Singles & Dating

What To Look For In An Online Dating Site

Online dating is becoming more and more popular – but is every dating site as good as it says? Of course not! Here’s what to keep in mind for success.

Popularity

My favorite paid dating site is Match.com. The reason why I like it is, ﬁrst of all, it’s the biggest paid site on the Internet—period. If you’re going to go fishing, do you want to ﬁsh in a small pond or in a big pond with a lot of ﬁsh? If you’re going ﬁshing, obviously you want to ﬁsh in a big pond that has a lot of ﬁsh. That’s what you’re doing when you join a site like Match.com. They have millions and millions of members all over the world.

Credibility

As far as credibility goes, a website that can stay in business for decades without losing its mass appeal and popularity is sound. A rule of thumb I live by is to join the biggest ones and avoid the smaller ones.

With smaller websites, there may be a lot of fake proﬁles there that only serve to keep you trudging on blindly with the hope that you’ll get these “fake” women to email you back. And, they probably will, when you’ve reached the end of your membership and they want you to upgrade.

Then, of course, if you renew, the emails will stop and you’ll get no response from the women who previously emailed you. This has probably happened to you. I know it’s happened to me. You’re not getting any messages on the sites and then you have like a week left and then all of the sudden as soon as your membership expires and you don’t renew it because you’re not getting any messages and that’s when you start getting a lot of messages from these women.

You kind of have an idea that something sketchy is going on there. What I’ve read online is that these sites will hire employees to pose as females and e-mail male members who have cancelled their subscriptions to try to get them to come back. That’s a trick that some of these lesser known sites use.

Number of Female Members

The worst thing that could happen to you online is paying for an expensive membership on a site that doesn’t have a lot of female members. That’s a situation that happens with guys all the time. Some sites will say that they have a lot of women and they’ll show you a lot of women but the women aren’t active on the site.

Sometimes they don’t let you see the exact number, or if they do let you see that, the numbers might not be accurate. That’s what they do to fool you as a consumer, as a guide to sign up. You see a lot of hot chicks and you think, “I’ll be able to e-mail all these girls,” when it’s just a bunch of BS. Stick with a popular site that you KNOW women are actually visiting.

Features For Men

Look for features that are set up for guys, such as searching using your mobile, and the really nice ones: the “who’s online” and the “who has viewed me” features. Some of the coolest features around are those that allow you to check on your results. You can see who checked out you and you can e-mail them.

What About “Winks?”

On Match.com, they call it a wink. Other sites have different names for this, such as ﬂirts, teases, pokes or hellos. Whatever they’re called, they don’t work! A lot of guys try to do this and they wonder why they’re not getting any results. The reason why they’re giving them to you for free is because they have a proven low-response rate.

They know these things really don’t work but they’re going to appease you because you’re getting something for free. If they worked, believe me, they would charge you for it. So don’t send out the winks.

How To Flirt With A Stripper

By deancortez

A stripper isn’t your typical girl, so using conventional flirting techniques aren’t going to work very well at all. Here’s what to do.

Engage In Flirting By Connecting With Her

Your goal is to use strategic conversation to connect with her on a real level.

You want to avoid buying a striptease from her, because then you’re behaving like a typical customer. (I’m not saying you should never buy dances – you can have some fun doing so, and spin it your advantage. I’ll explain how shortly. But the rule of thumb is, avoid buying dances.)

You do want to keep the flirting momentum moving forwards, towards the “close.” Since you won’t be paying for dances, you can’t expect her to hang out with you all night. Figure that if you buy her a drink or two, you’ve got around 30 minutes to make it happen—which means either getting her number (and laying the groundwork so that she will answer or return your phone calls), or arranging to meet her after her shift.

You don’t want to monopolize her time for too long. Respect the fact that she’s here to make money. And you want to be the one who ends the conversation and excuses yourself. You don’t want her to say she has to go.

Areas To Touch On During While You’re Flirting With A Stripper

Your goal is to give them a break from all of that. Be the guy who injects fun into their evening.

Talk to her about ambitions and goals. Strippers never want to think of themselves as strippers. They usually have all sorts of goals and things they want to pursue. Some are actually working towards their goals.

Let her know you’re not dazzled by beauty. This is an excellent topic to slip into the conversation, because it minimizes her concern that you’re like all the other guys and are only interested in her looks. Also, by establishing that you’re not impressed by beauty, it makes her want to step up her game and show you that she’s an interesting, three-dimensional person.

Let her know that you’re not judgmental. While hot strippers may appear to be supremely confident, they’ve all got insecurities. At the bigger clubs, I’ve never met a stripper who believed she was the hottest girl working there. They always think there are other girls who are younger, prettier, have better bodies, etc. You can play on this, but the main insecurity that all strippers have is that guys are judging them negatively because of what they do for a living.

Let her know you don’t kiss and tell. Why is this important? Because if she’s going to see you outside of the club, she needs to feel comfortable that it’s not going to come back to haunt her. She’ll get in trouble, and lose face with her co-workers, if it gets out that she’s sleeping with a guy she met at work.

Strippers are also naturally concerned about stalkers. She has to know that if she goes on a date with you, you’re not the type of guy who is going to show up at the club tomorrow night and act like some jealous freak if she’s hanging out with other customers.

How To Create An Online Dating Strategy That Works

By davem

Online dating can be fruitful if you have a plan that actually will garner you success. Here’s what you’ve been doing wrong – and how to do it RIGHT!

Create A Swipe File Of Emails To Test

I can’t stress enough how important this exercise is. First, come up with your own emails, each one different from the others. Aside from the e-mails you wrote yourself, go back to the “girl” proﬁle you set up and see what your competition is doing. When you get to the dating site, you can test every email to ﬁnd out which emails get the best response.

This way, you won’t spend too much time writing hundreds of different kinds of e-mails when you’re there. You can tweak and re-tweak the e-mails for sending to different girls, or to the same girl (using different accounts).

Soon, you will start noticing patterns; not only in the way your emails get received by the girls you send them to, but also in the personality type of girls who reply in a certain way. After this, you will know exactly how to handle an email correspondence based on your tests and personal experience with the women you met.

Why Testing Is Important

Just like when people who own a website test ad spots and promotions to see what works best, you need to test your email correspondences in the same way. Testing allows you to completely weed out what doesn’t work and keep and use what DOES work.

This is a must have plan if you really want to succeed. If you simply continue to send out emails that you don’t know are successful or not, it’s going to be hit or miss. By testing and eliminating the emails that don’t work, you’re going to be hitting a lot more often.

Choose A Dating Site That Attracts The Women You Want To Meet

Every online dating site has a certain “ambiance,” not unlike a new bar you’re visiting. Some dating sites have communities or chat rooms that give off a different vibe from the rest. What you need to remember is that not all dating sites will ﬁt your goal.

If you’re after a quick hook up and you read on the site that they’re in the business of making sure only serious-minded individuals (those who want to get hitched legally ASAP), consider yourself warned. On the other hand, if you’re looking for something deeper than a one night stand, feel out the site for a few days (or during the trial period) and observe how the women there build their proﬁles.

If you have an idea how to play the dating game on a matchmaking website, you will have a clearer vision of how you can tweak your testing plan.

So, are you ready? If you are, grab your ﬁshing rod and sign up for a dating site now!

How To Stay OUT Of The Friend Zone!

By loveandsex

Dating tips are essential if you want to keep yourself away from a woman’s friend zone. THIS is what you need to know if you want to date her, not be her buddy!

The friend zone is not a place that you ever want to find yourself when you are interested in a woman. This aspect of dating can easily change you from a potential date to a person that gets the occasional hello.

Avoiding the dreaded friend zone is essential to keeping the spark alive in your budding relationships. If a lady only wants to be your acquaintance, then you need to cut her loose. However, there are ways that you can keep yourself from falling into this familiar path in the future. Here are some dating tips to help you stay out of the hated friend zone in the future.

Accept The Fact That She Is Not Interested

There are women out there that will never be interested in pursuing a relationship with you. Accept the fact that she is not interested. While this is not something that any guy wants to do, it’s a one of the best dating tips out there for finding a woman that is interested in having a relationship with you.

If you are clinging to a woman who has put you in a friend zone, you are wasting your time trying to woo her back. This is one aspect of life where being a quitter actually has its advantages. Nip it in the bud before you start begging and pleading for another chance.

Work On Yourself

Do you work out? Do you eat healthy? One of the best ways to gain confidence is to improve yourself before you try to date somebody. If you meet a lady that you like and you really want to impress her, give yourself a couple of weeks to improve various aspects of your life before you pursue her.

Two weeks can do a lot to somebody’s physique and eating healthier can give you the energy that you want throughout the day. Having more energy will show through your personality and the way that you carry yourself. Feeling good about yourself is an attractive quality for women, so act accordingly.

Meet New People

Getting stuck in a friend zone can occur when somebody knows you all too well. If you have been chummy with a lady for a long time, she might not think of you as a potential date. There is a reason that a staple of the most common dating tips is to meet new people. Meeting new people is exciting and allows you to play off of your own mystique.

Going out and meeting newer women will get you out of the friend zone and put into the hot seat of being a potential long term relationship. If you know the woman you like really well, this could also make her very jealous. While you should not do this with mal-intent, it is an effective means of getting her to think about you as a date instead of a “bud.”

Learn To Flirt

Some guys think that flirting is something that you’re born with, while others think that it can be learned through certain dating tips. The friend zone is dependent on being able to flirt. Teasing her a little bit about things that don’t matter is a great way to flirt with her.

Don’t tell her that her eyes are too far apart, but picking up on something little could get her laughing. Start small and work your way up to making more sexualized comments. Once you have achieved this properly, she should be looking at you in a whole new light. Be bold with her and you will never end up as an acquaintance again.

Slight Touches

Slight touches can be a great way to emphasize that you are not looking for a platonic relationship. Touching her arm as you laugh with her or putting your hand on the small of her back as she goes through a door are some of the best ways to show that you are sexually interested.

If she does not respond to these methods or responds negatively, back off immediately. The last thing that you want to do is make her uncomfortable. If she touches you back then you’re in the clear. Women do not touch guys that they don’t want to date.

Being in the friend zone can be one of the most frustrating aspects of dating. Getting out of it is tough and some methods work better than others. Turning yourself from a platonic relationship into a date is not always easy, but it is possible in most situations. Follow these guidelines and you should start to see a vast improvement of her perception of you.

Do You Suffer From The “Jerk” Paradox?

By bobbybradshaw

Dating tips don’t often tell you what to do with the woman you’re really into is dating a cocky guy. She’d be better of with you, but just what do you do?

What Is The “Jerk Paradox?”

Have you ever known a hot girl – maybe you had a crush on her – but she was dating a guy who was a complete ass?

Maybe you felt like she’d be better off you – you would have treated her like a queen – but she stuck with the mean guy no matter what he did to her?

I think we’ve all seen this happen – a lot.

We’ve all seen a beautiful girl who is CRAZY over a man jerk who don’t pay her much attention.

Heck, I’ve even seen beautiful girls who could have their choice of great guys stick with dudes who were downright ABUSIVE! I used to say, “why isn’t that girl with a fella like me? Or ANY other man for that matter?”

It just didn’t make sense.

But then finally, I realized what was going on.

Why Mean Men Get The Girls While Nice Ones Finish Last

Have you heard the famous Chris Rock comedy bit about guys “offering d*ck”?

It’s REALLY funny. Basically what Chris points out is that every woman in the world, since she was 13 years old, has had pretty much man she’s ever met offering her sex!

He goes on to say how every time a guy talks to a girl, he is really just trying to get into her pants.

“Can I get that for ya” translates into “How ’bout some d*ck?”

“Can I help you with that?” translates into “Can I help you with some d*ck?”

Too funny! And let me tell you, this is truer than all the dating tips in the world!

Every woman you know – especially if she’s attractive – has men THROWING THEMSELVES at her 10 times a day!

So if you approach a woman in the WRONG WAY – which is any way that DOESN’T make her work for it – she automatically throws you in the same category as every other wimp she has met, and she automatically forgets about dating you.

Why Cocky Men Never Have This Problem

The thing about guys who are mean is that they NATURALLY approach, talk to, and deal with women in a way that is TOTALLY DIFFERENT than the dozens of other guys trying to get into her pants.

It’s very subtle. You actually might not even see the difference unless it was pointed out to you, but the RESULT is very different.

It’s different because it sparks a woman’s curiosity, then creates a subtle challenge that makes her feel like she has to WORK for his attention, not the other way around.

This type of challenge is very addicting to a woman. Women LOVE games and solving puzzles – it’s the reason they read all of those mystery novels – so when they meet a guy who is a challenge they just cant get enough of him.

How To Get These Same Smoking Hot Women – Without Being An Ass!

If you can make a woman feel like she has to WORK FOR IT, it gets her chasing you. She starts to see YOU as the “catch” and gets very excited about the possibility of being with you.

It’s this simple little thing that separates the guys who get the 10’s from the guys who don’t.

It NOTHING to do with being full of yourself and being mean to women. And EVERYTHING to do with being a CHALLENGE.