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How To Make An Incredible Online Dating Profile

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Online dating should be used from a marketing perspective. Think of your profile as a brochure. I want you to think of yourself maybe  going into a Porsche dealership. Imagine you’re going into a Porsche dealership  and you want to drive this Porsche.

You go in and they get you a really nice brochure and you take it home. What you want is a profile that reveals just enough to tease a girl into being even more curious. Use these strategies when trying to meet women online.

Choose Your Headline Wisely

You need a witty headline because the headline is one of the first things a woman is going to see on your profile. Some online dating sites will call it a “tagline”, which is basically the same thing. I always use something funny as a headline. If you’ve read any other pick-up stuff, maybe you had a funny saying or a funny line you can use. I always rotate and try different things.

Here are some of them:

“I’m not feeling the connection… Do you know what I mean?”
“I think I’m going to have to break up with you.”
“I’m ex-husband material”
“I’m ex-boyfriend material”

You can say things like these and it will crack them up because these are one-liners. You can always use movie lines. I love using different movie lines. What are some funny movies that you can think of? For everybody it’s going to be different.

What’s funny for me might not be funny for you. What kind of funny movies come to mind? What kind of lines
come to mind. I always use those in my profile and in my headline because it’s starts everything off on a funny note.

Choose Bio Pictures Carefully

What I discovered is that looks don’t really matter as much as guys tend to think they do. Men like to think that women are drawn to their physical attraction, but this simply isn’t true. Granted, women especially online are paranoid about the height. The height issue is real big for a lot of women.

As far as the photos go, what I found to work really well are photos that convey what you’re saying in your profile. So if you’re talking about traveling, have pictures of you in different places because you’re conveying that. If you talk about how you love museums or you’re an artist, show you and some of your artwork in some of your pictures.

What I also found worked really well were pictures of myself in a suit. If you wear one for work, that’s great. Get a picture of you when you’re at work. Women always love a man who looks good, especially in a suit and tie. You can never go wrong with that. You probably already have these kinds of photos on your social networking profiles.

Include Group Photos

The mistake that very often cripples a lot of guys is they have all their pictures with them by themselves. Think about what you’re a conveying to a woman subconsciously. You’re conveying loneliness. You want to make sure you have people in your pictures where they’re smiling and having fun. This will give more of a chance for a first date.

You’re by yourself in every single picture so what do you think woman is going to think. You’re by yourself, you have no friends. What kind of woman wants to be with a guy who has no friends? If you’re a teacher, a photo of you with your kids at school will work great. Build a sense of confidence in your photos.

Get Your Photos Rated

One of the things I created was this system of getting my pictures rated. What I tend to think is three to five pictures is more than enough. You never want to have more than five pictures. You want to leave a little bit of mystery there. Three to five pictures should do it. What you want to do is take your pictures and go to this website called www.HotorNot.com. It’s free.

All you do is upload your pictures and women will rate your pictures from 1 to 10. You just leave it up there for a little while and you’ll kind of get an idea as to which pictures the women from all over the world or all over the country are looking at, and which ones they like the best. What better way to figure out which pictures to put up on your profile then to have women tell you.

Don’t be afraid of rejection when getting your photos rated. This is a chance to see what REAL women think about your pictures.

Make Her WANT to Contact You First

In order to do that, you need the right bait. It’s just like fishing. If you want the fish to bite, you have to give them the right bait. One of the best baits you can use is called “Desire.” When you’re writing, you want to build desire in the girl. The more you express that you’re cool, you’re funny, you have friends, you lean an interesting life and you’re carefree, the more she wants to meet you.

While doing my research on how to date online, one of the things I started looking at were some online escort sites. I found a trend. I noticed how the professional escorts would always talk about experiences. They would never say, “I’m 5’7, 110 pounds, 34DDs, I got a great ass like JLo.”

The pictures on the escort sites would convey that but the words on the page to build that desire always talked about experiences, stories, places where she could meet you, things like that you could do with her. Steal this strategy and build desire.

The Secret Psychology Of Attraction

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The dating tips and seduction tactics out there now are mostly ones you’ve heard before – and they’re the ones you KNOW don’t work. You know because you’ve tried them.

Seducing a woman isn’t easy (that’s an understatement!) In fact, it can be one of the most frustrating, terrifying and nerve wracking things out there!

You’ve been there before – too scared to ask a hot girl out, too nervous to even get a complete sentence out of your mouth without looking like a fool.

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You’re a pretty good catch, right? You would treat a girl like a queen – that is, if you could ever get her to go out with you! It must be exhausting to go out every night in the hopes that you’ll hit it off with a girl, but they’re ALL hanging on the arms of other rich, good looking guys!

They SHOULD be hanging all over you!

You might have tried to approach hot women, and you might have even settled for the less attractive ones  just so you could attempt to strike up a conversation with one. How empty did you feel when you left the club ALONE? How frustrated were you when every attempt you made at conversation with a woman was blown off? How envious were you of the guys in the club that made talking to women look absolutely effortless?

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The #1 Secret To Flirting

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Flirting is often discouraged because of our insecurities. We want a better job, we want more money, we want to be more attractive to the opposite sex, we want to be thinner and we want a great partner. We constantly want more and more out of life, which is healthy and natural for human beings.

So, it is also natural that once you have what you want, you don’t obsess about it the same way.

If you were dreaming about having an amazing sports car and finally bought it after 10 years, the desire to want the car would disappear as soon as you get it.

All of us have the desire have more money, or to even be rich. Well, everyone except rich people.

Wealthy people constantly explain to others that being rich is “not all it’s cracked up to be” and that they want more from their lives too.

In this example, even rich people want more out of life. They’re usually unhappy because they crave a long term relationship, which they may find difficult to achieve because of their heavy involvement in building wealth for themselves. This is a core concept that is very important to understand, and one that is heavily linked to flirting.

UNIVERSAL LAW: People Want What They Can’t Have

Now, think very carefully about how this scenario could be relevant in the dating world. Very feminine beautiful women are shown interest from eager and horny men every day of their lives. By the time these young women reach adulthood their experience with men, dating and relationships is considerably higher than the men who don’t date often.

These women are approached countless times a week by men communicating their interest in them. This may be flattering for awhile, but like everything else, after a while it gets “boring”. If she could have any man within five seconds of meeting him, where is the challenge in that?

People want to lead spontaneous, wild and unpredictable lives. But in order for this to happen, people need opportunities to experience the unexpected, the challenging and the mysterious.

So if a woman is 100% sure she can have a man, because he communicated this in some really obvious way, how much effort is she going to put into calling him, making an effort to talk to him or begging him to catch up?

Of course she wouldn’t chase him, because she knows he’ll be there for her whenever she wants. This encourages her to take him for granted. You must have confidence that you are a challenge to her.

Don’t Suck Up To Women

Women are constantly interpreting men’s actions and the words they say. Their minds are always analyzing your moves in order to better understand your intentions. But if you can keep a woman guessing by being playful, challenging, fun and mysterious, you are much more likely to engage her very quickly.  Observe how these two situations compare and differ.

Negative Interpretation

HE JUST said:, “Wow, you’re really beautiful.”
SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He’s only interested in me physically because he doesn’t even know anything about me. I don’t like him.
RESULT: She’s repelled.

Woman’s Positive Interpretation

HE JUST: Poked his tongue out at me!

SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He’s very confident, mysterious, funny, secure, in control, hard to get, playful, and really fun! He’s not just interested in my looks because he’s not sucking up to me like all the other guys. In fact, I’m not even sure if he is interested in me. I’m going to keep flirting with him and get to the bottom of this.

RESULT: She’s attracted.

Do you see how challenge attracts women? Now that you understand why this type of flirting is necessary, let’s look at more examples that can help you attract the sort of woman you are looking for. By learning verbal techniques and body language that works, other aspects of your personality will develop automatically, and transform you into the irresistible man women want to meet.

Woman’s Positive Interpretation

HE JUST SAID: “You look like a dork in that hat.”
SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He’s confident and independent. He’s not kissing up to me like all the other guys and he isn’t trying to get anything from me – or is he? I like him.
RESULT: She’s attracted.

Can you see how telling a woman that she looks like a dork can work so well? Why don’t women date men who desperately want them? Women don’t find these men challenging. They don’t find them “worth it.” What is not earned is not valued.

How To Touch A Girl The RIGHT Way

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Seduction is essential to any situation that could lead to sex. Touching her the right way is going to put you in the driver’s seat. The important thing to remember here is EXECUTION. Do it inappropriately, you lose. Do it right, and you’ll earn the chance to take it to another level. Touch will either relax her or tense her up, depending on how artfully it’s done and how she interprets it.

Utilize Natural Situations

Initiating touch with long-time partners is easy because you’ve been been with them for long. You can be as forward as cupping the breasts while watching the evening news and she’ll probably not bludgeon you. It’s a lot different with new partners – the best move is to look for situations that naturally promote initial touches.

Context and timing are important. It’s more natural for example, to be bumping bodies in a packed club than in a quiet and empty museum.

Acclimatize Her

So your hands straight to the chest is not usually a sane first move. Always start with the safer parts of her anatomy. Smooth guys work best by smoothly transitioning from low impact to high impact areas without the girl being fully conscious or defensive about it.

Start with her fingers, hands, elbows and shoulders. Rushing to erotic regions on a first date is stupid, go too fast and she’ll slam the brakes on you. High impact zones (eg. breasts & inner thighs) will get her worked up, but they work only after a certain level of comfort is achieved.

Dealing with them too early in the game will only reap the negative. So acclimatize low impact zones first before planning an assault on areas where the sun don’t shine.

Your timeline will vary from woman to woman, so calibrate from her reactions and the situation. In time you will know how your wife, girlfriend or date simmers best.

Learn HOW To Touch Them

How you touch them is of prime importance. You want to send the message that you’re a sensual guy comfortable in his own skin. Never stroke a woman and display the, “I’M REALLY NOT SURE ABOUT THIS” look. It will make her uneasy and uncertain about you, she’ll get weirded out.

When touching seems like a big deal for you, it also becomes a big deal for her, because just as you’re calibrating from her reactions, she is also calibrating from your leading! This is Psychology 101.

If you’re already straining to touch her even at low impact areas, how can you seriously be thinking about having sex? If you can’t even confidently land your hands on top of her shoulders, how can you get your body on top of her?

She may like you a lot, but as a lady, she is very unlikely to initiate touching. Even in this age, lots of women would still rather wait. So get over it, break the touch barrier yourself.

She Wants You To Touch Her

Her skin, the largest organ in her body, responds to tactile stimulation – every last centimeter of it. Soulful touching embraces her as a whole, not just a few special areas. Over-attentiveness to special zones only makes the rest of her fade to the background.

Instead, search and stimulate every nerve, every corner, discover uncharted paths and awaken every inch of her being. Being thorough is the name of the game.

4 Rules To Live By On Dating Sites

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Online dating can be a great way to get a lot of dates. But if you are guilty of these online dating don’ts, you need to correct yourself for dating success right now.

1. Say No to “Just Online” Relationships

I’m not keen on the idea of getting stuck in a “just online” relationship. You know the type of relationship that gets you chatting idly with a girl about stuff, a few hours a day for months or years? Then, before you know it, you’re getting all lovey-dovey every time she sends you an email peppered with heart emoticons.

You’re not having sex but you’re keeping the fantasy that someday, you will get the confidence to ask her out. Do NOT get stuck in an online relationship, and use dating sites to get phone numbers and set up dates. In case a girl gets coy and refuses to meet up, consider it a red flag.

There are many reasons why women start “just online” relationships, and some of these include relieving stress, getting some excitement going while the hubby is sleeping and whatever else. Remember, don’t hold out for a girl who isn’t entertaining the idea of meeting you. Don’t lose sleep over the reason why she doesn’t want to meet up, either.

2. Say No to Instant Messenger Chat

The problem with instant messenger is she knows where you are at any given point. Obviously to a limit, but she knows when you’re home, when you’re online, when you’re not online, when you’re sleeping, and when you’re out.

Plus, you’re supplicating to her. In other words, you sent her an e-mail and you asked for her number or you might not have even asked for her number yet but she responds back saying, “Hey, let’s instant message. Here’s my IM screen name.”

It’s a test. She’s testing you to see how committed you are with what you want, with your belief. If you give her your IM screen name or you IM her, you just failed that test. You’re probably going to trudge along with a “just online” relationship if you let her get away with controlling how you communicate. Rely on your online dating profile more so than an IM message.

3. Don’t Let Her Own You

She knows that you’re a wuss and she knows that she owns you. That’s something you definitely don’t want to do. At that point, you’re way too available so you want to avoid this at all costs. If she e-mails you asking for you to chat on instant messenger, ignore it. Let me say that again—ignore it! Act as if she didn’t say anything like that.

There’s another concept associated with online dating that says “Act, Don’t React”. You never want to react to what she says, you just want to act. Just keep going forward. Make believe she didn’t say anything at all and just ask her for her phone number. You could say something like “Hey, Mrs. A. Listen, I’m just way too busy to instant message.

Let’s talk on the phone. What’s your number?” Did you see how simple that was? It’s three phrases. It doesn’t have to be more complicated than that. What you’re doing is not giving her a choice. You’re telling her that instant messenger is not going to work, you want to talk on the phone, “What’s your number?” What can she do? She can either respond with her number or not.

4. Do NOT Over-Sell

I found out early on that the women who go to online dating sites receive three types of emails. Number one, they get a long email containing a novel about a guy’s sob story, a broken heart, a yearning for a woman who understands him etc. Number two, they get confessions of love from total strangers (basically, guys that have seen these women’s profile and have decided that they’re in love). And number three, email from some old men regarding money.