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How To Know If A Girl Likes You

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When dating around and looking for the right person, it’s easy to make lots of friends and get to know lots of different people – but how do you know if a girl really likes you in a romantic way? Reading into signals and body language isn’t always easy, so here are three great ways to tell if someone you’re thinking about dating really likes you, or would rather be washing her hair on Friday night than go out on a date with you.

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Frequency Of Contact

When you’re dating and trying to figure out if a girl likes you or not, one of the first things you want to look at is who is contacting who and how often. Step back and take a look at your phone and find out if you’re calling or texting her more or if she’s always calling or texting you. If you’re always making the effort to contact her and she rarely (if ever) picks up the phone and makes the effort to contact you, the affection may be a little one sided. She may not be as interested in you as you are in her. However, if she’s calling or texting you back about the same amount that you are with her, then it’s a pretty safe bet that she likes you too and there’s a definite chance for a relationship there. Keep in mind though, if she’s always the one to call you or she’s doing it way too much, she may be a little obsessed with you and that’s not a way you want to start a healthy relationship. If she’s blowing up your phone, she most certainly likes you – but perhaps a little too much.

Does She Take Your Calls?

Another way to find out if a woman you’re considering dating shares romantic feelings for you too is to look at how she responds to your calls. Does she answer the phone within the first few rings when you call no matter what she’s doing? Or does she let it roll to voicemail and get back to you later when it is more convenient for her and she’s not around other people? A girl that likes you is going to answer the phone almost every time you call (with a few exceptions like something really important that is going on at work, etc.), even if she is with her family or friends. If she really digs you, she’s not going to try to hide the fact that you’re calling while she’s spending time with the people that are really important to her in her life. She’s going to pick up the phone and say hello, even if it’s just to tell you she’s up to her ears in work or family and will get back to you later. On the other hand, if she’s often letting your calls roll to voicemail and calling or texting you back later, you can safely assume that she considers whatever she’s doing at the moment you call more important than talking to you.

Ask Her To Do A Favor For You

The litmus test to really find out if the girl you’d like to be dating shares the same feelings as you is to ask her to do a favor for you. This is a big one! Ask her to do a small favor for you (something that doesn’t cost a lot of money or doesn’t take up too much of her time or causes her to go well out of her way) while you’re at work or busy at a family function. Does she do it with no questions asked? Does she seem to be happy to get to do something for you and show you that you’re important to her? Or does she put it off or refuse to do it at all? Does she make excuses as to why she can’t do it, or even flat out tell you she’s too busy? Her willingness to do something for you is a great indication of her interest level and can tell you whether she’d like to be dating you or whether you’re more in the friend zone to her. This can also help a girl that isn’t sure whether she likes you or not realize that she does – because naturally, her brain will ask her why she just did something for you and subconsciously she will realize that it is because she cares for you. It can also help her to like you even more, as she gains satisfaction from seeing you happy with her that she’s done something to help you!

5 Signs They’re Really Interested In You

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Picking up flirting signals isn’t always a piece of cake, especially if people are shy or covert about being into you. While some flirting signals are super easy to spot (say, a big kiss on the cheek or a quick smack on the rear end) others are a little harder to see on the radar. Here are some ways you can tell if a girl or guy is actually flirting with you and if they’re interested in you. If you see one or more of these telltale signals, it’s a safe bet that they’re into you. If you aren’t picking up any of them, you’re probably wasting your time.

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Eye Contact

Eye contact is a biggie when it comes to flirting. If they’re not looking you in the eye, they either have severe, crippling shyness or they’re just not that interested in what they think you have to offer. However, if he or she is looking you in the eyes when you’re talking, it’s a safe bet they’re totally captivated by what you’re saying. Someone that likes you and wants to date you is going to look at you when you speak and they’ll probably still be looking at you long after you’ve stopped talking. Even someone who is a little shy will glance up a few times at your face to gaze into your eyes. There’s a reason, after all, that it is said that the “eyes are the window to the soul!”

Frequent Touching

When someone makes a point to touch you often, they’re most likely flirting with you and want you to ask them out. They might make excuses to touch you by saying that you had a piece of dirt or lint on your shirt (conveniently placed on an area of your body that he or she wants to touch) or by spilling a drink on you and helping you mop it up. How many guys have gotten to feel a girl up because they “accidentally” spilled their wine on a girl’s shirt and help soak it up with a napkin placed in just the right location? If they lay their hand on your knee during a conversation, wipe an eyelash off your cheek or brush against you when they get up to get a drink or go to the bathroom, they’re definitely interested in you.

Focused On You

If someone is super interested in you, all of their attention is going to be on you. He or she is going to be interested in what you’re saying, listening to the jokes you’re making and offering feedback and stories of their own. This is all part of the dating game and lets the person of interest know that they want to hear what you have to say and are curious about who you are as a person. However, if the person you’re talking to is sneaking looks over at the game, conversing with their friends or are occupied by their cell phones, they’re probably not into hanging out with you. If the person you are flirting with seems distracted in any way, politely end the conversation and move on to get to know someone else. You don’t have to waste your time on account of being polite and friendly.

Smiling And Laughing

A person who is flirting and having a good time is going to be smiling and laughing. They’re going to be engaged in the conversation, and may be exhibiting some of the other telltale clues that they’re into you as well. On the other hand, someone who isn’t having fun or doesn’t seem to be hitting it off with you isn’t going to put on a fake happy face – and if they do, you’ll be able to tell right away. There’s a world of difference between a cheesy fake smile and a genuine smile on the face of a gorgeous guy or gal.

If you’re just not sure that the special someone you are thinking about is thinking about you too, just muster up the guts to ask them out on a date. Sure, you might get rejected or even politely turned down, but asking someone out on a great date is the best way to know if someone likes you for sure. It doesn’t have to be something super fancy or perfect – in fact, it can be a casual lunch or coffee date. While you may think that the clues definitely point to “yes,” there’s no way to tell for certain until you get their number and ask them out!

How To Leave A Message & Get A Return Call

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You’ve been dating and you’ve got someone’s number. Congratulations! You’re riding the high but you’ve yet to actually call them – what if you get their voicemail? Getting the answering machine make most people lock up, stutter and leave the most awkward messages. What kind of message do you need to leave to get a return call? If you’ve struck out in the past and have left voicemails that don’t get callbacks, here’s how you can leave a message and get a call back – every time!

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Speak Slowly And Clearly

When leaving a voicemail, whether you’re phone dating or calling a number that you’ve scored, it’s important to speak slowly and clearly so you can be understood. When people get stuck with the answering machine instead of the person they want to be dating, they tend to get very nervous clam up. They may not speak at all for several minutes, or they may talk so fast that they’ll never be understood. Speak normally, but slowly and clearly enough that the person listening can understand each word that you’re saying. Just don’t talk too slowly, or the person that’s listening may actually think you’re “slow!”

Leave Your Phone Number

You would be surprised at how many people get nervous and forget to leave who they are or their phone number in the message. If you have to, write it down. Sure, you know your own name and phone number but it’s easy to get so nervous that you forget to say it. Also, remember to say where you met them at the beginning of the call and repeat your phone number again at the end of the call. It may unnerve you to think that they may have forgotten who you are or where they met you from, but we all get busy and things slip from time to time. If they don’t remember where they met you, you’re probably not getting a call back. If you leave a long message, the person listening to it may not have the time to rewind it and listen to the phone number again. Saying your number again at the end of the voicemail gives whoever you want to be dating the opportunity to write it down after they’ve had a chance to listen to who you are and where they know you from.

Practice What You’re Going To Say First

It’s easy to get really nervous during different steps in the dating process, especially if you’ve never talked to the object of your affection before. If you’re super nervous, practice what you’re going to say before you actually make the call. You want to sound confident and casual, not scared and stuttering! Even if you’re a pretty chill person, the pressure is totally on after the beep. Your confidence will suddenly drop and you may not remember what you were going to say! Making a few notes about what you’re going to say before you make the call and having them in front of you when you dial will make it easier for you to leave a great message.

Let Them Know You Like Them

How many times have you left a message letting someone know who you are, where you met them and what your phone number is – but have forgotten to let whoever you’re calling know that you really like them and enjoyed meeting them? Lots of people forget how important telling someone you’re into them is, which often leads to getting stuck in the friend zone instead of actually dating them. Don’t be afraid to let someone know that you like them and you’d like to meet them again or schedule a first date with them. Just be honest about how you feel!

Don’t Be Afraid To Call Back

After leaving a voicemail, give it a few days and if you don’t hear from them, call again. There’s no “phone dating rule” that says you can’t call more than once. Lots of things can happen to sabotage your message actually getting through (in its entirety) to the person you’re looking to start dating. They might not have gotten the message if their voicemail was full, or your phone – or theirs – may have cut out before they got to write down your entire number and they’re not sure how to get a hold of you. The message may have accidentally been deleted, or they simply may have listened to it, meant to call you back and just forgot. There’s no shame in calling again to see if the message actually went through. Just don’t end up on the stalker list – calling back more than a few times is a little creepy.

Dating Tips: What Are The Best Pick Up Lines?

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When dating, coming up with pick up lines isn’t always an easy thing to do. It can be extremely difficult to think of something when you’re trying to approach a woman, especially if you’re very nervous or jittery. You may be tempted to use a “canned” pick up line that you read on the Internet or heard from a friend, because it’s easier than coming up with something on your own when you’ve been put on the spot. However, those puick up lines rarely work and often serve to get you rejected by the girl you’re trying to ask out. Check out these great tips on the best pick up lines and how to successfully ask a girl out.

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Be In The Moment

The best pick up lines come naturally. They come from the heart and are sincere. They’re not canned statements that can be used on any girl – they’re intelligent statements about your surroundings, what is going on and who you’re with. Most women don’t respond to manufactured pick up lines when dating – and not to worry, a girl can smell a fake pick up line from across the room. Rest assured that any cheesy statements will get you rejected! Instead of using canned pick up lines when dating, be “in the moment” and talk to the girl you’re asking out about what is going on around you. Ask her a question, compliment her in a genuine and sincere way or tease her with a giant smile on your face. Avoid making a comment about her physical appearance, especially her body. Gorgeous women are told all the time that they are gorgeous – they want a guy to make an effort to get to know her and value her for her intelligence, not the way she looks.

Be Yourself

When dating, it is important (crucial, in fact) that you be yourself instead of trying to be someone else. Not only will trying to be someone you think girls will like make you feel uncomfortable and out of place, people are going to see it on you right away. If you’re not relaxed and “in your own skin,” you’re not going to look natural when you ask a girl out. You’re going to look nervous and cheesy, and it’s going to be completely obvious to the girl you’re talking to that you’re not being yourself. When talking to a woman, be honest about your hobbies, your work and your opinions about things. Don’t try to tell her what you think she wants to hear, because you’re most likely going to be wrong on that count. You should also make a point to ask her honest questions about her life, her interests and hobbies and her opinions about things. Listen to what she says and do your best to show her that you’re genuinely interested. Women want their voice to be heard and want a guy that will take and interest in what interests them!

Practice Makes Perfect

If you’re shy, dating definitely doesn’t come naturally to you. For shy guys, dating and talking to new people can be downright torturous. You can, however, learn how to get more comfortable with dating and meeting people. The best way to comfortable with meeting new people and talking to them is to get some practice at it. “Practicing” is actually a pretty simple concept, but the hard part comes when you have to actually get out of your comfort zone. Try going out and meeting people! Go to a bar, a bookstore, a fast food restaurant or the park – go anywhere where there are people and make a point to say hello to as many people as you can. Bonus points if you can actually strike up an interesting conversation with someone! When you practice meeting new people, you’ll be much more comfortable when asking a girl out. If you’re comfortable in new social situations, you’re not going to need pick up lines to meet women!

Have Confidence In Yourself

The best way to be successful in dating is to have self confidence. Being confident in yourself is something that shows through in the way you talk, the way you carry yourself and how you appear to other people. Women don’t generally gravitate towards men that are shy, that hang their head down and wait for someone to approach them. Women are attracted to men who are conversational, personable and who eminate self assurance and self confidence. Just be careful not to appear too cocky, because men who give off a “cocky vibe” will definitely not succeed in dating!

3 Surprisingly Romantic Things To Do On A Date

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Flirting and being romantic is easy, but the challenge to men all over the world is coming up with ideas that will make a date exciting. Every woman who’s worth a second look has probably been on dates before, and it’s safe to say that quite a few of them have seen it all. From movie dates to coffee dates, to simple walks around town – she has probably done most of these things with her other dates.

Even if she is not the type to have gone on various dates, you still have to be at your romantic best when you’re out with her. Creating the perfect date takes some effort, but you don’t have to aim for perfection (and do away with the pressure). You can settle for ‘extremely romantic date’ instead.

Blow Bubbles

Here’s a romantic date idea that won’t break the bank. Small bubble tubes (the kind that kids play with) are cheap, so bring a few if you’re planning on just walking around the park while talking and flirting. You can use the bubble tube when you’re sitting on a park bench or on the grass doing nothing but talk and relax.

The romantic part is using the bubbles as a tool for learning about each other. Share one story per bubble blow, or punctuate the end of a story with a stream of bubbles. In a park, during the day, bubbles float upward, which could be quite a sight if you and your woman are feeling sentimental and romantic.

Firecrackers

An alternative to blowing bubbles is lighting firecrackers. This is for those night time dates when you’re outside and you just feel like stargazing together. Small firecrackers are inexpensive, and they can be quite pretty to look at when you’re just sitting around doing nothing but sit close together.

Summertime weather is perfect for lighting small sparklers that only stay lighted for a few minutes. This activity will make any date feel like it’s the fourth of July.

Karaoke

Some guys think that singing karaoke is too passé, too corny and too common. I say they haven’t tried it one-on-one with a special lady. This is your chance to know what kind of music she likes best, and which songs mean a lot to her. Music has a way of making a woman feel deeper emotions. At the very least, you will be able to make her laugh and turn it into an opportunity for fun flirting with your singing.

Rent a karaoke box somewhere for more privacy. If you live alone or your parents are out, you can go for frisky karaoke. Making out cannot be avoided in a karaoke singing session, when she’s acting seductive while singing a love song to you. Pull your weight by singing something romantic, like ‘Michelle’ by the Beatles or some other classic love song.