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Valentine’s Day – 8 Creative Ways To Say I Love You

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Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg if all you’re trying to do is say “I love you” to your partner. But sometimes those three little words just aren’t enough, especially on Valentine’s Day. Here are some awesome, creative ideas that will help you show your partner how you feel.

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Mow The Lawn

This Valentine’s Day, put an “I love you” message in the lawn. This works best if you live in a warmer area and actually have grass to cut in February. With the mower, write your message in the grass – it helps if you spray paint the grass first so you have a guide while you’re mowing. If you have a smaller lawn, just mow a heart. When you’re done, have your partner look at it from a window on the second story!

Make Toast

Check out online cookware outlets or check your local specialty food stores and get an “I love you” toast stamper. They’re sweet, easy to use and usually inexpensive. Make your partner breakfast in bed for Valentine’s Day, and use the stamper to mark the toast. Your lover will be so surprised that your “I love you” message is on the bread!

Tattoo Their Name On Your Body – For Fake

Before Valentine’s Day, order a special made fake tattoo with their name on it. A quick online search will reveal tons of places you can order name tattoos in just about any kind of font, but be careful when browsing websites that require a minimum bulk order. When you get the tattoo, apply it somewhere on your body in secret. Let them discover it next time you have sex! They’ll think it’s real!

Make A Fashion Statement

Make a t-shirt with their picture on it that says “I love ___.”  These are usually easy and inexpensive to make, whether you order one online or have one made by your local photo store. Heck, you can even use a plain t-shirt and puff paints if you want to. The idea is that this “I love you” message is a cheesy Valentine’s Day idea, but it’s funny and sweet. Proclaim your love to everyone when you wear it!

Name A Star For Your Partner

This Valentine’s Day, do something sweet and special like naming a star after your partner. However, get a little creative with it. Instead of just naming it “Karen” after her, make the name “Jeffery loves Karen” be the name of the star. You can also try, “I love you Karen,” or a line from the lyrics of your favorite song together. Make sure you’re able to locate it with a telescope so your partner can really enjoy it. This is especially great if you and your lover enjoy stargazing together.

Make A Radio Announcement

Plan to have a radio announcement say “I love you” to your significant other on Valentine’s Day. You can also dedicate a song to your lover and have it played after the announcement. Make it super special by having “your song” played. Make sure you put it on the radio station that your partner actually listens to, and know approximately what time the announcement will be aired. That way, you can set up a radio in the bathroom to play while they get ready for work, or you can make sure it’s on that station while you carpool home at the end of the day.

Make A Lighted Message

Cut out the words “I love you” in a black garbage bag. Tape it up to a window in your home and turn off all the lights in your house except for the lights in that one room. Make sure ALL the lights in that room are turned on. This works best if you plan to get home from work a little while before your partner does on Valentine’s Day. When your significant other walks up the drive after work, they’ll see your lighted message!

Put Up A New Background Pic

This is a great Valentine’s Day idea for someone you’ve been with for awhile (and who doesn’t mind you looking at or using their phone or computer), because if you do this for someone you’ve only been dating for a short while, it could actually backfire on you and creep them out. Change the screensaver or desktop background on their computer or phone with a picture of you two and an “I love you” message. Next time they flip open their laptop or check their phone, they’ll see your message!

Make Long Distance Relationships Successful

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Long distance relationships are tough. Think about it – maintaining a happy partnership is hard enough to accomplish on its own. When you put miles of actual distance between the people in one, it’s even more difficult to make things work. Some people are better at long distance relationships than others, so how can you tell if you’re one of them? Furthermore, once you’re in a one, how best can you make it work?

Starting Long Distance Relationships

If you’re thinking about starting this kind of partnership with someone, there are a lot of factors to consider. First of all, think back to your previous romances. Are you the kind of person who needs to spend a lot of face time with your significant other? If you know that you prefer hang time to phone time, you’re going to have a really tough go with a partnership like that.

You also need to think about whether or not you’re the jealous type. People who get jealous easily in partnerships often have a difficult time with far away love. When you aren’t there to meet your boyfriend or girlfriend’s friends and colleagues in person, it can be easy to imagine them flirting with others and possibly cheating on you.

That state of not-knowing can make a jealous individual start obsessing over all sorts of bad things in long distance relationships. It’s particularly important to have a strong sense of trust so when the trust unravels, things rapidly fall apart. Ultimately, you need to be someone who is fairly independent and can handle an element of the unknown in your partnership.

How You Can Make It Work

Should you find that you can do without a lot of face-to-face time, you can start thinking about how you’ll make it work. You will need to plan times to talk to each other on the phone and online. This includes both regular talking and intimate talking such as phone sex. It’s important to consider time zone differences and come up with a time of day that you’ll both typically be available during to talk. If you both get webcams, you can use internet video chatting services, that way you at least get to see each other every day, if not in person.

Of course, video chatting won’t make up for a lack of legitimate physical contact. You’re going to want to devote a portion of both of your incomes to a travel budget. As often as you can, go visit each other. Depending on the distance you live apart, you may be able to see each other every single weekend, or it might only be once every couple of months. Either way, make sure to set up a schedule where you trade off doing the traveling. Definitely make sure that you find a way to spend important holidays and milestones together, as well.

Do You Want An Open Relationship?

Some people elect to make their long distance relationships open relationships. That means that each party in the partnership is allowed to date other people, as long as they give their partner a heads up. Depending on how serious your relationship is, this could be an okay idea. However, this can often end up messily.

Sometimes one person is doing all the dating and the other one starts to feel upset about it. Just make sure that you’re both on the same page about the seriousness of your romance before you consider making it an open one. Never feel like you have to agree to open long distance relationships if you’re uncomfortable with your S.O. dating other people.

Regardless of it being open or closed, just know that you have to be able to trust your partner when you’re far apart. Make an effort to bridge the distance gap with regular communication and visits, and things will work out okay. Who knows? If all goes well, one of you may even end up moving to be with the other.

Valentine’s Day Gift Idea – Hot Sex And Explosive Orgasms

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Coming up with a gift for Valentine’s Day for your lover is no easy task, especially when movies, dinners and chocolates are totally played out. Instead of giving her a gift she’s going to expect this Valentine’s Day, surprise her with a night of super hot sex and give her an orgasm (or two…or three) that she’ll remember for months after the last frost. Be prepared to give her an encore though – these sex tips will have her lusting after you and begging you for sex every time you turn around!

Learn How To Give Her Oral Sex

If you’ve never gone down on your parnter before (or haven’t in awhile), make a point to go down south this Valentine’s Day. You may think you know how to eat a girl out, but take some time to really learn how to push her pleasure buttons when you’re between her legs. There are so many different ways to please a woman orally that it can be difficult to sort through the ones that look like they’ll work (and the oral sex tips that look like total bunk), but here are some easy tips to get you started.

  • The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings in it. Pay attention to it!
  • The g-spot is easier to find after she’s already aroused.
  • Don’t head straight for her clitoris – it may be uncomfortable. Start with slow kisses all around to get her warmed up.
  • Be prepared to camp out for awhile. Your goal is to bring her to orgasm and it may not happen right away.
  • Make noise. She wants to know that you’re enjoying it too.
  • Make Valentine’s Day all about hot sex and her pleasure.

Learn How To Give Her A Blended Orgasm

Women are capable of having multiple orgasms in one night and they’re also capable of having two different types of orgasms at one time! Take advantage of the fact that your lover is more versatile in the orgasm department than you are and learn how to give her hot sex this Valentine’s Day that she’ll remember for months to come. Most women can have a clitoral orgasm pretty easily (this is most likely the type of orgasm she gives herself during masturbation) and many girls can also reach orgasm through stimulation of the g-spot. By stimulating both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time, you can give her a blended orgasm – both types of climax at the same time! Start with these simple tips.

  • If you’ve never found her g-spot before, now is the time to locate it. It’s about 2 inches in on the top wall of her vagina.
  • Get her aroused first. Licking the clitoris and fingering the g-spot without her being warmed up could be disastrous.
  • Don’t try to give her a blended orgasm through penetration at first. You’re better off using fingering and oral sex.
  • Switch back and forth between clitoral and g-spot stimulation before you stimulate both at the same time.
  • Get comfortable. It may take awhile for her to build up to a blended orgasm.

Cuddle With Her Afterwards

After a night of hot sex (especially on Valentine’s Day) it is extremely important to let your partner know that she is loved and cherished. Mental stimulation is just as important for a woman as physical stimulation is, and if she gets one without the other, she may be feeling like she got jipped. Take some time after having sex to hold her, whisper in her ear and snuggle with her. Let her know how much you enjoy having sex with her and how great she makes you feel. Even more than the orgasms you gave her, letting her know how special she is will really put her on cloud nine! Here are some things you can say to her to seal the deal and make this Valentine’s Day truly amazing for her.

  • “I love giving you pleasure. It makes my whole night.”
  • “You make me feel amazing. When I’m with you, I forget about everything else.”
  • “Your body is a perfect fit with mine. It’s like we were made for each other.”
  • “I love you.”
  • “I can’t wait until we can spend another night like this together again.”
  • “You make sex so hot! You are incredible!”
  • “I’ll remember this Valentine’s Day forever.”

By adding a bit of romance to a night of hot sex on Valentine`s Day, you can make sure she is fulfilled on both a physical and emotional level. This is what will really have her coming back for more over and over again!

The Best Sex Positions For Mind-Blowing Orgasms

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Do perfect sex positions actually exist? They do! However, the most awesome sex positions for men and women are different. Also, did you know that by moving even one inch in any direction while in these sex positions, you can dramatically change the feeling and intensity of the pleasure?

Take your time to find the best angles for the both of you, while using these sex positions.

The Best Position For Women To Climax

The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to have an orgasm because she can control the friction to her clitoris or G-spot.

Since you typically want the women to orgasm first, this would be one of your first positions and then move to a position where the guy has full control of his orgasm.

You can vary your leg positions by both of you spreading your legs, or by alternating the one who has them spread and the one who has them together.

The Best Position For Men To Orgasm

Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because it gives them full control.

This is one of the greatest sex positions for hitting her G-spot and allows you to fondle her breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. Even she can touch her clitoris in this position.

She kneels before you (some women enjoy it more if their head is down on a pillow) and you enter her from behind. The main benefit for the guy is a view of her beautiful bottom and being able to see the action, while getting incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

The Mistake Couples Make Using Sex Positions

Of course, books show dozens, if not hundreds, of sex positions, but the reality is that there are maybe only eight basic positions, with slight variations for each. So what happens when you’ve tried all eight positions to death? Let’s face it – ­­in the end, lovemaking is generally always the same.

That’s why you should explore ALL aspects of sexuality about each other. I don’t mean anything freaky here. I just mean cultivate an adventurous spirit. Turn foreplay into a game. Add a prop or two.

Try a new place. How about starting off with a plate of fruits? There are literally HUNDREDS of ways you can make your lovemaking more exciting, passionate and fulfilling long-term, rather than just trying new sex positions.

10 Valentine’s Day Kissing Tips

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Valentine’s Day is well known as the “kissing” holiday. Whether you’re planning on having sex later or not, if you have someone to kiss on Valentine’s Day, you’re definitely going to be kissing them – and hopefully for more than just a few seconds. Make this February 14th a day (or night!) to remember with these super sweet and sensual kissing tips.

Don’t Rush The Kiss

A great Valentine’s Day kiss shouldn’t be rushed. Even if you’re excited to begin oral sex or intercourse, rushing through the kiss could actually end up backfiring on you. Kiss your partner slowly and with meaning behind it. Don’t let your eagerness to get on with other things come through in the kiss – instead, go slowly and act as though you have nowhere else to be and nothing better to do!

The Tongue Isn’t Everything

When kissing, remember that the tongue isn’t everything. The lips and teeth play a huge part in a great kiss too! Kiss your partner softly with just your lips, without moving your tongue towards their mouth at all. Nibble their lips and keep yours soft and pushed out slightly so your lover can nibble on your lips too.

Snuggle In Between Kisses

For longer makeout sessions, it’s important to take breaks from kissing to catch your breath. In between kisses, don’t ignore your partner to catch a glimpse at the television or let your mind wander. Instead, snuggle with your significant other and let them know how special they are to you and how good it feels to be wrapped up in their arms. Snuggling will make your partner feel super blissed out, especially on a day like Valentine’s Day!

Kissing Is Not A Means To An End

The biggest mistake that men make when it comes to the art of kissing is that they treat it as though it is a means to an end and a way to get on with more important things, like getting a blowjob or having sex. Most women enjoy kissing in and of itself, and if they feel as though you’re more interested in getting it on, they may decide they don’t want to put out or move forward with heavy petting, sex or oral sex.

Kiss Other Parts Of The Body Too

Don’t limit your kissing to just your partner’s mouth this Valentine’s Day. Remember to move your lips softly across your partner’s cheek, nibble their ear and dip your head low to kiss and nibble their neck. Don’t go below the neck though, or your lover may think that you’re only interested in having sex! By remembering the sweet spots other than the lips and mouth, you can ensure a great makeout session that doesn’t bore you or your partner easily.

Make The Kiss Delicious

Even if you practice great oral hygiene, you can make the kiss even more delicious by adding mints or candies or even experimenting with temperatures! For a kiss that is cool as a cucumber, pop a breath mint in before kissing your partner. To heat it up, use cinnamon gum, candies or cinnamon mints. Your lover won’t be expecting a deliciously flavored kiss! You can also bring the temperature up or down by alternating sucking on ice or sipping iced tea with drinking a hot drink such as hot tea, hot cocoa or cappuccino. Just make sure that if you’ve made yourself a nice cup of joe, that you have one for your partner too!

Compliment Your Lover

Use the breaks you’re taking in between kissing to whisper sweet nothings in your significant other’s ear. You can, of course, combine this with nibbling and sucking your partner’s earlobe! Let your partner know how good they look this Valentine’s Day, or let them know how important or special they are to you.  If you are in a committed relationship with your partner, this would be a good time to tell your partner that you love them.

Bring Along The Chapstick

If you plan on making out with your lover for longer than several minutes (which you probably should if its Valentine’s Day) both of you are going to end up with some very chapped lips. Bring along the Chapstick to make both of you more comfortable during kissing and after!

Experiment With Bondage

You don’t have to be having sex to have a little fun with bondage. Practice tying your partner up and kissing them all over! Take turns and let your lover kiss you when you are immobilized.

Don’t Let Your Partner Get Blue Balls

Yes, both men and women can get blue balls. If this happens while you are making out, engage in a little heavy petting and give him a handjob, finger her or try sixty-nining for mutual oral sex. If you’ve had sex before, this would be a perfect time to shed the clothes and let off a little steam!