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How To Buy Erotic Lingerie For Valentine’s Day

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Erotic lingerie makes the perfect Valentine’s Day gift for your partner. It’s fun, sexy and will make her feel like a million bucks! Unfortunately, buying lingerie for your lover isn’t always as easy as it sounds. It’s easy to get the wrong size or buy something that doesn’t flatter your partner at all. Here is a simple erotic lingerie buying guide so you can get her something that will not only look great on her, but will also be something that she feels super sexy wearing!

If She Has A Large Bust

If your partner has a large bust, it may be difficult to find lingerie with an underwire bra that will accomodate her. Often, lingerie bust sizes are a little different from regular bra sizes, so the underwire may not fit right at all. Choose something without wire at all and better yet, without cups too! Even if the erotic lingerie has a “line” where the fabric of the bust meets the rest of the fabric, it still may not fit right on her – for example the “line” that should sit underneath her breasts may sit on top of them or in the middle, making  it look disproportionate.

If She Has A Large Tummy

Many women are self conscious about their stomachs, especially if they’ve had children. If this is your partner’s “trouble spot,” select erotic lingerie this Valentine’s Day that doesn’t show her midriff. Babydoll teddies are perfect for this, because they boast a layer or two of chiffon that is attached to the bottom of the bust and flows gently over the stomach area.

If She Has A Large Butt

If your lover doesn’t like the size of her butt (even if you do!) don’t purchase lingerie with a thong. Wearing a thong may make her feel as though her worst aspects are on display for everyone to see. Instead, choose panties that have a full rear. You may be thinking “granny panties,” but boy shorts or cheekies are actually incredibly sexy and will make her feel sexy too. You may even be able to get crotchless panties that allow for easier access to oral sex!

If She Has Large Thighs

While a lot of men really enjoy seeing their woman wear garter belts and thigh high stockings (especially on Valentine’s Day), a woman with larger thighs may not appreciate wearing them at all. Most thigh high stockings come in one size only, and may cut into the tops of her thighs creating a “muffin top” sort of look. Even if it looks fine to you, she may still be very self conscious about it. Instead, choose  erotic lingerie that reaches her knees or ankles, such as a piece with a long skirt or one that looks more like a dress but has a sexy slit up the side. You may be able to choose something that covers her thighs but accentuates her breasts to make her feel great about herself and still give you a show!

If Her Breasts Are Small

If she has small breasts, an underwire bra is your best bet. Simply check the size of her bras at home and get lingerie that is closest to that size. Even padded or push up bras are appropriate in this case – as long as it accentuates what she’s got and doesn’t cover it up. Avoid purchasing anything with too much padding, even if her breasts are very, very small. She’ll feel like you think she doesn’t have anything up there at all! If you pick the right lingerie, she’ll feel great strutting around you on Valentine’s Day with a delectable cleavage and you’ll certainly enjoy the way she looks too!

If Her Legs Are Short

No matter what type of erotic lingerie you buy for her this Valentine’s Day, if she has short legs, make sure you pick out a pair of stilettos or high heels to go with it. You don’t necessarily have to get the super tall ones that strippers wear (unless she’s worn them before and knows how to use them without breaking her neck) but anything with at least a three or four inch heel will make her look and feel tall and sexy.

If She’s Fit

If your partner is fit and looks great in just about anything, your job really is easy this Valentine’s Day. You can pretty much buy any erotic lingerie and she’ll feel good in it. Just pay attention to her attitude and if she’s a more demure kind of girl, don’t go out and get something super slutty (unless you’ve discussed the idea with her beforehand). Alternatively, if she’s a kinky gal, lingerie that covers everything up just won’t do.

Valentine’s Day – 5 Romantic Ideas To Make It Extra Special

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Valentines Day can be nerve wracking if you’re not sure what to get your partner as a gift. Sure, you can buy jewelry, plan a romantic dinner and do the whole flowers and chocolate thing, or you can plan something much more loving and romantic that will literally blow your lover away with your thoughtfulness. Check out these great romantic Valentines Day ideas and surprise your lover with something much more than a simple gift!

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Arrange For Both Of You To Take The Day Off

Surprise your honey on Valentines Day with a day off for both of you – but arrange for her day off with her boss in private so she doesn’t know about it. Make breakfast for her in the morning and let her know that she doesn’t have to go in to work, and then spend the day going out on a date, having lunch, shopping or catching a new movie together at the theater. Whatever it is that you and your partner enjoy doing, spend the Valentines Day doing it together and take the opportunity to bond and reconnect.

12 Days Of Valentines

You’ve heard of the 12 days of Christmas, right? Take that concept and apply it to Valentines Day this year. For the twelve days leading up to Valentines Day, give your partner small gifts on every day, saving the biggest and best gift for the 14th. The gifts can be small or large, depending on your budget. Small gifts work just as well if you aren’t able to spend a lot of money, because the idea behind this “gift” is that you’re showing your partner that you’re thinking of them every day for twelve days! The gifts can be flowers and chocolate, kisses, cards, letters, etc. Just use your imagination! The idea is to celebrate your love for twelve consecutive days, regardless of which gifts you choose to give on those days.

Plan A Getaway

If you have the money to spend, plan a short getaway with your partner for the weekend or just for a couple days. Go somewhere warm and sunny just when it’s coldest outside, or if you enjoy the cold, rent a cabin in the mountains and spend a few days snuggling by a fire and tearing up the ski slopes. Even if you don’t have the budget for an entire weekend trip, plan a night out at a hotel in your town or a nearby town. You’d be surprised at how even just one single night at a hotel and just getting out of the house on Valentines Day can make a huge difference in how hot your sex life is! Plan for an awesome night, try new sex positions or even play a few sex games that will get you and your lover’s blood boiling for each other.

Bring Back The Mix Tapes

Remember back in the day when you would make a mix tape for someone you cared about and give it to them as a gift? Bring that idea back this Valentines Day, but do it in an updated way. Buy your partner a nice MP3 player and load it up full of your favorite songs. Make sure you fill it with songs that mean something to the two of you, especially if you have a song that you both consider as being “your song.” Wrap the MP3 player up and gift it to your lover to show them how much you really love them!

Rent An Inflatable Hot Tub

If you think you can’t afford a hot tub or have to rent a hotel with a jacuzzi in the room just to get your bubbly on this Valentines Day, think again! Lots of cities have places where you can rent an inflatable hot tub, even just for a few nights! Set up the inflatable hot tub in the middle of your living room or bedroom (or on the back deck, or wherever you have space) and surround it with hundreds of candles or sparkling lights. If you have two stories, make sure you find space on the bottom floor of your house or apartment to set up the hot tub to make sure there aren’t any huge accidents. Share a great conversation with your lover in the hot tub while sipping champagne and feeding each other chocolate, strawberries or your other favorite sexy foods. If you plan on having sex in the hot tub, make sure you use silicone lube – water based lube isn’t going to hold up for very long in the water because it rinses right off!

Q&A: Cyber Sex And Sexting – Is It OK?

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Cyber sex and sexting is something that can easily come between you and your partner if you let it. With the advances in technology and how much time people spend on the Internet, it’s nothing for guys or girls to get online and start chatting with friends that are both new and old. However, when does it cross the line? When does it go from being okay to going too far? Here’s how to decide where to draw the line in your relationship.

I was just wondering your take on cyber sex and ‘texting’? I have received lots of different advice on the subject and what people think of it and so far everyone has a different take. The reason I ask is that I have recently discovered that my boyfriend of over 2 years has had a regular habit of jumping online and exploring.

Normally I would be open minded about these types of things, I know it’s considered by some just a form of masturbation, but I have discovered that some of these women are not anonymous and are actual acquaintances of his and mine. I know nothing physical has occurred. I have confronted him, we went through a very rough patch but have essentially worked out our relationship and he has (to my knowledge) halted his habits and seems more devoted to me than ever.

However, the images and messages I came across are still haunting me. What should I do?

–YouTube Viewer

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Establish Boundaries In Your Relationship

The first step to making sure cyber sex doesn’t throw a curveball to your relationship is to establish boundaries within that relationship. First, decide for yourself what you’re okay with and what you’re not okay with. Be really clear in your own mind about what makes you uncomfortable so that going forward, you can express to your partner what you feel is fine and what isn’t going to work. Figure out what your own personal jealousy triggers are.

When communicating with your partner about cyber sex, don’t approach them and say, “You can’t do this.” It will only serve to set them off and make them feel like you’re smothering or controlling them. But it is acceptable to say, “This makes me uncomfortable and I would appreciate it if you would stop. This is what I need to continue being in this relationship.” Don’t be afraid to be specific and say, “I’m comfortable with harmless flirting, but after that is where I draw the line.” If your partner truly cares about you and your feelings, they’re going to honor your request to avoid cyber sex.

When It Becomes Cheating

Before you established boundaries in your relationship when it comes to cyber sex and what is okay and what isn’t, it’s likely that your partner didn’t know what upset you or made you uncomfortable and didn’t even know he was doing anything wrong. He may have thought that talking about sex was okay, as long as he didn’t mention having sex with her or describing specific actions like giving her oral sex, etc. If certain things are off limits, it’s important to be specific about what exactly is and isn’t acceptable to you.

If he fails to operate within the boundaries that you’ve established for the relationship, that’s when it crosses the line and becomes cheating. If he’s aware of what you are comfortable with and what you aren’t, but continues to have cyber sex in a way that you’ve already communicated to him is not okay, he’s cheating.

Is It A Deal Breaker?

If he’s crossed the line when it comes to cyber sex, it’s up to you to decide whether what he’s done is a deal breaker or not. If you’re not okay with him having cyber sex and he continues to do it (even after you’ve expressed how uncomfortable it makes you and how much it hurts you), it’s time to decide whether the relationship is something that you want to continue to be in. If he continues to have cyber sex after you’ve discussed it with him, it’s unlikely he will ever change no matter how much time you give him.

If it’s not a deal breaker, that’s okay too. Don’t let anyone tell you that it is or isn’t a big deal, because only you can make that decision yourself. He may try to tell you that it isn’t a big deal, but if it is to you, that’s what is important. If it’s not a big deal, your friends may try to convince you that it is. However you feel about the cyber sex situation is what is important and no one else can decide how you feel and what you want to do about it except for you.

How To Break Up Gracefully

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A break up is never, ever easy. Yet many of us will encounter the need to end a romantic relationship at some point. How can you break things off without getting nasty? If you want to end it without causing excessive pain to your soon-to-be former significant other, there are steps you can take to ease the blow.

Step One: Get It Over With

First and foremost, don’t procrastinate. Once you’re certain you want to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, give yourself a day or two to plan how best to go about things, then carry out the break up. The longer you put things off, the more awkward it will be. Don’t even think about attempting to get the other party to dump you, either. Though it may be tempting to act aloof in the hopes they’ll save you the trouble and end it themselves, that’s cowardly.

Plus, your bad behavior will make you look like a villain to your mutual friends. Once you’ve decided when to break up, it’s time to formulate how to end things. It’s best that you be brave; talk to your future ex in person. If you absolutely cannot bear to do things face to face, calling over the phone is acceptable. However, breaking up in a text message, during an online chat, or in an email is simply not an option. Your S.O. deserves to hear your voice even if you’re not up to looking them in the eye.

Step Two: Get Your Speech Together

So once you’ve settled on when and how you’ll confront your boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s time to plan what you’ll say. Be honest without being harsh or overly hurtful. Don’t be highly accusatory, but if there were relationship problems, don’t leave them unaddressed. You owe it to your partner to explain what went wrong. They need to know for the benefit of their future relationships, and also so they won’t be left wondering why you dumped them. Just be sure to word things as politely as possible while acknowledging your own short comings, as well.

Step Three: The Actual Break Up

Of course, you can only plan ahead for so much. Once the actual break up begins, it’s hard to say how your boyfriend or girlfriend will react. Maybe they’ve secretly been unhappy, too, and will be relieved and calm. On the other hand, they might be completely shocked and extremely upset. Either way, you need to keep your cool. The calmer you manage to remain, the better you’ll look in the end. Don’t be overly cold, though—showing a little empathy will help.

Allow your partner to say their piece without interruption. Don’t evade their questions, and don’t lie to make yourself look better. Stand firm, too. If you’re truly ready to be out of the relationship, don’t give your ex-in-the-making any false hope for a second chance.

Step Four: The Aftermath

Once the break up is done, take a hiatus from speaking with your now-ex. Give them their space and take your own. Otherwise you’ll just prolong the drama. If you have a lot of mutual friends, you should be the bigger person and opt out of group activities so your ex can attend them. Gestures like that aren’t just fair, but also happen to show others that you’re trying to be as polite as possible about everything.

Remain on your best behavior and don’t trash-talk your ex, otherwise it might get back to him or her. Ultimately, if you handle the break up process calmly and politely, you’ll take a lot of the pain out of it. Not only will you show your ex-mate the courtesy they deserve, but you’ll ensure that your reputation remains unsullied.

How To Talk To Women

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Dating and chatting with girls may seem easy for some men, but a lot of guys end up getting it wrong. You can have a seemingly good conversation with a woman that you like, but from her perspective, you were boring and did nothing but go on about yourself. This is actually a very common mistake that guys make, but it doesn’t mean that you have to keep making it. Here’s how you can have real conversations with ladies and stimulate them intellectually – which we all know is the key to getting past a woman’s defenses and showing her that you’re someone she wants to spend time with!

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Don’t Talk To Her The Same Way You Would A Co-Worker

Many men make the simple yet devastating mistake of chatting with girls they’re interested in dating like they chat with their co-workers. When there’s nothing really to discuss, they fill the empty space with run of the mill conversation. For example, you may chat with your co-workers about the problems you’re having at work, the weather, what you’re going to have for lunch or any number of random but boring subjects.

You may think that this conversation fare is good for anyone – including girls you’d like to be dating – but the truth is, it’s not. Having conversations like this is actually one of the fastest ways to show a girl that you don’t have any brains and definitely wont make a girl like you! It doesn’t even make for a real conversation – in fact, most people at work drone on about boring subjects because they don’t really have anything else to go on about and they’re simply trying to fill the awkward silence with some kind of conversation.

Instead, chat with ladies you’re interested in about things that interest them, and offer insights, observations and opinions that make it a real conversation.

Chat In A Way That Assumes Familiarity

While you don’t want to chat with a girl you’re interested in like you would a co-worker, you also don’t want to chat with her like she’s a stranger either. The more you ask the same questions a stranger would ask her, the more you’re going to seem like an actual stranger to her. You definitely don’t want her to feel like she’s being interviewed for a job or playing a very boring round of twenty questions. Questions like this might be:

  • “What do you do for a living?”
  • “What do you do for fun?”
  • “Where do you live?”
  • “Where do you go to school at?”

Instead, make a point to ask any woman you’d like to be dating meaningful questions that actually make her think! You already know that the quickest way to make a woman fall in love with you is by stimulating her mind, so you want to make her feel like you’re interested in her personally and value her opinions and thoughts on different subjects. Questions like this might be:

  • “What would you do if….?”
  • “What is your opinion about….?”
  • “How does …. make you feel?”
  • “What is your favorite….?”

These types of questions actually get her thinking and stimulate her intellectually. They also show that you’re interested in her and the things that are important to her. These types of questions show her that you actually want to get to know who she is and what she’s all about rather than where she works or what kind of pets she has.

Don’t Filter Yourself

When dating, many guys make the mistake of trying too hard to give off the “right” impression or the impression that he thinks a woman wants. What happens is that they are so caught up in putting on the right kind of “show” that they actually forget to be themselves! Guys are so scared of saying the wrong thing and getting rejected that they end up holding back and don’t actually show a woman who they are and how much fun they can be.

Learning to be yourself and letting go of what you think you should be doing or saying when talking to women is a way to show strength and confidence, which is actually a huge turn on for a lot of gals. Chat with a woman as though she is a long time friend of yours and you’re not afraid of being judged by her. She’ll be so appreciative that you’re actually being yourself, unlike the hordes of other guys that put on the “show” for her. When you learn to have real conversations with girls, you’ll find that instead of looking for girls, the girls are looking for you!