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Unhappy Couples Make These Sex Mistakes – Do You?

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Sex mistakes are something that happens in almost every relationship, especially if two people have been together for any real length of time. Some of them aren’t going to be that bad and may give you or your partner a laugh or two, but we’re not talking about passing gas on accident during sex. There are a few problems that guys and gals have that can cause distress in the relationship – or end it completely. Do you make sex mistakes that could end it all?

Waiting To Get In The Right Mood

This is one of the worst mistakes that you can make! Many people in relationships wait to get in the right mood before having sex. While waiting for the mood to strike will definitely make for an incredibly hot evening, the chances of that actually happening are few and far between. For many people, day to day life often gets in the way of sexual intimacy and it’s difficult to actually get in the mood after a long day of work, making dinner and taking care of the kids. Instead of waiting for the mood to hit you, try setting a date for sex and do it whether you feel like it or not. Chances are, once you shut the rest of the world out and focus on you and your partner getting it on, you’ll find that you’re much more into it than you were when you started.

Foregoing Trying Something New

If you are stuck in a “comfort zone,” you’re certainly not alone. Like chicken soup when you’re sick, the boring old, we’re-doing-it-just-to-be-doing-it sex is comforting – but unlike chicken soup does, this very rarely ever hits the spot. Break out of your rut by trying a few new things instead of simply sticking to what you know. Try some new sex positions, or incorporate a new sex toy into the mix. You can play sexy dress up or even try taking dirty to each other. Use your creativity! No matter what you do, don’t get stuck doing the same thing over and over in the bedroom. It’s time to mix it up!

Thinking Sex Education Is For Beginners

People who have been doing it for awhile seem to believe that reading up on sex or how to give their partner an incredible orgasm is for beginners. They assume that since they’ve been doing it for years that they know all there is to know about it! Instead of thinking that you already know how to push your partner’s pleasure buttons, try reading a little bit on how to go down on your partner and get them begging for more. Or, you can always try communicating with them by asking them what feels good, what they like and what they don’t like. Don’t worry – an old dog can learn new tricks!

Thinking Sex Is A Means To An End

After being with someone for awhile, you stop relishing every moment you’re naked with your partner. You’ve seen her butt and her breasts a thousand times and she’s seen your package up close and personal more times than either of you would like to count, and not because you were doing it at the time. Men and women that live together or spend a lot of time together see each other naked a lot and often in very compromising situations. This usually leads people to feel less like taking their time with foreplay and more like doing it just to get an orgasm. Take some time out to cherish your partner’s body and enjoy it like you did before you saw it on the toilet or plucking stray hairs in weird places.

Withholding Sex

Women are notorious for withholding sex from their lovers when they’re angry. Chances are, the guy doesn’t even know why she doesn’t want to do it – or what he did wrong in the first place. Save the withholding for when you really have a headache or aren’t feeling good. Withholding to punish your guy won’t do a darn thing besides keep you from getting an amazing climax. Instead, tell your man what you’re upset about or why you’re angry and talk it out instead of being passive aggressive. You may just find that after talking to your partner and hearing an apology or his side of the story may make you less angry – and everyone knows that some of the best sex on earth is after a huge fight!

What To Keep In Mind – And In Your Purse – If You’re Single

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Safe sex is the best kind of sex, especially if you’re single. Many single women aren’t ready to get pregnant and have a baby, and nobody wants to contract a sexually transmitted disease or infection like chlamydia or HIV and AIDS. If safety is on your checklist for great sex, here are some things you may want to keep in your purse in case you get caught in an an impromptu situation and want the freedom to have safe sex if you’d like to.

Condoms

Keeping condoms in your purse may seem like a no-brainer, but many women end up getting caught in impromptu sex situations unprepared. Condoms protect against pregnancy and most STD’s. Although condoms aren’t foolproof, they’re the best sex accessory if you want to have fun and safe sex without having to worry about getting pregnant when you’re not ready or contracting a sexually transmitted disease or infection that is at best inconvenient and at worst life threatening. You may also want to keep flavored condoms in your purse in the event of oral sex. When keeping condoms in your purse, don’t throw them in there unless they’re in a protective sleeve or case first. Putting condoms in your purse loose can cause the wrapper or condom to get holes in it when all of the stuff in your purse bounces around during daily use. Guys shouldn’t put condoms in their wallet, because this can cause condoms to break down faster due to temperature issues. Condoms should be kept clean and dry and at room temperature to stay effective. Always inspect the wrapper first to check for holes or damage, and make sure you check the expiration date if you’ve had it for awhile.

Spermicide

Some couples don’t like using spermicide for pregnancy protection, but it can be an excellent option if you’re with an STD free partner and don’t want to use condoms, but still want protection from unplanned and unwanted pregnancy. Spermicide is also a great option for women or couples who want another layer of protection in addition to condoms or birth control – or both. Spermicides come in many different forms, some that are more convenient than others. Contraceptive foam is the least expensive, but may burn or cause discomfort for you or your sex partner. Suppositories are good options because they are small and easy to carry, but your partner will most likely know that you’ve used spermicide. The newest type of spermicide on the market is a contraceptive film. It is a thin, clear square that looks like plastic and is folded up and placed in the vagina behind the cervix. It takes about ten to fifteen minutes, but the film will “melt” and create a gel-like barrier of spermicide in front of the cervix. They can be kept in a purse or wallet and can be used discreetly without your partner knowing you’ve used it.

Birth Control

If you’d like to take pregnancy protection into your own hands, consider going on birth control if you’re not already on it. Talk to your doctor about the right kind of birth control for you and how to take it so it is most effective against unplanned pregnancies. Birth control doesn’t protect against STD’s, so if you’re with a new partner, make sure you’re using a condom as well. Plan-B, or emergency contraception, is a good thing to keep on hand as well, in case a condom breaks or you miss too many birth control pills.

Dental Dam

A dental dam is a small square of latex or plastic that is laid over the vagina during cunnilingus to prevent the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases. Contrary to popular belief, there are many STD’s that can be transmitted through oral sex on a woman including chlamydia and yeast infections. Keeping a dental dam in your purse will ensure that you’ve got it if you need it – for example, you’d like a new partner to perform oral sex on you but he won’t do so without the necessary safe sex tools. Many women believe that using a dental dam is less pleasurable than feeling the tongue itself, but you can closely mimic this feeling by putting a dab of lube underneath the dental dam, in between the latex and the clitoris. This allows the dental dam to slide around on the vagina, much like a tongue or mouth would. Many dental dams come in flavors, making it much much more pleasurable for the partner giving the oral sex.

6 Types Of Sex You Need To Try – Tonight!

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Sex can of course get boring. It’s a natural, albeit frustrating progression of long term relationships. But does being in a committed, monogamous relationship and doing it with the same person again and again mean that you’re stuck with boring sex for the rest of your life? Not hardly! Check out these six different kinds that will turn up the heat in the bedroom – or elsewhere. Each type is amazing and satisfying in its own way – try one out with your partner tonight!

Animal Sex

There’s just something special about the “I want you right now!” kind of nookie. When you do it like the animals do, you forget about everything else except “doing it.” Every once in awhile, throw down everything that you’re doing, no matter what it is, and just have do it with your lover right then and there. Bend your partner over the stove while she’s cooking, or do it over the washer while she’s washing clothes. Let your partner know that you have to have them right now or you’re just going to bust! Bonus points if you do this with oral sex instead of penetration.

Chicken Soup Sex

When you or your partner had a bad day at work or are feeling down about something, the right kind of nookie can be just like a bowl of chicken soup. Warm and comforting, it’s just what you want right when you want it. With this type, you want to use the sex positions that are most comfortable for you and your partner. If missionary is what you both like, don’t worry that it’s considered “boring.” Don’t worry about trying something new, “spicing it up” or looking a certain way during the deed. Just do what you’re comfortable with and what feels good.

Make Up Sex

Make up sex can be some of the best you or your partner have ever had. After an especially big fight (or even a little tiff if you feel like it), start kissing your lover deeply and passionately. When they kiss you back, make a move to start taking off their clothes. Like chicken soup sex, it can make you feel better when you’re down because of a fight you and your partner just had. This type of nookie also has a way of making everything seem like the fight never happened, especially when you’re basking in the glow of an amazing orgasm.

Quickie Sex

There’s nothing like an amazing quickie. Just when you think you don’t have time to do the dirty deed, your partner surprises you by taking advantage of the situation and reaching climax in record time. While many couples in long term relationships get “tired” of having quickies, having a quickie is actually a great way to get the desire for pleasure out of your system in a short amount of time. Whether you’re in the back of the car on a pit stop during a road trip or have to do it fast before the kids get home from school, the quickie is great – just in a shorter amount of time.

Public Sex

There’s very little out there that will give you the adrenaline rush that public sex will. This will usually involve a quickie, but doing it in public is very different than just having a quickie in your house. The fear of getting caught or being watched by other people while you do it is an amazing turn on for both you and your partner, and it is a great way to spice up your life. Don’t do it anywhere that you could get caught and have permanent repercussions for you, such as losing your job or getting arrested.

Marathon Sex

If you have a day off without kids in the house – for example, if you’re snowed in – it’s the perfect time to set up a little sex marathon for you and your partner to engage in. Instead of trying to do it as quick as you can, try to last as long as you can. Try going through all of the different positions you know, or breaking the record of how many orgasms you can give your partner in a row. You can prolong it by switching between oral sex, foreplay and penetration, or you can take small breaks in between several sessions. Don’t stop until you’re both completely exhausted and satisfied!

7 Unforgettable Sex Tips

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Having sex with your partner can be “blah” or it can be absolutely incredible. Problem is, it’s easy to slip into a rut and not so easy to dig yourself out. With a little patience, some effort and reinventing your outlook on sex, you can turn the tables on your life and make it better than it ever has been before. Check out these seven amazing tips that will knock your socks off!

Roleplay

Turn the heat in the bedroom up a notch with a little roleplay action. Ever get off on the teacher/student fantasy or the french maid costume? Tell your partner about your dress up fantasies and have them play along. You can both dress up for each other, or have one partner dress up and the other enjoy the show. Just make sure that both you and your lover get to express your fantasies to each other and act them out so you are both turned on!

Lower Your Expectations

Many guys – and girls – have high expectations of what it should be and how it will turn out. Some girls expect their man to give them an orgasm (without any help at all) and if he doesn’t blow her mind immediately, the game is over for her. On the other hand, some guys expect not to have to give a woman an orgasm at all – that she will be more focused on getting him off than her own pleasure. If you want to have better sex, lower your expectations a little bit. It doesn’t always end in orgasm (but good for you if it does) and it’s all about having fun with your partner and enjoying each other’s bodies.

Take Turns Taking Control

If you and your lover are used to having “blah” sex where one or both of you says, “Ok, we’ll do whatever you want to do” or “I guess we could do that if you want to,” it’s time to either grab the reins or give them up and take turns taking control in the bedroom. Let your partner decide what you’re going to do that night, whether it’s oral sex, anal sex or a new position, and then let him do whatever he wants that night while you play along. Make sure you get to be in control another night, where everything goes your way!

Set Up The Perfect Atmosphere

Believe it or not, the atmosphere of the bedroom (or living room, or wherever else you’re doing it) plays a big part in how great it really is that night. For example, shower sex is super hot, but try doing it with your kids’ soaking wet Barbie dolls at your feet or stuck in other less desirable parts of your body. The mood instantly dissipated, didn’t it? Instead, try setting up some candles, soft music and incense or scented oil in your partner’s favorite scent. It may sound cliche, but it will make a big difference, guaranteed.

Break Your Boundaries

Tired of doing the same old thing every time you and your lover get it on? Try breaking your boundaries and doing something new that neither you nor your partner have ever done before. You don’t have to go crazy and try something that is totally out there – like BDSM – but you can and probably should go a little bit outside your comfort zone. Try a new position or incorporate a toy. Start small and introduce something that is a little different from what you normally do but not something that is going to freak you or your partner out.

Don’t Put On The Pressure

Pressuring your partner to have an orgasm will likely backfire in your face. Even if you’re giving her oral, licking her clitoris, fingering her and doing everything you can to bring her to climax, if it’s not happening then it’s not happening. The same goes for you. If you’re realizing that it’s going to take you an hour or more to have an orgasm, move on to something else and just have fun with it! The chances are, an orgasm will come much more easily later and will most likely be better than if you forced it!

Flirt A Little – With Someone Else

You wouldn’t believe at how much a little harmless flirting – with someone else – can spice up your life with your partner. When someone who isn’t your partner flirts with you, even if it doesn’t go anywhere, your ego is boosted and you instantly feel more attractive. Channel these awesome feelings into sex with your partner and watch it go from “blah” to explosive!

How To Have A Hot Sex Marathon

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Having a hot sex marathon with your partner is a great way to figure out what you both like, as well as seeing just how long you can really last or how many orgasms you can have! There are a few things to keep in mind when you’re having a lot of really, really hot sex – like eating foods that will give you energy and keeping enough lube on hand so things don’t get dried out. Follow these suggestions for a super fun, hot sex marathon that will last for hours – or more!

Eat Healthy, Vitamin Packed Foods

Having a lot of hot sex means you have to have enough energy to keep it going – something that doesn’t always happen on its own. Prepare yourself beforehand by eating healthy, vitamin packed foods that are designed to give your body the energy and nutrients it needs for physical activity such as trying different, physically demanding sex positions. Don’t overeat, but try a spinach salad for lunch and lean protein such as chicken or fish for dinner if you’re going to be having sex all night. You can also grab a low fat energy bar for a quick burst of fuel before you get started. Make sure to drink lots of water, because it’s bound to get sweaty and it’s easy to get dehydrated. Definitely keep a cold bottle of fresh water by the bedside!

Men Only: Don’t Get Too Close To Orgasm

Ladies, of course, can have multiple orgasms during a hot sex marathon, but many men aren’t capable of the same. While it is possible to orgasm, rest and go again, it’s more taxing and physically tiring than if you had just held out on having an orgasm in the first place. Try using different sex positions if you’re getting to close to orgasm in the position that you’re in, or try giving your partner oral sex and letting yourself rest for a little while. To avoid having an orgasm too soon during super hot sex, don’t allow yourself to get too close to the brink before stopping. If you do, you may end up climaxing anyways and it probably won’t be as good.

Use Lots And Lots Of Lube

It’s unlikely your partner is going to be able to manufacture enough natural body fluids to keep things going smoothly during the entire hot sex marathon. To keep her from getting dried out after hours of intercourse, make sure you have a good, water based lube on hand. Don’t be afraid to be generous when applying lube to yourself or your partner – you can always get more and nothing feels worse than dry sex (for a woman at least!) Using lube doesn’t have to be a mood killer either. Many lubes come with a handy pump handle for easier use. If you’re having a lot of anal sex, try using a thicker, silicone based lube that lasts longer. Also, flavored lubes taste and smell better than regular lubes and might be a good choice for you if you plan to go back and forth between oral sex and intercourse.

Experiment A Little

Having a hot sex marathon doesn’t mean that you have to have intercourse the entire time. Try experimenting a little with a sex fetish or two, whether it be something as simple as fuzzy handcuffs and licking chocolate sauce off each other or something more hardcore, such as spanking or BDSM. Do something fun and different together while you’re taking a break from intercourse or oral sex – choose something that will keep the mood sexy and sensual but allow you and your partner some time to rest. This is a great time for a giving a sensual massage, watching a porn flick or playing dress up with some fun and sexy costumes. Just use your imagination!

Avoid Excessive Alcohol Consumption

Alcohol can be a great way to ease your hot sex jitters (it’s perfectly normal to feel a little nervous before you have marathon sex) but drinking too much can actually put a damper on your night. First of all, too much alcohol can turn your “eased tension” into sleepiness, and if you are really drinking, it can make you pass out. Excessive alcohol consumption can also cause short term erectile dysfunction, where the alcohol has affected the body so much that a man cannot get or maintain an erection very well. If you plan on drinking before having wild, hot sex, keep it to a glass or two of wine or beer and skip the hard liquor.