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5 Sex Games For Scorching Hot Foreplay

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Foreplay doesn’t have to be the same every time. Check out these sizzling sex games for a new twist on before sex fun!

Everyone loves scorching hot foreplay. Everyone loves sex games. What is the connection between the two? Does scorching hot foreplay and kinky fun sex games really have to be separate? Not by a long shot. Playing sex games is a great way to have amazingly hot and naughty foreplay that will burn your house down! Here are some really naughty sex games that will guarantee you’ll have all the amazing foreplay you can possibly handle!

1. Time Dash

Get yourself a timer and set it for say 10 minutes. You can play it several different ways after you set the timer. You can, for example say: for ten minutes, we’re only going to make out, or you have to let me give you oral sex for ten minutes nonstop. Or you can just say, we’re going to do everything but have intercourse for ten minutes and stick to that time dash, no matter what.

You’ll have to be firm on that, no pun intended. When that timer goes off, you’ll more than likely go straight to hard core intercourse, anal sex or whatever it is you’re into from that point on, but it’s super important to stick to the time limit no matter what.

2. Foreplay Truth Or Dare

Cliché, yes. Effective? You bet your ass. Sometimes times the classics still work. Truth or dare is pretty simple. You know the game, basically, without me telling you. The main thing to keep in mind is to set up some ground rules. You want to push the erotic envelope and get partners out of their sexual comfort zones, but you don’t want to force them to do something they aren’t down with for one reason or another. Finding the balance between the two is key to having ample amounts of scorching hot foreplay.

3. Naked Twister

I have never finished a game of naked twister. Come to think of it, I don’t know how you actually finish a game of naked twister, but you get the idea. Just a matter of minutes into naked twister, you’re going straight into oral sex, if not outright intercourse. Oh, if I had a nickel for every time I had a 69 on a twister mat, I’d be rich.

4. Slave For A Day

It’s not exactly a board game, but it’s hard to go wrong with “slave for a day” or night. It’s pretty simple: you are your lovers sex slave for a day, or if you don’t want to do the whole day, or you can’t do the whole day, just do it for an evening. Start by stripping naked and getting them naked. Then do whatever your master wants you to, no questions asked (it’s always good to have a safe word as well).

Being submissive to their dominant “master” is usually pretty hot for both people, especially if you are usually in the opposite role in the relationship. The permission and trust it takes to be master or slave creates erotic energy you can cut with a knife. That’s a recipe for scorching hot foreplay if ever there was one.

5. Naked Yoga

Maybe not a game per se, but you should totally do it. You can’t go to a studio to due naked yoga, but you can totally do it in you living room. There are plenty of yoga DVD’s out there and there are now many websites that are offering on demand, streaming yoga classes.

This is awesome, and multitasking at it’s finest. You both get a work out in, and you’re gong to get hot, sweaty, horny and loosened up, all of which will be a great primer for sex.

Seeing each other naked, is hot. Everyone male or female who has gone to a yoga class undoubtedly has fantasized about seeing the person doing downward dog in front of them doing it butt ass naked. Why not give your lover the gift of making that a reality?

It’s super important to finish the entire 90 minute class. Why? The anticipation will send you out of your mind, which you probably saw coming. But regular yoga practice makes men last longer and helps women have orgasms more easily and intensely. And it preps you for sex by loosening up your muscles, tendons and ligaments.

You won’t have any tight spots, no aches and pains at least for a while after you do yoga and that will help you have better sex for longer and all of this is nothing more than scorching hot foreplay. You finish that yoga DVD and you’ll be ready to go straight to the intercourse, no more foreplay needed, but if you wanted to do some foreplay, it’ll be the hottest foreplay action you’ve had in a while.

PicoBong Kiki Clitoral Vibrator Review

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The PicoBong Kiki clitoral vibrator is designed to hit that one spot specifically – it doesn’t go in the vagina and it can’t really be used any other way. However, it’s made so that a woman can use this vibrator to achieve orgasm quickly and easily via clitoral stimulation, without having to do a lot of work to get there. It’s a great little vibrator you can pack in your purse and although it’s not necessarily stealth (it doesn’t look like a tube of lipstick or anything like the LELO Mia), it’s small enough to stay discreet and hidden.

The Good

Perfectly sized to fit in a woman’s hand during masturbation, the PicoBong Kiki clitoral vibrator is a great addition to any woman’s toy box. If you don’t yet have a vibrator made solely for clitoral stimulation, this is a great inexpensive yet still quality option. If you’re prepared to spend a little more, the LELO Mia is a better choice, but the Kiki is an excellent runner up.

Although you will feel the vibrations on your hand during masturbation (most clitoral vibrators are this way), you won’t notice it that much because the tip of the vibrator is crafted to put exactly the right amount of pressure and stimulation where it really counts! Some women may think feel the vibrations are a little weak for a quick orgasm, but most women will find that this toy satisfies just fine!

The Bad

The PicoBong Kiki clitoral vibrator requires 1 AAA battery that slips easily inside, but rechargeable sex toys are always preferable to having to replace batteries over and over again. And change the battery over and over again you will, because 1 AAA will last only about 2 hours. Certainly long enough to get you through a single masturbation session (unless you’re really going all out), but if you don’t have your batteries on hand, the vibrator may end up dying out before you’ve finished the next time. The controls are difficult to find the first time because they’re hidden in the lasered logo in the side of the toy, but once you know where they are, you can find them by touch.

The Bottom Line

The PicoBong Kiki is a good, inexpensive clitoral vibrator to get if you’re not super choosy about your sex toys or don’t mind using batteries. If you want the “Mercedes” of clitoral vibes, the LELO Mia is your best choice – but if you want something high quality that is also more affordable, the Kiki is an excellent option. While you may want to buy stock in Energizer before you buy this (you will likely be putting the CEO’s kids through college with as many batteries as you’re going to have to get), it’s still a good sex toy, especially for beginners.

Although a few women report that the vibes aren’t strong enough to push them over the edge with the Kiki, most women are very satisfied with this and the design and colors that are available make this a very appealing and fun toy to have in the bottom drawer of your nightstand!

The Full PicoBong Kiki Clitoral Vibrator Review

Sex toys are something every girl has to have! This cute little vibrator is made just for a woman and hits the right spot every single time! The specially curved tip is designed specifically to put pressure on the clitoris during masturbation, covering the entire thing with heart pounding, orgasmic vibrations.

The PicoBong Kiki clitoral vibrator is fairly quiet and although it’s not as quiet as some of its competitors, it will still do the job without letting everyone else know what’s going on. You can definitely use this under the covers without your roommate being aware of what’s going on – unless you have a roommate so quiet you could hear a pin drop. Then you might get found out. The motor isn’t as strong as some of the other competing clitoral vibrators out there, but for as quiet as the Kiki is, it’s surprisingly strong! It will definitely deliver where pleasure is concerned!

The PicoBong Kiki features both different vibrating patterns and softer and more intense vibrations, so you can find the combination that works best for you! The controls are well hidden in the lasered logo (they can be hard to find at first) but are easily manipulated during masturbation without breaking your concentration or the vibrator’s contact with your clitoris. The vibe is easy to hold and won’t cramp your hand – it’s angled to hit the right spot without a lot of effort on your part.

The silky smooth texture of the silicone casing feels great when combined with lube, but make sure you don’t use silicone lube with this toy because the outer covering of the Kiki will start to degrade over time. A good water based lubricant is all you need! The silicone is considered “food grade,” and is phthalate free, so you know this toy is safe to use on your body. It has no “plastic-y” odor to it.

The PicoBong Kiki is waterproof, so you can take it wherever you like, including in the shower or tub! Once you screw the battery cap on tightly, you don’t have to worry about water leaking in. It can be used alone during masturbation, or you can use it to show your lover how and where you want to be stimulated during sex!

All in all, the PicoBong Kiki clitoral vibrator is an excellent option if you’re looking for something smart, sophisticated and inexpensive to stimulate your clitoris just the right way!

Hot New Twists On Classic Sex Games!

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Sex games that have been done over and over can be boring. But you can try these sexy new ways to do old sex games and have tons of fun!

Food Games

Every once in a while, choose culinary delights to accompany your intimate enterprise. In the field of food alone, there’s of myriad things to do – so long as the couple is not afraid of getting messy. Practically anything set on a table and served on a plate can be eaten off the human body. Practically anything a hand can hold can be fed to your lady.

But don’t feast ‘til the tank’s full, that’ll only make you sleepy, you might as well forego the sex. In this context, food exists to tease the senses – not just the tongue, but also the skin, eyes and nose. Work your appetite with torrid sex, then eat to your heart’s content during the Afterplay dates.

Food can get messy, especially if you have food fight in the agenda. I suggest you buy a special mattress exclusively for sex play, something that doesn’t absorb liquid or stain. You can use the ones they have in gyms, lay it on the floor and you’re good to go – you won’t have to worry about going to the cleaners in the morning.

Besides ice, mints, candy, wine, strawberries and whipped cream, here are other food ideas:

  1. Chinese food – Work the grease on each other. This may not be your idea of romance, but who knows, it might be your idea of fun. It will feel odd initially, but then you’ll remember how wonderful it was to be in a sandbox. Play and eat, be a child once again. Finish the messy affair by lathering each other in the shower. Get ready for some serious action after.
  2. Sauces – See how adorable she looks with some sauce on her face. (Don’t use too much, licking it all off can be nauseating.) Liquids are mainstays during foreplay, when penetration is not the main issue. Getting foreign liquids into the vagina may disturb the pH balance inside, so be careful not to drip anything in. Finally, cleaning up is as important as getting messy, make sure you still approach it with childish fun.
  3. Fruits – There are messy fruits, there are easy fruits – take your pick. Consider the issue of seeds, pulp and flow of juices.

Role Playing

Pepper your encounters with role playing and themes by putting on your best acting pants and pretend you are making love like different couples.

A very big warning though: WHEN THE GAME STOPS, WHEN IT’S ALL OVER, YOU HAVE TO STOP PLAYING THE PART – don’t get carried away. Moreover, never hurt, abuse or threaten your partner – I don’t care what the role you’re playing is. Keep it light, playful and flirtatious.

  • Doctor & Nurse
  • Dentist & Assistant
  • Judge & Lawyer
  • Boss & Secretary
  • Rockstar & Groupie
  • Superstar Athlete & Reporter
  • Business Tycoon & French maid

Of course, it can also go the other way and women can play the dominant role:

  • Hot Teacher & Naïve Student
  • Amazon Boss & “Let’s see if you’re really gay” Assistant
  • Horny Mistress & Pizza Boy
  • Beauty Queen & Pool Boy
  • Horny Heiress & Hunky Gardener

Mix & match, and make your own. Try Astronaut and Alien!

Sex Toys

There’s a legion of sex toys available in the market today – some of them will work for you, others are better off as home decors. But you will find that those that rub you the right way are really heaven sent.

Toys don’t get tired or think that the kitty tastes awful. They simply do their job and allow both of you to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Vibrators and butt plugs don’t compete with you, they aid in your pleasure and are on your team. Many get threatened with sex gadgets. It’s the “Why, am I not enough?” feeling that nips on the egos of men.

But there’s really nothing to be insecure about. You are definitely better than any toy – more delightful than any battery-operated device. Toys might bring her orgasms, but they are only physical implements devoid of psychological warmth.

You’re different – you’re a fumbling, sometimes clueless, ball of fun! So don’t think twice of employing toys, it’s not cheating. It’s simply admitting to being human. Face it, you can’t vibrate your tongue or fingers as rhythmically and tirelessly as any garden-variety vibrator. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

To spice up sex toys, try masturbating in public, in a discreet way. Bring a quiet vibrator to a movie theater, or masturbate in your car on a long drive. Wear a pair of quiet, vibrating panties to a business meeting and try your hardest to keep a straight face! When it comes to sex toys, use your imagination to bring life to old, played out toys.

Spread Eagle Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Spread EagleThe Spread Eagle sex position is a classic oral sex position for her and is a tried and true standard for many couples. Although it lacks the “exotic” factor, it’s a favorite among women because they can simply lie back, relax and enjoy the pleasure!

How To Do It

This is the “Missionary” of oral sex positions for her – it’s the most common oral sex position for women, and it’s actually a favorite, simply because the female partner has the ability to relax and focus on the pleasurable sensations she’s receiving. For many women, relaxation and focusing is key to achieving orgasm! The female partner lies on her back with her legs spread, and her male partner situates himself in between her legs so that he can give her oral sex. It’s simple but very, very effective!

Where To Do It

Bed, couch, floor, any flat surface

Props You’ll Need

Pillow for her head and lower back (a pillow under her lower back will tilt her pelvis up and give her partner more access to her vulva)

Difficulty Level

1

Her O-Meter

5

Women love the Spread Eagle oral sex position because they’re able to lie back, relax and enjoy everything. They only have to focus on what feels good, which can be exactly what a woman needs to reach orgasm.

His O-Meter

1.5

This is probably the least favorite oral sex position among men, simply because it can make for some serious neck cramps! It’s not easy getting the angle right when licking, and the neck can bend in an odd way. Some men may not be able to keep this position up long enough to actually bring their lovers to orgasm. He also can’t reach down and stimulate himself very well.

XXX Tip

Guys, slip a lubed finger inside her vagina and gently massage her g-spot while you lick her clitoris (after she’s warmed up and turned on of course!) This will increase her chances of orgasm and if you do it well enough, you may even get her to squirt!

Bodyguard Sex Position

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Sex Positions: BodyguardThe Bodyguard sex position can be difficult to achieve good thrusting in (especially if she’s short), but if you can get lined up properly, the Bodyguard can be an extremely intimate and satisfying sex position. He can touch her anywhere, kiss her neck and whisper dirty things in her ear!

How To Do It

The Bodyguard is a standing rear entry sex position that isn’t too hard to actually get into, but it’s a little difficult and awkward to keep up during thrusting. Height differences between partners can make it a little more challenging, but it’s certainly not impossible. In this sex position, both partners stand, with the female partner resting her back against her lover’s chest. He enters her from behind, and both partners slightly bend their needs to facilitate thrusting. It may take a few minutes to get to where you’re both moving in sync with each other, but this position can be super intimate. He can kiss her neck, lick and suck on her ear lobes or whisper dirty talk in her ear!

It’s important for the female partner to arch her back or else he may keep “slipping out”.

Where To Do It

Shower, closet, bathroom, anywhere else you can stand. Ideally the Bodyguard sex position is performed in front of a mirror for the visual enjoyment of both partners.

Props You’ll Need

Footstool (or stairs) for the lady if she’s petite. This will help you better line up your genitals for ease of thrusting.

Difficulty Level

4

Her O-Meter

2

The Bodyguard isn’t a favorite among women, unless their partner has a longer penis. A smaller penis doesn’t penetrate as far in this position, and can leave a woman wanting more. Men with smaller penises who want to engage in rear entry sex are better off using the Doggy Style or Standing Doggy Style sex positions, as they encourage deeper penetration. He can make this position better for her by reaching his hands around to her front and fondling her breasts, nipples and clitoris.

His O-Meter

3

He likes this position fairly well, but it’s a little lackluster for him unless you’re doing it in front of a mirror (which is a great idea by the way). Men need visual stimulation to really enjoy sex and without a mirror, there’s not much for him to look at here. If he’s a breast man, he will particularly like it when she arches her back and pushes her breast up and out for him to fondle.

XXX Tip

This is a great sex position to use in the shower, especially if you have a smaller shower stall. Since you can’t really lie down in a lot of showers, the Bodyguard is a great way to still have wet and wild sex in the bathroom!