Singles & Dating

Why Confidence & Eye Contact Will Make Or BREAK Your Date

Confidence is one of the most important aspects of dating. It doesn’t matter if you’re going on a first date or a fifth, maintaining great confidence and eye contact with your date shows that you are interested in what they are saying and that you are listening. While eye contact is not going to replace the actual words that you say to her during the date, it can have a negative impact if you’re constantly looking away as she is trying to tell you something or as you are talking to her.

Talking to a girl you find attractive can be intimidating. Maintaining eye contact through your intimidation is vital to keeping her interest in you as a potential date. Here are a couple of dating tips as to why you should maintain eye contact throughout each date.

Earn Her Trust

Trust can be a big issue with women when they are with a guy that is constantly looking all over the room. There is nothing more obvious than a guy who will not look you in the eyes when you are talking to him. In order for the girl to gain your trust look her in the eye whenever she is asking you a question or whenever you are delivering an answer. If you do not look her in the eye as she is asking you a question she will probably think that you’re not listening.

If she thinks that you are not listening then you are not going to get a second date. If you do not look her in the eye as you ask a question, she might pick up on your nervousness and brush you off as insecure, ruining your first date. Looking her in the eye is one of the best dating tips that you can get.

Do Not Stare At Her

Just because we say that you should look her in the eye does not mean you should stare down your date at a serial killer. When she’s asking you a question you want to look her in the eye, however, the last thing you want to do is focus too much on your eye contact and forget to actually listen to what she’s saying. Listen to what she’s saying and have animation in your face while she’s telling you her story or about how her day was. If she’s telling you something funny be sure and give her a smile, but don’t break the eye contact.

Don’t Look Down

Looking down as one of the telltale signs that you are either not interested in her or you are too insecure to look her in the eye whenever she is talking. One of the hardest things to do is to keep from looking down if you run into an awkward spot in the conversation. All singles hit a couple of speed bumps along the way, but you should maintain eye contact instead of looking down and leaving her hanging.

While she is telling you a story, take mental notes so you can refer back to the information and ask more questions about the topic. If you are having dinner with her, it’s only natural to look down at your plate and your food but do this in a natural manner instead of in a reactive manner when the conversation goes silent.

Use Your Eye Language

Yes, there is a language that you can speak with your eyes. Your eyes are going to tell your date what you think about her. While you can lie with your words, your eyes and your facial expressions can often be deciphered by any date. Before you go out on your dates stand in front of a mirror and have a quick conversation with yourself.

Ask yourself what you did today and then answer the question with a lie. You should be able to notice lines across your forehead and that your eyes open a little more. Now recall a funny situation that you were in and laugh. Take notice of your eyes as you laugh and you should be able to see the difference.

The language that your eyes speak whenever you are lying is very distinctive. Have confidence in yourself and make sure that you are not lying to your dates or they will notice via your eye language. Also make sure that you’re not over-animating whenever you think something that is funny.

3 Ways To Get A Man To Call You Back

By david

Dating will easily teach you to expect the unexpected. Does this sound familiar? You went out on a date with this amazing man. You thought that the sparks were flying and you are thinking that this might be a guy you want to have start having some great sex with. You haven’t had sex in a while and you can’t remember the last time that you had hot sex. You truly believe that this is the guy that is going to break that dry spell. There was something different about him, something unique about him, something that made you feel like a beautiful, sexy woman again.

The only problem is you went out a few times and now he’s not calling you back. You can’t believe it. You thought there was just this incredible chemistry. You’re thinking, “What did I do wrong?” Here’s the deal.What you’re ‘doing wrong’ right now is you’re obsessing.

Whenever you sit around and you obsess about a man not calling you back, basically what you’re doing is you’re telling the universe that you’re not worthy of a great man. You’re driving your friends up the wall when you do that. They don’t want to hear it anymore. They don’t know why he hasn’t called you back.

They have no clue at all why this man has not called you back. You go through this ridiculous session with them saying, “Do you think I said this wrong or that wrong?” And you obsess about it. You actually get them to give you their opinion on why he hasn’t called back, but your friends don’t know anything about him.

So how do you get him to call you back?

1. Stop Obsessing And Call Yourself

When he answers the phone, don’t mention that he never called you and don’t be rude or accusatory. Be sweet and flirt when he answers the phone. If he doesn’t answer the phone, leave him a tantalizing little message. “Hey, been thinking about you. How are you? Where did you disappear off to?” That’s it.

2. Text The Guy

If you’re too afraid, then you can send a text. It’s the exact same thing. “Hey, you. Where did you disappear to? Did aliens abduct you?” It’s about just being fun and it’s about being clever.

3. Forget About The Guy

If you haven’t heard back in a few days after a great date and he doesn’t return your texts, then you’re obsessing. And if you obsess for way too long, you’re going to turn the energy off for meeting other singles. You’re giving your power away to a guy that doesn’t deserve the the gift of who you are.

I don’t care if you think you had great chemistry. Dating isn’t just about chemistry. It’s not one thing you said or another thing. You know what it is? It just didn’t work out. He made a choice not to pursue it anymore and you need to be okay with that.

You’re a beautiful, incredible, amazing woman and you deserve better. Open up your eyes and go meet another guy. If you’re obsessed with a guy, your eyes aren’t open, and you’ll miss the next great guy who is right around the corner because you’re too busy thinking about a guy that doesn’t deserve your attention.

Love yourself.

How To Use The Search Bar On Dating Sites

By davem

Online dating allows you to weed out dates that you do not have anything in common with. One of the most important skills you will need when you’re inside is how to work the search function. Here are some things I do to get the most results in the shortest amount of time.

What’s Your Criteria?

There are a couple of different searches you want to do when online dating. The ﬁrst thing you want to do is set up a search based on your criteria. For instance, if I’m only looking for girls who are 25 to 35, I’ll put that in my criteria. I’ll be as picky as I want and then I’m just going to save those searches so I can keep going back to them over and over again every week in search of singles.

Keyword Search

If you’re into certain sports or hobbies and you want somebody who shares that interest, you can search by keyword. On Match.com you can pull up all the women in your area who have that keyword in their proﬁles. Using this method to meet women is a great way to find the ones that you will have something in common with quickly.

Hit On The Newbies

Do you remember when you were new and you’ve just received a bunch of emails? You’re stoked. You’re excited. You email back ASAP. The women who join the site are the same. You search “New” members because you want to hit these women fast before a lot of other guys get a chance to e-mail them. Think about it. If you’re the 800th guy that has e-mailed her, then odds are she’s probably not going to read your e-mail because she has 799 e-mails in front of you. You have to strike fast if you want a first date. You have to e-mail the “New” members quickly.

Search By Activity Date

A lot of guys don’t do this, but this is one of the most effective ways to ask a girl out. The reason why is because you get to see the women who are actively looking for dates. The women who frequently do searches or browse proﬁles are hot leads. In a sales background, that’s like somebody coming in to your store or calling up your business and telling you they want to do business
with you.

Hot Leads

The best search that you can do, the one that’s going to get you the highest quality women who are interested is what I call “hot leads.” These are the women who have searched your proﬁle. On Match.com and PlentyOfFish.com, you can actually go into the site and check who has searched you. You want to e-mail these women because these are the women who have checked you out and sometimes they have e-mailed you.

How To Establish A Connection With A Stripper

By deancortez

A stripper is the ultimate goal of any true Mack. When you are trying to gain the affection of a stripper, it is essential to establish a connection early on. Here is a short tutorial on how you can instantly separate yourself from the other guys in the club with little effort.

Make Eye Contact With Here First

Make eye contact with her before she starts to come over to your table. Give her a smile and a nod. As soon as she sees this she will start to come over to you. If she’s dancing onstage when you notice her, you can make eye contact and give her a subtle hand wave to indicate you want her to come join you when she gets offstage. Normally, dancers will alternate between sitting with customers and dancing onstage for a few songs.

Offer Her A Seat At Your Table

When she comes over to you, offer her a seat at your table. Do this before she tries to sit down on your lap. It’s always important for you to separate yourself, in her mind, from the endless parade of regular customers she encounters at the club. The other guys love the opportunity to get her on their laps, and start putting their hands on her.

A suave guy gives the impression that he already gets all the attention he can handle from females; he certainly doesn’t need to visit a strip club in order to get his hands on a woman. He knows that when he starts flirting with a woman she will be his.

Control The Conversational Flow

From this point, your goal is to control the flow of the conversation. Just as you’re not going to allow her to go into her routine, and start asking you questions, you’re not going to follow the typical customer routine and ask her stupid questions.

Listen to the average customer trying to “converse” with a stripper, and you’ll probably hear him ask her questions like these:

• “So how long have you danced here?”

• “Do you enjoy working here?”

• “What’s it like working here?”

• “Do your family/friends know you work here?”

She Won’t Date A Customer

Skip this pointless small talk and start talking about things that are completely unrelated to her work. This is a powerful way to frame yourself as an original, confident guy, rather than as a customer.

Remember, dancers don’t bang “customers.”

They all have a hang-up about this: dating a customer, in their eyes of their co-workers and management, could be interpreted as prostitution (or just plain slutty behavior). You want her to view you as a cool, confident guy who does none of the things that customers do, and therefore she sees you as a romantic/sexual option. You want to be an alpha male who is going to get her attention quickly.

Go On A “Mini-Date”

Earlier, I mentioned how the best place to sit is near a speaker. This is because it gives you a reason to tell her, “let’s move somewhere quieter, I want to be able to hear you.”

This shows you value what she has to say, and gives it the feel like a “mini date:” you’re controlling the flow and taking her somewhere else to have this interaction, even if it’s just to the other side of the room.

If, when you get up to move locations, she suggests a trip to the VIP room (where the dances are way more expensive), use this joke: “No thanks, I’m too tired to dance for you tonight.” Then take her hand and lead her over to a more secluded seating area.

Take Action And Make It Happen

Macks are leaders with confidence. Macks take control of the flow and the tempo all conversations. One way to establish this early on is to take her by the hand, and bring her over to a quieter location.

As a Mack, you’ll take an “under the radar” approach that never shows your interest in her. You give her the impression that you’re a guy with high standards who is difficult to impress, but you think she might be a pretty cool chick, so you’re willing to talk to her and get to know her.

How To Take The Awkwardness Out Of The First Date

By romymorgan

Online dating has become as mainstream as traditional dating over the last couple of years. If you are considering online dating, there are a lot of advantages that you can benefit from. Being able to easily find somebody that you’re interested in that has the same goals in life is essential to building a great relationship.

The problem with online dating lies with the first meeting. Meeting an online date can be awkward and disastrous when not handled properly. However, there are a few things that you can do to make your date go smoothly. Here are a couple of tips to making your first meeting with an online date go well.

Be Specific With The First Date

It’s all too easy to send out a message to get together while missing out on key details for the first date. The last thing that you want to do is show up for the date wearing something inappropriate for the occasion. Whether you’re going out to a nice dinner or just grabbing a drink, make sure that you know exactly what the date is going to entail beforehand.

This can help you avoid the awkward feeling of showing up wearing jeans and a T-shirt when a girl is expecting an elegant night on the town. Be specific whenever you message a potential date to let them know what you intend on doing.

Get REAL Pictures Of Her

Getting pictures of your date is essential to making sure that you are physically attracted to her. Although physical attraction is not everything in dating, physical attraction is important for every relationship. Online dating sites are notorious for having a crop feature. Cropping allows women and men to center the picture on their face. While they might have a pretty face, not being aware of what their body looks like can easily lead to a frustrating and awkward first date.

Make sure that you get pictures of your date and that you are posting pictures of yourself through your own online dating profile. It is never recommended to be deceptive or online dating. If there is anything suspicious about the girl’s profile make sure that you cover all of your bases before you meet her. Meeting a girl that you are not physically attracted to will not lead to a relationship.

Ask The Important Questions

One of the easiest tactics for having online dating success is to ask questions during the initial date. Not only will this allow you to gain further knowledge of the girl, it will also make the time go by faster. Have a few questions in mind before you go on the date so that if the conversation lulls you will be able to easily steer it back without complication. Asking her about her job, education, where she grew up, favorite music and movies are some fairly good staples of first dates.

Getting her to talk about her passions in life will easily help you avoid any awkward moments. Avoid trying to sound like you’re giving her a job interview. No woman wants to be hounded during a first date. Keep it casual and the first date could lead to a second.

Don’t Get Physical Unless Called For

Physicality is important for every relationship. It bridges the gap between friendship and a significant other, but this doesn’t mean you should instantly have sex with her during the first date. If there is clearly chemistry and you feel like you should get physical with her, or that she wants you to, then by all means go ahead. However, trying to go in for the first kiss is usually not recommended as it could lead to a very awkward moment if she turns you down.

Wait at least until the second or third day before you try to kiss her. The reality is that she may not even want to go back out with you. End the date with a hug and skip the kiss. If you get the handshake, you’re probably not going to get a second date.

Don’t Be Awkward During The Date

One of the best tips that anybody can give you is to simply not be awkward. While this may seem like an all too obvious piece of advice, there are ways that you can avoid awkward moments through body language. Smiling as you meet her and maintaining eye contact throughout the date can easily avoid any awkward moments throughout.

If you’re constantly looking away from her, checking the score on the TV behind her or allowing the conversation to dive into awkwardness then you’re asking for trouble. Maintain eye contact throughout the date, smile when she tells you something mildly funny and pretend that you’re having a great time even if you’re not. While this might be a little deceptive, it can get you through the evening and out the door before you know it.