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How To Use Flirting To Create Sexual Tension

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Flirting is the most powerful way to engage someone – but what if you want to take it one step further? Here’s how to use flirting to make things sexy.

Use Reverse Psychology

One of the most powerful ways you can attract women is by playfully rejecting them. What’s your instant reaction when someone tries to sell you something on the phone? You reject them. Dating is similar.

If you really want the woman to “make the move” and be naturally drawn towards you, then psychologically push her away.

Turning down a woman is the icing on the cake, the finishing touch to your flirting, that locks in her decision to be with you. While this form of flirting can be done early on, you need a decent amount of flirting and teasing before these techniques become effective.

FACT: People don’t reject ideas that they perceive to be their own.

The keyword here is “perceive.” Curiosity makes women think, and the more that they think about you, the more they believe they must want you.

The best way to come up with your own rejection comments is to “put yourself in her shoes” and think like she does.

For example, you might say:

“No funny business! I don’t even know you yet”

“No hanky panky.”

If she wasn’t thinking about sex with you, she will be after this statement. That’s not to say she’ll actually want to have sex with you, but all you want to do at this point is get the idea in her head.

When To Use Sexy Flirting

At Your House

These are great lines to say when you walk in the door together from a date, or after she arrives for a date at your place. Think about it. How many guys do you think she’s heard even say this? This would baffle most women straight away. It tells her that you have standards, and aren’t just looking for sex. It also tells her that you aren’t that easily impressed.

When She Gets Touchy With You 

When a woman touches your arm, leg, or any part of your body, you can say these lines and they work great. This makes the woman look like she’s being sexually aggressive.

After You’ve Piqued Her Curiosity

This is after you’ve asked a question that she wants the answer to. Slowly move away and as she tries to grab you and keep you still.

Once this has happened, a window of opportunity has opened up for you. Now continue to tease the woman about her sexually aggressive behavior.

You might say something like:

“You just want me for my body.”

“I’m not just some piece of meat you can have your way with.”

“I have feelings too you know.”

“Geez, women only want one thing.”

“I need to be careful around you.”

“I’m watching you.”

“When will women ever learn.”

“I’d prefer it if we just TALKED.”

“I may just have to get a restraining order on you.”

“For all I know, you could be a stalker!”

How To Date Two Women At Once

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Dating tips often tell you how to get a date, or how to flirt with a girl, but what if you want to go out with more than one woman at a time? Here’s how!

Dating two women at once can be a blessing or a curse depending on how you handle the situation. There are a lot of guys out there that simply do not know how to date one woman, let alone two women at a time. There can be significant advantages to dating to her more women at once, however, you must be prepared in the must know how to keep both of these women separated from each other.

If you ever get found out, it could be the end of both relationships. Hiding one woman from another should not be something that lasts a very long time. A lot of guys date 2 to 3 women at a time until they figure out who they like most, and then they make a decision to engage in a long-term relationship with that woman. If you are currently dating to women in your finding increasingly difficult to separate your life with them, here are some tips.

1. Separate Them In Your Mind

Let’s start out by saying that you’re dating two women, Julie and Danielle. Julie is kind of a sporty girl while Danielle is more of a sophisticated girl. While these two women are probably very easy to distinguish in your mind, it won’t always be this easy. If you have two girls that are fairly similar is very easy to get their hometowns, parents names, interests or job titles mixed up.

Before you ever go out on a date with one of them, right down exactly what they do, where they live, any names that are associated with them and where you had your last date with them. Writing this information down will keep it fresh in your mind for when you go on a date. One of the easiest ways to use this method is to put the information into your phone after the first date so you have notes that you can refer to the next time you go out.

2. Always Know Where They Live

You may not be able to find out exactly the apartment number of each girl, but you will easily be able to figure out what part of town they typically go out to eat in. A good rule of thumb is to never take one girl to another girls’ part of town. For instance if Julie lived on the East side of town and Danielle lived on the West side, you would never take Julie to the West side nor would you ever take Danielle to the East side.

The last thing that you want is for a girl to see you out with another one. While getting caught will not happen, it has been known to occur in smaller cities. If you are meeting for a lunch date you also don’t want to take one girl close to where another one works. It’s very easy for somebody to walk out of the office and head right down the street to pick up lunch in a hurry. Until you decide which one you actually want to engage in a relationship with, keep them physically separated at all times.

3. Avoid Your House

One of the best pieces of advice that anybody could give you is to avoid your own house when you are dating several women at once. If you believe that you are going to end the night at somebody’s home and possibly have sex, make sure that it is not your own. It is much better for you to go that to the girl’s place than it is to host her at your home. At some point she will have to see your apartment or house, but you don’t want her staying there.

The reason for this is that she might leave something at your house such as a necklace or even a pair of underwear. If you take another girl back to your home she could find this and the whole game could be over halfway through. Until you decide which girl that you really want to be with, do not allow any sleepovers at your home.

4. Pick

The last bit of advice that you’re going to get is to pick which girl you actually want to be in a relationship with. Dating multiple women is fine but aching to exhausting after about three weeks. Give each of the women 3 to 4 dates to prove themselves and then choose the one that you want to be with.

Arranging dates every Thursday, Friday and Saturday night is not only exhausting on the body, it can also be exhausting on the wallet. Taking out women every week and weekend is going to get expensive. It is worth your time and your money to choose a girl quickly and without hesitation.

How To Flirt Once You’ve Got Her To Go Home With You

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To flirt is easy at a club, but how do you flirt when the girl you like is finally at your house? Here are several good ways to flirt intimately!

Different types and amounts of flirting are acceptable in different circumstances. The flirting you do around groups of people is much different than flirtatious acts around only one woman.

In isolated settings such as your place or her place, the rules change and you’re allowed to be more sexually flirtatious. Before we explore this type of intimate flirting, you must first understand how to successfully get there.

Touch Her!

Touching a woman is a great way to build trust. If you continue to go on dates and don’t even affectionately touch a woman’s arm, at some point it becomes harder and more awkward later on.

If you haven’t hugged, kissed or touched reasonable places such as her arm or hand, then you’ll have trouble making her feel comfortable in an intimate setting because she hasn’t felt any physical contact from you before.

If you watch a couple interacting from a distance, you can usually tell how close they are just by how far apart they stand. Most women only feel comfortable with men entering their personal space when they know them to a certain degree.

To ensure a woman will be comfortable when she’s having a date at your place, here’s a guideline for what flirtatious physical contact you can possibly do.

Create The Flirtatious Mood

The flirtatious mood incorporates the same flirting used during previous dates. This involves being playful, fun, teasing and confident. Here are some examples of fun things you can do in a secluded setting.

1. Bed Push

While the two of you are talking on your bed/couch subtly move over while performing a yawn or stretch to move her closer to the edge. Once she realizes what you are doing, she’ll try to move her way back on. Whether you decide to slowly push her completely onto the floor is your choice. Depending on the size of your bed/couch and whether this action can be done harmlessly or not is up to you.

2. Bed Hog

When she tries to get back on the bed/couch or even if she’s already lying with you roll over taking up most of the space. As she realizes you’re taking over she’ll try and win her share back. If she asks for you to move back onto your side you can say, “What’s in it for me?” or “Na, what are you talking about? I’m not taking up any room at all.” Be smiley and sarcastic when you say this comment, creating an “I’m hard-to-get vibe.”

3. Soft Tickle

If she’s comfortable lying next to you and being close, you should be able to tickle her gently to get a positive reaction. Tickling her hips, waist, feet or armpits work best. If she’s not ticklish or you don’t have the right touch to make her giggle, say something like, “I’m not trying to tickle you, really I’m not.” This saves you from looking like you’ve failed at tickling.

4. Pillow Fight

To increase the excitement, grab your pillow and start whacking her softly with it. If she joins in and gets more aggressive, turn up the pace but don’t use all your strength. If you’re looking for a great way to transition into a pillow fight throw your pillow at her when she’s across the room or on the bed with you. If she doesn’t throw it back tell her to throw it back. If she still doesn’t throw it back, get off the bed, grab the pillow, and throw it at her again. Eventually she’ll join in.

The Real Reason Why He Didn’t Call Back

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Dating tips are essential if you want to understand how men operate when they start going out with a girl. Here’s how to tell why he won’t pick up the phone.

Why He Didn’t Call You Back

You’ve talked to all your friends.

You still get no answers.

Now it’s been about three weeks and he still hasn’t called.

You’re thinking, “What should I do. How come he hasn’t called back?”

Here’s the deal: he didn’t like you in the way you needed to be liked. Sometimes it’s tough to hear that, but look at the evidence:

You text him and he doesn’t text you.

You call him and he doesn’t call you.

It wasn’t anything you said. It wasn’t any conversation that went wrong. It just wasn’t there for him.

What You Can Do About It

We get so offended in life when someone doesn’t respond to us the way we want it to. The reason why we do that is because we just don’t meet enough people. We stay in our little bubbles and then get upset when our social lives aren’t what we want them to be.

Most women will just go out and meet a few men and that’s it. Most women won’t go on many dates, so the reason why women get so upset about the man not calling back is because they’re not going out and meeting men every single day.

They’re not living from a place of abundance, so they stress over the insignificant few.

It’s an abundant world. There are men everywhere.

The issue is that we all too often separate our normal lives from our dating lives. So instead of chatting up the cute guy at the grocery store, you ignore him and then wait for Friday night out with the girls.

You only give yourself those few hours to meet someone, and ignore the other 98% of your life!

Women don’t realize their feminine power. A woman in touch with her sexuality, who isn’t afraid to start conversations and be flirty, will not have to worry about men not calling her back.

If you meet men every single day, you will not be obsessed about that one guy. You’ll just say “he wasn’t into me” and move on. Plus, you probably have other prospects on the horizon. The real reason why he didn’t call you back is because he wasn’t into you. But that doesn’t matter.

Realize that there are men everywhere for the woman who knows how to flirt, knows how to initiate conversation, and knows how to get what and who she wants.

Follow these dating tips and be that woman!

Second Date Ideas That Will Win You A Third

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Second date ideas can be difficult to come up with – you’ve already made a good impression, now where do you take it? Check out these killer second date ideas!

You can’t repeat yourself and go to the same type of establishment twice in a row! The best second date is a place with some sort of movement, action and opportunity to be competitive. Places such as:

  • Shopping mall
  • Mini golf
  • Movies

Because you now have the ability to move around you can flirt with more than just your words. Think competitiveness. Here are some examples.

Shopping

During a shopping session you’ve got many conversation topics at your disposal. Starting conversations should be easy with all the shops, items and people around.

Shopping is great because it shows you’re not trying to impress. You’re both constantly moving, which makes the experience much more energetic and lively, a great way for her to remember the date.

Mini Golf

Mini golf is a great active date that you’ll both enjoy. Make sure she’s the “fun type;” unfortunately some girls believe they’re “too cool” for activities such as mini golf. If she is too cool to play, it’s a good indicator that she’s not adventurous and fun. The only rule is to take the game very light-heartedly and maintain emotion, drama and tension throughout the entire date.

Movies

While the movies can be a great place to take women on dates, it’s not recommended for the first date. It’s hard to spend time together with someone when you can’t talk during the movie. Regardless of whether it is your first date or a later date, make sure it’s a film that’s been screening for some time so there won’t be that many people in the audience.

How To Create Sexual Tension On The Second Date

The best way to create sexual tension is to mention it. Let the woman know she’s being “too suggestive” by sitting next to you in the theater, or wherever you are. You can pretend to define an invisible wall between the two seats to make it perfectly clear that you don’t want her temptations to get the better of her. Alternatively, move somewhere leaving a gap between the two of you and then wave to her implying you’re now at a safe distance.

You might get a soft hit or disappointed look but don’t give in. After you’ve made your point you can move back to where you were. This technique shows you’re not eager and are accusing the woman of being the aggressive one. It’s fun, flirty and she’ll love it, whether she admits it or not.

BONUS TIP: When you arrange your second date, get the woman to meet at your place first. When she arrives just leave straight away and head off to your destination in your car. This way it’s only natural to come back to your place afterwards.