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Q&A: Sexually Unsatisfied – How To Tell Him?

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Every woman deserves sexual satisfaction but unfortunately, there are many women that remain sexually unsatisfied in their relationships and don’t know how to change it. Here’s how to tell your partner that you’re not getting what you need in the bedroom – even if they don’t seem to care.

Question: My boyfriend thinks women who are sexually unsatisfied are selfish if they go out and end up cheating because they’re unsatisfied. As well, if the man isn’t giving her orgasms she shouldn’t fake it or not tell him but just sit there and deal with it! I know it’s not right to cheat, or even fake it for that matter, but what’s a woman to do if she’s not happy? What should I say to him to make him realize the world isn’t working in his favor?

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Be Patient And Encouraging

If your partner isn’t giving you sexual satisfaction, it’s important to stay patient with them and be encouraging. When they do something that you like, let them know how much it turned you on or satisfied you. Encourage them to do what you really enjoy, without telling your partner what they’re doing wrong. Men are actually very sensitive when it comes to their bedroom techniques and can sometimes be put off if you criticize them. Instead, just make sure to let him know when he does something that you really like, and ask him to keep doing it. Remember, he can’t read your mind. You have to let him know when he does something right! Be patient and give him time to start doing the things you enjoy in the bedroom.

Talk To Your Partner

If encouraging your partner to do the things you like isn’t working, it might be time to have an honest, open discussion with them about how you’re not feeling satisfied sexually. Again, this is not a conversation where you want to be critical or talk down to down to your partner. When discussing your sexual needs with your partner, make it all about you. Don’t accuse your partner of not satisfying you – instead, tell your partner that you’re having trouble reaching orgasm and suggest some new things you want to try in the bedroom. If you make the conversation about him and what he’s doing wrong, he won’t hear a word you say.

Is It Time To Move On?

If your partner isn’t into trying to satisfy you sexually, especially if you’ve made your needs very clear in the nicest way possible, it might be time for you to sit down and think about whether you’re with the right person or not. You deserve to be happy and sexually satisfied in any relationship you’re in, and even if you’re single! You don’t have to stay with your partner out of guilt, and if he’s not making you happy sexually, you have to think about how important that is in your life. Are you willing to go without any kind of sexual satisfaction just to keep this relationship? Chances are, no. If he won’t make an effort to make sex as good for you as it is for him, it might be time to find someone who will.

Q&A: Frustrated Girl Unable To Orgasm

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Many women have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. While some women are able to give themselves multiple orgasms or different kinds of orgasms, other women struggle to reach climax. If you’re having a hard time having an orgasm – through sex or masturbation – you’re not alone. Here’s how to overcome it.

Question: I am a healthy female & I love sex. However, I cannot pleasure myself! How can I tell my boyfriend what to do when I don’t know for myself? I have a vibrator which feels good but I can’t seem to give myself an orgasm with that, or without. I get to a point where I am right there, but then I suddenly get too sensitive to the point where it uncomfortable and I get turned off.

I have had about 5 orgasms in my life, two being with my boyfriend because he can reach my G-spot where as I can’t. The other three were long ago. How can I get my body to stop being dumb and let me have an orgasm? Please help!

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Experiment With Pleasure

There are lots of different ways to stimulate yourself and lots of different ways for your partner to stimulate you. Experiment with different rhythms, pressures and positions to find what you like best. If your vibrator isn’t doing it for you, try looking for another one. Try a vibrator that allows for both clitoral, vaginal and g-spot stimulation or try one that you can use with your partner. Try different sex positions with your partner, including doggy style and woman on top. The important thing when you’re experimenting with pleasure is not to get obsessed with not being able to have an orgasm. Just relax and have fun. Enjoy yourself and let whatever happens happen.

Physical Simulation vs. Emotional Stimulation

For many women who can’t have an orgasm, it’s not purely about the type of physical stimulation that she’s receiving. For a great orgasm, a woman needs emotional stimulation as well. While this is not always the case – because many women are able to have great casual sex and reach orgasm that way successfully – a lot of women in relationships have a hard time reaching orgasm because they’re just not as emotionally connected to their partner as they need to be. Try talking to your partner. Have a good, open conversation about anything. Share opinions with each other and work towards being emotionally closer together. You’ll be surprised at how much better sex can be when you’re on the same mental and emotional page as your partner!

Don’t Give Up!

Women who struggle with reaching orgasm through sex or masturbation don’t have to suffer alone. Many women go through this and there’s help out there! Grab a few books or a DVD that teaches women the best tips for masturbation, or watch a few sex instruction videos with your partner to get a few new ideas. If you continue to have difficulty with sexual pleasure, visit your doctor. He or she can rule out any medical reasons why you aren’t able to reach orgasm during sex. You can also visit a sex therapist, who will dig a little deeper and try to discover the root of the problem to help you reach a solution. Just don’t give up! Every women is able to have an orgasm – her body was built for it.

Q&A: Personal Question For Dan & Jennifer – Why Do You Make All These Videos?

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While we don’t talk much about ourselves on our show, lots of people ask us personal questions about why we do what we do. Making an online video show and working to help millions of people with love, sex and relationship questions is simply something we love to do and we do it every day. Here’s why we’re passionate about it.

Question: Dear Dan and Jenn – why do you make all these videos and help out people? Good job and keep it up!

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Our Passion

We love to help people find happiness in their relationships and their lives. Everyone deserves to be happy, and everyone is worth it! People struggle every day to find answers to questions about love, sex and relationships and we’re trying to make it easier for everyone to find the information they’re looking for. We believe strongly in making informed decisions and being armed with knowledge when it comes to making choices in your every day life. We believe in safe sex and open and honest sex education. We’re passionate about helping people to solve problems in their lives and learn the tools they need for healthy, happy and satisfying relationships.

Our New Video Shows

We love what we do so much that we’ve started two new video shows and websites this year! We’ve had so much success in developing the Ask Dan And Jennifer website that we wanted to create a site that shows people step by step how to create a powerful and successful online blog the way we did. Blog Success Journal is where we give tips, tricks and advice on everything blog and recommend the tools that we’ve used and love so other people can learn how to set up their own blog or website. The second website we’ve launched this year is Today Is That Day. We found that we enjoyed helping people so much with their questions about sex and relationships that we realized we wanted to answer other questions too! On Today Is That Day, we answer questions about weight loss, personal improvement and self awareness and growth.

Our Opinions

We’re not doctors and we’re not therapists. We’re highly opinionated people who love to talk! We love hearing the opinions of others, too. Our online video show allows us to share our opinions with others as well as see what other people have to say about the topic we’re talking about. We love to get people talking with each other too, because our motto is, “question everything!” We believe it’s important to think about something and question it instead of just accepting it because it’s what you were taught or what you heard. We love it when people ask questions, because it means they’re thinking and trying to get some real answers for themselves.

Check out our YouTube channel to watch our latest videos, and be sure to leave a comment about what you think! You can also visit our Facebook page to see what other people are saying about our latest articles, tips and videos. Get in on the discussion!

Q&A: How To Say I Love You

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Telling someone you love them for the first time – especially if they haven’t already said it – can be nerve wracking. In new relationships, it can be difficult to tell if you’re really in love with this person or if you just think you are because you’re infatuated with them. How can you say I love you?

Question: I have a very simple question and I wasn’t sure if you had already made a video about it. How do you tell someone you love them if you’ve never said it seriously before? I’m in my first relationship (I’m 19) and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for four months and I have never felt this way before. I do think I love him but I don’t know how to tell him. Do I love him or do I just think I do?

–YouTube Viewer

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Sharing Your Feelings

If you have special feelings for your partner – whether it’s love or something else – it can be a relief to share your feelings with your partner out loud. It’s also nice to know that someone else has special feelings for you, even if you haven’t spoken about your feelings first. It can be scary to put your feelings out in the open like that though, without assurance that your partner feels the same way. But take the chance. You’re only letting your partner know how you feel. Don’t make a big production out of it. It’s as simple as that.

Does He Have To Say It Back?

Part of the awkwardness of saying I love you to someone is when they feel the pressure to say it back when they haven’t even explored their feelings about you yet. Let them know that just because you’ve shared your feelings with them, it doesn’t mean they have to say “I love you” back or share their feelings at all. Let them know you’re just putting it out there in the open. Most guys hear a woman say “I love you” and think that now they have to be in a committed relationship and they’re chained down. Let him know that’s not the case. You’re not definining the relationship or discussing “where you stand.” You’re just letting him know you have special feelings for him.

Show Him You Love Him

One of the best ways to let your partner know that you love them is to show them in addition to telling them. Or you can show them instead of telling them, if you’re really nervous that telling him that you love him out loud will make things too awkward. But remember that actions do speak louder than words in most cases, so you can really make a statement if you just do little things that let him know you care. Pick up his favorite snack at the store next time you’re shopping or remember what he says about something he’s very passionate about, even if it completely disinterests you. Make an effort to let him know you’re really into him with your actions and he’ll definitely get it.

Q&A: Cosmetic Surgery – Should I Get Circumcised?

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As more and more mothers choose not to circumcise their sons, men are growing up with intact penises and may wonder how it’s going to affect their sex life as they get older. Do women like uncircumcised penises or do they prefer circumcised ones? If you haven’t had a circumcision, should you get one when you start having sex?

Question: Hey, I’m uncircumcised and have thought about getting circumcised before just because it looks better. Do girls find it more attractive?? That would probably be the only reason I would get circumcised. Is it worth it?

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Do Girls Prefer Circumcised Penises?

Every woman likes something different in the bedroom. Some women prefer the feel of an intact penis, while others simply like the way a circumcised penis looks. Some women feel that a circumcised penis is cleaner and feel more comfortable giving a man oral sex if he’s cut, while others simply don’t care. It’s impossible to know whether the majority of women like circumcised or uncircumcised penises, because everyone likes their own things when it comes to sex and sexual preferences come in all colors and flavors. Don’t base your surgery decision on the myth that most women like circumcised penises because it’s simply not true. You never know – the love of your life may prefer intact penises!

Please Her Other Ways

Pleasing a woman during sex has very little to do with the size, shape and appearance of your penis and more to do with your skill in the bedroom. Make your woman feel beautiful, ravished, and satisfied with incredible orgasms and she probably won’t remember a thing about your penis size or shape, and she definitely won’t care if it’s cut or uncut! If you’re considering getting circumcised to please women in the bedroom, there are so many different and less drastic ways to satisfy her sexually. Learn to give her amazing orgasms by going down on her, or study up on the best positions for female orgasms. Focus on her pleasure and make sure you’re giving her an incredible night. If you do, she’ll like your penis no matter what it looks like!

Make The Choice For Yourself

The most important thing when considering any kind of cosmetic surgery is to make sure you’re doing it for yourself. If you’re thinking about getting surgery because you want to please someone else in particular, or just want to look better for the opposite sex, you’re not going to be happy after the surgery. Make sure it’s something that you want, and you’re willing to take the risks in order to get it. With circumcision surgery, you may have a loss of sensation afterwards or the surgeon could end up removing too much foreskin, causing erections to become tight and uncomfortable. Take into account the healing period as well and think about how long you’ll have to go without sex before your penis is ready to get back in the game. If you make the decision to get circumcised, make sure it’s what you want.