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69 Sex Position

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Traditional 69 is one of the most exciting ways to give and receive oral sex, because both partners get to give and receive at the same time. This is a great way to bring each other to simultaneous orgasm orally, and it can be a great position to use when one partner is less enthusiastic about giving oral sex.

How To Do It

The 69 oral sex position is a favorite among many couples because it allows both partners to give and experience oral sex simultaneously. In the 69 sex position the male partner lies on a flat surface on their back, and the female partner straddles her lover’s face, facing towards his feet. She then leans down and performs oral sex on him while simultaneously receiving it.

For the 69 position to be successful, however, both partners must be clean and very comfortable with each other. The partner on top may feel exposed, since their lover’s face, mouth and nose are so close to their buttocks and genitals. If you’re comfortable with your lover though and do some basic hygiene (such as a sexy shower together) beforehand, you shouldn’t have any issues.

Where To Do It

Floor, couch, bed, reclining chair, outdoors, anywhere you can both comfortably lie down

Props You’ll Need

A shower beforehand, pillows for comfort

Difficulty Level

2

Her O-Meter

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69 is a great way for a woman to receive oral sex when her partner is reluctant to go down on her without getting anything in return. By offering to 69, she can entice her lover to do something for her, because she’s doing something for him. Some guys enjoy performing oral sex on a woman regardless, but other men have difficulty enjoying oral sex if they’re not being stimulated in some way as well. The only caveat here is that she’s focusing on giving him oral pleasure, so her own is reduced somewhat. She cannot fully focus on the sensations and pleasure of receiving oral sex, simply because she’s trying to do two things at once.

His O-Meter

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Guys like the idea of being able to receive oral sex at the same time they give it, because for some men, giving oral sex isn’t enjoyable in and of itself if their penis is not being stimulated in some way. 69 is an excellent solution to this problem! However, he cannot focus solely on his own pleasure, because he’s also trying to give her oral pleasure as well. It’s definitely enjoyable for him, but just slightly less enjoyable than if he were to be able to sit back, relax and enjoy a blowjob.

XXX Tip

Take your time and enjoy giving each other oral sex at the same time. Learning to move in sync with each other and communicate sexually without speaking to each other can be extremely sexy and intimate!

LELO Tiani Couples Vibrator Review

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The LELO Tiani Couples Vibrator is a great choice if you want a technologically advanced orgasmic experience with your partner.

Sex toys for couples are becoming a hot commodity, with more and more couples choosing sex toys that they can use together to spice up their sex life. There are many different brands and models of vibrators now that are intended to be worn during intercourse, however, none are quite like the LELO Tiani. The closest is the We-Vibe II, with a rechargeable, wireless device that fits inside the vagina and is designed to be worn during sex. The LELO Tiani works the same way and is worn in the vagina during intercourse, however, the controls are much more technologically advanced and it works just a little bit differently.

The Good

As with almost all LELO sex toys, the LELO Tiani Couples Vibrator is a high end luxury item that looks and feels absolutely divine. You’ll feel like you’ve absolutely spoiled yourself with this toy! The silky soft feel is similar to some of the other LELO vibrators, and is nothing like the tacky, sticky silicone of the We-Vibe II. You’ll love the texture almost as much as you love the wireless controls. The LELO Tiani employs something called SenseMotion technology, where the wireless remote controls the device just by moving it one way or the other. This technology isn’t perfect yet, so you may find that the Tiani doesn’t always do what you think you’ve just told it to do, but it’s definitely the most technologically advanced couples vibrator out there!

The Bad

Again, the SenseMotion technology isn’t perfected yet, so you’re going to have a lapse in communication between the wireless remote and the vibrator every now and then. Sometimes the reaction will be a little delayed, or sometimes it just won’t do what you told it to do at all. The LELO Tiani Couples Vibrator works better when the remote is closer to the device, so the farther away you go with it, the more spotty the connection will end up being. This is not one of those sex toys you can control from across the room! Even though the connection between the remote and the device leaves something to be desired, it’s still a really fun toy to play with and one of the better couples vibrators of its kind out there.

The Bottom Line

The LELO Tiani Couples Vibrator is one of the best couples vibrators on the market today, more so than many of the other similar vibes out there. The look and feel is top notch, and the material is high quality like all LELO products. Women will love the comfortable fit that stays comfortable even when her partner is inside (although some very small women may still find it a bit crowded), while men will love playing with the SenseMotion technology. It’s innovative, sleek, modern and makes a great addition to your sex toy collection. A definite must have if your sex life isn’t as hot as it used to be!

The Full LELO Tiani Couples Vibrator Review

Like all LELO sex toys, the LELO Tiani Couples Vibrator is a high quality sex toy designed for use by couples who want to take their sex life to the next level. It fits inside the vagina and is worn while the couple engages in intercourse (the fatter end sits outside the vulva on top of the clitoris) and provides both clitoral and g-spot stimulation for women who may otherwise have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. It’s sleek and high end and the materials feel smooth and silky against the skin.

Unlike other couples vibrators – even ones that are worn the same way – the LELO Tiani is controlled by a wireless remote with SenseMotion technology. This means if you move the remote certain ways, you control the vibration level of the Tiani, without pressing any buttons or using any dials. This can be super fun when you’re in the bedroom! You can experiment with holding the remote and moving it to find the best vibration level for you, or you can put it in your hand and lose yourself in the passion, allowing yours and your partner’s body movements to move the remote so you’re always surprised with something different. The LELO Tiani allows couples to increase their orgasmic potential while still staying passionate and spontaneous!

Unfortunately, the remote does require batteries, while the Tiani device itself is rechargeable. It would be excellent if both pieces were rechargeable, but that is perhaps coming soon. There’s little doubt that LELO will continue to perfect the SenseMotion technology and come out with a new and better version of the LELO Tiani Couples Vibrator, which may have a rechargeable remote and other fun features! If you want perfect technology, than you might want to wait for the next version of this fun sex toy, however, if you want to experience the best technology that is currently offered, the LELO Tiani will definitely satisfy you. It can be worn alone as well, although it works better when used during intercourse because the vibrator portion that sits up against the clitoris functions much better when body pressure holds it down against the vulva.

The vibrations are strong – the LELO Tiani is no weak little vibe! Don’t try to control this thing from across the room however – it’s maxed out at about five feet. The vibrations also seem to work better the closer the remote is to the device. It’s also quiet and discreet, so you can use it for travel if you like.

Overall, this is a fun vibrator to try, although if you go in with expectations of perfect technology, you may be disappointed. The best feature of the LELO Tiani Couples Vibrator is the SenseMotion technology, but that also happens to be its worst feature since the technology isn’t 100% flawless yet. If you have some patience with it though and your expectations are more realistic for the first product of this kind, then you’re going to have a lot of fun experimenting with it – and that’s what it’s all about! Relax and enjoy the ride!

PicoBong Ipo Finger Vibrator Review

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The PicoBong Ipo finger vibrator is a cute little bullet vibrator that is designed to be worn on the end of a woman’s finger during masturbation. It’s not made to be inserted into the vagina – only to be used on the clitoris, where it hits exactly the right spot every single time. Small enough to fit in your pocket or your purse, this is an excellent travel companion or just a good all around discreet bullet vibe. This type of vibrator is definitely something every woman should have in her toy box!

The Good

The best feature of the PicoBong Ipo is the special silicone finger sleeve. Made specifically to slip over the finger and part of the vibrator’s actual design – not just an “add on feature,” this sex toy is really and truly innovative! When masturbating, many women want something small and simple, that will hit the clitoris and take them to orgasm in just minutes. The PicoBong Ipo does just that! The vibrations are good, the motor is quiet and boy is this thing ever “handy!”

The Bad

Probably the only caveat here is the fact that the PicoBong Ipo requires batteries. This vibrator would be absolutely perfect if it were rechargeable! Be prepared to have some batteries in stock – you definitely don’t want to run out of juice in the middle of doing your thing and not have any back ups on hand.

The Bottom Line

The PicoBong Ipo is absolutely something every woman must have if she enjoys using a bullet style vibrator during sex play or masturbation. Since it is easily slipped over the finger, it’s almost “hands free!” You can more easily position this vibrator to hit your sweet spots than you can bullet vibes that you have to hold, and although you’ll still feel the vibrations in your fingers, you’re less prone to “finger itch” with this little guy. Plus, it’s super cute and portable! The bottom line here is that if you don’t have one of these, you’re missing out. It’s a functional yet attractive twist on your classic, must-have bullet vibrator.

The Full PicoBong Ipo Vibrator Review

A vibrator that is small, classy, discreet and portable is something every girl needs to keep in her arsenal of sex toys. The PicoBong Ipo fits the bill and more – so if you don’t ditch your old, worn out corded bullet vibe for this adorable little guy, you’re really missing out.

Made from silky soft silicone, this vibrator has a special “finger holder” that allows you to wear the bullet on the tip of your finger – perfect for a “hands free” sort of action! You’ll love using this on your own when you’re looking to get off quick, but it’s also great for your guy to wear during sex if you have trouble reaching orgasm in other ways. Just have him slip this on his finger and start touching you and voila – you’ll be in orgasm city soon!

There’s hardly anything that is bad about the PicoBong Ipo – it’s waterproof so you can take it in the bath or shower, it’s small enough to take with you anywhere, and it fits well on both smaller and larger fingers. The only two very minor issues with this toy are that you cannot use a silicone lube with it (or you’ll start to degrade the silicone covering of the vibrator) and that the vibe requires batteries. It would be awesome if the vibe were rechargeable, but you can definitely use rechargeable batteries and save yourself some money that way.

The vibrations aren’t super intense, but they’re still powerful enough to get the job done. This means that the PicoBong Ipo is exceptionally quiet and discreet! You can even use it when you’re in the same room with someone (like in a roommate situation) and as long as you’re quiet, no one will be the wiser. The vibrator is really easy to clean, although you want to rinse it right after use. If you let it sit, lube and other fluids can get gunked up in the cracks of the toy and in the logo etching (where the controls are).

Overall, this is an excellent finger vibrator for the price! It’s as smooth and silky as a luxury vibrator but without the hefty price tag. It also makes a great gift for a friend or the special someone in your life, and doubles as a couples vibrator when used by your partner on you during sex. It’s all around versatile and a great one to have in your toy box!

Face Straddle Sex Position

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Sex Position: Face StraddleThe Face Straddle sex position is an excellent oral sex position to use when the female partner wants to feel in control of oral sex, and the male partner wants to feel a little submissive. It also gives him a great view of her body as she writhes in pleasure!

How To Do It

Face Straddle is an oral sex position for her and it can be a lot of fun if both partners are very comfortable with each other. Some women may not like the idea straddling their partner’s face, while some men won’t like the fact that they have limited head and neck movement – especially if she starts getting into it and grinding her pelvis into his face.

However, for some couples, this move is really hot! The male partner assumes a lying position and the female partner lowers her genitals over his face, straddling his head with each leg on one side of his head. There are a couple different ways to do this, but both require her to rest her weight on her knees. She can lean back and rest the remainder of her weight on her hands, or she can lean forward and get on all fours. Either way, this provides her lover with complete access to her genitals.

Where To Do It

Couch, bed, floor, backseat of the car, anywhere with enough space to lie down

Props You’ll Need

A pillow for his neck is a definite must!

Her O-Meter

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This is an excellent oral sex position for her because she feels more in control here. She can move her pelvis to guide her clitoris to where she wants it to be, and she can rock and move in a way that gets her closer to orgasm – she’s not relying only on him to get her there.

His O-Meter

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Many men enjoy this position, because they feel a little submissive here. Also, if a man isn’t that good at oral sex, he may feel better that she can maneuver herself so that she gets more pleasure, rather than relying only on him and his tongue movements to get her off.

XXX Tip

Guys, reach down and masturbate while you’re giving her oral sex. She won’t necessarily be able to look behind her to see what you’re doing, but the idea that you love eating her out so much that you can’t help but touch yourself is extremely erotic for her – especially considering that many women think guys feel like giving them oral sex is a chore.

4 Reasons A Woman Won’t Have Sex With You

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Sex tips tell you how to get it on, but what if you’re not doing it at ALL? What if she’s not putting out? Here are some clues as to why she might not have sex with you.

There are a lot of reasons that woman will not have sex with you. It doesn’t matter if you are the top salesman at your marketing firm, a high paid lawyer or the best neurosurgeon in the world, you can always be outperformed and outwitted by a guy that lives at home with his mother.

They are certain key characteristics to every guy that knows how to get a woman in the bed. Hollywood has you believe that women are only interested in men have money or power. While there are women that are only interested in money or power, you don’t need either of these in order to get them into bed. Here are some key characteristics of men that will never be able to get a woman into the sack.

1. You Have ZERO Confidence

Confidence is a key ingredient to getting all women to not only respect you, but to also want to go to bed with you. It doesn’t matter if you work as a clerk at a grocery store or you own a law firm, if you don’t have confidence in yourself, no woman is every going to see you as more than a friend.

Confidence can be gained by looking at the key characteristics that you have to offer a woman. Whether you are a nice guy or you are financially secure, every woman wants a guy that is sure of himself. Women are naturally drawn to men that have confidence in themselves.

2. You Dress Sloppy

It’s one thing to run out to the grocery store in a pair of Iraqi jeans and a torn shirt, but it is a whole other thing to meet a girl in this kind of clothing. A guy that doesn’t know how to dress himself for a date will never get a girl to go to bed with him. Women like guys who respect the traditions of a date and guys who respect themselves. When you go out to something as important as a date, you MUST dress for the occasion.

If you do not take the time to pick out something slightly trendy, the girl is going to assume that you don’t care enough about her to put something together. Go to a decent department store and buy at least 2-3 different dating outfits so that you are prepared for the first couple of dates that you go out on. Girls also don’t want to have one night stands with guys who don’t know how to dress, so keep that in mind.

3. Your Hygiene STINKS

You would think that this goes without saying, however, there are some guys that can’t get it through their heads. Hygiene is one of the most important aspects of getting a girl into bed. If your breath smells or your have dandruff, they are going to assume that your junk stinks. Furthermore, this just isn’t attractive. Make sure that you have clean hair, hands and that you have brushed your teeth. If you have a breath problem then carry mints or gum.

This should be number one in your arsenal to getting a girl to go to bed with you. Invest in a body wash that actually works. Old Spice and Right Guard are great. These will leave you smelling good for at least a couple of hours after you have taken a shower.

4. You Don’t Know How To Sexualize The Interaction Properly

There are a lot of guys that either don’t sexualize a conversation at all or they over-sexualize a conversation. There is a fundamental difference between friends and guys that girls want to sleep with. A friend will not flirt with a girl. A guy that wants to sleep with her will. While this might seem like an easy concept to grasp, there are a ton of guys out there don’t know exactly what to do in order to properly flirt. Making fun of her in a flirty way is great to get some rapport going. Even telling her that you like her shoes or dress can go a long way.

However, you don’t want to lay it on too thick. Breaking the touch barrier early on is also a good way to show that you aren’t afraid to take control. Don’t do anything that is going to make her uncomfortable though. Don’t touch her leg or even her hand unless you know that she won’t pull back. Girls can tell when a guy is nervous. You have to be calm and cool in order to gain her affection.