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Give Her G-Spot Orgasms During Sex With This 1 Easy Move

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Finding a woman’s g-spot is hard enough, let alone knowing what to do with it when you do. There are lots of g-spot stimulation techniques that work well, such as the “come hither” technique, but most of them are performed using the hands and fingers. What if you want to give your partner a g-spot orgasm during sex with your penis? Many men think it’s impossible, but it’s really not. Here’s how you can give your girl a toe curling, headboard banging g-spot orgasm using only one simple move – and it’s so easy, you’ll wonder why you didn’t think of it before!

The Move

Have your partner lie on her back in the missionary sex position with you on top. You can have her raise her legs a little for deeper penetration if you wish, but it isn’t necessary to perform this move. As you’re thrusting your penis in and out of her vagina, place your hand on her lower stomach, just above the bone of the pelvis and press down gently. Make sure your partner uses the bathroom right before having sex, because this trick can often make her feel a little like she has to urinate. The sensation of having to pee when you’re stimulating the g-spot is actually her body filling itself with female ejaculate – you can tell that it is ejaculate and not urine because it is not possible for the kidneys to fill the bladder that quickly right after using the restroom.

Why It Works

What this special g-spot stimulation technique does is press the g-spot lower towards your penis, allowing your penis to rub up against it more firmly. Many women aren’t able to acheive g-spot orgasm through penile penetration because the g-spot is located on the top wall of the vagina, about two to three inches in. Because of the angle of the g-spot, it can be quite difficult for your penis to rub up against it during sex. By pressing your hand down on her lower stomach, you are pushing the g-spot closer to your penis. This will allow you to stimulate her sweet spot with your penis, allowing you and your partner to possibly reach simultaneous orgasm together. You can also try using this technique when you are fingering her to increase the pressure on the g-spot and decrease the amount of pressure you have to use with the hand that is doing the fingering. Experiment with different variations of this technique to find out which one your partner likes best!

Female Ejaculation Through G-Spot Stimulation

Every woman can ejaculate, but not every woman knows how. Deep, firm g-spot stimulation is required for a woman to experience female ejaculation (also called squirting), making this technique one of the best ones to use if you’re trying to get your partner to actually ejaculate when she reaches orgasm. When a woman is about to ejaculate, it may feel like she has to urinate. If she’s used the bathroom right before sex, you can reassure her that she is not about to wet herself – instead, she is about to have an amazing orgasm! Encourage your partner to let go when she experiences this feeling and bear down into the orgasm. It may take some practice, but using this g-spot stimulation technique is a great way to teach her how to ejaculate!

Using The Move For Multiple Orgasms

All women have the ability to reach orgasm over and over again, and having multiple orgasms is one of the best ways to truly satisfy (if not exhaust) your partner. It is rare for a woman to have more than one orgasm through stimulating her clitoris, but using clitoral stimulation will make her g-spot easier to find. This is because after orgasm, it is engorged with blood and the nerve endings are primed for sexual pleasure. Give your partner a clitoral orgasm by performing oral sex on her, and then move on to penetration. Use the above mentioned technique and place your hand on her lower stomach, pushing the g-spot firmly up against your penis. She will already be primed for orgasm from you going down on her, so it won’t take long for her to reach orgasm number two. Using this technique, you may even get her to have three or four orgasms, but take heart if it doesn’t happen right away. If she’s never experienced a g-spot orgasm before, she may need some time to figure out what her body is doing and how to go with the flow.

Dating Tips: Will My Rebound Relationship End Badly?

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A rebound relationship is common, and it can sometimes be a fun way to get over someone you’ve broken up with. The thing about these types of relationships though is that they rarely last, simply because the person just getting out of a previous relationship is “rebounding” and not ready for commitment again. However, there are a rebound relationship or two that actually last, so if you’re really into someone who just came from a break up, you may not want to give up hope yet. Here’s how to tell if they’re still hung up on their ex – and if their relationship with you will work out for the better.

Question:  Hey, I recently met this girl and we were getting pretty close but then she started talking about her ex-boyfriend who she broke up with because he moved away. She said she’s still in love with him and now I realized that I might just be filling the “gap” that he left behind. Is this kind of rebound relationship going to end badly if I pursue it?

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Why Some Rebound Relationships Don’t Work

Some people go into a rebound relationship with the attitude of simply engaging in casual dating or sex. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, especially if both parties understand that it is more of a casual hookup. However, if one person is going into it thinking that it is going to be the start of something really special, they can get let down pretty hard when they find out the person they are really into isn’t really into them. There are some ways to tell if the rebound relationship will work out or not before you become completely invested in it, so take some time to think the situation through before you really commit to it. If they’re the ones that have done the breaking up with their past partner, they may be ready to move on and start a new commitment with you. However, if they’re the ones that were broken up with, they may still be hung up on the “one that got away.”

Is She Trying To Keep In Contact With Him?

If she says she’s still in love with her ex-boyfriend, she may still be keeping in contact with him through phone, email or chat. This can be a huge indicator of whether or not your relationship with her will work out or not, because if she’s still communicating with him, she’s still hung up on him – and keeping in touch with him will not allow her to fully move on from him and committing herself to what she has with you. Talk to her and let her know that you enjoy spending time with her and want to pursue what you have with her, but you can’t do that while she is still talking to her ex. Let her know that continuing to talk to him is just going to hurt her, because she won’t be able to move on from him and it will keep her from finding happiness elsewhere. Let her know that it makes you uncomfortable and that you’d like her to stop talking to him so you and her can focus on your relationship together. Be wary though – she may insist that it is harmless and she’s going to do it anyway. She may even do it behind your back. Decide beforehand whether this is a deal breaker or not. If she refuses to stop talking to her ex, are you willing to walk away?

Time Will Make A Difference

If you haven’t been in the rebound relationship with her for very long, all she may need is time. It takes time to get over an ex, especially if he’s the one that initiated the break up. If the break up is fresh and you’re really into this girl, take a step back and allow her some time to collect herself and get over him. She may be worth the wait, and the wait probably won’t be very long if she’s already agreed that continuing to keep in touch with him is simply keeping her from moving on. However, if you and her have been dating for awhile now, and she’s still not able to move on from what she had with him, it may be a sign that she’s not going to get over him for a long time. If this is the case, you may want to consider moving on yourself and looking for someone who respects you enough to be  with you and you only mentally and emotionally.

The 5 Hottest Oral Sex Tips On The Planet – For Him

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All men love getting a blowjob – in fact, many men prefer to be on the receiving end of oral sex more than they like intercourse! If your guy likes it so much, naturally, you want to learn as many techniques as you can so you can rock his word. Fortunately for you, there are only 5 awesome oral sex tips that you need to learn to give your guy an amazing orgasm with your mouth – and he’ll never look at you the same way again!

Use Your Hands Too

Some women think that giving a guy head involves using only your mouth, but that is far, far from the truth. When going down on a guy, incorporating your hands into the mix can mean the difference between giving him head for an hour or making him orgasm within ten to fifteen minutes. When giving your partner a blowjob, take one hand and wrap it around the base of his penis. Stroke up and down the shaft of his member as you would if you were giving him a handjob, but only moving your hand halfway up the penis. Lower your mouth down over the head of his penis to give him oral sex, but you’ll only need to go down as far as your hand is -around the middle of his penis. He’ll love the feeling of having both your hands and your mouth on his penis and you’ll be able to bring him to orgasm faster than if you just used your hands or your mouth alone. This is also a great technique for women who have a strong gag reflex to use, because it doesn’t allow the penis to go very far down the throat at all.

Massage The Prostate Gland Or Perineum

The prostate gland is much like a woman’s “g-spot” in the fact that it is a special spot located inside the body that can bring a man to an amazingly powerful orgasm if it’s stimulated the right way. The most efficient way to stimulate a man’s prostate gland is by gently sliding your finger in his anus and making a “come hither” motion with your finger. This will directly stimulate the prostate gland and may cause a man to climax immediately. Some men, however, are adverse to anal sex or anal play of any kind, and this is not the best approach for someone who is uncomfortable with anal stimulation. If this is the case for you and your partner, you can firmly massage his perineum (the space between his testicles and his anus) with your knuckles. This indirectly stimulates the prostate gland and can provide some of the same sensations as when using other techniques.

Pay Attention To The Head Of His Penis

The head of your partner’s penis is the most sensitive part, so it’s important not to leave it out when giving your partner a blowjob. Start by sucking gently on the head of his penis, swirling your tongue around firmly. You can start to suck more firmly if your partner seems to enjoy this, but beware of sucking too hard. The head of his penis is much like your clitoris – packed full of nerve endings that can cause pain or discomfort when stimulated too much.

Don’t Be Afraid To Slobber

So many women are afraid of using too much saliva when giving a guy a blowjob, so they skimp on how good of a blowjob they actually give so as not to end up slobbering all over his penis. Here’s a quick tip – ignore how much saliva you’re using and just let it drip. Keep a towel nearby if you’re that freaked out about it, but don’t worry too much because it’s almost guaranteed that your partner doesn’t care how much saliva you get on him at all.

Let Him Enjoy The Show

Men are definitely visual creatures, so if you can position yourself to allow him to watch while you give him head, so much the better. Make eye contact with him every now and then so he can see how much you’re enjoying giving him pleasure (this is a big deal for guys by the way) and he’ll never forget how great you can be in bed. Mix and match this technique with a few other oral sex tips and you’ll really end up blowing his mind! He’ll be begging you to give him a blowjob again and again after this – and you just might get him to be enthusiastic about giving you oral sex in return!

Q&A: My Husband Says I’m Too Fat Too Have Sex With Me

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It’s not uncommon for a man to have a reduction in his sex drive as he gets older, but he may try to blame it on you. He may suggest that you are overweight and not attractive, or come up with some other reason as to why he doesn’t want to have sex with you – and it will probably end up being something that he consideres “your fault.” The truth is, however, that there are many reasons that a man can lose his sex drive as he gets older, including being a new parent among other things. Here’s how to find out the truth of the matter and whether it’s really you or something else.

Question:  My husband is 30 & I’m 20 – he absolutely seems to hate having sex! We do it about 2 times a month, IF I’m lucky! He said it’s because I need to lose weight. (I’m 5 foot 5 inches and 165 pounds) He’s really rude about it. Is there a way to get him more turned on to where he’ll want to have sex despite how I look? I just had a baby 9 months ago. I’ve tried giving him a blowjob or a handjob, but when it comes to returning the favor he just won’t do it. Can you give me any advice?

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Try To Find Out What Is Really Going On

You may be taken aback at first when he suggests that his lowered libido is a result of your being overweight, but don’t take it to heart right away. There may be other things that are responsible for his reduced sex drive that he just doesn’t know about and the only thing he can think to blame it on is the way your body looks and that he considers it “unappealing.” A change in his lifestyle – such as a new job or a new baby – could be the culprit, as well as other things like certain medications and even his diet and exercise habits. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to determine whether it really is about you or if there might be some deeper issues going on that your partner just isn’t aware of.

  • When did this start?
  • Have you always had the same weight-to-height ratio or have you recently gained?
  • Have you always had sex just a few times a month, or is this something new that has started happening?
  • Did you just have your first baby?
  • Is he having job stress or other types of stress in his life?
  • Has he started taking medication of some kind?
  • Is he eating a healthy, nutrient rich diet?
  • Is HE exercising and maintaining a healthy weight?

Talking To Him About It

It’s important to talk to him about what is going on in your sex life (or lack thereof) but picking the right time and place is absolutely essential in getting through to him. Don’t try to talk to him about the issue right after you’ve either had sex or you’ve initiated sex and he’s declined. You also don’t want to do it when he’s stressed out, like right after work or when the baby is fussy. Hire a babysitter, set aside some time for you and your partner to go to dinner and initiate the conversation in a casual and non-critical way. The best way to get through to your partner about what is really going on with him is to avoid being critical of him and what he says. This can be difficult because he’s coming at you with accusations that can really hurt your feelings, but try your best to maintain a level head or the only thing that will come out of it will be a huge, ugly argument. If you can’t work through these issues on your own, consider couples counseling. Find a counselor that you and your partner are both comfortable with and talk to them about the problems you and your partner are having. A good counselor will not blame either of you for what is going on (because let’s face it, the blame game will get you absolutely nowhere) and will help you and your partner find the tools to change what you need to change in your relationship to have a better sex life.

Changing Your Body

If you’ve just gained weight from having a baby, relax a little and be confident that your body will return to its normal size and shape if you maintain a healthy diet and exercise plan. If you’ve always been overweight though, consider taking what your partner is saying to heart (at least a little bit). It may be hard to hear, but being overweight just doesn’t make you unappealing to him, it also places hazards on your health. Overweight people are more at risk for high blood pressure and heart disease, as well as diabetes and other life threatening conditions. Consider losing weight for you. Think about how great you’ll feel afterwards! There are lots of ways to lose weight, but one of the most fun ways is through sex. Perhaps if you tell your partner about some new sex positions that you’ve learned help lose weight, he’ll be interested in joining the cause!

The 5 Hottest Oral Sex Tips On The Planet – For Her

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When giving your girl oral sex, you’re bound to rock her world no matter which techniques you use because let’s face it – almost every girl out there loves oral sex. There are, however, some oral sex techniques that will blow the rest out of the water. Just about every girl responds with earth shattering orgasms with these top 5 oral sex tips, so read on to find out how you can make your lady’s thighs quiver with pleasure.

Flick Her Clitoris With Your Tongue

Stick the tip of your tongue out and form it into the shape of a firm point. Lick your partner’s clitoris firmly from side to side (or up and down, whichever she responds to best) with the tip of your tongue, flicking it as fast as you can. This will bring her to orgasm faster than just about any other oral sex technique out there, because you’re actually stimulating the entire clitoris when you do this. The clitoris that you see on the outside of her vagina is not all there is to it – the clitoris actually runs on either side of her vulva, underneath the skin. By flicking it quickly with a firm pointed tongue, not only are you stimulating it from the outside, but the vibrations you’re creating stimulates the part that you don’t see as well.

Say Your ABC’s

If you want to take your time when going down on your partner, slowly working her up to a toe curling, sheet grabbing orgasm, use this simple yet effective technique to drive her absolutely wild. Form your tongue into a firm point and trace the tip of it over your partner’s clitoris in an “ABC” pattern. You’ll start with the letter “A”, tracing either a capital or a lowercase “A” onto her clitoris with your tongue. Do this slowly and work your way through the alphabet, all the way to the letter “Z.” This is a technique that is best performed at a slow pace, but you can also speed up how fast you trace the letters depending on what she seems to like. You can also vary your speed to bring her closer to orgasm and back down again until she just can’t hold it in anymore.

Finger Her While Licking Her Clitoris

To give her a blended orgasm, finger her while you go down on her. As you’re licking her clitoris, slowly insert your finger into her vagina palm side up. Feel for her g-spot and once you find it, use the “come hither” motion to stimulate it. Switch back and forth between licking her and fingering her, until she’s close. Then you can begin doing both techniques at once. Your partner will love having you stimulate both of her hot spots at once and her orgasm will be wall shaking!

Pinch Her Nipples

The super sensitive nerves in your partner’s nipples are connected to the pleasure nerves in her clitoris and vagina, so pinching or rubbing her nipples as you go down on her will drive her absolutely wild. To tease her, start by stimulating her nipples with your mouth and stimulating her clitoris with your fingers. After you’ve gotten her good and aroused, switch to stimulating her nipples with your hands and using your mouth where your hands used to be. She’ll love the different sensations on each of her body parts. If you can keep your balance, try fingering her g-spot as you lick her clitoris and pinch her nipples. The multiple sensations will bring her to a climax like no other!

Don’t Spare An Inch

When going down on your partner, don’t leave an inch of her vulva or vagina unexplored. This is easier if she practices good genital hygiene habits, so if she’s not super fresh beforehand, start by taking a shower with her and soaping her up first (this will also help turn her on). As you begin to lick your partner’s clitoris, don’t stop there. Move your tongue in and out of her every fold. You can even penetrate her vaginal opening with your tongue or place your entire mouth over her vulva and suck. Just use your creativity here and make sure you don’t leave anything between her legs un-licked or sucked on. When performing oral sex on a girl, many guys stick to the clitoris only, which leaves many sensitive spots unexplored. You’ll treat her to dozens of new sensations as you “go where no other has gone before.”