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Q&A: Can I Get STD’s If We’re Both Virgins?

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If you’re a virgin having sex for the first time with another virgin, you may think you’re free and clear when it comes to STD’s. Unfortunately, being a virgin and having sex with a virgin is not a guarantee that you won’t contract an STD. Are sexually transmitted diseases transferred only through sex or can they be transferred other ways as well? How can you avoid contracting an STD?

Question: I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years now, what we usually do when it comes to sex is oral. He is my first and so am I to him. My question is if we are both “virgins” is there still a possibility either of us can get an STD or something similar?

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STD’s And Sex

Many sexually transmitted diseases don’t require sex to be spread. HIV, AIDS and hepatitis A, B and C can all be spread through blood to blood contact as well as through contact with sexual fluids such as semen or vaginal fluids. Other less serious sexually transmitted diseases, such as crabs (pubic lice) or scabies, can be contracted from simple skin to skin contact (even a hug or handshake) although this is very, very rare. Many of these less serious STD’s are also transmitted from simple genital to genital contact, such as herpes, which doesn’t require any penetration or sexual fluid sharing at all to be contracted.

How To Make Yourself Safer

Sex is part of a healthy, happy and fulfilled lifestyle. Everyone craves sexual intimacy and contact with their partner and that’s completely natural. While the only way to be 100% sure that you won’t contract a sexually transmitted disease from your partner is to abstain from having sex with them, that is a difficult choice to make. If you want to have sex with your partner, take steps to make yourself as safe as possible before heading to the bedroom.

  • Get to know your partner, and know how many people they’ve slept with. Are they promiscuous, or a virgin? Is the probability that they have contracted a sexually transmitted disease fairly high or almost non-existent?
  • You can also request that your partner have a thorough STD test done by their doctor or local health department before having sex with them and offer to provide your test results with them as well.
  • Make sure that a condom is worn at all times to decrease the risk of contracting more serious STD’s such as hepatitis and HIV or AIDS. Oral sex can also spread sexually transmitted diseases, so make sure to use a dental dam for cunnilingus and a condom for fellatio.
  • Consider limiting the number of people you choose to have sex with, and give yourself some time to choose wisely. Choosing to have sex – even protected – with a variety of sexual partners automatically increases your chances of contracting a sexually transmitted disease

You can still enjoy sexual intimacy and closeness with your partner – even more so – if you choose to take steps to make sex safer for both you and your partner.

Q&A: How To Shave Male Genitals

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Whether you want to shave or trim your pubic hair for yourself or your partner really wants to see you clean and smooth, shaving your genitals may seem like a daunting task. Cutting yourself in your most sensitive places is not something you want to do! Here’s how you can shave or trim your genitals quickly and easily without cutting yourself and get lasting, baby smooth results.

Question: Could you give advice on how to shave your male genital area without cutting yourself? I’m afraid if I use a shaving razor that I might cut myself and one of my testicles will fall out.

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Tools For The Job

To start, using a straight blade, a dull razor or just trying to shave quickly with soap and water (or worse, dry!) is going to give you less than good results. In fact, without the right tools for the job, shaving your penis can instantly turn disasterous. While your testicles may not fall out (you’d have to cut yourself really deep for that to happen) shaving without a good razor and shaving cream can give you a few nicks and a really bad razor burn afterwards. If you want to shave your genitals, or even just trim, invest a few bucks – you’ll be glad you did. You’ll need some trimmers (an electric beard trimmer is fabulous), a nice, sharp safety razor, thick and rich shaving cream and some lotion or aftershave.

How To Shave Your Genitals

  1. First, trim your pubic hair first, especially if it is long and curly. Shaving directly over the longer hair will only get hair stuck in your razor and you’re not going to get very much of the hair off.
  2. Next, take a shower or bath to let the warm water loosen the hair follicles. It will make shaving a lot easier and give you a much closer shave.
  3. When preparing to shave each area of your genitals, pull the skin tight. Loose skin will easily catch in a safety razor, resulting in nicks and cuts that you definitely don’t want. Pulling your skin tight will also help you get a closer shave.
  4. When shaving the base of the penis shaft, start at the top of the hairline and move down towards the base of the penis.
  5. Shave your scrotum last, again pulling the skin nice and tight to avoid nicks and cuts.
  6. After your shave, use a good aftershave splash or moisturizing lotion to keep your smooth shave and to prevent red bumps and razor burn afterwards.

Just A Trim

Another option for grooming your pubic hair is simply giving yourself a close trim, especially if you’re nervous about shaving it all off right away. Trimming is a lot easier than shaving, but will leave you with a “buzz cut” of sorts down there. When you prepare for shaving, trim your entire pubic region and see how you like it. You may prefer a trim to a close shave. You can always shave it off if you decide you want baby smooth skin instead. Some guys develop ingrown hairs after shaving – if you’re one of those guys, a trim might be just the ticket.

How Aromatherapy Can Improve Your Sex Life

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We’ve all lit the vanilla candles before sex to help create a romantic mood – but can other scents help turn you or your partner on even more? Science shows that aromatherapy really does work and that bringing different smells into the bedroom can instantly turn “blah” sex into “wow” sex. Here’s how you can use scents and aromatherapy to improve your sex life.

Sexual Benefits Of Aromatherapy

Aromatherapy has proven over decades to be a powerful way to stimulate parts of the brain that are related to sex and sensuality through our sense of smell. Aromatherapy is a great way to spice up your sex life if it is lacking, or simply enrich an already fantastic sex life. Many aromatherapy studies have shown that using scents can actually improve arousal and blood flow to both men’s and women’s genitals. While most scents increase blood flow to a man’s penis, only certain scents incrase blood flow to a woman’s vaginal area. Other scents were actually proven to turn a woman off, including the scents of barbeque and men’s cologne. In addition to the purely physical benefits of scents in the bedroom, scents that elevate the mood and make you feel good will also help stimulate your mind for sex. Many scents are proven to increase certain hormones in the body that are related to love and sex, making a man or woman feel more inclined to be more sensual and sexy in the bedroom.

Scents That Will Turn Your Partner On

The most powerful scents to use for a man are suprisingly lavender and pumpkin pie. These smells were shown to actually increase the blood flow to a man’s genitals up to 40% and put him in the mood for sex. If you want to really set the mood for your man, burn a few pumpkin pie or lavender candles for a few hours before making your move. Pumpkin pie is a great scent for warm, cozy winter sex and cuddling while lavender is a great spring and summer scent. A woman, however, will respond best to the smell of licorice. Licorice is a great scent to use in the bedroom because while it is the most potent scent for a woman’s arousal, it will also affect a man’s arousal in a positive way as well.

Essential Oils

For hundreds of years, aromatherapy has incorporated powerful essential oils during sex. Many varieties of essential oils are used in sensual massage oils and can help relax your partner and put them in a more sexual frame of mind when used in conjunction with a fantastic massage. The scents of rose, patchouli, ylang ylang and jasmine are all scents that are easy to find and extremely effective in setting a romantic and sensual mood for sex. While most essential oils are diluted when used in massage oils, undiluted essential oils can be used sparingly on a cotton ball or in a warming dish and set next to your bed to help diffuse the scent throughout the entire room. Aromatherapy is more powerful when used for a few minutes or hours prior to having sex to allow the body to respond to the scents that are being used.

5 Sex Tips For Good Health

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Sexuality for women is still a taboo topic. Not long ago, women were raised to feel as though sex was dirty, and deriving pleasure from sex was impossible. Fortunately, women can and do enjoy sex, but they have so much more potential to do so once they become more comfortable with themselves as sexual beings. In our new book, The Best Sex Of Your Life, presented by SheKnows.com, we show you 101 ways to make your sex life hotter and learn to enjoy it more. Here are 5 great ways to improve your sexual health right now!

Happy, Healthy Women Have The Hottest Sex (#101)

Women are notorious for taking care of others before they take care of themselves. For better sexual health though, a woman must make sure she is taken care of too! Make sure you get enough sleep, because fatigue will make you less likely to want sex – you’ll want the bed for a much different reason. Get your nails done, get a pedicure and enjoy a quiet spa lunch. Eat healthy and exercise.

Learn To Touch Yourself And Then Teach Your Man Your Moves (#14)

Your man can’t read your mind. He doesn’t know what you like – but you do. That is, if you masturbate. If you don’t, get started! If you learn how to pleasure yourself, you’ll better be able to show your partner how you like to be touched.

Sex Toys Can Strengthen Your Orgasm (#67)

If you want to strengthen your orgasm or experience a different type of orgasm entirely, now is not the time to be shy about sex toys! Try a few out – you might be surprised! Sex toys allow you to have stronger, faster orgasms and can be just the ticket if you have a difficult time acheiving orgasm at all. In fact, women can experience many different types of orgasms, each with their own powerful and unique sensations. Trying different sex toys can help you expand your orgasms!

Don’t Forget To Have Fun (#87)

During the beginning of a relationship, everything is new and absolutely fascinating. You’re not sure what is going to happen next – and neither is he! That makes sex, as well as everything else about the relationship, explosive. When you and your partner begin to get comfortable with each other, the passion tends to dissolve. Remember how you and your partner were at the beginning of your relationship and allow yourself to have that kind of spontaneous fun again. Chances are, the sex is going to be just as good!

Having More Sex Boosts Your Libido (#2)

Sex is one of the most powerful ways to improve your mood and reduce stress. It feels great – physically and emotionally. During and after sex, especially if you reach climax one or more times, allows your brain to release certain chemicals that make you feel fabulous. Having more sex that helps release those chemicals will in turn make you want sex more. It’s a feel good cycle!

Don’t forget, get your copy of our book, The Best Sex of Your Life: 101 Secrets Every Woman Should Know, on Amazon.com today!

Q&A: What Is A Normal Penis Size?

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Many boys who are growing up are wondering about penis size. What is a normal penis size? When does a penis start growing? When does it stop? There are a lot of questions out there about what a normal penis is, but not enough answers. Here’s what you want to know about penis size – what is normal and what isn’t.

Question: I’m 14, small for my age(4 foot 8) and I was curious about penis size… I know I’m small for my age but I’m 14. Will my penis grow and is this normal? Should I be worried about it?

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Penis Growth

A boy’s penis starts growing when he hits puberty, which is earlier for some boys and later for others, and stops growing when he does – generally in late adolescence to early adulthood. There is no average amount of penis growth during this period of time –  some boys will grow more overall than others. If the penis starts out small, it may grow to become very large, or it may only grow a few inches. A penis that starts out large may only grow a little, or it may grow a lot. How much your penis will grow is all up to mother nature.

Penis Averages

The average penis size is about 2-3 inches when it is slack and 5-6 inches when it is erect. There are, however, many men who have much smaller or much larger penises than this, and if you’re bigger or smaller than the “average,” that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you. Just like the size, shape, color and texture of vaginas differ from person to person, so does penis size, shape and color. A man’s penis may also be very thick or very thin in circumference, regardless of the length. Things you should not experience during penis growth is pain, so if you feel like something is wrong, go see your doctor. An extremely rare complication of circumcision is not having enough skin for the penis to grow into, causing intense feelings of discomfort when you begin having erections. Even if nothing is wrong, it’s better to have a little peace of mind. Don’t worry – your doctor has seen it all before. If you’re not comfortable talking to your doctor about your penis, or any other topic about your body and health, find a doctor who you are comfortable with.

Learn To Be Comfortable With Who You Are

Part of growing up is learning to be comfortable in your own skin. Whether you’re light or dark, tall or short, fat or skinny, we all must come to terms with who we are and learn to be comfortable with ourselves. Accepting your penis size, shape and color falls into this category too. Everyone is different and that’s a good thing! While learning to accept ourselves for who we are and what we look like isn’t always the easiest thing to do, it’s part of becoming an adult. If you’re concerned that your penis is too small, too short, or even too big, don’t worry! Being human means we all look different. That’s the beautiful thing about diversity! Learn to be comfortable with yourself and learn to like being in your own skin.