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10 Sex Toys For Married Couples

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Sex toys aren’t just for singles who are flying solo – they can make sex with your spouse ten times hotter. Sex toys can be especially helpful after the fire has died in your sex life, which is common after couples have been married for awhile – no matter how much they love each other. Here are ten picks for those who have said “I do.”

Adam & Eve Couples Enhancer Ring

A cock ring and a clitoris vibrator in one, this enhancer ring will give you and your partner both heightened sensations. It’s made of soft silicone rather than a hard material that could get stuck on the penis and also includes an outer ring that can be slipped behind his scrotum for a tighter feel.

Hustler Bang Bang Bullet Vibrator

This pretty pink vibrator has a cordless remote control that can be controlled by a woman’s husband. The motor is quiet enough that you and your spouse can use it in public, making sex even more fun and exciting. She’ll love never knowing what is going to come next and when she’s going to have an orgasm!

Super Head Honcho Masturbator

Women are much more likely to enjoy giving their husbands a handjob every now and then if they have a little help. It’s easy for her hands to get tired, but when using a masturbation sleeve with a generous amount of lube, he’ll orgasm quicker and her hands won’t cramp up as easily. It’s a win-win!

Oral Delight Couples Kit

Make oral sex more fun for him and her with a kit full of flavored lubes and toys. She’ll get a flavored lube to use on him and he’ll get one to use on her, and they’ll both get an easy to use vibrator with a pink silicone “tongue” sleeve. This is a great option for husbands who don’t always enjoy giving their wives oral sex.

Swiss Navy 2-in-1 Enhancement Gel For Couples

When both a husband and wife need a little extra sensitivity, this his-n’-hers arousal gel does the trick. Both gels are stored in one convenient bottle with separate containers, making it easier to use and keep discreet. This is a great option for men and women who would rather use natural herbal compounds than pharmaceutical substances, because the base of the gels are comprised of herbal extracts.

Sexy Slave Kit

Since married sex can sometimes get boring, bondage can be the next step that couples take when spicing up their sex lives. The Sexy Slave Kit is a simple kit with easy to use items that make introducing BDSM and bondage in the bedroom a lot more fun. Restrain your partner with sexy handcuffs and tickle them with a feather tickler. Make sure to use the blindfold so they don’t see what you’re doing!

X-Large Ben Wa Balls

For wives who feel like they have lost the muscle tone in their vagina (especially after having kids) and want to be tight for their husbands again, Ben Wa Balls give the PC muscles a great workout. The balls move around inside the vagina and the muscles are worked by keeping the balls from slipping out of the vagina. Use with a tightening cream to make him feel like you’re a virgin all over again!

A&E Beginner’s Power Pump

After being married for so many years, a man may begin to experience problems keeping his erection like he could when he was young. Erectile dysfunction is common in older men, but that doesn’t make it any less disappointing when it happens. A penis pump can help a man get and maintain a rock hard erection.

Sexy Stripper’s Kit

A woman can spice up her sex life with her husband by learning how to give a little striptease. The Sexy Stripper’s Kit is a novelty item that includes lots of fun props that can help her feel even more like a stripper. However, some of the items are a little cheesy – skip the play money and slip some real dollar bills in your wife’s g-string. Better yet, make it a few five spots!

Bottom’s Up Finger Rimmers

Many married couples would love to try anal sex (especially after they’ve been doing the same thing over and over again in the bedroom) but aren’t sure how to get started. The Bottom’s Up Finger Rimmer is a teeny tiny little butt plug that is perfect for beginners – whether you’re a guy or a girl. It’s less than 2 inches long and 1 inch wide. Start by using this and work your way up to bigger sizes.

How To Tell If She’s Faking Her Orgasm?

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An orgasm is something that almost every woman has faked at least once – but how can a guy tell a fake climax from a real one? There are lots of ways to tell the difference – here’s how to find out if she’s actually had a real climax and how you can spot a fake almost instantly.

I really don’t know, or can’t tell if a woman had a real orgasm or a fake one. If a woman had an orgasm and asks me to slow down, sometimes actually asks me to stop kissing her neck or body for a minute, does that mean the orgasm is real?

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How To Tell The Difference

If you’re in the moment with a woman during your partner’s orgasm and are really feeling your woman and feeling the energy, you can definitely tell if it was real or fake. A lot of guys get stuck on having the right techniques during sex that they forget to simply be aware of what is actually going on and being in the moment. If you’re not feeling any emotions or energy coming back from her during  climax, she’s probably not being honest it.

Note Your Partner’s Breathing

Women begin breathing heavier when they get closer and closer to climax. She’ll be gasping for breath when she’s almost there and she may even start holding her breath for periods of time, simply because she’s so into it and what you’re doing that she literally is forgetting to breathe!

Look At The Vagina

If you’re in a position to look at the vagina while she’s nearing the big “O”, such as with oral sex, you can actually tell when she’s getting ready to climax. If it’s the real thing, your partner’s genitals are going to get a little swollen and flushed, looking pinker than before. Sometimes, when they get very engorged with blood, they can even appear dark red or purple and look much larger than normal.

Pay Attention To The Clitoris

When a woman starts to get aroused, the head of the clitoris will come out from underneath the hood. This is so it is easier for a woman to receive clitoral stimulation. However, as she gets closer and closer to orgasm, it will bury itself underneath the hood again. This is because the clitoris gets more and more sensitive as a woman gets more and more aroused, to the point where the sensations can almost be too much.

Vaginal Contractions

When a woman reaches climax, the vagina is going to start to contract and tense up, and then release very rapidly. This spasming can be felt with your fingers or your penis during sex and it is completely involuntary. This movement is actually almost impossible to fake. A woman can contract the vagina on purpose, but real orgasmic contractions are very fast and irregular, almost “fluttery” like.

After A Real Orgasm

If a woman has truly reached climax and is finished, she’s going to be ultra sensitive. The clitoris and nipples will be very sensitive and she may want you to stop everything all together. This is because after a real orgasm, it’s actually so sensitive it becomes painful.

Sweaty Sex Is Good Sex

When your partner gets close to reaching climax, she’s going to start to sweat either from all the activity you guys are doing or from  the muscles being so tensed up, or both. If she’s really getting ready to reach climax, all of your partner’s muscles are going to tense up and become rigid. Your lover’s chest will get red and flushed, and the cheeks will get pink. These things won’t be happening if she’s not truly aroused – if she’s not being honest about it, the most you’re going to get is some porn star noises.

How To Spot A Fake

This technique is actually a little mean spirited, so use it wisely and only if you truly think your girl is faking orgasms. When she’s acting like she’s really close to orgasm and she’s almost there, stop everything you’re doing at once. If she was truly almost there, she’s not going to be happy that you ruined the climax. If it wasn’t the real deal, she’s likely not to show extreme upset at the fact that you stopped.

Ladies: Communicate With Your Partner

Ladies, you know that guys are liable at any time to stop what they’re doing and change it up to something completely different – which can be disastrous if you’re almost over the edge. When you’re getting close, make a point to let your partner know that he needs to keep doing whatever he’s doing until you have an orgasm. Let him know that you’re almost there – so he doesn’t stop and do something else and ruin your climax.

Do Women Show Their Cleavage On Purpose?

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When dating, do all ladies expose their breasts intentionally to get a man’s attention, or is it something that happens unintentionally? Do some girls do it deliberately while others do it by accident? Here’s the truth on why girls might expose their breasts deliberately, such as while dating, but also why it’s probably not intentional every time her breasts show.

Do you think girls frequently expose their breasts on purpose? How often do girls show it intentionally, or is it usually inadvertently?

–YouTube Viewer

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It Depends On A Woman’s Mood

Whether a woman shows her breasts or not depends entirely on what mood she’s in. In fact, pretty much everything a woman does depends on what mood she’s in! Perhaps she’s dating around and feeling like flirting a little – she is probably going to be more inclined to show her breasts off in a low cut shirt. If she is not feeling as sexy, she will probably wear a shirt that doesn’t show as much.

However, if a woman’s breasts are showing, don’t assume that it is because she wanted it to.  It could possibly be unintentional as well. She may not have given it any thought at all – certainly not as much thought as many men do. Most ladies are very much into fashion and style – that’s a no brainer. So a woman might wear a shirt that is low cut and shows the tops of a her breasts simply because she likes the shirt, or it might go really well with an outfit or a favorite piece of jewelry.

Men Want To See Breasts

Girls know from experience in the dating field that men respond very well to short shorts and a little boob action. If a woman is trying to get a date, she might wear a lower cut shirt in the hopes that a guy will notice her and come up and introduce himself to her and possibly ask her out. There’s a reason that Victoria’s Secret push up bras are so popular! Chances are, if men responded as well to a long sleeve turtleneck as they did a deep v-neck top, turtlenecks would be the new “in fashion” item!

The same goes for lingerie. Lingerie wasn’t designed because ladies enjoy walking around in garter belts and crotchless panties. It’s almost never something a woman gets for herself if she doesn’t have a man who will get to see it on her. It was designed with men in mind. Men love to see girls’ bodies and lingerie was created to accent and show off certain parts of girls’ bodies that guys find attractive!

It Might Just Be Hot Out

Another reason a woman might be showing her breasts accidentally is if she’s wearing a low cut shirt or tank top because it’s hot out. Just like men take their shirts completely off or wear a tank top or thin shirt sometimes if it’s very warm out, a woman might wear a shirt that has a little less to it for comfort reasons or because she wants to get a little sun.

Also, ladies that have very large breasts get warmer up there more quickly than ladies with smaller breasts. It can get a little damp and sweaty up there if a woman has larger breasts, which can be extremely uncomfortable and even cause rashes or chafing. So it makes sense that wearing a low cut shirt would help keep a woman more cool and comfortable during the warmer months.

Are There Girls That Use Their Breasts To Entice And Manipulate Men?

There are girls out there that will use their bodies to their advantage to attract men and make them start thinking about sex from the get go. Whether they’re wearing itty bitty shorts, a low cut shirt, a backless dress or a miniskirt, they’re doing it because they know it will grab a lot of men’s attention and that’s what they’re after. But that doesn’t mean that all girls who expose their breasts are doing it for this particular reason.

While there are a portion of ladies that do expose their breasts intentionally to manipulate men, this number is far lower than the number of men who notice! Men think about it much more than girls do, so chances are, if you’re noticing a woman’s breasts in a low cut shirt, she probably didn’t do it deliberately. She probably has another reason for letting the girls out – like comfort or fashion.

10 Best Places To Have Kinky Sex

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Kinky sex can get a lot freakier if you mix up where you’re getting busy at. Whether you’re doing it in a haunted hotel where the fear factor is at the max or enjoying Japanese rope bondage at a Shibaricon, checking out these kinky new ides can make your sex life hoter than ever before. Here are ten incredible ideas that will help you up the “kink” or “freak” factor in your sex life!

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With A Prostitute In A Seedy Hotel

If you’re into the “kinky and freaky”, this is a great way to have a threesome without the emotional baggage that comes with having a threesome with a friend. However, sometimes sex workers can be just as seedy as the hotel, so you can also try doing this with a non-seedy prostitute in a nice hotel. Make sure the laws in your state don’t prohibit prostitution, and make sure you use condoms to avoid transmitting any STD’s!

A Shibaricon

A Shibaricon is a convention that brings together lovers of rope bondage from all around the world. From those who just love the artistic aspect of Japanese rope bondage to those who truly enjoy it sexually, a Shibaricon is where people who enjoy this activity can get together and share ideas and fantasies.

In A Tub Full Of Shaving Cream

Spray your partner and yourself with shaving cream all over your bodies and go at it – in the tub of course! The tub provides a place you and your partner can have kinky sex without the mess (you can just rinse it off in the shower afterwards). You can also put down painting tarps in your bedroom and have fun with it there. Smearing your partner all over their body with shaving cream and feeling them rub up against you with the slick substance in between your bodies can be an uber-turn on.

In A Cemetery On A Dark, Foggy Night

If you like to be scared, or you enjoy really creepy things, this place is for you. Bring a sleeping bag or blanket with you if you plan on doing it on the ground, or you can just bend over a headstone and do it doggy style! Avoid doing this in big cities though with high crime rates – you never know who else is going to be in the cemetery with you.

In A Jail Cell Of An Old Prison

When taking a tour of an old prison, sneak off into an old jail cell and get a little kinky with your lover. Unfortunately, if you’re really into doing it in a really freaky cell or execution room, most of them are closed off to the public and are protected by glass windows.

In A Haunted Suite In A Famous Haunted Hotel

This is also a great place to have kinky sex if you and your partner are into getting scared. Remember, fear and danger are great aphrodisiacs but you don’t always want to put yourself in real danger. Staying in a haunted hotel is a great way to get scared without actually taking a risk. The downside to some haunted hotels is that they’re old and may not have all the creature comforts you’ve gotten used to.

On Stage At A Deserted Underground Theater

If you’ve had a fantasy about doing it in front of a crowd but haven’t had the opportunity to do it for real, this can be a great alternative. It’s public sex in a private way. Find an old, deserted underground theater and get it on with your lover on stage. Dress up in sexy costumes if you’d like and pretend that the seats are filled with people watching you and your partner’s every move.  This can also be incredibly erotic if you’re into the idea of people watching you but aren’t ready to do it for real yet.

At The Tattoo Parlor

Lots of people feel like pain is erotic and what better place to sneak a quickie with your lover than at the tattoo parlor? Unless you want to get it on in the bathroom though, you’ll have to find an artist that is down with you and your partner getting kinky in their shop. Also, don’t try to do it while you’re getting the actual tattoo – you’ll probably cause the artist to mess it up.

In A Mental Hospital

For a really freaky time, consider having sex in a mental hospital. Take a tour of an old mental hospital and sneak away with your lover to an old patient room for a quick romp. Bonus points if you can find a padded room to do it in, or a straightjacket that you can use for bondage.

In The Morgue

You have to have a really dark side to enjoy this one, so it’s not for everyone. But if you have access to a morgue or funeral home, getting it on next to the dead can be a turn on (if you’re into that sort of thing). Hop up on a stainless steel gurney or tuck yourselves into an empty casket for some interesting but freaky fun.

Not Having Sex? You NEED To Watch This!

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Sex is something just about everyone wants – but not everyone always gets it. Some single guys get a lot of sex and other guys hardly get any at all – and dating isn’t as fun when you’re in the latter category. If you’re not getting any, you’re probably wondering what the difference is between you and the guys who are getting laid every weekend – or more. If you’re not getting any, here’s how to fix it and start getting more sex!

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If You’re Single And Not Getting Sex

If you’re single and you’re not getting any, these three steps will help you get laid more often. However, if you’re married and looking to get more sex, these techniques are definitely not for you! If you follow these steps while you’re married, it will likely cause more trouble than it’s worth, considering that these techniques are all about how to score with lots of different women.

Step One: Approach One Girl A Day And Ask For Her Phone Number

Make a committment to approach one new woman a day and ask her for her phone number (bonus points if flirting is involved). This simultaneously achieves two things. First, you will inherently become much more comfortable talking to women. When you’re constantly going up to women and making conversation with them, you become more and more aware of what to say and when to say it.

Second, it increases your chances of getting a girl to actually say “yes” simply because after talking to so many women, one of them is bound to. By asking tons of women out, you’re actually improving your odds at getting a date – learn to focus on the number of women that say “yes” instead of the number of women that don’t. Even if you ask fifty women for their phone number and only get two responses, that’s still two women that are interested in dating you and possibly sleeping with you!

Step Two: Design A Date With Multiple Activities – Ending At Your Place

You’re much more likely to have sex on the first date if you design it so that it ends up at your place. Plan a date where you’re moving around a lot and doing multiple activities. Dinner and a movie is cliche, and afterwards, there can be an awkward moment when you’re figuring out what to do next, especially if you’ve hit it off and want to continue spending time with each other.

Here are a few ways you can convince her to go to your place, after you’ve taken her to a few other places first.

Make or purchase a really yummy dessert. Then, let her know that you “made” her something really delicious and she just has to come over and try it. This sounds cheesy, but it actually does work!

Use the things around you to your advantage. For example, do you have a great view from your balcony or your backyard? Do you have a pool or some really exquisite fine art? Perhaps you have a crazy roommate that your date just has to come meet. Look at the things around you and decide what could possibly be interesting to a woman and use that to your advantage when trying to get her to come back to your place.

Step Three: Acquire Sexual Skills

You can get different women back to your place with the above steps, but if you’re not wanting to bomb out and never have sex again with this same girl, you’re going to need to acquire some great sexual skills. This is the true secret to getting a lot of sex all the time. Most guys that get sex have a few girls that they have sex with all the time, rather than doing it with someone new every time. This is because a guy that is really good in bed will have the women he sleeps with coming back for more!

Take some time to research on how to give a woman a really great orgasm. Learn how to please a woman with incredible oral sex, and then learn how to stimulate the g-spot or the a-spot and give her types of orgasms she’s never had before. If you learn what a woman likes in bed, you’re really only going to have to date a few women – because if you blow their minds during sex, they’e going to want to go back to your place again and again.