tell you what to do to them. Does it turn you on? If the idea sparks some interest but you’ve never tried it before, here are some ways to start to bring out your submissive personality.

  • Tell your partner that you’ve been very, very “bad” and need to be reprimanded. See if they catch your drift.
  • Let your partner gently tie your hands behind your back while they tease you, leaving you helpless to stop what they’re doing to you.
  • Get on your hands and knees in front of your partner. Crawl towards him slowly before unzipping his pants for a blowjob.
  • Let your partner use sex toys on you. This can be even more fun with a blindfold because you’re not sure what they’re going to use next!

Playing Pretend

You may think that playing pretend is for kids, but you can turn it into sex games to make it a more adult activity. Think about different roles that would work with your inner personality. For example:

Fun Role Play For A Dominant Personality

  • Have your partner be a “dog” while you be the owner. This is a great role to use when you want your partner to perform oral sex on you.
  • Act out a teacher/student fantasy. Give your partner a test and then tell them that they failed it and you need to “tutor” them on how to do it correctly.
  • Be a dirty cop. “Arrest” your partner for a crime and keep them hostage until they “earn” their way to freedom.
  • Try being a sexy nurse. Have your partner assume the role of a wounded patient that needs your immediate “medical” attention.
  • Capitalize on the recent craze in vampires and approach your partner wearing a pair of sexy fangs. Let them know you’re not out to suck their blood though – and you can prove it by showing them what you do want to suck on!

Fun Role Play For A Submissive Personality

  • Act as a French maid, or a maid of any kind. Clean up after your partner, or “serve” them sexually.
  • Try adopting the personality of a “school girl.” This can be with or without an outfit, but an outfit will make you look and feel more submissive to your lover in this role.
  • Look for a Princess Leia slave costume and act out the role with your partner. Surprisingly, a ton of guys – especially Star Wars fans – dig this sex fantasy.
  • Have your partner act out the part of a sexy firefighter that rescues you from a burning building or from being trapped in a car.
  • Don an Indian girl costume and have your partner assume the role of “John Smith.”
  • Be Little Red Riding Hood while your partner acts as  the wolf – and completely takes you over.

Bring In Costumes

While you may feel a little shy about wearing a sexy costume, but even just a few props can make the role play feel more realistic and be a lot more fun! Even home made costumes can really make a difference! Consider getting a few things to make your role play more fun, such as a red cloak to be Little Red Riding Hood or a sexy police costume to act out the role of a dirty cop. If you can’t get your hands on an adult costume, here are some easy things you can grab from your house and turn into a sexy prop:

  • A white dress shirt can be tied at the waist and paired with a skirt for a “sexy school girl” outfit.
  • A bikini with a few silk ivy leaves glued to it can easily make a sexy “Eve” costume for an Adam and Eve role play.
  • A cut up sheet can suffice as a Pocahontas or Indian outfit.
  • Check out thrift stores in your area – you’ll be surprised at what you can find if you use your imagination!

8 Ways To Prevent UTI’s During Sex

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Sex can often cause urinary tract infections for both guys and girls. Urinary tract infections happen when bacteria or fungi get into the urethra and these infections can be uncomfortable or painful. When severe, UTI’s can cause extreme pain, bleeding and the inability to urinate. Here’s how to protect yourself -and your partner – from UTI’s during sex.

Drink Lots Of Water

Make sure you and your partner are drinking enough water every day. The body is about 70% water, so each person requires roughly eight or so glasses of water a day. A glass is about 8 oz. – so it’s safe to say that a lot of people don’t get enough water. Replacing drinking water with drinking soda, sweet tea or any other sugary or caffeinated drink can definitely contribute to a UTI.

Bathe Before And After Sex

This is probably one of the best things you can do to help prevent getting a UTI during sex. Both men and women naturally harbor bacteria all over the body, however, it’s not necessarily the kind of bacteria you want to introduce to your genitals during intercourse. Hot, sweaty sex (the good kind) can definitely create a breeding ground for bacteria and contribute to urinary tract infections. Simply make a shower before sex part of foreplay – and make sure you wash up afterwards as well.

Women: Be Careful What You Use Down There

Scented lotions, sprays and soaps can irritate the delicate tissues of the vagina, which can lead to an infection. Even products that are designed for use in, on or around the genitals – such as douches or feminine deodorant sprays – can irritate the vagina if there are any chemicals, soaps or perfumes in the products. Avoid douching, and stick to using only plain, unscented soap during showers or baths. You may also want to take showers instead of baths, as bacteria and fungus in the bathwater can easily travel up the urethra.

Wear Cotton Underwear

If you or your partner do not wear cotton panties, briefs or boxers, you may want to switch to wearing cotton only. Any time there is heat and moisture around the genitals, it can cause bacteria to breed. Cotton fabric allows moisture to evaporate through the fabric, while other fabrics (such as polyester or lingerie items) can trap moisture near the genitals.

Change Sex Positions

Sex positions where the penis rubs up against the urethra – such as missionary or girl on top sex positions – can also cause urinary tract infections. This is because the friction during sex actually pushes more bacteria up the urethra. Instead, try sex positions that don’t involve the urethra, such as doggy style or reverse cowgirl.

Urinate After Sex

Make sure that along with showering after sex (or having sex in the shower!) that you also urinate immediately after having sex. This will help flush out any bacterial or fungus that was pushed into the urethra during intercourse. While this isn’t going to completely prevent UTI’s from ever happening, it can certainly help reduce the occurrence of a UTI or at least make the UTI less intense and easier to treat if you do get one.

Pay Attention To Your Sensitivities To Condoms And Spermicides

Spermicide and condoms with lube or spermicides can also help contribute to urinary tract infections if you’re a fairly sensitive person. This can happen to both men and women, although, it is more common for women to get UTI’s from intercourse, condoms and spermicides. When you try a new product, make sure you aren’t using anything else new at the time. For example, don’t try out a new lube and a new condom at the same time.

This is because if you find that you have a sensitivity to the product, you’re not going to be able to tell which one it is. Introduce each new item alone and pay attention to your reaction to it. If you’re sensitive to it or get a UTI, try something else until you find something that works with your body chemistry. There are lots of lubes that are available for sensitive skin!

Increase Your Vitamin C Intake

Extra vitamin C will help adjust the pH in your bladder and urethra, making it difficult for bacteria to actually live there and cause an infection. You can do this by taking simple vitamin C supplements, or by drinking more vitamin C rich juices. If you do choose to go the juice route, make sure that you’re not drinking juices that are packed with sugar, as this can actually make UTI’s worse.