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Dirty Talk: The 5 Hottest Words To Say During Sex (For Her)

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Dirty talk is something that every woman can do, but some women have to get over their shyness in order to do it effectively. But the whole process need not be too forced, and you don’t have to memorize a line or two to say during sex. It’s the spontaneity of the act of dirty talk that makes the sex hotter.

If you think about it, there are things that you usually say during sex, which means you’re doing this unconsciously. But even moaning out your partner’s name could get old, especially if it’s all that you utter every time you make love. You can increase your arsenal of ‘sex words’ right now.

“Ram It In”

Ramming is a word that brings to mind a forceful action. Just the mention of the verb ‘ram’ reminds you of a huge timber being pounded on a medieval castle’s entrance (i.e. a battering ram). Instead of saying ‘f—- me,’ you can say ‘ram me.’

The F-word is not all that when it comes to dirty talk, particularly if you live in a place where this word is used quite often as a cuss word or as a part of a normal conversation.” Therefore, you should think of another word to describe what you want your partner to do during sex.

“Yes”

Said in a certain way, this word takes on a sexual meaning that is so profound it makes a man go at it harder. Saying “yes” during sex makes your partner feel that he is doing something good and that you want him to keep doing it. If you simply cannot think of anything to say, use this word to express your delight and to alert him that you’re about to orgasm.

“My Pussy”

Hearing you refer to your vagina as ‘cunt’ or ‘pussy’ will excite your man, particularly if you’re not the type to swear or cuss on a regular basis. Instead of saying ‘touch my vagina,’ say ‘touch my pussy’ and instantly turn an ordinary request into dirty talk.

“Let Me Suck You Dry Tonight”

When you say this line, your man will instantly think of a prolonged blowjob session in which you will diligently stroke and lick him until he reaches orgasm. This is best said before sex right after a particularly long kiss, or while you’re sliding down his body with the intention of giving him head.

“You’re Making Me Horny”

Saying this line brings out the naughty personality of your man. Just knowing that his teasing is producing the desired effect makes him more excited.

It’s not that difficult to start dirty talk, especially when you’re with someone you care about. Just remember to act natural so that he won’t feel like you’re forcing yourself into dirty talk for his sake. Moreover, saying these words will convey your willingness to become more adventurous in bed, particularly if you have always been shy about your sexuality.

5 Little Known Female Orgasm Secrets

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The biggest mistake when it comes to “female orgasm” is focusing on the “how-to” techniques without paying proper attention to the best mind-set and strategies to make her climax.

In reality, the strategies are the key to unlocking the power of the sexual techniques.

You’ll understand that while sexual techniques by themselves can be effective, the noisy, wet, toe-curling orgasms lie largely in the strategy you use when applying the techniques.

Mindset

Your state of mind (and your partners’) can really make or break the chances of her having an orgasm.

The Wrong Mindset

How do you approach your lover’s orgasms?

You probably enter into sex with the intent and goal of “giving an orgasm.”

It’s this approach that leads too many guys on a wild goose chase for the “perfect” strokes and techniques. It leaves you blindly seeking out every tip and trick out there, furiously testing them out on your lover.

I hate to break it to you, but this is the wrong mental approach if you truly want to “give” a female orgasm.

It sounds contradictory, I know. But it’s true, and here’s why…

When you head into the bedroom with the goal of “giving” her an orgasm, you’re setting up expectations in both of your minds. This approach will create pressure on both you and your partner that an orgasm MUST happen. Once you add pressure to have an orgasm, it is virtually guaranteed to add some negative stress and anxiety during your intimate times together.

And…as this stress grows, it will actually make it much harder for her to cum.

Have you ever seen a football or basketball player “choke up” during a game?

The fans, the crowds, the competition build up so much pressure for the athlete to perform well that their focus is diverted from the game and to their anxieties.

Ultimately, they wind up screwing up. Too much focus and drive on your part to “give” an orgasm can have the same effect on your partner.

Effects of Stress on Your Partner

If the stress and pressure get too high, she may be left unsatisfied. And because you have set this “goal” to have an orgasm in a first place, and now that the goal is un-met, both you and your partner will be left feeling disappointed.

If this approach is sustained, you may wind up anchoring these feelings of disappointment to your times of physical intimacy – carrying it over into your next sexual encounter, further increasing her “performance anxiety.”

The Right Mindset

Here’s the paradox…

If you want to give an orgasm, you have to NOT focus on the orgasm!

Instead of focusing on the goal of achieving the elusive female orgasm, start focusing your attention on the pleasure of the process.

The key is, if you focus on giving pleasure, and making sure she’s feeling good, that orgasm will come (no pun intended.)

Communication

Not every technique will work on every woman. One woman may prefer one particular stroke or rhythm more than the next woman does.

To find out what really makes your woman tick, you’ve got to open the lines of communication. You need to find out what she likes as you’re applying a technique.  That way, you can optimize your rhythm, speed, stroke etc. to match what she likes best.

Aim for open verbal communication, but if your lover isn’t as brave with her words (especially when you’re face is buried between her thighs) you can opt for more non-verbal communicative methods, such as squeezing hands or body response.

Communicating well with your partner can make it much easier to bring her pleasure, and ultimately, more and better orgasms.

Escalation

One of the biggest mistake men make is moving too fast, too soon.  It works fine for us, but for a woman, she might not be ready yet.

For guys, we can come to an orgasm very quickly.  Men basically need to get aroused, stimulated, and we’re done.

Women, on the other hand, need a gradual escalation to come to a point of orgasm.

With each of the stages of sexual response (you’ll find out about this in an upcoming chapter), the intensity of the stimulation is increased.

Anticipation and Tension

Anticipation (otherwise known as “teasing” and “excitement”) is a powerful and effective tool to use.

In order to multiply the effects of your sexual techniques, you’ll have to add anticipation into the mix.

Anticipation will get her more aroused, give her a greater chance to have an orgasm and focuses her on the physical pleasure she’s experiencing.

And…while you’re building up anticipation, at the same time you’re cranking up sexual tension as well.

The sexual tension will have to be released (in the form of an orgasm).

The Key to Building Anticipation

The key to building up anticipation is to focus on the areas surround the main “target” before you actually hit the target.

For example, you can do this by rubbing her inner thighs, buttocks and hips before actually touching her vagina.  While you’re rubbing those body parts, she’s getting wetter and wetter by the second, anticipating you to finally move onto her vagina.  At the same time, the tension is growing within her and at some point, it’ll have to be released.

A note: when you’re building up the anticipation in her, it’s going to build up in you as well!  It’s going to be your job to maintain self control, and keep the escalation at the right pace.

Relaxation

A woman has to be completely relaxed to have an orgasm.

If she has her thoughts on her job, self-conscious about how her body looks, trying to have an orgasm, or whatever the case may be, she’s not going to be relaxed.  She’ll be tensed, and her body won’t allow her to release an orgasm.

Your job?

To help those troubles melt away and disappear (even if only temporarily) with your words, touch, attitude and preparations. Your lover must be totally and completely relaxed and free from tension.

The only tension she should be feeling is sexual tension!

Give Before You Receive

Before receiving any sexual pleasure from her, you have to make sure she receives sexual pleasure from you first.

Why?

It shows that:

1) You have control of your sexual desires

2) She’ll be in a more “ready” state to have an orgasm while having intercourse, and

3) After she has an orgasm, she’ll be ready and willing to reciprocate to the best of her abilities!

Seriously, if you can compare the quality of the blow job she gives you, the one performed without her experiencing an orgasm FIRST, will, ironically, SUCK compared to the blowjob she gives you after she RECEIVES an orgasm.

Sex goes the same too… Go ahead and test this out for yourself if you don’t believe me!

The Best Sex Positions To Make A Woman Orgasm Quicker

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Most any woman is able to orgasm quickly when she’s being fondled during penetration. Sensations from penetration and fondling combine, leading to an intense orgasm that will leave her stunned. So where should a man touch a woman to get her off fast? Some women prefer breast stroking, while some women like torrid kissing, but the true secret to a quick orgasm is clitoral touching during sex.

However, doing this is easier said than done. The usual sex positions (like missionary) require you to use one or both hands to balance. Some men also find it difficult to do another task when foreplay is over and sex is in full swing. A remedy to this is to get into sex positions that allows touching of the clitoris without much effort on the guy’s part. You can also get into a sex position that will make it easier for the woman to reach her clitoris and stimulate herself without getting too tired.

Here are three sex positions that will do the trick.

Coital Alignment

Despite the technical term for this sex position, it’s pretty simple. The man lies directly on top of the woman and penetration angle is similar to that in the missionary position. However, in the coital alignment position, a man’s pubic region is pressed against the woman’s. This makes it seem like he’s grinding or rocking to and fro, rather than pulling in and out. The rhythmic grinding on the woman’s clitoris will induce orgasm quickly. One more benefit to this technique is that you can kiss her lips and moan into her ear while you’re in this position.

Woman On Top

This position will do more than help a woman to reach climax faster, it will increase the intensity of her orgasm. This is much like the coital alignment position but instead of the man being on top, the woman stays on top. The woman can lean her torso forward, arch her back, and keep her crotch in constant contact with the base of his penis or his pubic region. In this position, she can control the rhythm as well as the depth of penetration. Moreover, she can press down on the man’s pubic region so that her clitoris is sensitized by rubbing on his skin.

Doggy Style

In this position, a girl can play with her clitoris all she wants while you penetrate her. Doggy style is a sex position that lets the girl touch her body herself with one hand while balancing with the other. She can also free up both hands by balancing with her shoulders and head. If you really want to give your girl the best orgasm of her life, these sex positions I mentioned will help you find a way to touch her clitoris during sex. The clitoris is very sensitive, and any girl will tell you that the clitoris plays a big role to inducing orgasm during masturbation.

Top 10 Best Places To Have Sex Around The House

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Sex doesn’t always have to be in the bedroom. In fact, it can be much more fun to discover other locations to go to have sex with your lover. But imagine if you could have tons of different areas to play in without ever leaving the house? You never knew how much fun sex with your significant other could be until you’ve ventured outside the bedroom….to the hall, the bathroom, and even outside! Check out these ten places that will have you wanting more.

In The Swimming Pool

Getting busy in the water is super hot, but sometimes you can’t always get comfortable during shower sex – and if privacy is one of your things, doing it at the lake just isn’t going to float your boat. The swimming pool makes an excellent compromise, because you can enjoy the feel of your lover’s body in the water without leaving the comfort and privacy of your home.

In A Tent In The Backyard

Real camping is rarely convenient (and often dirty), but it can lead to some super steamy sex. You don’t have to miss out on the amazing sex that can happen when you’re camping – just take a romantic, sexy camping trip in your own backyard instead. It’s easy to set up and you’re never very far from the bathroom. Up the romance factor by laying out under the stars with your partner or cuddling with them near a fire – and then watch your sex life heat up too.

On The Dining Room Table

The dining room table is such an unexpected place to have sex, it can be a total thrill to abandon all your whims and just do it right then and there. If you don’t want to do it on the table, try having sex underneath it. This is a great place to act out any domination or roleplay fantasies, because often the idea of doing it on or under the dining room table where people eat is a huge turn-on.

In A Game Room On A Beanbag Chair

With a beanbag chair, you and your partner can get into a variety of different sex positions – even ones that you normally can’t do when you’re just having sex in the bed. Use the beanbag chair to prop your bodies up in different ways to make awkward positions more comfortable, or just use the chair to help you achieve different angles with your favorite sex positions. Just be careful not to pop the chair, because cleanup can be a mess!

On The Front Porch Swing

Use the rocking motion of a porch swing to make sex with your lover even better. The added motion can help you have better orgasms, and you won’t get as tired during thrusting because the swing will be doing a lot of the work for you. If you don’t have a private front yard, consider a swing in the backyard.

In The Kitchen On A Barstool

Standing sex positions can be great for g-spot stimulation, however, many men aren’t able to hold their partners up for an extended period of time (while thrusting no less) and some men aren’t able to do it at all. However, using a barstool in the kitchen is a great way to try out a standing position without breaking your back.

In Your Home Office On The Desk

You’ve seen the television shows and movies that show two co-workers throwing everything off the desk so they can have sex on top of it, right then and there. Indulge in a “need you right now” feeling and do this in your own home office. Your partner will be incredibly surprised – and very turned on – to say the least.

In Your Guest Room On The Pull Out Couch

Who hasn’t done it in their own guest room? Have some really fun, kinky sex on the pull out couch or the bed in your guest room and enjoy the fact that your guests will never know what really went on in there – and how much fun it was!

In The Coat Closet

This is a great place to sneak away and have a quickie if you and your lover have children and need to get away for just a few minutes. This is also an awesome hideaway if you’re having a party or have guests at your house and want to enjoy each other in secret. There’s just something naughty yet exciting about doing it in the coat closet!

In The Laundry Room On Top Of The Washing Machine While It’s Running

This really is the best place around the house to have sex. It combines a standing sex position with an exciting new venue to get it on in, along with powerful vibrations that will rival any sex toy. Next time you’re feeling really wild, throw a load of clothes in the wash. You’ll never look at “doing laundry” the same way again.

Top 10 Female Masturbation Tips

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Whether you only have time for a quick feel-good session with yourself, or whether you have all the time in the world, the following list provides a method for every woman to maximize her benefit from a beautiful masturbation experience. Right now, take a little look-see to find out which one(s) fit your personality and schedule.

Skin to Skin Contact

The Pattie Cake

With your pointer and middle fingers, gently pat your clitoris. Vary the pressure and the speed. Your little man in the boat will stand at attention. Your inner labia and clitoris will feel sticky sweet and warm up. The inside of your vagina will overflow with your love fluid. Directly before you come, push those same two fingers into your sticky sweetness. Rub the natural lubricant from inside of you onto your clitoris, and rub hard until you come.

The Sandwich Cookie

Imagine your first two fingers as the hard cookies that sandwich a creamy filling. Gently grip your clitoris between your first two fingers. Stroke your clitoris with your other hand. Vary the pressure and speed until you come.

The Open-Faced Sandwich

Use the palm of your outstretched hand, gently pat and then push down gently. Continue with this rhythm until you begin to feel hot. When you are almost to the end, just push and let go, push and let go, never letting your hand leave skin contact.

The Pulsing Pelvis

Begin touching yourself with your fingers how you like it the best. Start to softly contract your leg muscles in order for your pelvis to gently pulse in a rhythm reminiscent of lovemaking with a partner. Rock up and down, up and down, until you come.

Take a Dip

In the Pool

Spread your legs as far as you can while positioning yourself in front of one of the jets in your pool or hot tub. Stand far enough away from the jet so it is not uncomfortable for you, then move closer and closer until the stimulation is just the right amount to jet you into orgasm.

With Your Shower Head

Use your handheld shower head to masturbate. Actually take the shower head off of its hook and press it on your clitoris. Rub softly. Rub firmly. Alternate between the two extremes, or find a middle ground. Always synchronize your motions to escalate the masturbation experience.

In Your Bathtub

Get into your dry bathtub and sit directly underneath the faucet. Make sure the faucet is aimed directly at your clitoris. Turn the water on warm and let the flow of water hit your clitoris. Use your elbows to hold up your upper body and stick your hands underneath your butt. Right before your orgasm, turn the water temperature to hot … a comfortable hot … and let yourself come.

Common Toys

Dig the Shovel

You can use whatever object turns you on. Pick out a vibrator or anything you like. Mimicking a gently digging motion, use the toy to play with your clitoris. Slide your toy down your clitoris, across your clitoris, and upward, removing the object entirely from your body. Repeat until you reach orgasm.

It’s Electric

When using an electric toothbrush to stimulate your clitoris, simply use it as if it were a vibrator. Touch softly at first, and then as you get more excited, get into a rhythm of hard, soft, or medium pressure. Go up, down, all around, in little circles. Find the motion that suits you the best.

A Play Station

Use a Metal Gear Solid CD on your Sony Playstation, and grab the vibrating controller. Follow the same instructions for the electric toothbrush and the rest is easy. Find yourself. You’ll figure out what to do.

If you have already tried all of the above masturbation tips for women, try adding your own personalized touch on variations to these techniques. If this still isn’t doing it for you, stay tuned for the next set of tips from the professionals.

If you follow the previous tips, you too will experience the self-satisfying beauty of climactic joy through masturbation. When you find something new that works for you, you can share your little secret with your partner.