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Doggy Style Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Doggy StyleThe Doggy Style sex position is probably the most popular sex position for rear entry and for good reason! Couples love this position because of how submissive it is for the female partner, and he can watch the action while he thrusts. It’s a great position for some good old-fashioned animal sex!

How To Do It

Doggy style is one of the more popular sex positions, both for vaginal and anal sex. It’s simple – the female partner gets on all fours, with her weight being supported by her knees and her palms, which are all on the floor. Her partner approaches her from behind, holding on to her hips with his hands and supporting his weight with his knees on the floor. This is a great position for rough sex – he has more leverage with his hands on her hips and can pull her to him or push her away with his arms. It’s also an excellent position for deeper penetration.

Where To Do It

Floor, bed, couch, the bathtub/shower, any flat surface with plenty of space

Props You’ll Need

A rolled up towel or a pillow is almost essential for doggy style unless you’re doing it on the bed. It’s easy to get carpet burn on your knees if you’re having sex on the carpet, or if it’s a hard surface like a tiled floor or bathtub, it’s just not comfortable. Both partners may need some sort of padding under the knees.

Difficulty Level

1

Her O-Meter

3

The doggy style sex position is an excellent one for deep penetration, but not so much g-spot stimulation. Most men have a penis that angles upwards, which means that during doggy style, his penis will “point” towards her lower back – the side of her vagina that her g-spot is not on. However, a woman can really get into doggy style if she enjoys rough sex or being dominant in this way. He can also increase her orgasm potential (or she can) by reaching in between her legs and stimulating the clitoris.

His O-Meter

5

Doggy style is a favorite among men, simply because many men enjoy being dominating over their partner. That’s what the doggy style position is all about – it’s named this because it mimics the sex position dogs use when a female dog presents herself to a male to be mounted. The act of “presenting” herself in this way makes the woman feel very submissive and the man very dominant – which can be a huge turn on for a man. Not to mention that he gets to stare at her backside the entire time and watch all the action!

XXX Tip

A woman isn’t going to get much out of the doggy style position unless her clitoris is being stimulated. Her partner can reach down and stimulate the clitoris or she can do it herself, either with fingers or a vibrator. This will make doggy style so much better for her! To make it super naughty, the female partner can lean all the way down and put her elbows and forearms on the floor or bed, raising her buttocks even more. Her lover will really enjoy this!

Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager Review

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The Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager is a unique, stylish and visually appealing sensual vibrator that can be used alone during masturbation or with a partner.

The Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager is really a one of a kind massage tool that unfortunately doesn’t work well as a vibrator. It looks and feels cool, so it makes a nice novelty and is a great gift to give. It works fairly well as a body massager, but hardcore sex toy enthusiasts might be a little disappointed with this product.

The Good

The good things about the Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager are few, but they’re worth mentioning. Of course, the most obvious positive thing about this sex toy is that it’s uniquely designed and very eye catching – there’s really no other similar toys out there like this one. The design is very nice to look at and both pieces fit together to form a yin yang. That makes this personal massager very discreet – you could have it laying out open on a table and no one would really know what it was unless they turned it on! The artistic element is probably the most beneficial thing about the Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager. Other notable positive points are that it’s actually not that bad at body massage, it makes a great gift and it appears to be durable and long lasting.

The Bad

Unfortunately, the Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager isn’t as cool as it looks. Although it functions okay as a body massager, the vibrations just aren’t powerful enough to be used as a vibrator. The curved design seems like it would fit a woman’s body well and it does, but the vibrations just don’t cut it. Although you have different vibration patterns and speeds in each piece (each piece does something different), if you’re a hardcore sex toy enthusiast (or have ever used another vibrator before, ever) you’re definitely going to be disappointed by this product. It’s also incredibly difficult to get out of the clear plastic case – you’ll have to pry it out with either a butter knife or a flat head screwdriver and you’ll likely break the case in the process, rendering it useless.

The Bottom Line

The bottom line here is that the Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager is not as cool as it looks. Sure, it’s a great gift for bachelorette parties and the like because it’s discreet yet still somewhat “sexy,” however, if you’re looking to purchase it for yourself or you and your partner as an actual “sex toy,” you’re going to be pretty disappointed. It’s not a bad body massager, but for the money, you could definitely invest in a more powerful vibrator that has more orgasm potential. If you’re looking for a discreet body massager that really does the job, so to speak, the Hitachi Magic Wand is time tested and a favorite of women and couples everywhere.

The Full Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager Review

The Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager really is a unique addition to your collection, but be aware that it makes a better body massager than a sex toy and it’s only a fair massager at that. The great thing about this product is the design – it’s really unique and it doesn’t look like anything else out there on the market today. The design is fresh, clean and modern, and is so discreet that you could have it sitting on the top of your table and no one would have any idea what it is unless you turned it on and it started vibrating! It’s classy, not trashy, so if you’re looking for an upscale looking toy to play with and performance isn’t all that important to you, then the Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager may be a good choice for you.

It comes in a sleek acrylic case, but you’ll probably end up breaking the case just to get the thing out, which leaves you unable to use the case for storage afterwards. It’s made of hard, ABS plastic which makes it body safe, but there’s no give to it. That aspect actually makes it a better body massager, because you can press the plastic deeper into your muscles when they ache. The outer covering is soft and satiny, but again, very hard.

Each half of the massager does different things, which is actually kind of fun to play with. The white half goes up and down in speeds and has 5 total speeds, offering constant vibration at whatever speed you choose. The black half has 5 different vibration modes, and you can experiment with which pattern is your favorite! The toy is waterproof, so feel free to take it in the shower or bath with you.

One other caveat of such a high end looking toy is that it requires batteries in each piece of the massager. This means that if you use the toy regularly, you’re going to eat up a lot of batteries. For such a nice looking product, it would be a lot better if the Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager were rechargable.

Overall, the Joya 4 U Sphere Intimate Massager probably makes a better gift than it does a sex toy purchased for yourself or you and your partner. There are many other products on the market that do a much better job with vibration, and there are also better products out there that are discreetly marketed as body massagers (but still offer a great orgasm) like the Hitachi Magic Wand. Get this if you really like the way it looks, but don’t be surprised when you’re a little disappointed with performance.

Standing Doggy Style Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Standing DoggyThe Standing Doggy Style sex position is easier on the knees than traditional Doggy Style, and still provides the same perks for both female and male partners. This is another fun “animal” style sex position because all you have to do for a quickie is pull your pants and underwear down!

How To Do It

Standing Doggy Style is a little bit easier on the knees than traditional Doggy Style, mainly because both partners have their feet on the floor instead of their knees. This does require some kind of prop, like a chair, couch or bed, but it’s relatively simple to do. While standing, the female partner bends at the waist and places the palms of her hands on the chosen prop. The male partner enters her from behind, standing the entire time. This position can be a lot of fun for a quickie – just drop your pants and get it on!

Where To Do It

Bed, couch, shower, over the hood of the car – just use your imagination!

Props You’ll Need

Anything the female partner can put her hands on for support

Difficulty Level

1

Her O-Meter

3

Like traditional Doggy Style, this position is fairly good for g-spot penetration. It’s much more difficult for her to reach her clitoris, however, because she’s supporting the majority of her weight with her hands. It’s much easier for her to enjoy this sex position if he reaches down and stimulates her clitoris.

His O-Meter

4

Standing Doggy Style provides as good a view as traditional Doggy Style, and men really dig the idea of the backdoor action – even if they’re not actually getting to go in the “back door.”

XXX Tip

Standing Doggy Style is another one of those “got to have it now” sex positions. Both partners can drop their drawers and go at it pretty much any time, anywhere. It’s incredibly hot to want your partner so bad, you really can’t even stand to take the time to undress all the way.

How To Critique Your Girl’s Sex Skills

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Sex tips are something you often want to give a woman, but approaching the subject does take some finesse. Here’s how to offer your lover guidance in bed.

Getting your girl to be better in bed? Now that’s a tall order! Considering you have to keep her ego intact along the way. So, how does one give corrective comments?

The objective is not to point an accusing finger but to enrich both your sexual experiences, and you can’t do that by trying to beat her to pulp. Attacking her ego is both stupid and useless – stupid in that it backfires and generates more of what you’re complaining about, and useless in that people will always protect & defend their egos.

Don’t Rub It In

“You’re terrible,” is the last thing you want to say. Why? Because it breaks her, but doesn’t tell her what to do. Real feedback tells the receiver how to make better. “You’re terrible” is not feedback, it’s a waste of spit. She doesn’t suck, she is undergoing the process of becoming “The Best You’ve Ever Had” – so guide her through it.

This is really obvious enough, but you’ll be surprised how some guys treat a lady. Many harbor secret delight in berating their partners, deriving pleasure by making them feel bad.

Be Non Threatening

Use the magic word: TRY. Believe me, she will. Say during a handjob, “Honey, why don’t you TRY to use both hands.” It’s non- threatening, it doesn’t focus on mistakes and it tells her exactly what to do. That’s feedback.

The Sandwich Technique

Use this as a corrective technique to give her sex tips. It is named such because of the specific way comments are sequenced – the negative/corrective comment is strategically sandwiched between 2 positives, so the negative is eased in without unneeded friction. The result? She learns she sucks, but still feels hopeful and happy about it.

You don’t position negative comments in glaring light, therefore sparing the receiver from unnecessary distress, giving her a graceful exit – this is its beauty.

Don’t worry, your sex tips will still get across, it’s not imperceptible, it just won’t be as scarring. She’ll instead bask in the glow of the praise and use that energy to work on her issues. It’s both uplifting and corrective, two birds with one stone!

It’s an effective way to make somebody shape-up their sorry asses. Not everybody can handle “tough love,” and if you’ve been trying it without results, try a Sandwich. Positioning yourself as an ally gives your remarks a fair hearing.

Look For What’s Hot

Look for things your partner is good at. Come up with at least two. There has to be something, something she doesn’t suck at. I assure you, you will find it, you don’t need to lie through your teeth on this one. It can be as simple as how her lips feel when she smiles while kissing or the warmth of her palms on your back when you’re on top of her, or the fact that she makes sure you orgasm first before she helps herself. A simple, “You rock!,” will make her day.

And even if you’re kind of stretching the truth on a compliment, it will still do wonders – because one way of creating a great lover out of your partner is by mentioning that she already is. (Another one of those cheap psychological tricks you may use.) If she’s good at giving a blowjob, make her even better by mentioning how great she is at it.

I assure you, the next time she’s giving you one, she’ll show off her skills and prove you right on that compliment. It’s like telling a girl she looks great in a red dress, making her feel so good about herself, and finding out later that because of your comment, she starts wearing red everyday.

What’s Not

Think of the things she could do better. Is it her tiny mouth? Or the fact that she yells another man’s name when you make love? Think about the things you would change in her sexual technique and how you might change them. Although this is probably easier to do than it is to think of things she does well (if she’s really bad in bed) and you can think of a whole list of things she can improve upon, stick to one or two things at a time. The sandwich technique doesn’t work very well if you follow a compliment with an entire list of things she sucks at. Once she’s mastered something you’ve suggested she do better, you can choose a new “complaint” to use the sandwich technique with.

Sandwich the sex tips between the positives, and you have a comment that not only boosts her ego, but made her a better partner as well. Highlight the positives and teach her something on the side.

50 Shades Of Grey – The TRUTH About “Girl” Porn

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50 Shades Of Grey is one of the best selling books of all time – and you’ve likely heard about the darker sexual plot. Is erotica about to become mainstream?

Scores of women, all over the world are obsessed with 50 Shades Of Grey – an S&M related erotic thriller. It’s given birth to an entirely new genre of literature: “girl porn.” But what does that mean, exactly? What does it mean to women? To men? More importantly, what does it mean to you?

Sorry, It’s Not “New”

The whole “girl porn” thing isn’t new. Books like “My secret garden” have told stories of female centered erotica for years, and the concept is as old as time itself. It’s just becoming more and more prevalent and mainstream. Why? Part of it is feminism, partly due to relaxing social attitudes towards sex and sexuality, but mostly it’s due to one thing: technology. It used to be if you were a woman and you wanted to get your girl porn on, you had to buy a book, and carry that book around wherever you wanted to go and read it.

Everyone likes a little naughty reading time, but nobody wants to really be outed as doing it. Enter smartphones. And tablets. Amazon and Apple sell the tablets simply to drive purchases of digital content through the mediums they rule with an iron fist. conspiracy theories aside, this allows you to buy as much girl porn as you can stand, read it wherever you like and no one will no about it.

You might be asking yourself “Tony, are you saying that woman on the subway who looked way too happy to be there was getting her girl porn on? Am I really to believe that she was reading 50 Shades Of Grey?” Yes grasshopper. She was and you should. The explosion that is 50 Shades of Grey is directly related to the explosion of iPads, Kindle Fires, iPhones, Android phones, android tablets, and the like.

Girls Like It Dirty!

Here’s another truth: women are dirty. They talk dirty and they want dirty things. Chris Rock has this joke: “your woman is nastier and dirtier and more sexual than you ever imagined. She’s dying to do it. But anything you mutter ain’t getting done.” Women have always been this sexual. They’ve always been into porn. They are just into a different kind of porn than men are. Don’t believe that women are pervs too? Two words: Magic Mike. Women losing their minds over have naked shirtless men who are ripped and in great shape. They eat that up. Literally.

Women have always been massively sensual creatures, but they’ve been bread to repress that. Times are changing. That repression is being peeled away layer by layer. Thanks to technology and the internet, women in particular have access to any kind of sex and relationship type they could possibly want, and access to any kind of girl porn they want. They know it’s out there, and that helps them know that it’s okay, whatever that it is.

The Domination Factor

50 Shades Of Grey also reveals and increasing desire for women to be submissive and dominated. Often the women who exhibit the strongest desire to be dominated in the bedroom are the ones who are most dominant outside of it. It may seem a bit screwy, but it’s not. It actually makes quite a bit of sense when you think about it.

There is so much pressure on women today, most of it put on women by themselves and other women. They are obligated to “have it all” whatever that means. They are earning more than ever, having more responsibilities than ever. There’s an ever increasing number of roles women are having to play and as they take many of the leadership and powerful roles that men have traditionally played, they begin to feel the same pressures.

With all the hats women wear today, it’s no wonder that they want to throw them all off (in addition to their clothes). Being submissive allows you to surrender control and not have to worry about anything. You can use it as an excuse to give into any number of secret sex related desires you’ve long held (orgies, swinging, anal sex, lesbianism, bondage, etc), and in your mind you’re totally in the clear because you were “forced” to do it, but really, that isn’t true at all.

You were simply creating a scenario where you could finally allow yourself to have the kind of pleasure you’ve long desired, but do it in a way that’s safe for your mind and body. And for a woman, that’s an incredibly appealing proposition. That’s what these girl porn books offer.