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Stripper Pick Up Tips – Your Game Plan

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Stripper girls are difficult to date, right? Wrong! You just have to have the right tactics. Here’s how YOU can bring a stripper home FOR FREE tonight!

Can You Really Date A STRIPPER?

Imagine how boring it can be for a stripper, having to sit with lame-ass customers night after night and listen to them blather on about their miserable jobs and marriages, or brag about how rich and awesome they are. The fact is, most of the guys who frequent strip clubs have terrible social skills. So when you show up and inject fun into their evening, making them feel attracted to you is not going to be a big stretch.

It’s Their Job, Right?

Now in the strip club, obviously the dynamics are a lot different because it is the woman’s job to seduce the men. As long as a stripper thinks you’re willing to spend money, she isn’t going to ignore you or blow you off. That would be bad business. No matter how unattractive or boring the guy is, if he’s offering to spend money on lap dances, she’ll be willing to hang out with him and entertain him.

However, a stripper —just like any other woman—are going to quickly form an opinion of you. 99% of the time, she knows right away that the guy she’s with is a customer; she’ll try to make money from him, and will never even consider sleeping with him. If he’s not spending, she’s gone.

Get Her Out Of “Business Mode”

You want to be in the other 1%. This means you’re going to break her out of “business mode” and make her view you as a fun, interesting, attractive guy who she can picture herself hanging out with her outside of her work. When you ask her questions about herself, you’ll be a guy she wants to impress—because you have status and value.

(The fact that you aren’t buying a striptease or a lap dance can be a sign of your status—when you frame it the right way. Otherwise, you just look like you’re being cheap. I’ll explain how to do this later.)

The important thing to remember is that you must have a game plan and then execute this game plan, step by step, to the best of your ability. If you encounter resistance from the girl when you try to move to the next step, it means you haven’t “warmed her up” properly and you need to do more of what you were doing in order to move things forward. Wash, rinse, repeat.

How To Seduce A Stripper, Step By Step

Build comfort with them. In strip clubs, guys normally aren’t concerned with making the girls feel comfortable hanging out with them. They reek of horniness and desperation and can’t keep their hands off the girls. Or, they’re intimidated—they simply follow the stripper’s lead, go along with her suggestions, and keep reaching into their wallet to fork over more cash. The stripper would never feel comfortable dating these guys away from her work.

You, on the other hand, are going to use techniques to make her feel comfortable with you. You’ll do things such as:

  • Demonstrate that you’re not a “customer” by responding to her approach the right way. (When she asks “do you want a dance,” you deflect it with the correct tactic)
  • Show that you understand her profession & her “hustle”— and you respect it
  • Identify her “hidden talent” or the ambition she wants to pursue
  • Compliment her on qualities that most guys wouldn’t bother to notice about her. (Her sense of humor, cool personality, business smarts, etc)
  • Display some chivalry—small, courteous gestures that make show her that she’s in the presence of as “masculine protector”

Next, you’ll tease her and make her qualify herself. In this stage, you “flip the script” and start challenging her (in a playful way). You ask her questions and make statements that make her want to show you that she’s cool enough, smart enough, fun enough, sexy enough, etc. to be a part of your world. You’re going to frame yourself as a guy who knows a lot of beautiful women and is familiar with the whole “stripper game.” The question is, what’s so special about this girl you’re sitting with that qualifies her to be with you?

Taking It Even Further

Then, escalate and sexualize the interaction. It’s not enough for you to be the “funny guy,” the “smart guy,” or even the “cool guy.” And just being her friend isn’t going to get her in the sack with you, either. In order to move the seduction forward, you’ve got to introduce some sexual banter into the conversation and physically touch her (in a way that seems natural, not creepy). Get her into a sexual mind-frame where she is imagining what sex with you would be like.

Then, you “close” her. This can involve a few different steps with a stripper. Usually, the first part of the “close” is getting her phone number. The next step is meeting her outside of the club—either later tonight (which is the ideal scenario), or within the next few days. And the final step is getting her back to your place and having sex.

This last step doesn’t necessarily need to take place in your bed. With strippers, you never know where a “sexual eruption” might occur. Back alleys, parking lots, nightclub bathrooms, elevators, abandoned buildings – the possibilities are endless when you master the art of seducing the stripper!

Online Dating: What To Look For In A Dating Profile

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Online dating can be intimidating and overwhelming. Sort through the rifraff by keeping these things in mind when viewing online dating profiles.

What Online Dating Is All About

Dating websites have become a popular way of meeting romantic partners. They are helpful tools that the internet provides for finding relationships and often work because everyone who uses the site is interested in a relationship just as you are. The way you find out about potential romantic partners on these sites is by browsing through profiles. The profiles of the users give all sorts of background information on the person and allow you to choose people in whom you may be interested.

Though you shouldn’t jump to conclusions about somebody based on their profile alone, it can help to be able to identify profiles of people with whom you may find yourself compatible as contrasted with ones who will not be worth your time. Some of these sites even only allow you a certain amount of direct (i.e. messaging) contacts per month, so it pays to choose wisely who you would like to initiate a conversation with. Even on sites where this is not the case, wasting time with incompatible contacts just wastes your time and membership money. Though there are of course no set criteria as regards something like this, the following are some things you might consider looking for in a dating profile to help insure that it will be a fruitful contact:

Membership To Site

It is a good idea to look for others that have full memberships, because they tend to be the most active and easy to contact on sites. Many dating websites offer free initial memberships with a lot of restrictions. You may not even be able to send a message to somebody else who doesn’t have a full membership. Even if you are able to message them, they may not be able to respond. This will differ from site to site, but in general, paid site members are much easier to communicate with and begin a conversation with. They also tend to be more interested in the site as a real dating tool and not merely something to dabble in. So this is one this to look for if possible.

A Lot Of Information

A membership profile that offers a lot of information is often a good sign. It means the individual is forthcoming and open and that they are interested in the site. It also simply means that you can find out enough about a person initially to judge whether you’d like to contact them or not. If you only have a few pieces of information such as that their sex, age, occupation, and what they are interested in relationship wise, you really don’t have enough criteria for judging much of anything. Being able to read more about their interests, views, and activities before hand can save you wasted time.

Great Pictures

Few people would deny that a picture is important on a dating site. Though looks should by no means be the primary criterion for becoming interested in somebody, they do play a role. This is not only on the superficial level. You can tell “deeper” things about people by things like their smile, the way they dress, the environment where a photo was taken, and so on. Having a picture also shows that someone has an active sort of interest in the site and has taken to time create a complete profile. With all this is mind, look for profiles with pictures if possible.

Same Relationship Interest

It is a good idea to look for people with at least the same basic relationship interest as you. Certain people on dating sites will be looking merely for friendships, others for casual encounters, and still others for long term relationships. There may be gradations of these three categories as well. Generally it is important to find people that have a similar interest along these lines. This will maximize the possibility that you will both find the type of relationship you are looking for.

Friendliness

Though it might seem obvious, simple friendliness is an important trait to look for in a dating profile. If somebody expresses themselves in a friendly, encouraging, and open way in their profile, that is a sign that they will probably be this way in a relationship as well. If on the other hand they make a lot of demands, sound defensive, picky, or arrogant, this can also suggest the type of romantic partners they might be.

Active On Site

Just because somebody is a site member doesn’t necessarily mean they are very active on the site. So in addition to the things mentioned above, try to make sure a member is active and didn’t just sign up and then forget about it. You can often tell this by indicators that give the date of a member’s last visit to the site or that list the total number of visits.

Multiple Interests

A member with multiple interests is often a good person to contact, because it indicates that they will be an interesting and multifaceted person. This is definitely open to interpretation, and some people may like to find dates who don’t have a lot of interests and just enjoy a few simple things. But for the most part, people who have a number of different interests are dynamic and energetic people, and in most people’s opinion these are good qualities.

Online Dating: How To Create An Effective Username

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Online dating can be hard if you don’t know where to start. A good screen name is the first step – use these online dating tips for a great first impression.

Choosing a screen name for an online dating site should not be a decision made lightly. It is one of the key elements to site experience and interaction with other members. It is the first thing a prospective date sees and what sets one member apart from another. The ability for a screen name to stick out among a list of other screen names may be the difference between love and…nothing.

Do Some Research First

Initial research should be done by members before choosing their screen name. If they look around a site, they will see for themselves which user names they find appealing. Many sites do not allow the use of vulgar or rude names. Many blogs and articles recommend that a user not vulgarity, rudeness, depression, or self-deprecating user names. This is not good advice for everyone. If a user has these qualities, and expects their possible dates to accept them, then they should include them.

The intended audience should also be kept in mind when choosing a user name. Users are marketing themselves and should keep in mind who they will attract with their user name. Putting too much emphasis on physical qualities may attract a shallow type of person.

Make a User Name That is Easy To Read

The effort of creating a great user name should be rewarded. This will not be the case if a viewer cannot easily read it. 95% of computer users scan web pages. Those same people scan lists. The best way to make a name readable is by clearly defining each word through the use of capital letters or underscores.

Make It Easy to Pronounce

There is a direct relationship between being able to pronounce a word and being able to remember it.

Make It Short

SweetGirl is much easier to read than ThisIsTheLongestUsernameEver, even though the words are distinct in both. The first is the easiest to pick out when scanning a list and the easiest to remember.

Make It Memorable (No Numbers!)

Numbers should never, ever be used in a dating web site user name. Humans are more able to successfully remember names than numbers. They are also less likely to mix them up than the letters in a word. The opportunity for love could be missed if a prospective date mistakenly remembered SweetGirl101 instead of SweetGirl110.

Make It Descriptive

Include a hobby or interest: Common interests and hobbies are often the foundation of a relationship. If a member has a certain passion for something, it should be included in their user name. If the member really desires a prospective date to share their hobby or interest, the member should include specific, more technical elements or terms associated with that hobby or interest. A sporting fan could use vocabulary from their sport. A reader may use certain terms or characters from literature.

Use It To Describe Yourself

A member should include a descriptive word about themselves. This should be a quality that they have and they are proud of. It may be that they are romantic, humorous, honest, etc.

Make Your Gender Clear

Many chat rooms or instant message systems within dating sites do not have pictures accompanying the user names. Sexual orientation does not matter here. No matter what gender someone is attracted to, they need to know that the member is that gender. Being able to put a gender specific face or voice to written words is helpful in creating any kind of relationship.

Make It Unique

Feel free to add a twist to your screen name. This may include using an easily translated foreign word or a few symbols. Only one or two symbols should be used. They are easier to remember than numbers, but not as easy to remember as words. Create a name that leaves room for questions. Using easily translated foreign words is a good way to do this. While the meaning of the word should be obvious, a viewer may ask what language it is as an ice breaker.

A user name is a first impression. It is the first thing a viewer will see and the quality that a future partner will likely expect you to keep. Choose carefully.

Online Dating Sites – How Do They Work?

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Online dating sites have made meeting potential mates a lot easier, but it can be difficult to learn your way around. Here’s how online dating sites REALLY work!Dating has become much easier thanks to the invention of the Internet. Before then, people were limited on where they could meet potential dates by physical means. You would have to find dates through physical interaction, such as through friends or by meeting each other at places where both of you frequent. Many people would find dates through work, school or another regular activity.

What Online Dating Sites Are For

However, when online dating sites began appearing on the Internet, things were made a lot easier for people who may not have the time or social skills to meet a potential significant other. These sites allow people to find other singles that have the same interests as them, some of whom they may have never had the chance to meet any other way. While you may think that online dating is for lonely people or computer nerds, this is a common misconception. More people every day are using the Internet to find love and this is nothing that you should be embarrassed by, as it is a logical and convenient way to find love using technological advancements.

How They Work

Online dating sites work similar to social networking sites like Facebook or MySpace, in the sense that to start using them, you must register for the site and create a profile for yourself. Most dating web sites allow you to create a profile for free, but you may be restricted on what activities you can perform with a free profile. Once you have registered, you can begin adding information to your profile, such as a description of your personality, physical characteristics, interests, hobbies and other information that a potential date will be looking for when browsing the site. Make sure that this information is as accurate as possible, as you may find that your online dates will stop responding to you if they find that you are not what you described.

Your Profile Picture

Once you have finished adding text information about yourself, you can upload a profile picture. Some sites will require you have to a picture before you can begin finding dates, but it is always a good idea to include a picture or even several pictures on your online dating profile. This way, other users know exactly what to expect from your physical characters and can make sure they are attracted to you before making the commitment for a date. This may sound shallow, but physical attraction is a key component to healthy relationship.

Browsing

After this information is complete, you can begin browsing the site for other users who meet your criteria for someone you would like to begin dating. While it is always best to look for users who are within the area where you live, you can even find potential matches that live farther away, if you do not mind the idea of having a long distance relationship with someone. Online dating sites will usually allow you to set how far away a potential date can live from where you located, showing all of the users who are within a certain radius of your zip code.

Some sites even help you out in the process of finding a date by providing a series of questions or surveys that will help gauge how compatible you are with other users on the site. If you and another user who shares the characteristics you are looking for both answer these questions in similar ways, you will be determined as compatible and recommended to each other. There are also other ways to go about doing this, depending on the site. For example, you may be asked to rate other users based on their profiles. If you rate a user highly and they rate you highly, the site will send both of you messages recommending that you contact each other.

Congrats, You’ve Found Someone!

When you find a user on an online dating site that you want to get to know, you can start sending them messages. Again, whether or not you will be able to contact a potential match on online dating sites varies from site-to-site. Some sites will allow you to communicate through the messaging or chat service on their site, but you will not have access to their contact information.

After communicating with a potential date on the site, you can then mutually decide whether or not you would like to take your friendship to the next level and meet for a real-life or “offline” date. It is always best to have your first date in a public setting, such as a restaurant, coffee shop or museum, as having a date in your home or their home could become very awkward. Once you have met in person, you can then decide whether or not to continue your dating relationship. If it doesn’t work out, you can always try contacting another user!

Get Yourself Out Of The Friend Zone – STAT!

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Dating tips can help you meet girls, but what if you’ve landed yourself in the “just friends” category? Can you dig your way out? Here’s how to do it, ASAP!

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Be The Kind Of Guy Who Never Gets In The Friend Zone In The First Place

The best “dating tips” you could ever get about staying out of the friend zone is to never be the kind of guy who gets put in it in the first place. These guys are wimpy and weak, where guys who don’t get put on the “friends only” list are strong and confident – the alpha male type. The trick is to not be afraid to make women feel beautiful and sexy, and to not be afraid of showing a girl that you like her – like really like her. Don’t pretend that you don’t have a sexual or romantic connection to a girl – instead, just tell her! Be honest and confident about your feelings. Don’t apologize for who you are, and don’t act like her best girlfriend.

Show Interest In Her

If you like a girl, the best way not to get on her “friends only” list is to show that you’re interested in her from the get go. Don’t be too scared to admit that you have a sexual attraction to this girl – and be okay with that. If you think that it’s wrong somehow, or you’re not supposed to like her “that way,” you’re paving your own road to the friend zone! It’s normal and perfectly okay to be sexually attracted to a woman and for her to know that! In fact, it’s perfectly normal and okay that she be sexually attracted to you too – but she won’t be if you’re hiding the fact that you even want to be more than friends.

Make A Move

Don’t just wait and sit on the sidelines like a “best friend” when you could be out there with the girl you want to be with. Take that first step and make that move! Whether it’s to let her know that you exist (that’s a great first step), to start flirting with her or even a bolder move like leaning in for the first kiss, you need to go ahead and do it. Stop thinking about doing it, planning to do it or making excuses as to why now isn’t the right time. Just put yourself out there, take the risk and make a first move!

The Importance Of Building Sexual Tension

When a girl starts to think of you as more than just a buddy is when she begins to feel that undeniable sexual tension between the two of you. To get girls, you have to become a master at creating, shaping and using sexual tension. While some guys don’t find this difficult at all, other more “left brained” guys (you know, scientists, engineers, accountants, etc.) have a more difficult time accessing their more creative side to build sexual tension.

You can get more in touch with the right side of your brain, take up poetry or an art class – anything that engages your right brain. Do something creative that allows you to think differently than you normally do.

How To Build Sexual Tension And Get Her To Think Of You As More Than Just A “Buddy”

  1. Start slowly – you don’t want to rush in too quickly and blindside her. Compliment her, tell her that she looks beautiful or stunning – don’t say “hot,” or “sexy” because this will turn her OFF immediately.
  2. Get in her space. Touch her and when you do, let the touch linger just a little too long. Don’t be creepy about it, but you don’t want to end it until just after it becomes slightly awkward. Flirt with her.
  3. Move at her pace, but take it just a little farther. This allows you to push her limits a little bit, but not way past where her limits usually are. You’re just going slightly outside of her comfort zone.

Show A Side Of Yourself That She Hasn’t Seen Before

If you’re already in the friend zone, these dating tips can be particularly useful if you want to get yourself out of it.

Show the girl you like a side of yourself that she’s never seen before. You’re an interesting guy, with passions and hobbies too, right? Don’t always be talking about her and what she likes or wants to do. Show her your motivation, drive and passion. Let her know that you’re a guy she could be with and have fun with!

Also, you want to make her laugh and feel happy. This is a huge deal, because women remember the way you make them feel more than they remember your name, what you do for a living or even what you look like (although she’ll probably remember all three if you make her feel absolutely amazing).