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5 Tips For Meeting Women That Every Man Ought To Know

By josephmatthews

Finally! A step-by-step guide on how to meet women that makes meeting women fun and easy for any guy! I have a question…

(And you have to be honest with me here!)

Is meeting women hard for you to do?  Do you feel afraid when it comes to meeting women?

And is that fear keeping you from succeeding and keeping you lonely and alone?

If so, don’t worry. I’m going to give you some incredible bits of advice you can use that will help you meet great women, and help you to take control of your love life and overcome your fear!

It’s not all about instinct

Meeting women should be a piece of cake. After all, that’s what you’re biologically programmed for, right? Nope!

Despite what you might think and what others may tell you, the fact is that us men are not born already knowing how to naturally meet and attract women.  (Believe me, I wish that WAS the case, but its not, unfortunately.)

Knowing how to meet women is something you LEARN, not something you’re “born with.” Just like any skill, you have to LEARN how to meet and talk to women, just like you have to learn to speak Spanish, play the guitar, and recite your A-B-C’s.

It’s a SKILL. And skills are learned, not instinctual.

No worries…help is on the way!

So if you currently don’t know how to meet women, don’t worry, there is NOTHING wrong with you!  You just haven’t learned enough to make meeting women something that’s comfortable and easy yet.

Sadly, there are tons and tons of men out there who are too afraid to meet women, and because of that they stay home alone over the weekend when they should be out meeting girls.

And even worse – most of these guys will never do anything to overcome this fear.

This is due to the fact that these men don’t realize just how much their lives are controlled by this fear!  And they justify this fear of going out and meeting women by thinking of all the things that could go wrong.

Some guys have such a dim view of themselves as attractive men that they think a girl they’re interested in is going to laugh at them, or dismiss them, or tell them off. Maybe she’ll throw her drink in their face, or maybe they’ll get beaten up by her boyfriend!

Never think the worst

Do you ever think of these as possibilities before you meet a girl? Because if you do, then you are actually TRAINING yourself to be scared and take no action to meet women.

In short: You are practicing FAILURE.

The fact is – most of these irrational fears you’re worried about hardly ever happen in real life.

All these fears stem from poor experiences you may have had when you were young (junior high or middle school age) or you picked them off of television or movies and think they could actually apply to your real life.

It’s sad that so many men allow fears like these to shape their attitudes and beliefs about meeting and dating women.

In contrast, there are other men out there who were fortunate enough to have positive experiences with girls early on in their development.  These experiences helped banish irrational fears about meeting women, which helped set them up for a lot of success with women as they got older.

It’s never too late

But even if you started off on the wrong foot in seventh grade, you can still take control of your fears of meeting women. You don’t have to be in high school to become a superstar with the ladies!

What you need to start doing right now is re-learn how to talk to women, and you’ll have to be willing to re-examine your current beliefs and attitudes that might be holding you back from success and change them to make meeting women easier.

But that’s difficult for most guys to do. It’s no problem to say you want to learn how to meet women easily, but it’s doing the work that’s the hardest part.

You need to want it  badly enough!

Don’t let fear hold you back

Don’t be one of those guys who lets fear keep him from meeting the type of woman he’s always dreamed about. If you see a girl you want to meet – say SOMETHING.  Even if you don’t know what to say, just take a chance.

Try these 5 tips for meeting women

  1. Ask her for directions.
  2. Ask for her opinion on something.
  3. Playfully tease her about something she’s wearing or something she’s doing. At least make an effort to take an interest in her and be curious about who she is as a person.
  4. Pay her a genuine and sincere compliment!  What do you have to lose?
  5. Quickly figure out something to talk to her about – exact words aren’t as important as the act of walking over to her and engaging her in conversation.  If you let too much time pass by from the second you see her to the time you start talking, you give yourself a chance to chicken out.  (If this freaks you out, memorize some good opening lines beforehand so you’ll know what to say.)

Don’t try and measure success based on if you got her phone number or a date.

Just the simple act of approaching a woman and talking to her makes you a winner, because you did something that 80% of the other men out there wouldn’t have done!

And the more you can do that, the greater your chances of meeting that one special woman.

To find out more, sign up for Joseph Matthew’s free Meet Women Secrets newsletter for all the most recent tips and methods for meeting and seducing women.

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: approach women, dating, flirting, pick up lines, seduction

How to Meet Women in Book Stores

By josephmatthews

There are all sorts of clichés about men picking up women in book stores but, believe it or not, it is something that can actually happen.

Of course, meeting a woman and getting from that initial “hello” to the exchange of phone numbers and plans for a meal can be a little bit tricky.  You don’t want to rush things, but you don’t want to let her get away, either.

Here are a few tips on how to meet women in book stores.

#1.  Visit a large bookstore.

A mall bookstore or a small store might be right on your way somewhere, but it generally isn’t a good place to meet women.  Small bookstores are cramped, usually over flowing with product and the sales people are tripping over you every couple of minutes as they offer customer service to the other customers.

If the store is busy, you can forget about even being able to approach the woman who caught your eye.  Too many people will manage to get in your way and by the time you get to where she was standing, she will have moved on to a new location.

Instead opt for browsing at one of the larger bookstores like Barnes and Nobles or Borders.  These stores are famous for their wide aisles, their comfortable chairs and their coffee shops.

#2. Stick to what you know

Don’t try to impress women who are reading books from sections that you normally wouldn’t set foot in.  If you are into anime and she is reading the newest tome from Dr. Phil, you might not have much luck in finding a good conversation starter.  If you look in the sections that you normally shop in, you have a built in way to start a conversation.

You can either mention what you’ve thought about the book she’s looking at or ask her if she might be able to recommend something since you can see that she reads the same books you do.

Obviously you could do this in another section as well, but it is risky—especially if she asks you what other books in that section you have read.

#3. Approach a wanderer

It is better to approach someone who is wandering around and looking at the shelves than it is to approach someone who is already sitting down and reading through a book.  If she looks like she is very into what she is reading, it is best to leave her alone.

You don’t want to start the relationship by annoying her in the middle of a good book, do you?  Plus, if you talk to a woman who is already browsing, you have the built in conversation starters discussed in #2.  Of course, if stops reading to look at you, you can assume that it is okay to approach her.

#4. Take the conversation somewhere else

Move the conversation into an area better suited for conversation—the coffee shop.  This is why you are in the bigger bookstore—it’s coffee shop.  If you have managed to strike up a conversation with an interesting woman, it is easy to move it from the book section over to the coffee shop.

All you have to do is either turn like you are about to start walking to see if she will walk with you or, if you are feeling bold, simply say “I definitely want to keep talking about this, but I don’t want to disturb the other shoppers.

Can I buy you a cup of coffee over in the café?”  And with that simple question you have moved from “picking up” the woman to your first date.

#5. Make your move

At some point you are going to have to decide if you would like to talk to this woman again and if she doesn’t ask you for your phone number or initiate plans for another get together, it is going to be up to you to get things started.  It might be up to you anyway as some women still wait for the man to make the first move.

If the coffee cups are empty and you aren’t even talking about books anymore, it is time to make a plan to see her again and ask for her phone number.

These are just five simple tips you can keep in mind if you are trying to figure out a way to meet women at the bookstore.  The best advice we can give you is to keep it simple.  Just remember to be yourself because trying to be somebody that you are not can back fire on you very quickly in a bookstore setting.

To find out more, sign up for Joseph Matthew’s free Meet Women Secrets newsletter for all the most recent tips and methods for meeting and seducing women.

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: approach women, dating

6 Tips For Handling Rejection

By lavalife6

If You’ve Ever Been Rejected, This is the Article for You!

You’ve had a date or two with someone you thought was interested in you, then they drop the bombshell that they don’t feel a connection. Ouch!

You wish you could control the overwhelming feelings of anger, embarrassment, anxiety and/or hopelessness but you can’t.

Rejection is a fact of life. It’s how you handle it that makes all the difference.

Here are some strategies that may help you cope with life’s — and love’s — inevitable knock-backs.

Don’t Take it Personally

In many cases, the so-called rejection may have nothing to do with you at all.

For instance, someone may reject your advances because you remind them of someone from their past (not your fault), they are having a career crisis (not your fault) or are dealing with some other pressing personal issue that they elect not to explain (again, not your fault).

"I really liked this guy and we dated a couple of times before he told me he didn’t have time for me. I felt awful," says Jess. "I ran into him a year later and he told me that his father had been sick with cancer — he later died — and all this was happening when we had first met," she says. "I had thought he just wasn’t interested in me but the truth was that it had nothing to do with me."

Silence your Inner Child

The Inner Child often overreacts and feels the whole world has turned thumbs down and that true love will never come (insert high-pitched wail here). Our adult selves know this is simply not true yet the words of our Inner Child ring in our ears.

Recover from rejection by silencing your Inner Child and reminding yourself that ‘never’ is not a realistic concept. To get yourself back on track, try making a list of all the people in your life who do love you and let the sting of rejection melt away.

Don’t Let it Rattle You

Don’t let a negative response shake your confidence. "If I didn’t get a second date with a guy, I’d spend literally days running through out first meeting wondering what I did to put him off," says Sue.

"One day I had a revelation: You can’t be everyone’s idea of a perfect match, so it’s only natural that you will have first dates that don’t eventuate into second ones. And that’s fine. If we all met the man of our dreams the first time, there would be no single people and there are lots of single people out there…"

Think of It as a Favor

If your first or second date didn’t turn into something more, in some ways you should be thankful. It may be uncomfortable to hear, but getting a firm, clear-eyed grasp on incompatibility early rather than later is a huge time-saving plus. The early brush-off allows you to chalk it up to experience and move on.

Turn It into a Positive

Sounds cheesy but you can make rejection work as a motivator for self-improvement. "Knock-backs aren’t fun, that’s for sure," says Phil, "But if I get a ‘no’ from someone I was interested in,

I always use the opportunity to work on myself — do a course, work out more at the gym, go on a health kick, that sort of thing. I figure if I am the best I can be that I will find the best person for me. And if it takes a few ‘nos’ to get there, so be it."

Don’t Dwell on It

Sometimes the fact that we have been rejected is so painful and all-consuming that it becomes the only thing we talk about. Friends hear how badly we’ve been treated or listen patiently to our complaints that we will never find true love.

Other singles rally around us offering rejection anecdotes, all of which seem to confirm our worst fears — that there are no decent men/women left and we will never find Mr/Ms Right.

Get a grip. Turn this apparent catastrophe into a chance to make a change. Get back online, update that profile and optimistically look toward the future.  

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Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: breaking up, dating, divorce, Relationship Advice

How To Avoid The Top 5 Mistakes Single Guys Make In Clubs

By ryanrandolph

Have you ever gone to a club, bought a bunch of overpriced drinks, then stood around only talking to your friends while thinking “Why did I come here?”

I remember a few years ago, before I learned any dating tips, I would leave bars or clubs with this frustrated feeling inside me.

I thought, “I just don’t get it, clubs are supposed to be a place to have fun and meet women.  Where did I go wrong?”

I believe there are five major mistakes that guys make consistently at clubs for this to happen, I know I’ve made them.  I also believe that if guys just stopped doing these five things, their success would improve automatically.

1. Only talking to people you know.

This first one is fairly obvious, yet many guys do it all the time.  I remember standing there, looking around the club for beautiful women.  When I’d find one, I‘d think to myself “Aha! There’s a beautiful woman” and then I would just keep talking to my friends.

If you keep talking to the same people, you’re going to get the same results.  You don’t necessarily need to go talk to every beautiful woman you see, you can just start with the person standing next to you.

Just turn your body a little bit so you lean in from the side and start chatting.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a couple, a group of guys, or some cute women.  What does matter is that you are improving your conversational skills within the club.

If you’re not sure what to say, look around at your environment for some ideas.  Is there a band or any dancers?  Is anyone doing anything unusual?  Just make a witty comment about the how the opposite of something is true.

For example, if a guy next to me starts taking a whole bunch of tequila shots, I could turn to him and his friends and say “I guess we all know who the designated driver is.”  It’s good to say it in a slightly serious tone and without smiling, so you build a little tension.

It doesn’t matter how funny it is, it’s just a way to engage others.  Do this to everyone who seems open and you will start having some fun times meeting new people.

2. Caring what others think.

So when you start talking to all different types of people in the club, you’re probably going to meet some friendly people and some not so friendly people (in my experience there are many more friendly people).

What happens if they don’t respond well to you, ignore you, or act rude?

Just move on.  It’s not your job to fix other people; you don’t have control over them.  The only thing you have control of is your own reaction.  You can choose to care about their opinion or to not care about it.

The better you get at talking to more people, the more you will learn that it’s not about you.  Some people go to the club to let go of all their frustrations from the week and combine that with alcohol and you can get all kinds of crazy emotions in the mix.

So if something isn’t working out, just realize it’s their issue and move on.

3. Ignoring the club employees.

Have you ever gone to a party where you knew everyone and as soon as you entered, they were all really excited to see you and gave you high fives and hugs?

How good did that feel?  Well, you can get the same reaction when you enter a club.

It’s not hard, just choose a club that you go to often and make friends with all the employees.  Introduce yourself and remember their names and talk to them like a friend.

Ask the bouncer how his night is going, give the bartenders a big first tip, make friends with the bathroom attendant or tease the cocktail waitress.

Remember, these people are working while you are having fun.  See if you can share some of that fun with them.  Before you know it, when you come to the club, you’ll feel right at home. You’ll be in a better mood, have more fun, and meet more people.

This tip alone is one of the easiest ways to increase your confidence and status in a club.

4.  Waiting to get drunk before talking to women.

This is probably the biggest mistake that guys make every night, at every club, everywhere.  The best time to talk to women is actually right when the night begins.  Why?  When it’s still early, women are just arriving usually in a good mood, no one’s approached them yet; it’s like a blank slate.

It’s your best chance to make what I call a little connection.  This is where you just make one fun or witty comment to someone and then get back to your friends.

If it turns into a conversation then go with it, but it’s mainly a way to create a little connection of familiarity between you and someone you don’t know.

What most guys do, is they stare at the women they want to talk to all night until they’ve had enough drinks, then go over and try to force a full on conversation.  It’s usually not pretty.

Instead, it’s a lot easier to make a bunch of little connections with women, then sit back and watch.  The women that are interested in you will come stand near you or they will look at you and smile when they walk by.

Even if they don’t, it will be a lot easier to wave them over and start a conversation with them if you’ve already talked before.

5.  Putting too much pressure on yourself to meet women.

The last one is the most important.  Remember why you are there in the first place: 

To have a good time.

Have patience with yourself and give yourself permission to relax.  Some guys get too attached to the outcome with women and even relate what happens to their own self-worth.

You know yourself better than anyone else.

Clubs are a place where almost everyone has a very strong social mask up and it can be hard to reach the real person underneath.  So if things don’t go as planned, don’t beat yourself up about it.  Just leave the unwanted feelings at the club and enjoy what you do have.

When you see every interaction within the club as amusing or an opportunity to “play with others”, you’ll create a magnetic vibe and others will naturally be pulled in towards you.

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: attract women, dating, flirting, seduction

Insider Secrets Revealed – How To Pick Up Women In 4 Easy Steps

By josephmatthews

Having trouble picking up women?

Have no fear!  All you need to do is follow a few simple methods to help you get the woman of your dreams!

Do you want to go out and pick up a woman tonight, but have no clue where to start?

Most of your friends probably don’t know how to pick up women. Your dad probably doesn’t know (and lord knows your mom couldn’t tell you)!

Even the dating “experts” that you see in the media wouldn’t be able to give you the proper tactics on how to pick up women, because if they did -they’d never be able to appear on TV again! (Let’s face it, the mainstream media is extremely feminist and looks down upon anything that could help guys get laid!).

Bottom line: Picking up women is not a politically-correct topic!

You want some practical advice that can really work, that you can start to use right away. Fortunately, you found this article. So let’s get started!

What You DON’T Need

First off – here’s what you DON’T need to pick up women.

You DON’T need to be “male model” good looking.

This is the biggest mistake men make.  You have to realize that close to 85% of women care more about how a man makes them FEEL, rather than how he actually LOOKS. So if you don’t think you’re a very attractive guy, don’t worry! There’s still hope for you.

Next, you DON’T have to drive a fancy car, or spend a lot of money! Quite a few of the best Pickup Artists I’ve ever known spend $30 or less when they go out on dates, and more than one of them doesn’t even own a car!  (And the ones that do don’t drive anything special!)

You’ll find that women can be very forgiving when it comes to how much money you make or spend on them, if they LIKE you! And part of picking up women is to get the girl to like you, right?

Finally, you DON’T have to be famous, be a certain type of ethnicity or nationality, or anything else you can think of. The secret is to have a great personality – this will make any other obstacle you think you have to getting a girl to like you obsolete!  If you know the proper way to interact with women, nothing else matters.

Skyrocket to Success

Unless you’re already on the verge of becoming a master pick up artist, you’re probably not going to have phenomenal success right away using these tips and tactics. But if you apply these and other tactics over a period of time and learn from your experiences, you’ll find your success with women will skyrocket! In order to learn the quickest, you’ll want to go out as often as you can – particularly when you’re first starting.

You don’t have to go to nightclubs or other high-pressure environments to meet women, but they are great “practice grounds” because there are SO MANY women there to meet and talk to. Despite where you choose to go, you need to set aside some time every day to go out and pick up women – you’ll get better the more times you do it! When you’re first starting, you might not have a whole lot of success with the ladies.  But over time, as your experience builds, your confidence will grow.  Every success and failure you have is a learning experience meant to make you better at picking up women.

And Remember…

Remember: The more experience you have, the easier it’ll be.

The most important thing to remember about going out to pick up women is to gain experience! When you do go out to gain this valuable experience with the ladies, try and look as good as you possibly can! (Notice here that I’m not saying you have to be “good looking.”  I’m saying you need to “look good.”  There is a big difference between the two.  You don’t have any say about what you look like, but you DO have a say in your appearance – your hairstyle, the clothes you wear, what cologne you put on, etc.)

Look the Part

Dress for success: Wear clothing that fits you, that’s color-coordinated and looks good on you. If you have fashion-conscious friends who can help you pick out a wardrobe (particularly if they’re women), now’s the time to recruit them. It’s true that you don’t need fancy threads to meet girls, but why not make it easier by wearing nice clothes, why wouldn’t you do it? Besides, looking good will also make you feel more confident!

Be on the lookout for opportunities to do pickup. You can find attractive women just about anywhere. And if you notice that she’s given you the eye, it would almost be a sin not to start talking to her!

The Steps

Finally, every good pick-up follows a structure. Its a series of steps you can actually REPEAT time and time again and get similar results. Here’s the structure:

  1. Find the girl.
  2. Meet her.
  3. Talk and Gain Rapport.
  4. Build Attraction.

These four simple steps is all you need!  You’ll find that if you can just meet the women you want and gain rapport with them, you’ll easily be able to build attraction with them too.

To find out more, sign up for Joseph Matthew’s free Meet Women Secrets newsletter for all the most recent tips and methods for meeting and seducing women.

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: approach women, ask a girl out, confidence, dating, flirting, seduction

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