Singles & Dating

3 Dating Pitfalls You Need To Avoid!

Dating can turn hairy fast if you make one of these simple mistakes. Steer clear of these dating mishaps if you want to be successful!

1. Not Being A Gentleman

Another of the FASTEST ways a man can turn off a woman is by not being a gentleman.

Simply put, a woman sees a guy who isn’t a gentleman as NOT A REAL MAN. A woman is programmed to want a guy who can take care of her when the going gets tough – and you need to show her this in small ways when you are hanging out with her.

So open doors for her, walk on the street side of the curb, and pay the bill when it comes.

Make sure you are also polite to those you come in contact with. A woman WILL judge you on how you treat waiters, cab drivers, and everyone else.

I know of one super attractive girl who told me she broke up with a guy because of the way he treated his mom when they were out to dinner. She asked him nicely to stop cussing and he began cussing louder as if to spite her. She stopped dating him the next day and never looked back.

Some guys think it’s strange that a woman would judge them on what seems like small-time stuff, but I think it’s AWESOME! The reason why is because it’s a super easy way to score points and get an advantage over other guys!

So spend a few minutes reading up on chivalry and how to be a gentleman.

2. Not Taking Control

Another way guys either score easy points with a woman or LOSE points fast is by whether or not they take control of a situation.

A man should always choose the date spot, and when you get there, take the initiative. Ask her if there’s anything she doesn’t like, then tell her to “trust you” and order for both of you (avoiding anything she said she doesn’t like, of course).

Ask any woman and she’ll tell you, a girl LOVES a man who takes control! This applies to the date, having sex, you name it.

So have a plan, take control, and be the man!

It’s FAR better to take control and accidentally take her to a place she’s not super into than it is to keep asking her what she wants to do. In fact, if you ask a “10,” she’ll tell you, this is one of the BIGGEST things women hate!

3. Not Thinking About Your Hygiene The Way WOMEN Do!

You’d think having good hygiene would be common sense, but after talking to dozens of women and hearing them all complain about it. I’ve figured out the mistake most guys make in this area is not thinking about hygiene the way WOMEN do.

So think about it this way – when you are on a date with a woman, she is deciding whether or not she is going to get physical with you.

So, she’s sizing up:

Your Lips/Breath – if you have chapped lips get some lip balm! And it’s never a bad idea to carry Altoids or gum. Sometimes it’s hard to tell if your own breath is bad, and it’s not worth chancing it.
Your Hands – if you don’t have clean, well-manicured nails, she’s not gonna want your hands on her! Same with rough hands – women HATE calluses – get some of that apricot scrub and give your hands a good scrub before you go out with a girl.
Your Smell – a little cologne is a good thing, but too much will give a girl “grease ball” thoughts. Same goes for too much hair gel. Less is more.
Excessive Hair – shave or wax your back and unibrow! Not cool, and YES women notice, even if you’re wearing a shirt. And make sure you’re well-groomed “down there” if you plan on going further. Nothing brings a woman’s advances to a screeching halt faster than a jungle love afro in the wrong place!

Also, make sure during every bathroom trip you make sure nothing is in your teeth or your nose. You don’t want her staring at your face like a dart board all night.

4 Fun Date Ideas

By romymorgan

Date ideas can easily grow stale after you have been with somebody for a while. Going to the same restaurant or the same bar can become monotonous and make your girlfriend feel like she is in an episode of The Twilight Zone. In order to spice things up, you should add a few new date ideas to your regiment.

Although every woman loves a romantic candlelit dinner or a trip to a vineyard, you don’t have to be extravagant in order to bring a little more romance into the relationship. Having fun on a date is essential. There are a few things that you can do without spending your rent while still maintaining a high level of romance. Here are some date ideas to help you get a little closer with your significant other.

Head To A Carnival

Carnivals are great date ideas because they incorporate everything fun about being with your girlfriend or wife. Take your girl to a carnival in your area and she will have the time of her life trying to figure out the different games. Buy her a candy apple or some cotton candy. Try your own luck at the games in order to get her a stuffed animal. Take a ride on the Ferris wheel and flirt with her or hold her hand.

Being suspended 100 feet in the air might seem terrifying, but she will enjoy being able to look out over the entire venue. Carnivals usually have a couple of bands or shows at them, so be sure to stick around. Bring a blanket with you so you aren’t sitting on the ground. Hold her close during the show and she will feel the romance without the humdrum of dinner and a movie.

Take A Walk Through The City

A really cute date idea is to take a walk through the city on a nice night. Almost everybody has a city within twenty minutes of them, so take a drive if need be. Walk while holding hands throughout the city and stop at the various shops that you come to along the way. You’ll be surprised how much fun you have stopping at thrift stores, little boutiques, smaller restaurants and hole in the wall music venues.

Go to the ATM beforehand and pull out about $40. Some places will have a cover charge so you’ll need to pay in cash before you can go inside. You don’t have to dress up in order to take a walk throughout the city, however, you might want to put on something that is a little nicer so that you are not barred from stopping at more sophisticated restaurants or bars.

Check Out Local Events

One of the coolest date ideas is to go to a local event that you have never been to before. Most cities and towns will have local art shows, crafts fairs or live music. Not only will this get you out of the house, it can also help break down some of the same old dinner and a movie dates.

Check your local publications as well as local online websites to figure out when you’re going to have some local events in your area. These publications and online websites are the best resource for finding out exactly when you will be able to attend. Have dinner somewhere that you have never been to before to spice things up even more. Local events involve a lot of walking so make sure that you and your date have comfortable shoes.

Volunteer Your Time Together

Volunteering is also another great date idea. We all live busy lives and it’s hard to grab a quick second for yourself, let alone for charity. However, giving back to the community is important and getting involved with a volunteer program can help you achieve this. Join a volunteer program that involves an issue you care about. Take your date along with you to volunteer and you will bond over helping out with the charity.

Charities and other volunteer programs are always looking for people to help out so she will be a welcome addition to their team. Always be informed of what you’ll be doing beforehand so that you can dress accordingly. The program might want you to bring something to the event so get in touch with the event staff. Let them know that you are coming and get any requests of materials needed during the event.

Your date will be able to see you giving back to the community, which is romantic. She will also enjoy giving back herself, which will make your date a nice change from the traditional movie or dinner.

What You Need To Know About Social Media Dating

By davem

Online dating usually involves using special websites – but can you utilize dating tips for popular social media sites such as Facebook?

I had a lot of guys interested in online dating asking me when MySpace was hot, “How do I meet women on MySpace?” Now that Facebook is hot, it’s “How do I meet women on Facebook?”

The reality is I use online social networking sites for that—social networking. Not online dating. I use them to build up a connection with just guys and girls for when I want to throw parties. I don’t really use these sites exclusively for dating because when I’m on Match.com and PlentyOfFish.com I meet more women who are on the lookout for dates.

Why Social Media Sites Aren’t Your Best Option

The other thing is I always look for is the low-hanging fruit, the path of least resistance. What does this mean? A woman on a social network is there because everyone else is. It’s free. She doesn’t have to pay a membership fee to put up a proﬁle and idly browse her friends list for photos or anything else that might interest her. On the other hand, a woman who’s paying $25 a month to receive e-mails from guys is deﬁnitely looking to date. Who do you think will be more receptive to my advances? The second one, obviously.

“But Dave, I REALLY want to date girls on Facebook and MySpace!” Alright, I hear you. And, I can’t say I haven’t tried it. In fact, I got dates through social networks frequently enough to develop a good strategy for it.

Social Media vs. Online Dating Websites

The big difference between these sites and dating sites is they’re not really traditional dating sites, so some of the rules don’t apply. For example, a good-looking girl on Facebook may not be looking for a boyfriend right now, which means she might freak or “unfriend” you if you try to pick her up the way you would in a traditional dating site. The trick: be discreet.

A lot of women are on social networks and they might want to meet guys. However, they’re not going to blatantly come out and say, “I’m on here to date somebody!” You have to play the same game. When you’re emailing these women, and when you build your proﬁle, be mindful not to be too obvious that you’re on there for hooking up.

How To Structure Your Profile

On your profile, remove anything that has to do with dating, and basically just talk about yourself—things you’re into and how great life is, etc.

Have some pictures of you and your friends. That’s what is important. If you just remove all the romantic stuff and all the needy type of stuff, you’ll do just ﬁne with that.

Keep your proﬁle description very short. Keep your e-mails friendly, but short. Here’s why. You don’t want to come off like you’re trying to pick them up initially.

One thing that works really well on social media websites is requesting to be included in a girl’s friends list before you e-mail her. This way, she’ll check out your proﬁle ﬁrst. Once you e-mail her a day later, she will already be a little bit more familiar with you so you’ll have a much better response.

Strip Clubs – Befriending The Doorman, Manager And Bouncers

By deancortez

Strip clubs can be a great place to date hot women, but you’ll never get in good with a stripper if you don’t make friends with other club employees.

Working Your Game

Strip clubs are an excellent environment in which to practice. In this environment, a power shift takes place – it’s the guys who are the commodity, who have the power to decide which women they want to spend time with. This means no matter what the outcome of your trip to the place, you’re going to benefit as long as you take this opportunity to work on your game.

This is also why you should never be intimidated about going alone. As long as you project a relaxed, confident vibe, strip clubs give you opportunities to chat with hot chicks, engage them in conversations, and develop your conversational skills and confidence.

Practice makes perfect, and strip clubs are an awesome way for guys to work on their game, test out new conversational techniques, and become at ease around beautiful women.

Getting To Know Staff Members Other Than The Dancers

If there is a particular club you hang out at, or intend to start hanging out at, make sure to befriend other staff members besides the doorman. Introduce yourself to the bouncers, coat check, bus boys, DJ’s, and the managers and owner, if you get the opportunity.

Meeting the manager is easy. If this is one of your local clubs, you should go ahead and do this. Tell your waitress you need to ask the manager a question, and ask her to point him out. (The manager is usually hanging out in the area, keeping an eye on things.) Approach him, introduce yourself and shake his hand, and tell him you recently started coming to the club and love the place.

What To Say

Stroke his ego a little. Tell him you’re impressed with how well-run the place is, and how the dancers and staff are a lot of fun to hang out with. Then tell him you’re interested in possibly hosting a bachelor party at the club. Ask him if they offer any special “party packages” – if you might be able rent a private room and some dancers, etc. He’ll gladly tell you about your options.

This simple, short conversation will ensure that whenever you come to this club in the future, the management is going to remember you. If you come back in the future and the manager ever inquires about your bachelor party plans, just tell him your buddy caught his fiancée screwing around with another guy and the wedding is off—but you appreciate him giving you the info.

When you visit, staff members should know and greet you. This gives you high social value in the eyes of the dancers; again, nothing about you should indicate that you’re a typical customer.

When the doormen greet you by name, and then the manager stops by your table to say hello – that is huge social proof in a strip club. If you’ve got one or two in your area that you like to go to, you must build this social proof. (Plus, when you bring your buddies there, they’ll be totally impressed.) It’s free, and it’s easy to do. Make those connections!

Getting To Know The Bouncers

Befriending a bouncer is easy, too: say, “Bro, you’re the envy of every guy—hanging out in a club full of beautiful, half-naked women and getting paid for it. You make me want to consider a career change. By the way, my name’s ______.”

Or, “Dude, I envy you. You must see some crazy shit. Hey, what is the craziest thing you ever had to kick a guy out for?”

Have a short chat. You’ve just made a new friend who could probably bench-press a Volkswagen, and will give you massive social proof the next time you arrive.

Getting To Know The DJ’s

I especially like to make friends with the DJ’s. These guys are total “insiders.” They know all the strippers and can provide you with all sorts of info. All you need to do is pay them a compliment and show some interest in what they do: “Hey, what was the last song called? That was crazy. So do you DJ anywhere else?”

You can also throw in some terminology that is easily learned on the Internet, but be careful if you do because if you’re just throwing fancy words around and don’t have a decent grasp on the subject, you’ll get outed as a phony pretty fast. You might say something like this:

“This one of the tightest sets I’ve ever heard in a strip club. The last place I went to, the DJ was trainwrecking left, right and center. The beats were all over the place. He didn’t know a crossfader from a cross-over dribble.”

The REAL Reason You’re Single

By david

Dating tips are often more like a band-aid than an actual solution to your dating problems. Here’s the reality about why you’re still in the singles group.

I’m going to ask you all a tough question today.

Are you dating based out of need because you don’t want to be alone or are you dating to add somebody to your already wonderful life?

I want you to re-read that once again and ask yourself if you consider things to be wonderful, amazing, and incredible.

“I really think everything is going to be much better this year. I want to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. I really truly believe that my life is going to be more complete when I have somebody. I want to go on vacation but I’m not going to go on vacation until I get somebody because I won’t have fun unless I’m with somebody.”

Do You Love YOURSELF?

Are you tired of being single? Do you think about it everyday? Here’s the deal – you’re already complete and nobody else is going to ever complete you. If you believe that you is going to be more complete with somebody in it, then basically you’re not practicing the biggest lesson that I ever teach anybody when it comes down to dating – self love.

Why Needy, Clingy Dating Won’t Work

If you don’t love and respect yourself and if you don’t enjoy your own company, then you’re going to go out dating in a very needy way. You’re going to meet other needy people, and when two needy people get together, they have a relationship that is based solely on need, solely on two lonely people meeting each other.

It becomes dysfunctional. It becomes very co-dependent. And a co-dependent relationship is not healthy in any way, shape, or form. Co-dependency is one of the reasons why so many relationships end up unsuccessful.

Enjoying Things As They Are

If you’re serious about meeting somebody great this year then you need to start embracing the beauty of your own life right now. You need to make a list of all the things that are amazing about your life. You need to start writing down all the things that are amazing about you as a person. More importantly, you need to make a list about how amazing it’s going to be when you finally feel all that with somebody else.

We’ve all been dating wrong for so long. It’s not about needs. It’s not about wanting. It’s about how you feel when you’re around somebody and when you’re around yourself.

The Law Of Attraction

Ever since I started really going out there and loving myself and doing the things that I love, I’ve learned the ultimate attraction. I learned the law of attraction. I started attracting great women into my life because I was doing everything that I love. I was going out. I was eating in places that I liked. I went to places where I had things in common with people. I was my own best friend.

Once you master this, you’re going to start bringing all the right people into your life. It’s like magic, and it works. But you need to trust it. You need to believe that people are going to be coming into your life. You need to start having fun, whatever you do, because that’s what attracts everything else.

Have you ever gone out with your arms folded, angry and pissed off? Guess what? Nobody wants to talk to you. Nobody wants to meet you when you behave that way. You’re giving off a very unattractive energy.

It’s time to change the way you think about dating. And it’s time you change the way you thought about meeting people. Learn the law of attraction and life will be so much better.