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How To EASILY Create Attraction Through A Dating Site

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Online dating is a lot like traditional dating. There’s always an occasion where a woman is with the guy because she feels attraction, no matter what he looks like. So how do you create this attraction? There are many different ways, but here are a just a few to get you started.

Being Attractive is Not All That

Let’s face it, in online dating, being attractive is cheap. Why? Because you have a photo and a bunch of text describing yourself, and people judge you based on that. Or rather, they form an impression inside their head based on what they see. Now, we all know that you’re not going to put up a photo that  doesn’t look good, right? Exactly.

The thing is, no matter how closely you resemble your photo, you will still  look slightly different offline. She will either notice this or she will ignore it completely. Here’s why. How attractive you are to the girl you’re meeting up with is going to depend on how much attraction you create. Don’t worry so much about your online dating picture when you ask a girl out.

Be Confident

Don’t use gimmicks when you meet the girl for the first time, use your own confidence. Get a list of pick up lines right now and you’ll see some that are so re-hashed that you KNOW girls have heard them all before. But you know what? Some guys still make these lines work for them. In fact, some guys can simply say  “hello” and they get the women’s attention.

It’s not what you say, but how you  say it. Confidence shows in the way you walk, the tone of voice you use and taking  control of the situation. In other words, instead of letting her decide where you’re  going to go, take control and you make the plans.

Use Humor

Women love funny men. Be funny, make jokes. When I’m with a girl, I always like to people watch. Women love doing this and you can always people watch and make funny comments about what other  people are wearing, how they’re walking or their voices and stuff like that, just between you two.

Remember to keep it light, so that she knows you’re kidding. And most important of all, don’t get all piqued when she turns the tables on you and puts  you at the receiving end of a joke. The best part of being funny is you draw out the funny side of the girl. When you’re laughing together, acting silly and exchanging pokes, you can bet she can feel the connection (and the attraction  for you).

Personality

One thing about a guy that will make a woman turn her head regardless of  how he looks is his personality. And “personality” has something to do with the way you set yourself apart from other men. Most dating tips will tell you to be yourself. This is a staple for a reason. When women finds a man who has a  great personality, they usually say he’s down-to-earth and easy to talk to.

What does these mean? Being down-to-earth simply means you’re not walking on eggshells around her, you’re not making her feel awkward by being awkward, and you’re not asking a question that could put her on edge. You can look her in the eye  and tell her you like her without making it seem like you’re desperate to have her to like you back.

Be a Challenge

Another thing to avoid is kissing her ass. I hate to say it, but women throw out tests. You’ve got to have confidence and bust on them with the fear of rejection. That’s the perfect time to tease a woman. If a woman says, “Do these pants make my ass look  big,” I might turn around and look and say, “Wow, really big. Whoa,” and smile because she knows you’re not being serious.

On the Internet, I might throw out something like, “Listen, I understand you’re not really attractive, guys can’t stand looking at you, they’re completely repulsed  by looking at you, you’re not intelligent and you can’t carry on a conversation, so why are you on the Internet?” I’ll say it in a bit of a humorous way. It’s great because they know that I’m teasing them and I’m not kissing their ass.

How To Use The Search Bar On Dating Sites

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Online dating allows you to weed out dates that you do not have anything in common with. One of the most important skills you will need when you’re inside is how to work the  search function. Here are some things I do to get the most results in the shortest  amount of time.

What’s Your Criteria?

There are a couple of different searches you want to do when online dating. The first thing you want to do is set up a search based on your criteria. For instance, if I’m only looking for girls who are 25 to 35, I’ll put that in my criteria. I’ll be as picky as I want and then I’m just going to save those searches so I can keep  going back to them over and over again every week in search of singles.

Keyword Search

If you’re into certain sports or hobbies and you want somebody who shares that interest, you can search by keyword. On Match.com you can pull up all the women in your area who have that keyword in their profiles. Using this method to meet women is a great way to find the ones that you will have something in common with quickly.

Hit On The Newbies

Do you remember when you were new and you’ve just received a bunch of emails? You’re stoked. You’re excited. You email back ASAP. The women who  join the site are the same. You search “New” members because you want to hit these women fast before a lot of other guys get a chance to e-mail them.  Think about it. If you’re the 800th guy that has e-mailed her, then odds are  she’s probably not going to read your e-mail because she has 799 e-mails in front of you. You have to strike fast if you want a first date. You have to e-mail the “New” members quickly.

Search By Activity Date

A lot of guys don’t do this, but this is one of the most effective ways to ask a girl out. The reason why is because you get to see the women who are actively looking for dates. The women who frequently do searches or browse profiles are hot leads. In a sales background, that’s like somebody coming in to your store or calling up your business and telling you they want to do business
with you.

Hot Leads

The best search that you can do, the one that’s going to get you the highest quality women who are interested is what I call “hot leads.” These are the women who have searched your profile. On Match.com and PlentyOfFish.com, you can actually go into the site and check who has searched you. You want to e-mail these women because these are the women who have checked you out and sometimes they have e-mailed you.

How To Take The Awkwardness Out Of The First Date

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Online dating has become as mainstream as traditional dating over the last couple of years. If you are considering online dating, there are a lot of advantages that you can benefit from. Being able to easily find somebody that you’re interested in that has the same goals in life is essential to building a great relationship.

The problem with online dating lies with the first meeting. Meeting an online date can be awkward and disastrous when not handled properly. However, there are a few things that you can do to make your date go smoothly. Here are a couple of tips to making your first meeting with an online date go well.

Be Specific With The First Date

It’s all too easy to send out a message to get together while missing out on key details for the first date. The last thing that you want to do is show up for the date wearing something inappropriate for the occasion. Whether you’re going out to a nice dinner or just grabbing a drink, make sure that you know exactly what the date is going to entail beforehand.

This can help you avoid the awkward feeling of showing up wearing jeans and a T-shirt when a girl is expecting an elegant night on the town. Be specific whenever you message a potential date to let them know what you intend on doing.

Get REAL Pictures Of Her

Getting pictures of your date is essential to making sure that you are physically attracted to her. Although physical attraction is not everything in dating, physical attraction is important for every relationship. Online dating sites are notorious for having a crop feature. Cropping allows women and men to center the picture on their face. While they might have a pretty face, not being aware of what their body looks like can easily lead to a frustrating and awkward first date.

Make sure that you get pictures of your date and that you are posting pictures of yourself through your own online dating profile. It is never recommended to be deceptive or online dating. If there is anything suspicious about the girl’s profile make sure that you cover all of your bases before you meet her. Meeting a girl that you are not physically attracted to will not lead to a relationship.

Ask The Important Questions

One of the easiest tactics for having online dating success is to ask questions during the initial date. Not only will this allow you to gain further knowledge of the girl, it will also make the time go by faster. Have a few questions in mind before you go on the date so that if the conversation lulls you will be able to easily steer it back without complication. Asking her about her job, education, where she grew up, favorite music and movies are some fairly good staples of first dates.

Getting her to talk about her passions in life will easily help you avoid any awkward moments. Avoid trying to sound like you’re giving her a job interview. No woman wants to be hounded during a first date. Keep it casual and the first date could lead to a second.

Don’t Get Physical Unless Called For

Physicality is important for every relationship. It bridges the gap between friendship and a significant other, but this doesn’t mean you should instantly have sex with her during the first date. If there is clearly chemistry and you feel like you should get physical with her, or that she wants you to, then by all means go ahead. However, trying to go in for the first kiss is usually not recommended as it could lead to a very awkward moment if she turns you down.

Wait at least until the second or third day before you try to kiss her. The reality is that she may not even want to go back out with you. End the date with a hug and skip the kiss. If you get the handshake, you’re probably not going to get a second date.

Don’t Be Awkward During The Date

One of the best tips that anybody can give you is to simply not be awkward. While this may seem like an all too obvious piece of advice, there are ways that you can avoid awkward moments through body language. Smiling as you meet her and maintaining eye contact throughout the date can easily avoid any awkward moments throughout.

If you’re constantly looking away from her, checking the score on the TV behind her or allowing the conversation to dive into awkwardness then you’re asking for trouble. Maintain eye contact throughout the date, smile when she tells you something mildly funny and pretend that you’re having a great time even if you’re not. While this might be a little deceptive, it can get you through the evening and out the door before you know it.

4 Things To Know Before You Email A Girl

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Online dating doesn’t have to be as scary as it seems. Keep these things in mind before you send a message to a woman you’re interested in if you want success!

Your message box is where you’ll be spending most of your time in a dating site because once your profile is set up, all you’re going to be doing is searching for women, e-mailing them and replying to women’s emails.

A lot of guys can’t bridge the gap between talking and writing letters. They try to do things like they do in real life, but unfortunately that doesn’t translate well to the Internet. As a result, they don’t get replies from women and they quit.

Here’s how I was when I started:

I would read these women’s profiles and I thought that every e-mail I would send out was really unique and funny and interesting and everything that I thought she was looking for based on reading her profile. I would spend 15 to 20 minutes on each e-mail and I would send out dozens of these and dozens more.

I would spend hours and hours sending out e-mails thinking I’m going to get a ton of response. Unfortunately, no e-mails came. If you’ve ever been on a dating site and sent off e-mails, this has probably happened to you. It doesn’t take a genius to realize that when you don’t get a response to your e-mail it’s a long way from getting a date and further away than that from having sex with a woman.

Don’t quit. I didn’t, and the patience paid off.

1. Copy The Best

I didn’t know what kind of e-mails I should write that women would respond to. What happened was I would write these long e-mails that would take 15 minutes to write. It would contain all these great things about her online dating profile that I really liked, and what things we have in common. The problem was I would never hear back from these women.

Let’s say you have an account in one of the sites and you got several e-mails coming in from guys who were interested in this woman. You can shut the profile off after a day or two and read through everything that the account received.

Here’s what I do. I would look at the e-mails, take the best ones, tweak them for myself and then send them out. I call this system “Copy the Best,” for obvious reasons. One thing that’s great about this technique is you know what your competition is doing, how they land dates, and how they write good emails.

Of course, it wouldn’t do to just copy. Inject your personality in these emails. It’s the same as writing your own, but now you have some good “email templates” you can use.

2. Watch Your Subject Line

Your subject line is important, obviously, because if you don’t want your mail buried in those 30 to 100 e-mails she has received that day. If you’ve spent a lot of time creating your email, you don’t want it deleted or thrown in an archive unopened. Your subject line plays a crucial role when sending a message to a girl who doesn’t know you yet.

Here are some suggestions on how to write a subject line that gets her curious enough to open your mail:

  • No generic greetings. Whatever you do, never put a generic greeting like “hello” or “hi” on the subject line. What I’ve discovered is that 80% to 90% of the time men send out emails that have “Hi!” or “Hello” as subject lines. To a woman, one message that has this as a subject is like all the rest of the emails she received the past week.
  • Use a cliffhanger. You could say something like, “Hey, I read your profile but….” which will instantly get her thinking “but what?” The element of doubt at the end of the subject line will get her clicking to find out what you mean with “but.”
  • Use subjects that the dating site sends you. You’re going to notice that every dating site that you sign up to will have their own e-mails they send you. You know what these are – “you have mail,” or “your newest match.” One of my favorite subject lines is, “This member might be interested in you…” That subject line right there is one of the best ever, especially if you get a woman who checks you out or winks at you.
  • Include her name. Look at her profile and figure out if she’s using her first name or an alias. If she uses her name in the profile, you can definitely use that in the subject line.
  • Use “Re:” What this does is creates curiosity like they might have already e-mailed or spoken to you. Remember, because they’re getting e-mailed so many times per day, they might not even remember if they did or didn’t.
  • If she sent you a wink and you want to e-mail her back, you can use a subject line that says “this member is also interested in you.” Or, you can say “thanks for the wink. I’m looking forward to your e-mail.”

3. Take Note of Patterns

What you do next is set up different two different e-mails, maybe you have one of your own, maybe you have an idea for something you think is going to work. So take two of them and start sending out mail to the different women.

Divide it up. If you send out 20 emails, send 10 from one address and 10 from the other.

What you’ll discover is one of these is going to get more responses than the other. Once you have the “winner” (basically the email address that gets more replies), start carpet bombing the whole site because then you have an e-mail that produces great results.

There’s another thing that happens when you use only one email. You’re going to burn through your list of “possible dates” (meaning, these girls live nearby and there’s a big chance that you can meet ASAP) if you send mail from only one address. This means if the girl did not reply, or she deleted your first mail, you’re not going to get a chance to e-mail again.

So, use separate emails and test them out.

4. The Best Day To Send Emails

If there’s a “good time to call,” there’s also a “good time to send emails.” I kept track of the emails that got the best responses, and guess what? There are three days in a week that worked better for sending out e-mails. Those three days are Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

Why Friday, Saturday and Sunday?

Friday in the late afternoon, anywhere from 2:00 to 5:00 pm is an ideal window for you to send out your e-mails. This day, for a lot of people, is just a slack. Maybe some industries aren’t that busy and maybe some people just slack off in the later part of the day. On this day, a lot of women will be on the Internet checking their emails, just basically waiting until they get out of there so they can go home.

Send out your mail on a Saturday morning from about 10:00 am to 1:00 pm.

These girls go out on Friday night and they’re looking to meet somebody but most of the time, they don’t. The guys they want to meet don’t go up and approach them. If they do, it’s using some corny pick-up line that just doesn’t work. The frustrated women wake up on a Saturday and check their e-mails like normal people do on a Saturday morning and poof! There’s your e-mail.

For the same reason, Sunday morning to mid-afternoon from 10:00 am to 2:00 pm is ideal for sending out emails. Let’s suppose these ladies went out on Saturday night and didn’t meet anyone. That’s two days in a row and you can bet they’re feeling a bit more frustrated. Finding your email at that point would be most welcome!

What You Need To Know About Social Media Dating

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Online dating usually involves using special websites – but can you utilize dating tips for popular social media sites such as Facebook?

I had a lot of guys interested in online dating asking me when MySpace was hot, “How do I meet women on MySpace?” Now that Facebook is hot, it’s “How do I meet women on Facebook?”

The reality is I use online social networking sites for that—social networking. Not online dating. I use them to build up a connection with just guys and girls for when I want to throw parties. I don’t really use these sites exclusively for dating because when I’m on Match.com and PlentyOfFish.com I meet more women who are on the lookout for dates.

Why Social Media Sites Aren’t Your Best Option

The other thing is I always look for is the low-hanging fruit, the path of least resistance. What does this mean? A woman on a social network is there because everyone else is. It’s free. She doesn’t have to pay a membership fee to put up a profile and idly browse her friends list for photos or anything else that might interest her. On the other hand, a woman who’s paying $25 a month to receive e-mails from guys is definitely looking to date. Who do you think will be more receptive to my advances? The second one, obviously.

“But Dave, I REALLY want to date girls on Facebook and MySpace!” Alright, I hear you. And, I can’t say I haven’t tried it. In fact, I got dates through social networks frequently enough to develop a good strategy for it.

Social Media vs. Online Dating Websites

The big difference between these sites and dating sites is they’re not really traditional dating sites, so some of the rules don’t apply. For example, a good-looking girl on Facebook may not be looking for a boyfriend right now, which means she might freak or “unfriend” you if you try to pick her up the way you would in a traditional dating site. The trick: be discreet.

A lot of women are on social networks and they might want to meet guys. However, they’re not going to blatantly come out and say, “I’m on here to date somebody!” You have to play the same game. When you’re emailing these women, and when you build your profile, be mindful not to be too obvious that you’re on there for hooking up.

How To Structure Your Profile

On your profile, remove anything that has to do with dating, and basically just talk about yourself—things you’re into and how great life is, etc.

Have some pictures of you and your friends. That’s what is important. If you just remove all the romantic stuff and all the needy type of stuff, you’ll do just fine with that.

Keep your profile description very short. Keep your e-mails friendly, but short. Here’s why. You don’t want to come off like you’re trying to pick them up initially.

One thing that works really well on social media websites is requesting to be included in a girl’s friends list before you e-mail her. This way, she’ll check out your profile first. Once you e-mail her a day later, she will already be a little bit more familiar with you so you’ll have a much better response.