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5 Mistakes Couples Make When Trying To Dirty Talk

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Okay, so you’ve agreed to give talking dirty a go with your partner. You may be a little nervous, but you love them so much and only want to make them happy. Besides, your sex life could really use a boost. However, many people make grave mistakes when learning how to dirty talk and these mistakes will end up causing more problems than you originally bargained for. Like you, many people have the potential to fall into the trap of these 5 mistakes. Avoid these mistakes at all costs to save yourself the embarrassment of a dirty talk attempt gone horribly wrong!

Mistake 1: Emulating The Dirty Talk In Porn Films

A good deal of women are turned off by porn, so try not to emulate what you’ve seen during some of those movies. Lots of them have cheesy lines and actors that aren’t up for academy awards for a very good reason. Many of these lines are not only cheesy, but they can be crass and derogatory towards women and sometimes even men. Also remember that these lines are scripted, and very, very fake. Your partner will definitely be able to tell that you’re not sincere at all in your dirty talk if you use lines from a porn movie. Avoid copying what you hear the porn stars say in the bedroom and you’ll be on your way to successful dirty talk.

Mistake 2: Making The Dirty Talk Unbelievable

Be aware that sometimes talking dirty can come across as very insincere. Telling your man, “Your cock is so huge,” when in reality is only about 3 inches isn’t going to make him suddenly feel like a stud. It’s actually going to make him feel much more self conscious about his smaller size. Likewise, telling her that that you love her massive tits when she is more “grape” than “grapefruit” in size will more than likely backfire. Sure, indulge a little but don’t go completely overboard with your exaggeration. In fact, when your lover is overly conscious of his or her size, dirty talk can do amazing things to boost their confidence. Tell the guy with the tiny penis that his cock rubs your clit so perfectly it makes you cum or whisper to your wife that you love being able to put her whole breast in your mouth. Dirty talk gives you the avenue to banish their insecurities and make them eager for more hot sex with you. Instead of exaggerating what they’re insecure about, talk about how much you love it. They’ll feel great about their body if they know it makes you really, really hot.

Mistake 3: Putting False Expectations In Their Heads

When you’re using dirty talk, don’t tell your partner about things you honestly have NO intentions of doing (ie. a threesome, group sex, farm animals, sex in public, midgets, bondage, etc.) You may find that it triggers some new fantasies or embeds some new images in his or her mind that he or she could continue to ask you to talk about and then want to act them out in real life. Reserve your dirty talk for things that you and your partner can actually make happen. Tell her that you want to bend her over the washing machine and do her from behind or tell him that you want to give him road head the next time you guys have a long drive in the car.

Mistake 4: Using Dirty Talk As The Sizzle Rather Than The Spice

Talking dirty can also become redundant, just like the same sex positions day after day after day. Make sure that you don’t use the same phrases over and over, or trust me, it will have the exact opposite effect and your partner might end up thinking, “Ok, I’ve heard that so many times. Please shut up already!” Instead, try your best to find new and different ways of telling your partner that they turn you on or what you want to do to them when you get them alone. If you’re having trouble thinking of something new to say, try using your surroundings as an inspiration. Going grocery shopping? Tell her how hot it would make you if you bought a very smooth, large cucumber and used it at home! Dirty talk won’t get boring if you use your imagination.

Mistake 5: Giving Up When It’s Not Turning Them On

Sometimes dirty talk can be more comical than erotic, depending on what is said and how it is said. It’s okay to laugh! But don’t give up. There’s actually a lot to learn! It’s not just the words you say, it’s how you say them. If your dirty talk isn’t appearing to turn your partner on, ask them why. Keep open communication about what they like and what they don’t like. If they’re not into something in particular, it doesn’t mean they’re turned off by dirty talk all together. It just means that that particular phrase didn’t do that much for them. Find something else to say instead!

Sexy Halloween Costume Ideas

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Halloween isn’t too far around the corner, so it’s time to start thinking about sexy costumes and what you want to wear to halloween parties or in the bedroom with your partner – or both! Here are some great ideas for sexy halloween costumes that will make you the talk of any party and make your partner want to rip your costume off when you get home.

Cliche Costumes Make The Best Ones

Sure, you may think a sexy nurse or police officer is cliche, but these are actually some of the sexiest and hottest costumes available! Everyone loves a nurse in garters or a police officer in tall leather boots. If you think that by picking a common sexy costume that you’ll show up at a party wearing the same costume as someone else, think again. Many websites offer different versions of the same costume, so you can choose the one that’s just a little bit different than all the rest! You’ll love being the center of attention at any halloween party, and of course, you’ll want to incorporate your costume into the bedroom at home and give your partner amazing sex!

Spice Up Your Costume With A Wig

If you really want to be different on Halloween, try looking for a wig to go with your sexy costume. Have you picked out a sexy genie costume? Try going with a blond ponytail instead of your long brown hair. If you’ve picked something darker, such as a police officer, a mafia girl or even a hot assassin, why not go for a short, razor cut dark bob? Pairing wigs with your costume can take your look from “sure, that looks good” to “Damn! Who is that girl?!?” Taking your sexy costume to the next level with a wig is a bit like taking your normal sex routine up a notch with oral sex. It just adds that little something extra!

Plus-Size Sexy Costumes

Don’t think that you can’t wear a sexy costume just because you’re a little bigger around the middle. Most websites have plus size versions of their best costumes, so you can choose the costume that best flatters your body shape – it’s kind of like selecting the right size condom for your partner’s penis. Don’t want your spare tire to hang out? Choose a one-piece sexy nurse costume instead of the two-piece, or add a black leather bodice to your police costume to help cover up your flaws and make you look thinner! A one piece sexy school girl outfit can flatter a lot of body shapes, but perhaps the best costume for large tummies and busts is a barmaid-type costume. A full skirt will hide your thighs and a criss-cross bodice will cover up your midsection. A ruffled top enhances a large bust, so you can flaunt your assets while hiding what you don’t like about yourself. Finding a costume that you feel comfortable in (and that you can have sex in any sex position in without worrying about what’s hanging out) is the key to looking great on Halloween. Confidence and knowing you look good in whatever you choose to wear is what will turn heads and make you feel like a Halloween sex vixen!

10 Easy Ways You Can Make Sex Better For Her – And You!

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Making sex better for her is the key to making sex better for you. If she’s satisfied, you’ll have better sex more often rather than going days or even weeks in between having sex. Here are 10 easy ways you can make sex better for her – and yourself – so you can start spicing up your sex life tonight!

Oral Sex Techniques

Lick her clitoris. Start slow, and then build up speed until she’s literally shaking underneath you! One great trick is to use what is called the “alphabet method.” Lick the letters of the alphabet on your partner’s clitoris slowly, and go faster as her body responds to what you’re doing. Bet you don’t make it through the alphabet twice!

Finger her while you go down on her. Many women really enjoy having both g-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation at the same time. In fact, this is one of the best ways to give her a “blended orgasm” or a g-spot and a clitoral orgasm at the same time!

Explore every inch of her vagina with your tongue. Too many men focus only on the clitoris and forget that the rest of the vagina is sensitive as well. Lick up and down her vagina with your tongue, switching from a pointed tongue to a flat tongue that “laps.” You can also practice “french kissing” her vagina. Wrap your lips around her folds and “kiss” her like you would kiss her mouth. She’ll love it!

Kissing Techniques

Kiss her slowly and deeply. Women love kissing, and it helps them to feel physically and emotionally connected to their partners. Also, deep french kissing can be a teaser to what you’re going to do next when you eat her out!

Kiss her body. Involving her whole body in sex is a great way to get her mind completely involved in sex as well. Don’t allow her to lay back and let the day’s to-do list occupy her mind. Instead, get her whole body involved with your mouth like you can’t get enough of her.

Intercourse Techniques

Let her be on top. It is easier for a woman to reach orgasm when she’s on top versus when you are on top. This is because she controls her muscles, the movement and the positioning and can control her climax.

Go slow. It takes time for a woman to build up an orgasm, especially through intercourse. If you start out hard and fast, it’s likely she won’t have time to have an orgasm at all. Instead, go slow until she reaches climax and then you can go as hard and as fast as you want.

Push your pelvis forward. Provide your partner with clitoral stimulation during intercourse by pushing your pelvis forward to grind against hers. You can also add a dollop of lube just above your groin to make the sensations even better for her.

Using Your Hands

Touch her everywhere. Don’t just focus on the hot spots! Instead, run your hands up and down her body as though she were made of silk or cashmere. Make her feel like she is made of silk or cashmere!

Hold her hands during sex. Whether you’re going down on her or having sex, hold her hands and make her feel cherished. Feeling emotionally satisfied from sex is as important to a woman as feeling physically satisfied.

How To Be The Best Lover She’s Ever Had

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Every guy wants to be the best lover his girl has ever had, and he probably wants to be the best lover that every one of his past girlfriends have ever had too. It’s part of the natural competitiveness that just about every man has. They simply want to be the best at everything, even sex. But it’s difficult to know for sure if you really are the best lover she’s ever had, or if she’s had much better sex before you. Fortunately, there are a few ways you can really be the best lover in the world to her, without taking pills to make your penis larger or just being an all around sex god. Here’s what to do to make her want you and only you.

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Avoid Comparisons In The First Place

It’s natural for men to want to compare themselves to each other, regardless of whether he’s got the better car, the biggest penis or the better washboard abs. It’s just something that men do. However, most women consider a man’s need to compete with other men just plain silly and don’t want to have anything to do with it. So you likely won’t get an answer at all if you ask her if you’re better in bed than all her other boyfriends. Instead of trying to compare yourself to your partner’s other lovers, simply check your ego at the door. There’s no comparison between you and them, because you’re you and they’re them. You and her other lovers will be similar in some ways and completely different in others, and that’s actually a good thing. If she wanted exactly what her other lovers had to offer, she wouldn’t be with you, now would she?

Learn From Those Who Came Before You

If she had a lover or two that really drove her wild, instead of bristling at that fact, use the information to your advantage. Her being more experienced in the sex department is actually something that will benefit you and your sex life with her. She’ll know more about what she likes and what she doesn’t, and she may even know more about pleasuring you too. Ask her what her previous lovers did that made her so hot and try to re-enact what they did yourself. Did they lick her clitoris a certain way or finger her g-spot just right? Or did they roleplay with her and fulfill her wildest fantasies? Even if you don’t get it exactly right the first time, ask her what you need to be doing differently, without copping an attitude about it. This takes a lot of guts and requires you to put your “manliness” aside, but the results are well worth it. Your partner will truly appreciate your effort at pleasing her, and she will definitely enjoy you when you’re not being defensive about her previous lovers. It’s very likely that with effort on your part and communication on hers that you can learn to perform as well as her previous partners, if not better! You’ll not only learn what they did to make her squirm, but you will also learn new ways to pleasure her too.

Master The Basics

Many guys think that if they’re “experienced” in the sex department (i.e. watched porn or had a few sex partners) that they automatically know everything there is to know about giving a woman an orgasm. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! A lot of guys don’t know all the ways you can pleasure a woman and many guys don’t even know the basics and there’s nothing wrong with that. If you’ve never taken the time to research ways to pleasure your partner, now is definitely the time. There are tons of resources available that will teach you more about a woman’s anatomy and how you can use fingering and oral sex to make her beg for more. Remember that porn is actually one of the worst examples on how to please a woman sexually, so check out an e-book or a helpful website if you’re looking for tips on how to give her a fantastic orgasm. Some sex tips are pretty basic, but if you’ve never found a woman’s g-spot or her clitoris (or stimulated both at the same time), you have a lot to learn before you can really drive your girl wild. Take some time to learn a few new things that you can try in the bedroom and watch as your partner forgets all about her past lovers and is focused only on you!

How To Achieve Simultaneous Orgasm

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Simultaneous orgasm is sometimes considered the “holy grail” of sex, because it can be difficult to achieve but absolutely amazing when you do. Having an orgasm together during sex will bring you and your partner closer together physically (and make you hotter for each other) as well as deepen and strengthen the emotional bond you have with each other as well. While many people think that simultaneous orgasm just happens and if it does, you’re lucky, there are actually quite a few things you can do to help you and your partner reach orgasm together. Here’s how.

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Recognize The Opportunity

A lot of times, couples fail to have an orgasm at the same time because they don’t realize that the opportunity is there. He may not know that she is close to orgasm, especially if it has taken a while for her to get there, or she may not realize that he’s close too. They may miss having an orgasm together by just minutes or seconds, and often they may have their orgasms just one right after the other. Instead of focusing so much on trying to make a simultaneous orgasm happen, focus more on recognizing the signs that she’s close so you can release when she does. When a woman is close to having an orgasm, her muscles will bunch up, her breathing will get faster and her chest will get flushed. When you realize that she is about to go over the edge, allow yourself to “catch up” with her so you can go over the edge too.

Match Her Pace

It can take a lot longer for a woman to reach orgasm through intercourse than a man, so it’s important that if you want to achieve a simultaneous orgasm that you match your partner’s pace and keep your orgasm at bay until she reaches the brink. Go slower and let her be on top. Having her on top allows her to control the pace herself, as well as helping her to control her orgasm. This also takes the control away from you, allowing you to concentrate more on holding out and keeping yourself from ejaculating too quickly. If you struggle with having enough stamina to keep up with your partner, use foreplay techniques to get her warmed up before you even begin having intercourse. Get her close to orgasm through oral sex, or if your partner is able to have multiple orgasms, give her the first orgasm through oral sex and she will be much closer to her second or third orgasms when you start having sex.

Communicate With Her

Another huge reason why couples struggle to have simultaneous orgasms is that they don’t communicate with each other when having sex. You or your partner may feel too shy to announce that you’re close to having an orgasm, so your partner doesn’t know when they need to hold out or when they need to speed up. Work on communicating what you’re feeling during sex with your partner, even if all you’re doing is breathing the words “I’m close” in their ear. You could even come up with a “code word” for being close to orgasm if you or your partner just aren’t comfortable with any other forms of communication. In fact, it doesn’t even have to be a word, it could be a simple action such as biting their ear or pinching their butt when you’re about to have an orgasm. If you and your partner work on communicating during sex, you’ll be able to respond appropriately to where your partner is sexually and hold back if you need to or speed up your orgasm if they’re close.

Seize The Opportunity

In addition to recognizing the opportunity to have a simultaneous orgasm with your partner, you need to seize the opportunity too! You may figure out that she’s about to have an orgasm, but you may not end up taking the initiative to bring yourself closer to orgasm as well. Instead, when you realize that she is about to have an orgasm, tighten your muscles and bring yourself to orgasm as well. However, if your partner likes to express herself when she has an orgasm with loud noises or moaning, you may end up ejaculating anyways without even trying because you’re so turned on by her! If you see the opportunity to have an orgasm at the same time as your partner, take it! You and your partner will both love having an orgasm together and your sex lives will become that much more satisfying for both you and her.