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Stripper Lies To Watch Out For (If You Want A One-Night Stand With One)

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A stripper will tell you just about anything to get your money – but if you want to take one home with you, you’ve got to watch out for these untruths!

“I Just Started Working Here A Few Nights Ago”

This is the most common stripper lie. It plays on our psychology; guys get excited and think they have a “chance” to score with a stripper (and possibly have sex with her) when they find out she’s new and isn’t jaded and all about making money. Then what happens is the customer spends money on her, thinking it will impress her and she’ll go home with him. She won’t, and she’ll have made hundreds of dollars from spinning her lies, just like she planned on.

I once met a very cute stripper who told me she’d just started working at the club “last night.” (This was before I learned how the game was played.) I figured it was my lucky day: I’d met a girl who was new, fresh, and was probably more “real” than the other girls – which meant I might have a chance at dating her.

(I didn’t, although I did blow a hundred bucks on dances that night.)

Fast-forward eight months. I came back to the strip club and she sat down with me again. (She had no recollection of ever meeting me.) When I asked her how long she’d been working at the club, she told me she’d just started two days ago. And I’m sure that to this day, she’s still feeding customers this line of crap.

This is a typical stripper ploy, to make you think she’s innocent and fresh—not like the other girls. And it’s all calculated, of course, to make you lower your guard and spend money on her.

If you hear this from a stripper, don’t try to challenge her on it. Just nod, smile, and say “Oh, well I hope its going okay so far,” and then move the conversation onto something else—knowing that you’ve just deflected an attempt to hustle you.

“I’m Having A Bad Night, I Haven’t Even Paid Off My Stage Fee. Could You Cover It For Me?”

Dancers are normally required to pay the club a “stage fee” or a “house fee” every time they work a shift. If business is slow, or there’s a ton of competition from other dancers, it’s possible for a stripper to wind up losing money on a shift, when you also factor in the tips she needs to pay out to the support staff.

However, when you hear this from a stripper, it’s usually an attempt to gain sympathy and get you to fork over some money. The average guy might think, “Sure, why not just cover her $75 stage fee? I’ll be a hero and she’ll have to repay me somehow, maybe by going on a date!” But remember, this is a ploy to get your money. When you run out of money, she won’t think twice about moving on to another customer.

Other lies they’ll tell you: You can bet money that they have a great story about why they became strippers. These stories always involve some (if not all) of the following terms: “My boyfriend,” “My ex-boyfriend,” “Prison,” “Hospital,” “Just moved,” and my personal favorite, “Hooters girls don’t really make that much money.”

How Women REALLY Look At Men!

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Seduction is actually many different aspects of a puzzle, put together. Find out the truth about how girls view guys to up your seduction game!

She Does it So Fast!

It only takes seconds for her to evaluate your potential as a lover. Women revel in the world of first impressions and assign tremendous significance to what their guts tell them. “I just know,” she says.

It’s amazing how she thinks she’s got you all figured out just by observing how you walk, kiss or hold her hand. She notices everything, by the way, like how clean or dirty your shoes are, or how totally unorganized your closet is.

Men don’t have that gift (or curse). We’re more into the ‘big picture’ kind of stuff. How big are her breasts? How big is the storage space, how big is the engine? Clean shoes are always good, but for us, it’s not a make-or-break thing. As long as they fit and function as barrier between our stinking feet and the wet pavement, it’s all good!

Our bedmates are a little bit more complicated though – they’re crazy about details! Their senses are attuned to minutiae. Looking at things in angles and magnifications that we usually don’t go for. While guys fantasize of having a larger penis, women yearn for the little things – those tiny sexual tweakings that make a big difference.

Women Notice Details – So What?

Well, it’s really not so bad -UNTIL THEY START READING INTO THOSE DETAILS – no thanks to her ultra-active brain. Women give meaning to any minor thing we do and read volumes from the mundane.

So how does this figure into the sex?

Let’s just say your life would be much easier if women don’t read so much into your actions inside the bedroom. How you caress her for example, can be interpreted in uncanny ways. Simple things like a touch can brand you as a: lover, selfish self-centered bastard, groper, touchy-feely gay man, or Don Juan.

They evaluate the way you kiss and relate it to your personality. So you can be ‘gentle and sweet,’ ‘fast and furious’ or ‘so-so’ without even knowing it. They also notice if you’re licking clockwise or counterclockwise during oral sex, or if you really don’t know what the heck you’re doing down there and are just waiting to hit pay dirt.

For guys, these details, much less their interpretations, don’t make squat of a difference. As long as we get to score on those huge breasts tonight, we’re happy.

Symbolic Sex?

But sex has a glaring symbolic meaning for women. They’ll leave lame husbands and boyfriends for others who make love much better precisely because for them, sex is not just sex. Your actions reflect how you see her as a person, how you value her feelings and treasure her satisfaction.

Remember that your actions will not be taken at face value as sex will have ramifications outside the bedroom.

If you’re terrible and inconsiderate inside the love chambers, she will respond as a nasty, overbearing diva outside – which is a reality shared by many husbands everyday. At the same time, if you give her an amazing time, positive consequences will spill out – and her nagging just might stop.

For her, sex doesn’t exist in a vacuum, so watch out. Through all the meanings women attribute to details, they are able to deduce anything and everything.

So if you want your game tighter than 90% of the men out there, better start appreciating details. Notice the way you kiss or touch. Imagine how would that feel to her. Do that and be in a position to create a lot of these different details.

How To Flirt With A Shy Guy

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Flirting isn’t always easy, especially if the guy you’re trying to talk to is an introvert. Here’s how to flirt with a guy who isn’t as outspoken as the rest.

Flirting with a shy guy can be intimidating, but shy guys normally make the best boyfriends. Shy guys are usually caring, quiet, intelligent and funny. If you have your eye on a shy guy and you want to bring him out of his shell, there are a few things that you can do to accomplish the task at hand. Shy guys can be intimidating because you will need to guide the conversation. Once they feel comfortable with you they will open up and you can see the type of person they really are. Here is a short guide on how to flirt with shy guys.

Approach Him

Shy guys are not going to approach you. He might try to start a conversation if you have mutual friends, but in general you are going to have to approach him. If you’re not comfortable with approaching guys then you need to be the one that comes out of your comfort zone. Shy guys are usually shy for a reason, so don’t be too aggressive when you approach him. Start off with an easy conversation to break the ice.

Make Him Feel Comfortable

Chances are that the shy guy is not going to be comfortable with you flirting with him at first. Make sure that you aren’t making him uncomfortable with aggressive tactics. Ask him simple questions and see how well he reciprocates. If he’s not asking you questions about your life or what you do then he might not be interested. In most situations a shy guy can spring to life when a girl approaches him, but this isn’t always the case. Go slowly with him, but make sure that he knows you’re interested.

Touching

Touching him is a good way to show interest, but don’t fall all over him. Shy guys love a girl that will touch his shoulder or arm while she’s flirting. Make the touches subtle. Brush against him or touch his arm when you laugh at a joke. Even the subtlest touches will not go unnoticed. Wait for him to touch you back. Usually touching begins with the guy. He will put his hand on your back or touch your arm lightly. However, with a shy guy, you probably need to make the first move when it comes to physicality.

Give Compliments

Compliments are essential for flirting with a shy guy. Compliments work well because they are a quick boost of confidence. Shy guys aren’t looking for girls that are self-involved so when you compliment them you show that you are interested in them instead of yourself. Complimenting their job, appearance or taste in music is easy for breaking the ice and bringing him out of his shell.

Don’t Ask For A Date

Shy guys like women who are upfront, but don’t ask him for a date. Wait until he asks you or make an excuse to give him your phone number. Shy guys are notorious for letting great girls slip through their fingers, so you want to put the ball in his court without making it seem like you are. Use mutual interests as a way to get his phone number or as a way to give him your number. For instance, if you’re both into basketball, say something like “Let me give you my number so we can watch the game together this weekend.” Watching a basketball game together is not a date, but it is a way to get together.

Don’t Play Games

As stated before, shy guys are usually shy for a reason. Whether the reason is a tough childhood or being hurt in the past, shy guys are quick to drop a girl that plays a lot of games. If you are a game player, you need to put all of your nuttiness on hold. Not responding to phone calls in a timely manner or lying to him are off limits. If you really want to flirt with a shy guy and have it go somewhere, don’t play games with him. If he picks up on the fact that you are playing games with him he will probably never call you again.

Learning how to flirt with a shy guy is not difficult, but it does take a different approach than with other guys. Shy guys can be a lot of fun once they feel comfortable enough with you. Approaching shy guys and using the best tactics to flirt with them is vital to establishing a healthy relationship they feel comfortable in. Don’t be too aggressive and you should see an improvement in your flirting abilities with shy guys.

Flirting Formula Review

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Flirting doesn’t have to be difficult. Most guys are intimidated when it comes to flirting, but YOU don’t have to be. The art of flirtation with a woman can be broken down into a science, and that’s precisely what Flirting Formula does. From the first contact to the first date and more, Flirting Formula will teach you how to work it! Game on!

The Good

The author seems to understand both men and women, and the natural desires that each have. Many people get so caught up in the modern day age that they seem to forget that we are all still ruled by our basic desires. Flirting Formula exposes what really drives a man and a woman, and how you can work these things to your advantage. From the fundamentals of flirting, to making an incredible first impression, to how to act on the phone and more, there’s really no stone left unturned here.

The Bad

Flirting Formula is definitely a heavy read. With very little in the way of visual stimulation, this is one of those books that you really want to sit down with. Fortunately, the content is valuable and spot on, so it’s definitely worth it. But some men who are looking for a “quick fix” are going to be a bit disappointed. But if you’re not really willing to put in the effort it takes to read a great flirting guide, are you really willing to put the effort into flirting itself (which is way harder than reading a book)?

The Bottom Line

Overall, Flirting Formula is a great go-to guide to learn the basics of flirting and a few building blocks. It won’t turn you into a dating Casanova overnight, but it will certainly help increase your self confidence around women and help you to take your game up a notch. You will, of course, want to adapt each suggestion to your own personal beliefs and motivations, but the tips contained in the guide are pretty much able to be used universally, with any woman, anywhere. A great investment in your dating life if you really enjoy being social, especially with women.

The Full Flirting Formula Review

Flirting Formula is one of the better guides on flirting, hands down. The author begins with the basics of flirting, which is essential if you really want to be good at it. To be good at it, you of course, have to understand it fully. Some men may be tempted to skip over the beginning, which includes lots of information about the differences between men and women and their basic needs in a partner, but if you’re one of those guys, buckle down and read the introduction. It may seem like it’s “under the radar” but it shouldn’t be. Every good flirting game needs to build on a solid foundation.

All In One Flirting Guide

The author covers everything from how women communicate, to how your voice and body language play a role in attracting women. Not only does the author discuss why these things are important and how they affect your ability to be successful when flirting with girls, but he also tells you what to do and how to do it. Many dating guides stress the importance of a certain thing, but fail to elaborate on what you need to do to make it actually happen. Not so with Flirting Formula. Everything you need to know is right here.

Talking To Women

A majority of the book is about how to talk to women in different scenarios, including on the phone, in intimate settings, etc. Though this may make the table of contents look a bit skimpy, don’t for a minute underestimate the value of learning how – just exactly how – to talk to women. The author elaborates each section in great detail throughout the book, so by the end, you compare what you’ve read with the table of contents and walk away feeling like you just got waaaaay more than you paid for.

One of the most helpful parts of Flirting Formula is all the different scenarios the author paints. It’s not just a book full of ho-hum, “Do this, do that” dating tips. Quite the opposite, in fact. Yes, it is a heavy read without anything visual to keep your mind occupied while you absorb the information, but you’ll just have to use your brain on this one. Use the scenarios and dialogue that the author has created to fuel your imagination. Although some of the back and forth dialogue used in the book (when re-enacting a scene that might take place when a man is flirting with a woman) isn’t ideal or necessarily exactly how a conversation will take place, but you’ll get the general idea of great back and forth banter between males and females.

What You’ll Learn In Flirting Formula

  • What women find irresistible in a man
  • 5 Must-Have qualities that a woman wants in a man
  • The fastest way to attract women
  • The simplest way to build sexual tension
  • The biggest conversation mistake you can make when talking to girls
  • Where to find women
  • How to leave a solid first impression
  • How to tease a woman
  • How to get a phone number
  • How to talk to women on the phone
  • How to set up the first date (and what to do once you’re on it!)
  • How to turn women on

All in all, you’re going to learn a lot from Flirting Formula. Pretty much everything you want to know about how to interact with a woman in a flirtatious way – from the very first time you introduce yourself to the time you become an “item” with this person (and even after) – then Flirting Formula is the guide you need.

Insider Internet Dating Review

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Insider Internet Dating will teach you the skills you need to be successful with women online. You might consider it as the “pick up artist guide” for the internet age. There’s even a warning label, “This product is only intended for men looking to hook up with a lot of women.”

The course is divided into four modules, plus bonus materials from other authors. Each module contains on average a dozen lessons in audio(mp3), video, or PDF format. This allows people to view the information in any format they find convenient and to use different formats if necessary.

The Good

Insider Internet Dating is very thorough in teaching you the initial stages of the dating process when using online dating websites. It offered mostly practical tips and advices that you can implement immediately to get more dates. Guys who want to see results NOW will truly enjoy Insider Internet Dating, because you can start using the tips and tricks you learn right away.

The Bad

Some of the material seems a bit dated. For example, Dave mentions how to meet women on MySpace. It would be beneficial if it were updated to “Facebook” instead, but many of the same principles still apply.  There are also odd obscure recommendations of websites such Yahoo Personal, AmerianSingle, MatchDoctor, and The Bottom Line. Aside from feeling a little dated, many guys who are looking on how to meet “Mrs. Right” aren’t going to enjoy the modules as well. Insider Internet Dating is about hooking up with women (plural) using the internet as a tool, not a guide on how to meet your future wife.

The Bottom Line

Insider Internet Dating provides a wealth of ideas on how to meet and get to know multiple women online.  It will boost your confidence and knowledge in attracting women online, and turn them into actual dates.  Even though the guide is written for players, or men who want to date a lot of women, it’s actually still useful to guys who are simply looking for a girlfriend – although if this is your angle, you may want to supplement this guide with something a little more relationship driven.

The Full Insider Internet Dating Review

Online dating has become more and more common. It’s a lot easier to meet a woman on the web than in person. Even if she says no, it’s not a big deal. It’s an impersonal way to get rejected, making it sting a lot less. You can meet a lot of women without actually approaching them. This cuts out a lot of awkwardness in asking someone out. The downside is that a million other guys are doing the same thing, so you really have to stand out.

What Insider Internet Dating Covers

  • How to make your profile magnetic
  • How to email women and successfully get their phone numbers
  • How to set up the first meeting via phone
  • How to set up a successful first meeting (and what to do once you meet)

Module By Module Breakdown

The first module of Insider Internet Dating provides some fascinating tips on the creation of your online profile. It covers self-esteem, reasons why women are using online dating, traits that you should display, best online sites (which are a little dated) tips that you can learn from adult escort sites, how to find the best photo of yourself, and finally how setup “magnetic” that will women to contact you.

The second module provides video instructions on email templates that cover various circumstances such as “first contact,” “no contact,” “no reply,” “phone number close,” “no number,” “subject line,” “no IM,” and even “when to email.” The author specifically warned that you should custom tailor the templates according to your own language. Basically don’t copy and paste, instead fully understand the concepts and make them your own.

The third module goes over how to make a date via phone, but many men who prefer to do this over email will find this portion of the module unnecessary. It also covers the best day in the week to have your date and where to go on the first date. The modules outline how the choices you make regarding the date send subtle signals of whether you are a doormat or a man with things happening in his life. There’s even a clever trick that will save you money without making you look cheap on the first date.

Module 4 is the crown jewel of the course. It covers a lot dating tips & tactics that happens on a first date. It even analyzes how women communicate, so you can begin to have a better understanding of how a woman’s mind works.

One controversial tip is to date multiple women at once. The idea is to have some emotional detachment and not to go overboard with any particular woman, kind of that like with the saying, “there’s plenty of fish in the sea.”

Part of doing it is having women pursue you, doing a topsy turvy of the traditional courtship. Insider Internet Dating suggests for guys to stand out and not sweat on the conversation topics. In fact a great topic is telling funny stories about past dates. This puts you and the girl in the “us against them” mode.

The module provides more dating advice like what do to say when she accuses you of something, how to tell if she’s attracted, what to do if you’re not getting interest signals and more.

What Makes Insider Internet Dating Worthwhile

The author believes you should treat dating like a sales process, where you’re basically selling yourself as an awesome guy. One tip to add more familiarity is to go to multiple venues on the same date.

Since girls are subtle, the key is to see what she does, not what she says. There’s even advice on how to smoothly hold her hand and set up the first kiss. Finally, there’s a warning of what not to do at the end of the first date, and how long to wait before following up with her.

All in all, if you’re looking to get savvy about the online dating process or looking to meet multiple girls online, Insider Internet Dating is a great resource!