Love & Sex Answers

Today's #1 Love & Sex Resource

You are here: Home / Archives for Sex Positions / Best Sex Positions For...

How To Choose The Right Sex Positions

By

Sex positions can definitely spice up your sex life, but how do you choose the right ones when there are so many different options? Find out now!

Who hasn’t heard of the Kama Sutra? The Perfumed Garden or The Tao? These ancient love texts exhibit the various ways a couple may entangle themselves at play. And no, they are not porn.

Getting into various sexual arrangements can spice up a sleepy erotic existence, in addition to being a good way to discover each other’s hidden talents. Guys will always want to test the limits of a woman’s flexibility, leg power and skull strength.

But do not assume that the more Evil Knievel-ish the poses, for the lady, the hotter the sex is. While experimenting is good, it should be tempered by common sense so nobody ends up in the emergency room in the middle of the night. Getting into acts hazardous to your health is insane, your choice of sexual positions shouldn’t constitute acts of stupidity, as if you’re out to prove anything.

People will have different takes on plow positions, depending on their tastes; one will be preferred over the others. The following are the five things you should factor into choosing your sex positions.

1. Movement

Men will always favor situations that allow for thrusting with reckless abandon. (We will discuss later what these positions are.) Certain arrangements allow for excellent movement and mobility, others, not so much. In fact, some greatly restrain movement it will seem that your partner has you on a body lock.

2. Accessibility

This refers to manual and visual accessibility to a woman. Some thrusting positions free a hand or two, allowing them to wander into other territories. (As you may already know, a great deal of these free hands end up at the breasts.) Others require both arms for balance & stability for the stroke.

Men love to ogle the goodies as they pound away. Bouncing breasts, moaning faces, and of course, tight behinds are winners. But because the body is profiled a certain way, manual and visual access to these may not be available all at the same time. Woman-on-top for example, makes the face and breast visually and manually accessible, but it leaves her buttocks hidden from view. In a way, there’s a Catch-22 going on.

Very notable height discrepancies between couples can make for some uncomfortable sexual positions. A giant and a dwarf, on the same bed, will have issues with alignment and reach. The ideal is for both to be of the same height and weight categories. The good thing though is that significant height and weight discrepancies among couples are not very common.

3. Stress & Strain

During the sexual tumble, muscles and bones do receive reasonable stress. This is again a question of health, conditioning and medical conditions. Your options for positions will greatly depend on what both your bodies can do COMFORTABLY.

Sex can be lethal. If you’re a couple of 120-year olds still getting some action, there will be positions your soon-to-be bereaved family will strongly advise against. You’ll be better off with more relaxed and more subdued sexual maneuvers.

There are positions that overly strain your back, hips, neck or legs.

You will instantly know what these are because your body will be screaming, “Are you kidding me?!” Others are borderline acrobatic and will drain the joy from the act.

Why engage in those non-practical positions anyway? But if you’re young, healthy and able, you have a lot going for you – there’s POWER OF CHOICE in that.

4. Orgasm Potential

Sexual positions have different clitoris and G-spot potential – some target them perfectly, others render them next to useless.

To increase your hit rate, recall the locations of these two: (1) the clit is located OUTSIDE the vagina – safely nestled under a hood ABOVE the vaginal entrance where the Labia minoras meet. It gets off on friction & pressure. The G-spot on the other hand can be excited INSIDE, through the TOP wall of the vagina.

There are choice arrangements that fire up these areas and offer intense pleasure, eventually leading to a cussing climax. We will soon determine what these are, but men who generally consider themselves givers… already know.

5. Emotional & Psychological Effect

It’s interesting to note that the manner in which two bodies are configured has psychological and emotional bearings on the participants. The partner on top for example, will oftentimes experience the sense of power and leadership, by virtue of playing the dominant role. The one at the bottom can express trust and safe-vulnerability by being led and taking on a more tempered role.

There are positions that signal adventurous excitement and creativity, others, raw passion and unfettered intensity. Through tons of friction and closeness for example, certain positions enhance the feeling of intimacy between two naked bodies. Still, there are arrangements that strike a woman she’s merely being treated as a sexual object.

4 HOT Advanced Sex Positions

By

Sex positions can make a dull sex life incredible all over again! Here are four advanced sex positions for you to try TONIGHT to turn the heat UP!

1. Side By Side Position 1

If you’ve never tried having sex in a side-by-side position, then now is the time. Many couples find these positions are not only conducive to orgasms but it also allows for more physical contact and a mutual feeling of closeness which, let’s be honest, you want to feel with a special partner. With this first example, you and your partner must lie on your sides facing each other. You’ll need to be as close as possible. Also, make sure that your feet are facing your headboard. The sturdy surface will act as a brace for you when things get really hot.

Now gently lift your partner’s top leg in the air and slide inside her before placing her leg over yours. She should wrap her leg around you to give you more leverage during penetration. This way the two of you can work together to set a rhythm pleasing to both of your bodies while you also continue some heavy foreplay.

2. Side By Side Position 2

Here’s another way you can enjoy the side-by-side position while helping your partner reach orgasm. This time you won’t be facing each other. Instead, you’ll be on your side behind her. In order to penetrate her, you may need to raise her upper leg a little. Once you are inside and have found a steady thrusting rhythm you should gently lean her backward so she is almost lying on top of you.

Now while you are still thrusting in and out of her vagina, use your hand or a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris.

3. Grinding

When women masturbate with their fingers, they often rub their clitoris using circular movements. Since you know that, you should attempt to use similar circular motions during penetration. To do this, you need to grind into your partner the way you would if you were doing some erotic dancing. Move your hips in a circular motion and make sure that you are pressing against her groin area. The combination of your movement and the pressure on the area will stimulate her clitoris and bring her to orgasm.

4. Alphabet Position

If your partner is more comfortable with the missionary position, but she is still having trouble reaching orgasm, then this position may help. Again, she should be lying on her back, preferably on the floor or a large comfortable bed. You’ll spread out across her on your side, perpendicularly so that the two of you resemble a lowercase “T.”

Place her legs over your body or have one of them hanging off the bed, whichever is most comfortable, and slide your penis inside of her. At the same time you penetrate her, begin using your finger to gently massage her clitoris. Try to mimic the intensity of penetration with your clitoral stimulation. For example, if you’re doing a slow grind, use slow circular motions to stimulate the clitoris.

5 Great Sex Positions If You Want To Pull Out

By

Sex positions for pulling out can be handy if you don’t want to ejaculate inside of your partner. Here are five that you definitely should know about!

Pulling out is a essential if your girlfriend or wife is not on the pill and you’re trying to prevent pregnancy but aren’t at risk for STD’s. Although pulling out is not a 100% effective method of birth control, new studies show that it’s on par with condoms.

If you are worried about getting her pregnant, there are a few ways that you can avoid an orgasm inside of her, but have it be hot. A lot of guys don’t like to pull out, even with a condom on, but pulling out can lead some very kinky fun. Having your girlfriend finish you off her in her mouth or masturbate you to orgasm can be a nice change of pace. Here are the top five sex positions for if you want to pull out.

1. Missionary

By far the easiest sex position for pulling out is missionary. While mission can be seen as very boring by the sexually elite, there are a lot of couples that love the intimacy that comes with this position. Add to the fact that this is an excellent position for pulling out and we have a winner.

When you are having sex in missionary position, your girlfriend or wife will have access to your penis. This means that they can reach your penis when you start to orgasm. Other sex positions do not give you this access. Once you feel your orgasm coming up, she can either masturbate you or you can move up so can perform oral sex during your climax.

2. Doggy Style

Doggy style is another position that will like if you need to pull out. Doggy style allows you to get away from her faster if she doesn’t want your semen all over her body. Some girls think that it’s kinky to have you orgasm all over their butt, breasts or even their face. If your girl isn’t into this, doggy style can give them a chance to get out of the way while you climax into a towel or something else. If you want your girl to masturbate you or give you oral sex during your climax, she can simply turn around.

3. Girl On Top (Facing You)

Girl on top is another sex position that you can utilize if you want to pull out. When the girl is on top, she has access to your penis at any time. This is a great position for giving her more control during sex. She will be able to control the amount of penetration and the amount of movement.

Once you give her the signal, she can either start to give you oral sex or she can jerk you off while your having the orgasm. Girl on top can also set you up for climaxing into a towel if your girl doesn’t want any of your semen on her. This is one of the best sex positions for her to give you oral sex during your orgasm because she can just hop off and go to town.

4. Spooning

While spooning is typically used for intimacy after sex, spooning is a great position for pulling out during sex. Line up for the spoon and enter your girlfriend. This sex position allows you to enter her at an angle for better penetration and for massaging her g-spot.

This is also a great position for kissing her neck and massaging her breasts during sex. When you start to feel your orgasm coming, you can pull out and she can masturbate your penis while you climax. Be sure to have a towel handy or you can orgasm onto her pelvis area.

5. Reverse Cowgirl

Reverse cowgirl is a great position for your girl to take control. This can also be a pretty good position for pulling out. Have the girl sit on top of you facing away. Enter her and allow her to take control of the sex. She will be moving up and down and probably grinding on your penis.

When you start to feel the orgasm coming, Slide back and pull your penis out of her vagina. You will probably have to finish yourself off as this doesn’t leave much choice for her to finish you off. She will either have to turn around or reach back, leaving her in an awkward position. This isn’t the greatest position for pulling out, but it can still work.

Pulling out is not a fool proof method of preventing pregnancy. However, consider pulling out even when using a condom or other contraception to ensure that you don’t have any surprises. These 5 sex positions will surely give you just as much pleasure as staying in when you have an orgasm.

6 Side By Side Sex Positions That Will Leave Her Breathless

By

Sex positions will ramp up your sex life in ways you never thought possible! Try these killer “cuddle” sex positions that your girl will absolutely LOVE!

Sideways sex positions are more of a hybrid than a category of positions in their own right; they offer all the benefits of rear-entry without the physical taxation that most partners experience doing it doggy style. Side-by-side sex also offers unique angles for penetration and usually a strong G-Spot aspect, all of which are beneficial to your gal’s bottom line. The perfect time to try a sideways sex position is when either (or both) of you need a bit of a relaxing sex session, or have exhausted yourself before reaching the Big O.

1. Three Quarter Cross

Lie your partner down on her side with her hand supporting her head. Bend her knees and get her to lift one of her legs. Lie on your side and squeeze in between her legs so that your bodies form a T. Put yourself into her, and lean forward slightly. Hold onto her hip for support and thrust into her. She can move her upper leg to determine how much you can penetrate, and it’ll be easier for you if you use her upper leg to prop yourself up.

CLIMAX CUE

Both of your hands are free to play with her breasts or clitoris, so move around to make sure it’s comfy for you both before going to town. Your legs are also in a prime position to rub up against her mons pubis and clitoral hood, and she can tilt her groin towards you to increase the pressure. Because this is an easy position for both of you to perform, use it when she knows it might be a while for her to orgasm, or when either of you are in the mood for a long, languorous love session.

2. Just Chillin’

You’ll need a bench or the side of the bed for this position. Have your lover lie down on one side with her legs bent, right at the side of the bed or bench. Get her to raise up her top leg so her knee points toward the ceiling, and put your whole body in the hole her legs create. Put your outside leg on the ground and place your other leg on the bench or bed. Hook her leg in the air with your elbow and pull it tight in to your body before entering her. You can move by pushing with your legs or moving her captured leg under your arm, and she can rotate her hips or clench her buttocks for some extra tension.

CLIMAX CUE

Even while moving your penis inside your partner, you’ll still be closely connected in the most intimate of ways. This is a really snug position where clitoral contact is almost constant but it is definitely more of a grinding movement than a thrust. You can put a bit of power behind the movement if you like, really pushing her up and down along your penis, which will thrill many women immensely. Just make sure that your pubic bone is in constant contact with her mons pubis and labia, and you’ll be well poised for the kind of stimulation she’ll need for orgasm.

3. Leg Up On The Competition

Start with your partner on her side with her knee on top bent to face the ceiling. Have her grab onto the ankle of her bent leg for support. Lie down on top or beside your partner, depending on how your bodies line up, then hook your top leg over her bent leg and put your foot on the ground for support. Leave your other leg straight, and line it up with your partner’s outstretched limb, perhaps intertwining your legs if you so desire.

Put your hands above her head to use as leverage. In this position, you can move as you would if you were in missionary position, just at a slightly different angle. You have full control over the depth of penetration and the speed in which you do it in this position, so mix it up a little!

CLIMAX CUE

There’s a lot of depth to this position, and she’s wide open for the taking. You are raised up higher than you normally would be in plain ole missionary style, so you will be hitting her clitoris exactly where she needs it. She can control the angle of penetration by rolling from side to side and taking you along for the ride.

4. The Figure Eight Mambo

Your partner lies on her side with her knees bent, her ankles touching and her legs parted as wide as she can. Have her prop herself up on the arm beneath her. Lie down in front of her on your side and face her feet. Slowly move forward until she has to open her legs even more to accommodate your body, and your pelvic areas meet. Get her to wrap her legs around you, and do the same to her. Insert yourself into her. You may have to move down her body somewhat, press your penis down, and have her tilt her bum toward the ceiling to fit. Either of you can move by pushing forward, backward, or to either side.

HOW TO GET HER TO ORGASM USING THIS POSITION

The magic of this position, as with most sideways positions, is in the tilting of her body. She can rock back and forth to find the perfect angle, and you can thrust away while she’s looking. Both your hands are free to play with buttocks, nipples and other sexy parts, and you’ve both got a great view of the action. She can also grind herself on your leg or tuck her hips up for more clitoral stimulation.

5. Scissors

Lie down next to each other, with your feet at each other’s head. Have her spread her legs with her knees bent, and squirm your way over so that one leg is underneath her lower leg, and the other lies between her parted thighs. Join together by entering her, and hold onto her knee which should end up around your armpit or mid-torso so you can push against her. Her leverage comes from planting her body into the bed, and holding onto your bent leg closest to her. Move by pulling on her leg, pushing with your hips, or opening and closing her legs.

CLIMAX CUE

Quite a few of these sex positions look a lot more complex than they really are, and this is one pays off in spades, if you just give it a try. When you push your upper thigh down, you will rub up against her pleasure palace. Grinding and shallow movements are the name of the game, and the highly unusual angle offers some amazing sensations. She can easily play with herself as well, or move around to ensure she’s getting the clitoral stimulation required for orgasm, and can even make eye contact with she really wants to feel connected.

6. Reverse Snuggle

Lay down on your side with your body straight and legs together. Have her lay down next to you, facing away and also on her side, with her head at your feet and her buttocks pressed firmly into your crotch. Enter her from behind, asking her to move further down your body and tilt her bum towards her belly button if you have a hard time entering her. Move with either her pushing back against you, or you pushing into her.

CLIMAX CUE

It’ll be a tight squeeze getting into position, but one well worth trying out. With her legs held together, you’ll both feel every inch of one another, and there are few positions like this one for G-Spot play because your penis will push right up inside where it needs to be. Both of you can reach over and play with her clitoris, and she can also get some breast stimulation if she chooses to masturbate. Either of you can control how fast sex propels her toward orgasm, all without anyone expending too much effort to get there.

5 Red Hot Rear Entry Sex Positions

By

Sex positions are fun to play around with and many guys love rear entry sex positions. Here are five that are so hot, you’ll have to take a cold shower!

1. Rear In The Air

The rear entry position has long been heralded as one of the best positions to use to help a woman reach orgasm. However, you need to know the right positions to achieve maximum effectiveness. Here’s one way. Have your partner get in the “doggy style” position on the bed. You stand behind her.

Now before you begin, ask her to lower her top half and rise up her bottom so that her back is arched. When she’s comfortable, you can commence with penetration. In this position, you should be able to stimulate her G-spot (another sensitive area on a woman), plus you can reach below her and use your hand to massage her clitoris.

2. Fun In The Tub

If your foreplay began with you giving your partner a bath, then this may be a good way to take it to the next level when she’s ready. Keep the tub partially filled with warm water (and bubbles if you like). Your partner gets into the tub first and kneels down. She should be close to the faucet so you have plenty of room behind her.

When you get into the tub, you’ll kneel down behind her and penetrate her from behind. As you’re both enjoying this, you can use a showerhead to direct a stream of water directly on her clitoris or you can use a waterproof vibrator to stimulate her. Either method will work wonders, particularly if she has enjoyed masturbating in the tub before.

3. The Leg Clench

While most rear entry positions require the “doggy style” position, this one does not. In fact, if your partner is partial to the missionary position, this may be a good one to try. Your partner stretches out on the bed face down while you straddle her body from behind.

Once you’re deep inside her, ask her to clench her legs together and cross her ankles. This position will keep your bodies close together, which many women enjoy. Plus, she can add even greater pleasure for herself by clenching and unclenching her PC muscle in time with your thrusts. Another benefit of this position is that if you have difficulty preventing yourself from ejaculating before your partner climaxes this technique will slow you down and can buy you some extra time.

4. She’s In Control

One of the most erotic things for a woman to experience sometimes is being in complete control of the sex act during a session. This position can make that possible. In this technique, you sit down on the bed with your legs straight out in front of you. Your partner lowers herself down onto your penis by straddling your legs and facing away from you. You do not move; you allow her to move in the anyway she wants and to set her own rhythm. This gives her more control so she can determine what feels the best for her while you enjoy the view from your end.

5. One Leg Lifted

Women do tend to enjoy this particular position more than others in the “doggy style” category, so it’s definitely one you’ll want to try out. As usual, your partner will be down on all fours. However, one of her legs should be lifted up at angle. Since this position is difficult to hold for long, you should assist her by sliding some soft pillows under leg to prop it up. Instead of penetrating from straight on, you’ll want to position yourself at an angle to her body.

Now slowly insert your penis into her vagina all the way. Don’t stop until your testicles brush against her bottom. Just as slowly, pull it out and repeat. You can speed up a little, but the idea with this technique is to use long, slow strokes. The deeper penetration gives you a better chance of stimulating her clitoris and/or her G-spot, plus most men get off on watching their penis slide inside their partners. Maybe it’s a little like watching a self-made adult movie.