Making love is a sacred, tender act that creates an emotional bond between a couple. But for many men, the inability to last long enough often creates anxious moments in between the sheets instead. Many guys want to improve their sexual stamina and last longer during sex, thinking this is the only way to fulfill their female partners.

But lasting longer is NOT the key…

Let me explain.

There are many techniques for helping men last longer in bed, for example, by using desensitizing sprays, creams, lotions or even specialty condoms.

But these methods are simply masking the symptoms of the problem and not addressing the root causes.

Almost all cases related to maintaining a hard erection and lasting longer boils down to one thing – you are too unsure or too nervous in the bedroom.

Gaining sexual confidence is the only genuine way to completely obliterate any performance anxiety in the bedroom and lasting as long as you want. The problem with having great sex is that the issue is NOT about lasting longer.

Mastering Her Sexual Response

It really is about how to completely master your partner’s sexual response and gain her trust in bed. Most women view sex NOT as a means to an end, but as a titillating journey to the end itself. They cherish how they are brought to an orgasm, and not just about the orgasm itself.

The ability to last longer is an integral part of great lovemaking, but many guys make it to be more important than it really is.

Here’s the simple truth… if you can last more than 10 minutes of thrusting, you already have all it takes to be a phenomenal lover. Most women don’t need that kind of continuous penetration, simply because they tend to dry out from that constant thrusting before it starts to hurt.

The way to a woman’s orgasm is not in penetrative sex. It lies in what you do BEFORE you make love to her! Many studies have shown that more women get an orgasm from oral sex and foreplay than from intercourse! This means you should really pay attention to the techniques to get her sexually-charged before intercourse. This will boost your sexual “competence”. And when you achieve that kind of mastery, the confidence you get will obliterate the problem of not lasting long enough!

And if you do climax too soon, hold her responsible for it (no, I’m not kidding!)

Finishing Too Early

When a guy finishes too soon during sex, there are two ways a woman will think about the situation: she will think that the guy is really lousy OR, she may think she is so incredibly hot that the guy just lost control.

But here’s the thing – most women are so insecure about themselves that the first scenario is far more likely – unless in the first place you give her the idea that she is HOT!

So, if you come to an orgasm too quickly, be completely cool about it, and tell her “that has never happened to me, and I never thought a woman could do that to me, until you came along!”

Something magical happens when you assure her that you are totally attracted to her and enjoy her company and body immensely. Your woman will feel completely comfortable and secure about her own sexuality… and will be drawn by your masculinity too!

This is extremely powerful and a great way to turn the tables on your quick ejaculation. The sex may be over too soon, but believe me, she will remember that quick-fire sex as totally mind-blowing!

(But you better do better next time or else she may find someone else who does!)

So you want to heat things up a notch in the bedroom, but you find that your sexual stamina is just not holding up. Sexual endurance is one of those things that most men would love to have, but very few actually achieve it. In fact, shame, guilt and disappointment often accompany guys who fall short in the bedroom. Worst still, most of us are not comfortable talking about this shortcoming.

So what do you do if you want to last longer in bed? Well, these 3 deadly effective “P” techniques may just be what you need to give your stamina a lift!

Power Of Pleasing

The real purpose of sex should be in helping your partner enjoy the moment as much as you are (if not more!). One of the reasons why men are not lasting long enough is due to the fear or anxiety of not being able to sexually fulfill their partners. If this sounds like you, there is an easy way out. Instead of focusing on using your male anatomy to please her, why not engage the “whole-body” experience instead?

A woman does not need sexual intercourse to be erotically fulfilled, although that would be the icing on the cake. A woman needs emotional connection and above all, attention to her body on the whole – and not just her genitals.

So what does this mean for you? Simple! Tease her with words, and pay attention to the sensual areas and hot buttons all over her body. This will get her all warmed up before the actual deed, and more importantly, help extend your time in bed too.

Power Of Positioning

The next time you feel the uncontrollable urge to climax, think about what makes you feel good. This will help “debug” your quick orgasm reflexes. For many guys, the positioning of the hips plays a huge role in defining how long you can last. Thrusting with vigorous hip movements can push you to the verge of climax very easily, especially if you engage in the conventional missionary position.

Also pay attention to the positioning of your partner’s legs during penetration. If her legs are closed tightly, more pressure and stimulation will be applied to your penis glans and if you aren’t trained properly, you will likely last no more than a couple of quick minutes.

Try spreading her legs apart during intercourse, thrust more deeply and rub your pubic mound against her genitals. You will last longer and she will derive more pleasure at the same time!

Power Of Plateu-ing

There are four phases to a man’s sexual arousal. In the “excitement” phase, you are just getting erect and still very much in control of your arousal. At the “plateau” phase, you are fully erect, very aroused, but still in control. At “orgasm” phase, your arousal builds up intensely and the amount of stimulation tips over into ejaculation. The last phase is the “resolution” stage where your breathing returns to normal and your erection subsides.

The key to controlling your ejaculation is to extend the “plateau” stage. This means you need to maintain your levels of arousal without allowing yourself to boil over to a climax.

So how do you prolong the “plateau” phase?

First, maintain a steady tempo during penetration. Allow your thrusts to slowly gain momentum and when you sense you are fairly close to a climax, slow down, and if need be, withdraw entirely. Resume penetration when the arousal tapers off. Communicate with your partner why you are doing this. Her support with help you build greater confidence in your performance.

Second, try alternating between deep and shallow thrusting. Shallow penetration will stimulate the sensitive nerve endings within the first 2 inches of a woman’s vagina. Deep thrusting will present less friction and stimulation on your penis glans and help you rock on much longer!

Are you sick and tired of super quick sex and having no sexual stamina? Are you worried that your inability to last is making your woman think twice about making out with you? Are you finally ready to take control of your sex life, supercharge your stamina, and give her sensational sex to boot, even if you’ve never been able to last beyond 2 minutes in bed?

If you are anything like the men reading this, I am sure your answers are a resounding “YES!”

Here’s a simple fact: over 70% of men surveyed said their biggest fear in the bedroom is not being able to last (so take comfort that you are not alone). Not only that, the majority of women also want their men to last long enough to give them orgasms.

So what are the most effective ways to improve your endurance in bed and become a phenomenal lover who can please any woman at will? Plenty!

But for the brevity of this article, let us look at three proven and very popular tactics to improve your “staying power” in the sack.

The Art Of Titillating Foreplay

Most men forgo this crucial part of sex and jump right into intercourse. Without a doubt, that is the quickest way to end your lovemaking in a hurry. The simple truth is that women are slow to warm up during sex. It is not their fault. It is how they are “biologically programmed.” Foreplay is an important process to arouse your female partner and get her sexually-charged and ready for intercourse.

Here’s something that most guys don’t know. Knowing the right techniques for foreplay can increase your sexual confidence. When you see that your woman is clearly enjoying the moment, something magical happens: you are no longer laden with the pressure to perform, and this naturally helps you last longer in bed. So don’t skim on foreplay. Instead, embrace it as the gateway to her orgasm and your sexual endurance!

Refractory Rewards

Take advantage of your refractory period. This is the time frame between the first and second male orgasm. Simply put, if you masturbate or gratify yourself an hour or two before you have sex, it will take you much longer to achieve the same levels of sexual stimulation. In order words, the first climax helps to “desensitize” your penis glans and can give you up to three times the endurance in bed.

You don’t have to feel funny or embarrassed to have to do this – it is a completely natural and proven way to last longer. In fact many sexual therapists and medical professionals recommend masturbation as an effective “first line of defense” to prevent premature ejaculation and increase your stamina in bed.

Call Me PC For Short

In your pelvis area, there exists a set of muscles, known as the Pubococcygeus (PC) muscles. Most men do not know this, but you can fortify these muscles and make them more resilient through simple pelvic contraction exercises that have been proven to transform your sexual stamina.

Exercises like Kegels are super easy to do and do NOT require you to handle your genitals. They will increase your sexual confidence ten fold. These simple routines take up no more than a couple of minutes each day, and can easily give you extraordinary stamina to even outlast your woman in bed, and I’m pretty sure she won’t be complaining about it either!