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Q&A: Should I Talk To My Parents About Sex?

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Lots of people have questions about sex, especially those in the younger generation. Who is responsible for answering questions about sex? Should a child or teen turn to their friends to learn about sex? Or should they turn to television, movies or music?

I’m 13 and I’ve known about sex since I was 10 years old. Should I ask my parents to tell me about sex, even though I already know?

–YouTube Viewer

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Shirking Responsibility

So should a teen ask his or her parents about sex? Some teens – and parents – would answer that question with a resounding, “No!” In fact, many teens get their sex education from their friends, their friends’ parents, comics, video games, movies and music. But it isn’t the entertainment industry’s job to teach kids and teens about sex. It’s the parent’s job. Much in the same way that a parent should teach a child that the stove is hot, a parent should teach their child about sex. Now that doesn’t mean you have to give your kids tips on the best sex positions, but teaching them about why sex should be approached carefully and safely is a parent’s job. STD’s and pregnancy can hurt a teen as much, if not more, than if a child puts their hand on a hot stove. Besides, who wants their kids learning about sex from the backseat of a car in the video game Grand Theft Auto? Have you seen that video game? It’s time for parents to step up and get past their discomfort and talk to their kids about sex. And it’s time for kids to stop thinking it’s “gross” to have your parent give you sex education because well, they might know a thing or two.

Thinking About It?

If you’re thinking about talking to your parents about sex – or if you’re a parent thinking about talking to your kids about sex – go for it. Ditch the discomfort and learn how to be open and honest. Kids – you may have learned about sex from Johnny’s dad’s funny magazine while his parents weren’t home, but that doesn’t mean you know everything about sex. Ask your parents. You don’t necessarily have to tell them you’ve already heard some things about sex, you definitely need to ask them to share their thoughts and opinions with you, as well as the facts. Parents – if your kids ask about sex, answer their questions! You might be shocked at the ages that some kids are coming up with certain types of questions, but you won’t do any good by refusing to answer their questions. Your kids will still be curious, and they’ll end up getting their information elsewhere. Provide your kids with the truth and they’ll respect you for it.

Safer Sex

The only way teens and even adults are going to start having safer sex is if people get over their fears about sex and start talking about it. Talking about how to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy is the only way to stop it from happening  – knowlege is power and in this day in age, no one has to be afraid to talk about sex anymore.

Sex Tips For Older Men

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While many men reach their sexual prime in their late 20’s and 30’s, some men are still have an exceptional sex drive when they get older. Unfortunately, society as a whole suggests that the only thing men can do when they get older to have great sex is to take Viagra or an herbal supplement, use penis pumps, etc. Surely, older men have a better sex outlook than that! Here are some great sex tips for the older man.

More Foreplay

As men grow older, they may need more and more stimulation to acheive orgasm or to even become aroused. This is something that simply happens physically, when a man’s body starts to lose testosterone as he ages. Before you go out and buy a bottle of pills, try having more foreplay before sex, or even before masturbation. Women love foreplay, and this can be key to helping you acheive and maintain a healthy erection.

Maintain Good Health

Men with health problems, such as heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure and other chronic health conditions, find that their sex life is also affected. Men taking certain medications may experience a decrease in their sex drive or the inability to get or maintain an erection, and men with some health conditions may also experience similar sexual side effects. It is important to see your doctor regularly for checkups and blood tests, and never be afraid to tell your doctor about your sex life and any sexual problems you have been having. Your doctor can help, and some sexual symptoms can indicate health problems your doctor wouldn’t have otherwise known about. Older men in good health report having a better sex life when they feel better, as opposed to men who aren’t physically healthy.

Try New Things

 If intercourse with your partner just doesn’t do it for you anymore, don’t automatically give up. Sex isn’t defined simply by intercourse, there are many varieties of sex that can still be fun at an older age. Try using toys, trying tantra or having anal play, and incorporate oral sex into your foreplay routine for both you and your partner. Remember that sex itself is only part of the intimacy that you share with your partner and that much of it comes from simply having skin to skin contact as well as kissing and hugging.

Don’t Get Stuck In A Rut

Many couples, both young and old, find themselves getting stuck in a sexual rut or routine. This can wreak havoc on an older man’s sex life because with his changing physical status, a sexual routine can quickly fail to keep him aroused. Constantly change your sex life around by trying new things, having sex at different times of the day or in different places. Make a definite effort to keep sex from ever being the same for too long to experience a more satisfying sex life.

Exercise And Eat Healthy

In addition to improving your physical health, exercise and healthy eating can also improve your sexual health as well as your emotional health. It is easy for a man with a changing sex life to become depressed or get down on himself, and staying positive and feeling good about yourself plays a big part in having a satisfying sex life.

Best Sex Tips Of 2009

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Ahh, sex tips. One of the most popular topics on Ask Dan And Jennifer comes full circle as we wrap up another year of great sex tips and advice. We have so many favorite sex tips that it’s hard to pick our favorites! There are so many different sex tips and great sex advice out there, and it’s always changing – so stay in tune this coming year because we have lots more in store for 2010! For now, whet your appetite for great sex advice with these fabulous articles from 2009.

3 Sex Secrets… From LESBIANS!

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A woman on woman relationship is sometimes considered the “holy grail” of fantasies for men. One woman is good, two women is better, right? But all fantasies aside, what can men learn from lesbian sex that they can use in their own sexual relationships? Are there any sex tips that these women want to share with their male counterparts?

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Finesse And Sensitivity

When performing oral sex on a woman, guys tend to get rough and they tend to get fast. They assume that a woman likes it the same way they do – hard and fast. That’s not at all true when it comes to giving a girl oral sex though. Women like it slow, they like it sensual and they certainly don’t like it rough, especially starting out. Women who perform oral sex on other women are better at listening to their partner’s responses and changing their techniques based on how their partners are reacting to their actions, but men are generally very absorbed in what they’re doing that they miss the forest for the trees. Men, start out slow when giving your partner oral sex and pay attention to her responses as you use different maneuvers. Her moans, gasps and body language will tell you if you’re doing something right – or if you’re doing something wrong.

More Than Just Breasts Or A Vagina

Men tend to focus on what sets women apart from themselves during sex – their breasts and their vagina. Men generally enjoy women touching their penis to get them aroused, so they assume that women want the same thing – that they want direct stimulation to their erogenous zones to get them turned on. A woman, however, actually prefers for a person to pay attention to their entire body, not just their breasts or vagina. Since woman on woman sex does not involve penetration, they must find other ways to turn each other on and satisfy each other sexually. Men, pretend for a few minutes to start out with that there is no penetration allowed or it is physically impossible. You must find other ways to turn your partner on, by exploring her entire body.

After Sex Glow

After you have an orgasm, especially if you’ve given your partner one, take the time to cuddle with her and bask in the after sex glow. Show your appreciation for her sexual gift, and let her know how much you truly enjoy making love to her. Confirm that she is sexy and valuable to you, instead of rolling over and going to sleep. Women who have sex with other women are somewhat limited in what they can do with each other physically, so a great deal of their sexual relations depend on emotional intimacy both before and after sex. Men, you can recreate this feeling in your own relationship by simply taking a few minutes after sex to affirm that you are completely and utterly blissed out sexually and that your partner is responsible for it and you are thankful.

What turns women on about lesbian sex is not necessarily about the vaginas, but rather, it is about the fact that another woman will understand what she wants and how she wants it. She is less fearful of communicating her desires with another woman, and this type of sexual union is more about enjoying every moment rather than a means to an end. Turn your partner on like never before by recreating lesbian sex in an emotional way. Don’t try to go for an orgasm right away, and work towards enjoying each moment. Communicate with your partner so she feels open to you, and let her enjoy the after sex glow.

Is There A Sexual Difference Between Circumcised And Uncircumcised Men?

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It’s the question on every mother’s mind these days – to circumcise or not to circumcise. But it’s not just moms that are wondering how to handle a circumcised or uncircumcised penis, it’s sexually active women too. Many women have only experienced one or the other sexually, and don’t know the difference. Or is there a difference?

Is It Different For The Guy?

Yes. An uncircumcised man still has his foreskin (the soft flap of skin that covers the head of the penis when it is not erect) and a foreskin is jam packed with pleasure nerves much like a clitoris is. While men circumcised at a young age won’t ever know the difference, men who choose to get circumcised when they’re older report decreased overall sensitivity. That’s not to say that circumcised men don’t enjoy sex, because we all know they do! It’s just that anatomy-wise, an uncircumcised males simply have more physical pleasure receptors in their penis.

Is It Different For The Girl?

Now this is more of a matter of personal preference than actual fact. Some women prefer sex with circumcised males, while others prefer sex with uncircumcised men. Some women report that the coronal ridge around the base of the head of the penis on an circumcised man more directly stimulates the g-spot as opposed to a coronal ridge that is partially covered by a foreskin in uncircumcised males. Other women feel that sex with an uncircumcised male provides more friction than their circumcised counterparts because of the extra skin, and sex is better that way. The way women feel about circumcision in general is very similar to the way they feel about penis size in general. Some women like ’em small, some like ’em large. Every penis is shaped differently, looks different, has a different color and is a different size. The only way to figure out if sex with a circumcised man feels different than having sex with an uncircumcised man is to figure it out for yourself!

Why Are Boys Still Being Circumcised?

Many parents are choosing to continue to circumcise their sons for religious or hygienic reasons. Uncircumcised males must learn how to properly clean underneath their foreskin once it becomes moveable (just after birth it is fused to the head of the penis for a short while) and this can be difficult for a small child to learn. Parents must often help with this, and many parents believe that a circumcised penis is more “clean” and hygienic. The opinions about circumcision range from those who believe it is a “barbaric” practice to those who suggest that remaining uncircumcised is extremely unhygienic. No one can make the decision for you though, and the decision to circumcise or not should be an informed one.

Whether you’ve had sex with an uncircumcised man or a circumcised man, both or neither, whether a man is cut or uncut isn’t a big deal. Don’t stress over it and definitely don’t make a big deal of it in front of your man. Just love the way he is! Sex is pleasurable for a woman both ways, and just as pleasurable for a man too!