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5 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life!

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So many couples think about hot sex all the time, but when it comes to the big show, they are total duds in bed. If your partner is rolling their eyes every time you try to please, you need to handle the problem quickly. If you have heard from your partner that they are bored and tired of the “same old sex”, it’s probably time to step out of your comfort zone. Here are 5 ways to spice up your sex life!

Live Out Your Fantasies

Everybody has fantasies. If you find yourself in a sexual rut, consider living out a few of your fantasies to get your juices flowing again. Talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies before you just “go for it”. We all like different things and some of your fantasies might not mesh too well with your partner. Be open and honest about your fantasies. There is no reason to only do it at 50%. More than likely, your partner wants you to share your fantasies – so talk to them.

Be Spontaneous

Spontaneous sex is an easy way to spice up your sex life. There are so many couples out there that do it on the same day at the same hour every week for years.  It’s all about shaking thing up and when you’re following the same schedule every week for years it’s bound to put you to sleep. Turn your sex life upside down by getting more spontaneous. Meet your partner for a nooner or wake up an hour early for morning sex before work. There are tons of ways that you can become more spontaneous in your sex life.

Extend Foreplay

Foreplay is another great way to increase both your sexual pleasure. So many guys try to skip out on foreplay and get right to sex. Remember that sex is always half and half. You give a little and you get a little. She will be far more willing to have sex with you, when she’s as turned on as you are! There should always be compromise during sex, but when you’re in a long-term relationship it’s hard to not go through the same sequence of events every time. Women love foreplay just as much as sex so it’s important to remember that the kisses and the licking have as much of an effect as thrusting away at her – maybe even more. Extend your foreplay and you will discover exactly how creative you can be with 10-20 extra minutes to get the juices flowing.

Try New Sex Positions

Sex positions are an often over-looked way to spice things up. Couples tend to rely on a few different positions that seem to work. Missionary, doggy, girl on top and the spoon are the most common, but they don’t exactly spell out excitement after 3-4 years. If you’re looking for a quick way to add variety to your sex life, consider some lesser-known sex positions. Try a new sex position every week, or every day if you’re feeling really adventurous. Being truly sexy is about embracing the unknown and a new batch of sex positions could be the answer you’re looking for.

Get Out Of The Bedroom

The bedroom is the most common place for couples to have sex. Because of it’s comfort and familiarity, the bedroom can quickly become the most boring place for you and your partner to have sex. Taking your sexual activities out of the bedroom is a great idea to add some spice to your sex life. Try having sex in a different room or in a different building all together if you want to breath new life into your carnal activities. Make a pact with your partner to have sex at least once a week in a different room. Make it a game to try to find a new place to do it every time. A lot of couples find that after having sex in a new room they feel closer and more playful.

Hot Sex Positions For A Handjob

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A handjob can actually be a sexy thing to give to your partner. Here are some fun sex positions to try when you want to give your partner some manual love.

It’s important to find a comfortable place for both you and your partner before embarking on a handjob. How do you know what is the right position? Experiment! You and your partner should work with different positions until you both find something comfortable.

Facing Each Other

He’ll love to see the look on your face as you play with his cock. Look at his member like you are actually in love with it, that it is beautiful and wonderful (it really is one of the most amazing parts of the anatomy). You enjoying the sight and feel of his penis will be a huge turn on for him.

Traditional Kneeling

Kneel in front of your partner while he is sitting in a chair or on the edge of the bed (like fellatio).

The “Movie Theater” Handjob

Sit side by side on the couch or the bed (or other surface). If you reach over while he’s watching TV or a movie and jerk him off it will be one of his fantasies coming true.

Relaxation To The Max

Sit in between your partner’s legs while he is lying down. This is great for him as he can completely relax.

Backwards Handjob

Sit beside your partner but lean over in a way that you are facing his feet

Doggy Style

You can be either under him while he is in the position – or to the side of him. Or have him spread his legs wide in this position and you can be behind him and grab his goodies from between his legs. It is a great angle for you to touch and tease and play with his ball sac – which is extremely erotic for almost all men.

On Your Knees

Kneel while your partner is standing. This position is often used in combination with a blowjob but it can be used solely for a handjob.

Lying Down

Lie beside your partner. If you undress, he’ll be able to play with your breasts and you can even kiss while you stroke.

Road Job

Try this while driving down the road (the recipient should NOT be the one behind the wheel!) or in your car at the drive in theater. Splurge for a limo with a privacy screen and make another fantasy come true.

Fun In The Tub

Have him sit on the edge of the bathtub – feet in the water, while you are in the tub stroking him like a mermaid.

Extra Hands

Stand with your partner facing away from you (this is particularly fun if you slip up behind him, rubbing on him, then reach around and unzip his pants — never let him turn around — but work him to where he looks down and only sees your hand while the rest of your body is pressed into his). He will have a free hand to reach around and explore between your legs without actually “seeing” you.

Women love this position because it can also be used with the surprise “sneak into the shower and give him a handjob when he least expects it” act. Soap or shampoo on your hands will feel amazing to him when you try this move. Although if soap or shampoo get inside his penis it can burn like the dickens, and will continue every time he pees for the next few days. So, if you use soap or shampoo just stay away from his penis head. He’ll love the slippery suds on his shaft, balls and between his legs. A safer alternative is silicone lube.

This is probably one of the best positions for bringing your guy to orgasm because if you are behind him your strokes and motions will be closer to how he has stroked himself to orgasm over the years. Guys who frequently masturbate actually train their penis to come more easily with particular strokes or patterns.

How To Tell If He’s Enjoying It

As long as you and your partner keep an open mind and keep the lines of communication open, you are likely to find several genital massage positions that work well for you. Just make sure to communicate! If something is not working for either you or your partner, it is important that you speak up about it and let the other know immediately! As long as you do so in a kind and gentle manner, no one will get offended by it. This applies to all aspects of giving a handjob (not just the positioning).

Just because he is not having an orgasm in a certain handjob position does not mean he is not thoroughly enjoying it. In fact, learn what positions and techniques feel great to him but do not take him over the top. You’ll want to use those when it is your desire to give him an extended hand job or if you are using a hand job as foreplay and want to climax with intercourse.

4 Incredibly Naughty Rear Entry Sex Positions

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Sex positions are a great way to spice up your sex life. If you want to add a naughty element, try these 4 super hot rear entry sex positions tonight!

1. The Partial Wheelbarrow

Ask your partner to bend at the waist in front of a chair or bed, and get her to rest her head and forearms there comfortably. Stand behind her and grab onto one of her ankles, pulling her leg off the floor so that it’s close to your hip. Tell her to keep her knee bent and limp in your hand, so that you can push against it when thrusting so as not to hurt her. Then enter her from behind, making sure she’s still got one foot on the floor and she’s using her head and arms to balance herself. Put your free hand on her opposite hip, and move inside her using her hips as the pivot point.

Climax Cue

You get to thrust to your heart’s content and get an amazing view of her jewels, while she gets the head rush of being face down, with all the G-Spot stimulation she craves. She can also create a lot of tension using her arms, and the angle from keeping one leg up in the air changes the feeling in an oh-so-orgasmic way. Vary things up a bit by bending your knees slightly for a slightly different angle. Whoever is able to reach can tickle her clitoris for extra sensory pleasure.

2. The Rocking Wheelbarrow

Get your gal into a push up position with her arms outstretched and her body off the ground. While standing behind her, lift one of her legs onto a rocking chair, while you hold her other bent leg just below the knee. Ask her to keep the leg on the chair as straight as possible while you enter her. She’ll be able to push back against the rocking chair for leverage, and you’ll be able to hold most of her weight. Use the chair to determine the rhythm, or have her push back with her arms and chair-bound foot. You’ll definitely want to have your knees bent for this position, and try to focus your thrusting upwards instead of into her body.

Climax Cue

We’re relying on her feeling of weightlessness again to help her along the orgasmic process, but this time she’s got a bit of extra help with the rocking chair. The chair helps with rhythm, helping to hold her steady while you have sex, and gives her something to help create tension, which we both know is incredibly important for a woman to reach an impending orgasm. Although she won’t be able to finger herself, she will get ample G-Spot stimulation along with a definite fun factor. This isn’t a position either of you will be able to hold for long, so try it out when she’s nearing her explosion stage, or when you’ve both got energy to spare.

3. Flying Doggy Style

Have your lover lie down on her stomach and do a push up, keeping her body straight and her legs bent. Come up behind her on your knees and grip her outer thighs as you slide into her. As you lift her pelvis, get her to wrap her legs around your back, while bending her knees even more and putting her calves behind your lower back or buttocks. If she’s in the correct position, her feet will face the ceiling and her bum will be flush up against the base of your penis. Support her weight with your hands, or place a large stack of pillows under her hips to help keep her in the right position  Glide your bodies back and forth in unison, but not too vigorously or she’ll lose her balance. The higher you’re able to hold her up off the bed, the more G-Spot stimulation she’ll receive.

Climax Cue

There’s nothing like doggy style sex for deep penetration, but the flying doggy takes deep to a whole new level. Play around with how you move inside of her, since only subtle movements are possible here. Try short, quick strokes to massage the area where her G-Spot sits, or try long, slow, languishing strokes where she uses her feet to pull you back inside of her. If she gets tired as she nears climax, have her tilt her head down while she props herself up on her forearms. This way she’ll still be suspended in air, but she’ll have better balance and less back strain.

4. Over And Under

Have your partner position herself in doggy position on the floor with a small table, chair or even a few pillows next to one of her legs. Get her to put one leg up on the support next to her, so that her leg is perpendicular to the floor and completely straight. Come at her from behind, placing one of your legs inside hers, the other outside her straight and propped-up leg. Kneel down with the majority of your weight between her legs and enter her. Your leg on the outside will likely only drape over hers without touching the ground, and that’s just what you want.

Climax Cue

You’re coming at her from an odd angle in this position, yet both partners have leverage to push back or thrust deeper. You’ll be a little off balance too, which might give her a rush from the unusual rhythm and thrusting, especially if she’s nearing the pre-orgasm phase. Because your body is propped up against the length of hers, you may be able to take one of your hands and sneak it underneath her for some clitoral action. If you can’t reach around, try pushing firmly on her mons pubis and see if you can feel your penis moving inside her. If you can, apply more pressure to sandwich those special G-Spot area nerve endings, and see if it brings her closer to orgasm even faster.

4 Super Hot Standing Sex Positions

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Standing sex positions can be incredibly sexy if you know how to pull them off. Here are four super hot standing sex positions you can use tonight!

Standing Sex Position #1

Although rear entry is often a good method for helping your partner orgasm, not all women are comfortable being in the “doggy-style” position. A variation of that position can be done while standing, which is particularly useful for unusual locations, such as public bathrooms, or right after coming home from an evening out. You stand behind your partner while she is bent over slightly, and then penetrate from the rear. The best thing about this position is that you can lovingly reach around her and stroke her clitoris while you’re penetrating her from behind.

Standing Sex Position #2

Both partners don’t have to be standing for deep penetration to occur. If you want to try something a little more interesting, then this technique may be a good one. You’ll need a sturdy bar stool (which can be inexpensively purchased almost anywhere if you don’t already have one). Have your partner slide onto the stool while you stand completely naked in front of her. If you’re still working on foreplay, this is a good way to add in some heavy kissing and stroking.

While you maintain those positions, you’ll slide your penis inside her. Not only does this provide enjoyable penetration for both of you, but you’ll be able to continue the foreplay more easily than with most methods because you’ll still be facing one another and you’ll be very close together.

Standing Sex Position #3

Some couples are surprised at how many ways they can have sex in a standing position. The great thing about these  positions is not only that they can help your partner achieve a strong orgasm, but they also can seem more naughty and dangerous to your partner. We’ll talk more about this a little later in the chapter. With this particular variation, you’ll stand behind your partner while she is bending over, almost as if she’s trying to touch her toes. While she’s bent over, you’ll be in the perfect position for penetration and for stimulating her G-spot. What’s even better is that this position can be used almost anywhere.

Standing Sex Position #4

Here is another interesting idea with this type of position, particularly if your partner has a police officer fantasy. In this position, your partner faces a wall and spreads herself out as if she was about to be searched by a police officer. You come behind her for penetration. While you’re in the middle of the fun, you can always pretend to be the arresting officer who finds a new way to punish or pleasure the person in his custody.

Why Missionary Can Be Incredibly Sexy!

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Sure, missionary is the most commonly used sex position, but it doesn’t have to be boring or “ho hum.” Here’s why missionary can be super HOT!

Of course missionary is by far, is the most commonly used sex position. You can rest assured that the missionary has undergone rigorous field tests by billions of couples in the several thousand years of human history. It has survived the test of time because it works!

Movement During Missionary

During missionary the guy’s pelvis is relatively free to thrust in and out of the vagina. On top, he has more authority on the speed, power, rhythm, angle and depth of the strokes. And because his pelvis is unfettered, he can easily work on his orgasm as well as grind circles on her vulva.

(But depending on the position of a woman’s legs, there can be variations that encumber thrusting and limit pelvic freedom. When she wraps her ankles very tightly around him for example, or when she squeezes his waist with her thighs.)

Accessibility

A man can easily doodle on his lover’s chest during penetration. Her buttocks, on the other hand, may just be contented with manual caresses as it won’t easily be available for ocular inspection unless she turns sideways or raises her legs and pelvis so high that it begins to show. (That’s talent, by the way!)

Glaring height discrepancies usually bring up kissing-while-stroking issues. But really, this doesn’t happen very often. However, weight can be a major issue. Don’t lunge a huge body mass on a woman and expect her to be breathing when you’re done. Now, if you’re on the heavier side and can’t possibly carry your own bulk, consider less strenuous sexual configurations.

Since you are expected to support yourself, the stress and strain will be focused on your arms, legs and back. If you’re not reasonably healthy, this shouldn’t even be on the agenda.

Her Orgasm

Missionary can be efficient in stimulating the clitoris IF you angle your strokes and allow your pubic bone (where the pubic hair is) to rub her clitoral area. Continuous Clitoris Contact (CCC) is critical since thrusting is often not enough for her to climax.

In missionary, man experiences a sense of control, power and domination over a woman. Since he has control of virtually every element, he enjoys the authority to lead and dictate the proceedings – it’s a feeling of responsibility for him. Being under the man and giving him the reins, a woman is signaling to him “I’m trusting you, so you better know what the heck you’re doing!”