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How To Make Sex In Your Marriage More Exciting

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Contrary to popular belief, married sex (or long term relationship sex) can be even better than wild, crazy sex with someone you’ve just met or don’t know very well. Married sex doesn’t have to be boring or blase. The trick is, you have to make a conscious effort to make your sex life in your marriage better. Here’s how you can do it!

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Bring Variety Into The Bedroom

Doing the same old thing in the bedroom time after time is an excellent way to land yourself right in a married sex rut. If you want to have a great sex life when you’re married or in a long term relationship, it’s important to bring new ideas in the bedroom. Try new sex positions that you’ve never tried before, or bring sex toys in the bedroom for you and your partner to play with. It’s a common misconception that sex toys are geared for women only. While many sex toys are for women, there are also a number of toys for couples to use together and sex toys for boys!

Make Love Sometimes And Screw Sometimes!

Sex doesn’t always have to be romantic and lovey-dovey. While it’s great to “make love” and share that deep, emotional connection with your partner, it’s also great to “screw” your partner and let your animalistic side take over! Take the lead one night and completely ravage your partner. Act like you’re just going to die if you don’t have your way with them RIGHT NOW, and as you’re having sex, exaggerate your reactions a little bit. Be of the mindset that your partner is the only thing you want at this point in time and absolutely nothing else matters. They are a cold drink on a blazing hot day or a meal when you’ve gone hungry for days! In turn, let your partner do the same to you on another night and let yourself be completely taken over by them when they’re in the lead. You can also take turns being the dominant partner one night. Do it on the couch, in the kitchen or in the car. When you want your partner or they want you, do it right then and there!

Be Adventurous

While it can be easy to let yourself go and have wild and crazy sex with someone you’re not completely comfortable with, it’s even easier to do this with someone you’ve built that trust with. When you’re 100% comfortable with someone and trust them to accept you no matter what, you can really let your wild side take over. Try some taboo things, such as anal sex or prostate massage, or even BDSM and roleplaying. If there’s something out there that really turns you on sexually but you’re not sure if you can bring yourself to do it, doing it with your significant other can actually be really fun and exciting. You don’t have to be afraid that they’re going to reject you if you get a little too freaky, because you know they choose to be with you every day because they love and care about you. So let yourself go and consider doing some things with them that you wouldn’t normally consider doing!

How To Make Your First Trip Together Not Be Your Last

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Taking a vacation together is one of the most fun relationship milestones. Your goal may be to introduce your new partner to your family, to share some relaxation, to experience a new place, or simply just because. Yet those extra hours spent in one another’s company will be very exciting, in both good and bad ways.

How A Road Trip Can Test Your Relationship

To start, this may be one of the first times you have been bound to one another (metaphorically, I mean; physically is a whole other article), unable to get away if he starts annoying you. In a way, this is a test for your relationship: are you ready to spend many hours together (possibly without anyone else around for hours), or have you not yet reached that point? If it is the former, keep reading for tips on how to take a successful trip together.

Keep in mind that tensions already run high while preparing for a vacation, and even higher when actually traveling to your destination. The stress of planning, spending, and hoping like hell that everything goes well can translate to frustration toward your girlfriend who has to stop and pee every thirty minutes (has she sprung a leak or something?!). Rather than allowing these tense emotions to steer you, remind yourself (chant it, if necessary, though silently so as not to worry her) that it is just the stress. Why, you love your girlfriend (and her small bladder), of course.

Making The Trip Easier

In addition to restroom breaks, don’t push your bodily limits: rest or eat when you need to do so. Take turns with driving duties. Share the radio or CD player. Compromise on everything. Being stuck with someone who is one foot away from you for hours on end is not the time to exert your stubbornness.

Finally, the best way to avoid the nearly-inevitable road-trip fights is to stay preoccupied. Schedule fun things to do or see along the way. If you know your route will pass by a national park, take an extra hour to visit it. When you see a sign proclaiming World’s Largest _________, check it out. It will give you more to talk about when you are trapped – I mean, back in the car. Also, bring along a book geared towards conversation, such as a Book of Questions, or just print your own list of interesting questions to ask one another. This will not only keep the car ride interesting, you will also learn more about your significant other. If you feel yourself getting uptight despite these tips, listen to an audio book. This will encourage a silent but not awkward atmosphere.

And hey, if all else fails, you can pull over for some illicit, roadside sex.

3 Love Making Tips To Blow Her Mind

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An often overlooked but extremely powerful tool in your sexual arsenal can be the ability to “make love” to a woman in a sensuous, passionate and romantic way. Many women love dirty, raunchy and kinky sex, but they also enjoy romance and sensuality every now and then. Do you want to know how to blow your partner’s mind when you make love to her? Here’s how you can do it.

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Romance During Sex

Don’t just whisper dirty words in her ear or tell her how good it feels. While talking dirty to her is a great way to spice up your sex life with your partner, she doesn’t always want to hear a string of moans, grunts and four letter words when having sex with you. Instead, mix it up and tell her how much you love her and enjoy being with her sexually. Connect with her emotionally, and say romantic things to her while you’re having making love to her. Tell her how good she looks without her clothes on and how beautiful you think she is. Compliment her, and find specific things to compliment such as how soft her lips are or how special she makes you feel when you’re making love with each other.

Hold Eye Contact During Sex

Actions speak louder than words most of the time, and eye contact with your partner during sex says more than words ever could. Look at her when she’s going down on you and hold her gaze for a few moments before rolling your head back and sighing with pleasure. When you’re on top, take a few minutes to go slow and kiss her neck after looking into her eyes for a moment or two. Eye contact will help you and your partner feel emotionally connected to each other. For women, a big part of sexual satisfaction comes from emotional intimacy. It can be very difficult for a woman to open up sexually without some kind of emotional connection. You’ll be surprised at how well she responds sexually to you after you’ve given her just a few minutes of emotional fulfillment!

Pay Attention To Her After Sex

Many women feel that men are notorious for rolling over and going to sleep right after sex. Most women hate this! It makes them feel as though they were used and are being discarded after you’ve “got yours.” These feelings are made worse if you have not taken the time to pleasure your partner and give her a satisfying orgasm. This will certainly diminish your chances of having sex with your partner again, and if you do have sex with her again, you’ve definitely blown your chances of getting your partner to open up to you sexually and have a great orgasm. Spend a few minutes cuddling your woman after sex, stroking her thighs and kissing her neck. Let her know how good it was for you! Don’t just roll over and go to sleep or get up and take a shower right away. If you must have a shower, let your partner take one with you and spend a few minutes just reveling in after sex bliss!

Q&A: Magic Eight Ball – Will I Have A Girlfriend In College?

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Going off to college is a huge step. You’re worried about lots of things, like your classes, your grades and definitely your dating life! College is a great place to meet people, make new friends and build solid relationships. Will you have a girlfriend or boyfriend in college? Here’s how to find out!

Question: My question is plain and simple so hopefully you will answer. I haven’t had a girlfriend in 8 months. I am currently in high school going off to college. Is there potential I will have a girlfriend in college?

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It Depends On You!

No Magic 8 Ball can truly tell you whether you’ll have a girlfriend in college or not. If you want to have a girlfriend when you go off to college, it’s up to you to make it happen! If you’re hanging out alone in your dorm room playing video games when you’re not in class, you’re not going to meet people. There are thousands of great people at every college or university, and most of them are from out of town and have left their friends and families at home. They’re looking to meet people and develop friendships and relationships too! It’s up to you to put yourself out there so people can meet you and get to know you.

How To Meet Girls In College

When you’re not studying, make an effort to go to some of the on campus activities. Most colleges and universities offer a variety of activities such as volleyball, fooseball tournaments, pool and more. These activites are a great way to meet new people! Pick up the campus newsletter to find out when things are happening and get your studying done so you can plan to go to the activities. Colleges also post things on billboards around campus, so take a few minutes while you’re waiting for the shuttle to check out the flyers. You can also hang out at an on campus coffee shop, study hall or even the student union. Keep an open mind and a friendly, positive attitude and don’t be afraid to approach someone to say hello! If someone approaches you, be warm and receptive rather than shy. Going to college and being around so many new faces is scary but it can also be fun!

Don’t Get Discouraged

Even if you don’t meet someone right away, don’t stress out. If you continue to put yourself out there, you’ll eventually meet someone that wants to date you and vice versa. Start by making friendships and spending time with new friends. Meet them to eat at the dining hall or meet for a study group on the weekend. Friendships open doors to meeting new people as well, because you’ll get to know the friends of friends and so on. Eventually you’ll hit it off with a girl and start a fun, exciting new relationship that might turn into something that lasts! Remember that dating in college is all about having fun and learning new things. If it doesn’t work out with one girl, it doesn’t mean you’ll never find anyone. This is the time to pick yourself back up and get back in the game! When you present your best self, people will want to get to know you.

Q&A: Should I Get Married If His or Her Family Does Not Approve?

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It happens more often than we like – your parents don’t approve of him or his parents don’t like you. The relationship is great and you want to get married and commit to each other, but how do you handle the parental situation? Should you wait to get married or even dump your significant other because of what your parents or his parents think?

Question: I am engaged to be married. I love this guy more than anything, we are 21 and have been together for almost 5 years. However, his parents do not want him to marry me. We are of different social classes and they think I “control” his life. The reason they think this is because their son has grown up and wants to make his own decisions and they don’t like it. His family treats me fine but it’s what they say when I leave that is the problem. By the way, I have never been fond of his parents.

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Live Your Life

Your life is not about making decisions based on what other people think. If you are happy with your fiance and you have a good relationship, focus your energy on that rather than what his parents think about you. If you dump him because his parents don’t want him to be with you, you could be throwing away a great relationship that has the potential to enrich your life for years to come. You deserve to be in a happy and healthy relationship and if you already have one, don’t give it up just because someone else thinks he shouldn’t be with you. Make the decisions that better your life and deal with the rest later.

Are You Really Ready For Marriage?

It is possible to have a great long term relationship without ever getting married. So think about it. Are you really ready for marriage? Are you keen on marrying your fiance because his parents don’t want you to, so you can prove them wrong? If your motivations for marriage aren’t pure, or you aren’t completely ready to make the commitment of marriage, consider just having a great, monogamous long term relationship instead. You and your fiance can be happy together and have a healthy relationship without the marriage license if that’s what you want. Don’t tie the knot if it’s just in response to his parents’ dislike of you. You may come to regret it later.

How Will You Deal With His Family?

Before getting married, talk to your fiance about how you and he will deal with his family when the time comes. How will you arrange holidays? Will you accompany him on visits to the family? It may be fine for you to stay home before you have children, but once children come into play, it can be very difficult to have separate holidays. What does your partner think about it? Does he have any ideas on how he will handle the situation when you and he get married? These are things that you need to discuss with your partner before you tie the knot, so there are no surprises later on down the road.